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So I'm 19, I took a gap year and now I'm going to uni in September to study IR and Politics. However, I originally applied for Film Studies, and before that, Computer Science.
Basically my mindset went CS (it'll give me a good job and money), and then was like "I don't really enjoy the subject, let me pick something I 'like' ", so picked Film Studies. Realised I only liked film studies because I liked the idea of being creative and expressing myself but I wasn't sure if I'd be good at it as a course. Then I had the realisation that "I want to study something because I'm genuinely interested in knowing more and learning new things, I don't care where it leads me", so picked IR and Politics. But now I feel like that's the wrong choice and although I'll definitely learn something, I'm learning it to make me more versed in conversations about politics.
I now think English Literature and History would be a good fit, I adore the idea of being able to make connections and find meaning in literature and media, I love watching video essays analysing a book, or a TV show episode or a movie and I want to be able to be as critically minded as they are, and History always interests me, it heavily involves politics so that's a win, and it just seems like it would broaden my knowledge.
But I'm scared I'll just have another "realisation" and want to move on. Am I in love with the idea of learning but don't learn. Please help, its making me insanely depressed recently.

I had an abusive family. I've witnessed murder attempts, took care of family members in overdose, endured being insulted all day long for 18 years. I was parentified. Even sexually abused. It was bad. People get shocked when I tell my story.
But here is what I don't say: this was nothing compared to what really hurts: constant rejection from my peers and being excluded from society. Fuck if that hurts a bazillion times more. I don't care about my family, they're 4 people in the entire universe.
But it's when I was insulted by my friends. When I was always the last one to be picked by my classmates for sports teams at PE. When I went to uni and could not make a single friend, and I spent the whole time going to class and home by myself. It's when people change their demeanour around you because you are different. When they smile to you like you're a child. Pity. When they don't remember your name. When you make a joke and no one laughs. You say something and no one responds. Like you don't exist. You try to get a job but you fail at interviews, and even cover letters. And you didn't network. Because you are traumatized, and autistic. And you've got a fantastic academic record but you do a shitty basic job because no one thinks you are capable of a thing.
It's all the myriad of memories when I was less. Less funny, less memorable, less important, the weirdo. I can't even begin to describe what it feels like. It feels like society is something far away, above me. Inaccessible. Like I'm nothing. I don't belong because I'm me.
The only thing that comforts me when I stop to think about this is death. I want to die. I really want to die rather than having to live like this.

Hi everyone,
I’m starting the divorce process and I’m looking for advice. My husband and I have been married for 1 year and 7 months to date. We both work full time, I attend graduate school part time (my job pays for school through tuition reimbursement). His earnings are just over twice what I earn. We are in the state of CA. No kids, no shared assets. We are renting. Cars are separate property and I still owe on mine.
Basically we initially tried to agree to work things out ourselves and limit court costs and possible lawyer fees, but he’s being very non-cooperative and manipulative through the process and I think I might have to hire a lawyer after all.
Here’s our situation: - I have student loans (prior to marriage) and a $13,000 personal loan that was taken out during the marriage (in my name) used for credit card debt consolidation. Most of the credit card debt was accrued before the marriage but not all. All student loans are mine from prior to the marriage. - He has no debt. He claims we owe his dad $10,000 which was a loan that he pressured me into agreeing to accept, but it was never in writing and no payments have been made on it for the past six months. Mostly because he’s wanted to purchase other things and pay for fun events rather than pay his dad back. - We have no savings. - We are leasing a house and there is a security deposit associated with the move in - We have some community property in terms of items in the household, valued at around $8000. Everything else was technically purchased while we were dating and living together but not DURING the marriage.
Here’s where I feel I need a lawyer: - He threatened to get us evicted by not paying rent if I continued to live here in a separate bedroom throughout the remainder of the lease. Saying it’s not his problem that I don’t have the financial status to live here. So essentially I’m being pushed out of my home with no time to save up for a transition to a new residence while I assume all of my bills without his support in a dual income household any longer. Almost my entire paycheck goes into our household every time I’m paid, so it’s not like I’m not contributing financially. And my livelihood is made here, so he doesn’t get to just decide I don’t have the right to live where I work. I’ve lived in this town for 13 years and survived just fine without him prior to our relationship. - He’s switching around on what the money from his dad is…. First he claimed that the money was a loan that we owed him (nothing is in writing and no payments have been made in over six months). The money was given to him in cash, deposited into his personal account, and used for purchases when we moved into our house. He can’t prove exactly which purchases he made with the money. Of course I assumed this was marital debt and intended to pay his dad back as part of our financial plans, but then he switched to saying that money is actually a gift/inheritance from his dad to him. And that anything he’s bought with it is his alone and not mine for the taking when I move out. I said I didn’t want the money from his dad from the very beginning, but he pressured me into letting him accept it. Then every month since I’ve been trying to convince him that we should make payments, but he would instead put it off and say “he doesn’t need the money right now we can pay him later.” - Then there’s the issue of the lease deposit, he won’t acknowledge that I’m entitled to half of it because that was paid with the dad loan money so it’s all his (I have no idea if he’s calling it a gift or a loan anymore).
So I’m just confused on what to do and how to move forward. I’m getting approval from my job to temporarily work remote and live with family out of state so that I can save properly since he’s pushed me out of my home. In the meantime he’s telling me I can’t take anything out of the house because it was either bought by him before the marriage or bought using his dad’s money. And he’s also saying I can’t have my half of the deposit back and I can get an attorney if I want to fight him on it. All the while saying I owe his dad for the loan in addition to taking back ALL of my debt and bills.
It’s worth noting that he’s made the home very uncomfortable for me while I’ve been here, removing all of my decorations and replacing with his own, taking over the master bedroom and kicking me out of it, telling me it’s not his responsibility that I don’t have financial means to find an alternate residence in San Diego on a whim. He also initiated the divorce and has refused my requests for us to go to couple’s counseling for over a year. ALSO, throughout our relationship and marriage, I’ve only kept a small portion of my paychecks for personal expenses and shopping, and he allotted himself twice as much for purchasing whatever he wants every month.
Obviously I’m in a manipulative and controlling relationship, I just want what’s fair.
I’m wondering if anyone has been through a similar experience with hiring a lawyer for their divorce and how difficult it is to have the lawyer fees paid for by an uncooperative spouse? If he has his way and we go the lawyer free route, I’m leaving with nothing. I did some research and I might be able to request temporary spousal support since he makes so much more than I do, but I know he will fight me on it.
Only other thing of note is that my husband also gave me a loan for a portion of my credit card debt when we were still dating (nothing in writing, just a transfer to my account) and I began to repay him at that time, once we married he said it’s not something I have to pay him back for anymore because it’s “our” money from now on. But now he’s coming after me to pay him for that money as well. He didn’t even have the amount correct when he was making this demand. He said I would owe him $18K and it was actually $14K.
He’s also trying to convince me not to claim the split of the 401K and pension marital assets. I have these benefits as well (we work at the same company), but because he makes over double what I earn, I would be owed the difference. He called me a leech and said he worked hard for those benefits and it’s crazy that I would go after that.
Fun stuff! Any thoughts and opinions are much appreciated. Is a lawyer worth it? I was hoping we could just get into agreement over splitting these things up as we don’t have much in terms of assets and we haven’t even been married two years yet (together and living together for almost 4).
TLDR: We haven’t been married long and have little in terms of assets and shared debts. But is it worth the expense of a lawyer to defend myself against my husband’s uncooperative demands and avoid letting him push me out with nothing?

Hey everybody, can y’all give me some recommendations of where to shoot on BLM land in southern CA, preferably near the San Diego area. I am having a hard time finding specific designated areas on the BLM website. Any info, coordinates, or website links would be appreciated. Thanks!

Hi sub, I've been on the market for new over the ear headphone. I previously had the rose gold Bose headphone and they were amazing. I loved the sound and ANC feature. Unfortunately, I have had them for several years and the cushion for the ear is starting to come off. The most important feature for my headphones is sound quality. Like I need to feel like it's just me with the music and I can drifted in my own rave/concert in my head. Budget is flexible. Which one would best do the job?
Little details: I listen to a lot of EDM and hip hop.

Hi everyone!
24f, would really appreciate advice and input on what to expect at my first appointment.
On May 25th I got a referral to a hematologist-oncologist, exactly 10 days after my mom died from Stage 4 Colon Cancer & Peritoneal Carcinomatosis - May 15th. Almost exactly 5 months since my dad died from Stage 4 Lung Cancer (squamous cell) & Stage 2b(?) Prostate Cancer. December 18th. He also had Stage 2c adenocarcinoma in '98, resulting in his right lung being removed.
I watched the entire process and moment of their death, and it's tough to deal with. Caught too late because of dismissive doctors.
The timing of this is so weird.
I've been dealing with symptoms that I guess resemble lymphoma or leukemia? Most worrying is a supraclavicular mass. Every lymph node from my torso and up is enlarged. Diagnosed with lymphadenopathy from several dr's. Wonky labs all the time. Swelling. Night sweats. A lot more to go into. I've had other insanely weird health issues for the past 2 years, just too tiring to explain.
I had originally just asked for an ENT referral but walked out with a hematologist-oncologist referral. My heart kinda dropped, didn't expect that.
It's like cancer is contagious in my family at this point. Nearly every direct family member and extended family has passed from this terrible disease.
I'm not diagnosed with cancer right now, and hoping I will not be , so I was really surprised because I thought only those with a diagnosis see oncologists. I did have a melanoma scare earlier in the year but thankfully the biopsy came back negative.
The clinic I go to did tell me they don't have the necessary resources for any of the workups needed for this situation. My insurance (Medicaid) is stubborn with imaging and anything beyond basic labs so that hasn't been an option.
I'd appreciate anyone walking me through what this entire thing entails. Specific tests may be ordered, things like that, I guess?
Thank you - besides this I'm sending love and hugs to everyone in this subreddit. ♡

I’ve been at physio for the past 2-3 months over pain I’ve been having since the start of the year. My shoulder is killing me. A lot of the time the pain dies down until I do any sort of physical movement, depending on how physical this movement is my arm hurts more and more and goes down into the elbow making it really painful for me to lift my arm.
The exercises I’ve been given for these months have varied and every single time they hurt. Some of the exercises I’ve found relatively easy and pain free but about 30 minutes later, it hits me like a brick and will last until the next day until I sleep. Makes me not want to keep doing them. Any sort of lying on the side in question, hurts. If I yawn, I feel bad pain in my neck but sometimes it moves to my shoulder also. Hurts to the point where I have to cut my yawn short due to the pain.
I’m getting incredibly irritated with this now and Idk what to do about it. I’ve tried resting but my job is physical and I can’t stop working. I feel so useless being unable to do the stuff I enjoyed, I’m basically an arm down.

So, a little over a month ago I started work at a local factory where very few women work, but that wasn’t something that bothered me, as I have done factory work before and been in a similar situation.
On my second day at this job, I was reprimanded for pulling my phone out to check the time and told extra eyes are always on my because I am a woman. And last week, the reason I am quitting, the only other woman in my department and myself were pulled aside and told we aren’t allowed to work with eachother, only other men.
I asked if this was a productivity issue, and my supervisor said the word from the big boss os, he never wants to see two women next to eachother, and wants no “girl talk” on the factory floor. I am literally only allowed to work with men if I return to this job, and have to deal with the fact that I have extra surveillance because I am a woman.

Prologue
Greg will be here tomorrow, and I know almost nothing about him. What I do know has been gathered from a few sparse moments with my best friend and annoying roommate, Nico: Greg is down on his luck. Greg’s got shitty parents. Greg only needs a place to stay until he can find a new job.
I won’t even notice he’s here.
I told Nico that isn’t as reassuring as he means it to be.
I’m scrubbing the kitchen, Nico is wiping down the bathroom, and Munchie the Lab is in the living room curled up in his bed. A chew toy dangles from his tired muzzle.
The whole house smells of chemicals. Every once in a while, I’ll see Nico dragging a filthy bucket of water up and down the stairs, bringing with him a stench of muck and ammonia. The house hasn’t seen a lick of fresh air in hours; I’ve felt a building knot of nausea in my gut from the fumes.
“Hey Nico!” I stop scrubbing the stove to call up to him. A bump and a splash of water later, and the skinny little man is making his way downstairs. He once again brings the bucket with him. The dirty thing sloshes water down each of the wooden steps, and by the time he reaches the bottom, the bucket is half empty.
“Yeah, what’s up?” He wipes sweat off his forehead, but it does him no good. It’s soaked into his hair, his shirt collar, and the waistband of his jeans.
“Why does the place have to be medical-grade clean?” I ask. “Is this guy a germ freak or something?”
Nico shakes his head. The bucket looks heavy hanging from his arm and he’s trembling from the weight of it. “Nah, that’s just what you do when you’ve got a guest staying with you. You know, etiquette and whatnot.”
“Yeah, etiquette,” I look around the kitchen. “Is this good enough? I wanted to talk to you.”
“About what?” Nico drops the bucket, the last of the water threatening to churn out onto the floor. It’s brown and home to floating bits of soap scum and probably pubes.
“Who is this guy?”
“I told you, he’s my friend Greg.”
“Okay, that tells me nothing about your friend Greg.”
Nico rolls his eyes. I can see the annoyance building in one of the veins on his brow.
“Why do you need to know everything about him? You won’t even know he’s here.” There it is again.
“I’ve known you for five years, Nico,” I say, “you have never mentioned ‘Greg.’ You haven’t even slept with any Greg’s.”
“No, but you did that one time in Key West!” He winks at me, surveys my progress, picks at a speck of dried spaghetti sauce on the wall, and flicks it into his bucket. “Quick question: Do I tell you every man I associate myself with?”
“You do actually, so it pisses me off that we’re going to have this guy leeching off of our food and utilities when I know nothing about him.”
Nico takes a deep breath and lets it out slowly through his lips while massaging his temples.
“I’m sorry,” he says, a rare occurrence for him. “I've been busy getting the place ready like you have, and I have a shit ton to deal with at the club. We can talk about it before I go to work later.”
“Why can’t we talk now?”
“Oh my god, Marcus!” The air in the room feels stale now, and that’s without the contribution of Windex and floor cleaner. Munchie lets out a low whimper from his bed.
Nico picks up the near-empty bucket and starts making his way up the stairs. “We’ll talk later. I’ve got like three rooms left to clean.” He takes one last gaze at the kitchen. “It looks great, by the way. Really spectacular. Thanks for being such a helper!”
“Oh, fuck off, Nico. Genuinely fuck right off.”
“Gladly!” He waddles his way up the steps like a penguin, the bucket bouncing against his leg and splashing water down his pants.
“You’re a pain in the ass!” I shout after him.
“I’ve been told!” He reaches the upper landing, turns, and disappears into the bathroom.
“Can’t wait to meet your new man!” I try to get the last word in, but find I'm only talking to the kitchen appliances, Munchie, and myself.
A wind is picking up outside, whipping between the other rickety houses dotting our street, and warning of rain in the air. The screen on our front door rattles and for the first time since moving in, I feel alone.

Throwaway acct…I need help..I know by me sharing this story im setting myself up for lots of hate which I completely deserve and am ready for but I also need true and honest thoughts to help me so here I go. This story will be all over the place and long so bear with me. I have been in a sneaky link type of relationship with a man who has a girlfriend and very recently just had a baby with her. It all started when I was working a couple of years ago. It had been a couple of months into this job and we just had a new hire and i thought he was very attractive and very much my type but a couple of days later i got into a serious relationship with my ex (Me and my ex-boyfriend were long distance and met online) so i lost attraction and I barely talked to him just a small hey..hi sometimes. A couple of weeks later me and we will call him D started talking and becoming good friends and my initial attraction came back and I had a small crush but never acted on it. Me and ex boyfriend started becoming very distant and me and my friends suspected he was cheating on me because of his behavior which later I found out I was right. I never confronted him on my suspicions I don’t know why but we started dating in like SeptembeOctober if I remember correctly in December I left my job and in Jan me and D started becoming very close.. we smoked together a lot and one night we started talking and the conversation ended up with spicy questions being asked and one thing led to another and we ended up kissing the days after that we slept together. D and me were both in relationships and we still continued this relationship I know..I know. I ended up breaking up with my ex a couple of months later because of how distant we both were with each other. Me and D continued sleeping with each other here and there for months even though he was still in relationship and we had discussions of how very fucked up people we were for doing what we were doing. Also to note the whole time I was cheating I did feel a little guilty but i stopped myself from thinking abt it yeah again i know what is wrong with me. We continued all the way until June and after that we both got busy and never hit each other up again. I noticed he unaddedd me on snap and just thought he was done and never thought abt it again. i think 4 months later he called me and I refused to pick up for weeks because in those months I had started to develop a relationship with god and didn’t wanna be the old me again. About a month into him still calling me a lot of shit was going on in my life meaning I had gone back to partying alcohol and drugs and ended up picking up his call. He told me he wanted to explain why he never hit me up again and I told him there was no need as it was mutual decision and I simply did not care bccs I never had feelings for him he persisted and I ended up meeting him he told me that he ended up getting his girlfriend pregnant and the decision was to keep it. we continued talking for longer until he made a move to kiss to where i did kiss back but I stopped and asked to be taken home. I didn’t talk to him for awhile after that because yes I know cheating was bad before but adding a pregnant woman into the picture it made it 10x worse. But i inevitably gave in and we started sleeping with each other here and there again with the decided terms that when the baby would get here we would both cut each other off on everything.last night i was on the phone with him and we started having a deep ass conversation out of no where and i was like let me just ask him finally abt the baby like i was just so curious bcs it had been way longer than 9 months but i asked i was like what ever happened to the kid… D said I’m not going to lie like my kid is here my heart like dropped cause after he said that like it just hit me fr like this man is a whole father has a whole baby mama and i wanted to ask more questions but it was so weird so I refrained and after i got quiet and he was like if that changes things just let me know and i was like honestly i don’t know right now and before this we made plans for me to hang with him at his house next week and I don’t know we proceeded to have a conversation after that but like all i could think in the back of my head was that and like im just so iffy on everything and i just feel so guilty like it was bad before but it’s worse now and like the worst part is is i feel like im still gonna fuck him and it’s not cause i have feelings but i feel like i do have some sort of attachment maybe because he was my first but i don’t know there is some attachment and i know it’s also because i spent my whole life just not believing i wasn’t pretty enough like at all like also being a bigger girl having someone attracted to me is so bizarre and as much as i love to act like im not insecure i still very much am and i think like oh having someone who i found attractive found me attractive and we were fucking just gave me that validation but that’s no fucking excuse to be a home wrecker. I have been so anxious over this all day like i truly wonder what happened to me i used to be such a big person on no cheating and now look at me im the biggest cheater of them all. Like just because im insecure it didn’t give me the right to do this to that poor girl. I need help cutting this off completely.

I was an international student, specifically pursuing an LLM degree. Following graduation, I secured a position as a compliance analyst within a prominent company. Over time, I have consistently been promoted and now hold the position of director. It has been nearly seven years since I completed my graduate program, and although I still have the potential to advance further in my career, the bar exam is the rock in my shoe. I am eager to take the bar exam in February 2024, but I am uncertain about which bar course to choose that would accommodate a study period of more than six months. Considering that I will need to work at the same time, I believe it will take more than six months, or possibly even longer, to adequately prepare. I have heard that certain bar courses offer the option to extend the study period or begin preparations earlier. I would greatly appreciate any recommendations you may have. I believe the essay part will be the most challenging part for me.

I live in the USA. Monthly rent/utility is $650.
My total monthly living expenses are usually between $3k to $4k including rent. Is this normal in the USA?
I make $74K per year from my job. I just don't understand how people making less than me are paying bills?

I did a similar exercise this time last year for the 2023 NBA Draft https://www.reddit.com/NBA_Draft/comments/v4hfoi/super_early_2023_nba_big_board/
With very mixed results its pretty hard to get a proper gage this early, trying to project which college players break out, which incoming freshman pop or struggle.
Many of the names mentioned below may never reach the NBA while others not mentioned maybe lottery picks this time next year, still it may give you a base on guys to take a look at next year. I watch a lot of college ball but not nearly familiar enough with international players so if you want to put forward some names or players I've missed please let me know.
I tend to agree with draft analysts that this draft lacks star potential, nothing clear on who will go number one, at the moment I'm leaning with Holland (youth, athleticism, 2 way potential) but have seen multiple names mocked, Edwards, Mara, Collier, Buzelis, Wagner, Risacher. I still believe though that there is great depth in this draft for potential role players/starters.
Let me know what you think!

1. Ron Holland
2. Isaiah Collier
3. Justin Edwards
4. Matas Buzelis
5. Mackenzie Mgbako
6. DJ Wagner
7. Aday Mara
8. Aaron Bradshaw
9. Kelel Ware
10. Cody Williams
11. Judah Mintz
12. Thierry Darlan
13. Donovan Clingan
14. Zaccharie Risacher
15. Tyrese Proctor
16. Adem Bona
17. Stephen Castle
18. Kyle Filipowski
19. Riley Kugel
20. JJ Starling
21. Xavier Booker
22. Trevon Brazile
23. Baba Miller
24. Mark Mitchell
25. Jakobe Walter
26. Omaha Bielliew
27. Rylan Griffen
28. Kwame Evans Jr
29. Elliot Cadeau
30. Coleman Hawkins
31. Bronny James Jr
32. Trey Alexander
33. Jared Mccain
34. Hunter Sallis
35. Nae'Qwan Tomlin
36. Ugonna Onyenso
37. Dillon mitchell
38. Arthur Kaluma
39. Terrence Shannon jr
40. Reece Beekman
41. Taran Armstrong
42. Grant Nelson
43. Alexander Sarr
44. Zach Edey
45. Dillon Jones
46. Miles Kelly
47. Matt Cleveland
48. Graham Ike
49. Ryan Kalkbrenner
50. Tyler Burton
51. London Johnson
52. Oso ighodaro
53. Tucker Devries
54. Tyler Smith
55. Izan Ilmanza
56. Jevon Porter
57. Andrei Stojokavic
58. Alexandros samodurav
59. Elmarko Jackson
60. Babacar Sane
61. Mookie Cook
62. Eric Gaines
63. Arterio Morris
64. Malik Reneau
65. AJ Johnson
66. Robert Dillingham
67. Vince Iwuchukwu
68. Jaden Bradley
69. Kylan Boswell
70. Ryan Dunn
71. Yohan Traore
72. Trey Parker
73. Ernest Udeh Jr
74. Aden Holloway
75. Anton Watson
76. Trentyn Flowers
77. Chance Westry
78. Kenyon Menifield-
79. Mike Sharavjamts
80. Johni Broome
81. Jan Vilde
82. Josiah Jordan James
83. Eric Dailey Jr
84. Dennis Evans
85. Aidan Mahaney
86. Jalen Bridges
87. Tidjane Salaun
88. Baylor Schierman
89. Tre White
90. Norchard Omier
91. TJ Power
92. Tyrese Hunter
93. Roko Prkacin
94. Benny Williams
95. Tyson Deganhart
96. Damion Collins
97. Caleb Love
98. Amaree Abram
99. Jeremy Fears jr
100. Kowacie Reeves
101. Baye Fall
102. Terrance Aarceneaux
103. Adam Miller
104. Ven Allen Lubin
105. Justin Moore
106. Hunter Dickerson
107. MJ Rice
108. Sean Stewart
109. Alex Karaban-
110. Jordan Pope
111. Micah Handlogten-
112. Brice Griggs
113. Mark Armstrong
114. Houston Mallete
115. Jamarion Sharp
116. Oumar Ballo
117. Asher Woods
118. Henri Veesaar
119. Felix Okpara
120. Tristan da Silva
121. Myles Colvin
122. Jayson Tyson
123. Will Richard
124. Glenn Taylor Jr
125. Berke Buyuktuncel
126. Illane Fibleuil
127. Tyler Kolek
128. Adama Bal
129. N'Faly Dante
130. Harrison Ingram
131. Darrion Williams
132. Caleb Foster
133. Nate Bittle
134. Ryan Nembhard
135. Teafale Leonard Jr
136. Julian Reece
137. Armando Bacot
138. Isaiah Miranda
139. Jaden Akins
140. Matthew Murrell
141. Oliver Nkamhoua
142. PJ Hall
143. Wooga Poplar
144. Nolan Hickman
145. Brandon Murray
146. Jun Seok Yeo
147. Skyy Clark
148. Fletcher Loyer
149. Tobe Awaka
150. Mikey Williams

For me, I realized I was browsing too much BS on reddit and playing video games. I had my job and all, but I wasn't actively pursuing self-improvement even when I needed to.
I started committing to working out every day, even if it was just a "short run". I'd always commit to studying just another hobby. I subscribed to Economist and read things there. There's small things, but each day I'm just trying to keep myself learning more, setting up more "experiential" opportunities (particularly where I can learn new skills), and stay ahead of my own issues.

So I’ve [26M] been eyeing this girl [24F] at work for like the past year, but I’ve never gotten a chance to talk to her since we work in different departments and sit in different parts of the building.
Until this past Thursday. A bunch of us went out for happy hours and I started chatting with her while she was talking to my two other buddies. Turns out, she lives like 10 minutes away from me in the same town. She brought up carpooling and how she currently will take the bus if she doesn’t drive in which she doesn’t mind either.
We never confirmed that we would carpool together or anything, but I definitely made it known that it would have been something I’m down for. A lot of friends started to trickle out and eventually it was just me, her, and one other buddy. She went to go to the restroom before we left the bar, and my other buddy left while she was in the bathroom. When she came back, it was just me and her so we ended up walking to the parking garage together which is about 10-15mns away. I thought we had a nice little conversation about her job, future goals, where she likes to go out in town, etc…
We both said goodbye once we got to the garage and she said “ok well I’ll see you on Tuesday”, and that was that.
I messaged her yesterday saying “Hey if you’re going into the office on Monday, can I give you a ride?” She didn’t respond until today and said “hey thanks for offering but I’m probably going to go in late and stay late so I’ll drive myself”. I responded to that (about an hour and a half later) saying “hey no worries and yeah anytime!”
I share this information with this group because I’d like to get everyone’s opinions. I personally feel like I may have come on too strong too quick, given that Thursday was the first time we ever spoke, and even though I’ve been crazy about her for 8 months, for all I know Thursday was the first time she’s ever noticed me. Have I shot myself in the foot here? I feel like even if she was remotely interested, she may have said no to Monday but then ended it with “maybe a different day?”
Been feeling like shit all day wondering if I ruined my one chance to get to know this girl.

hi. I am doing car sales nowadays.
and the market is too hard and I am kind of done with this job.
and I've got a call former manager he was a general manager at a dealership. (it's big company in bc)
he called me to offer me a job. he said I have a position for you. and he said you are doing Audo body shop estimator and assistant sales manager.
I do not know what is estimator doing. I am guessing I am gonna do the estimate and deal with the insurance company.
should I take this job? he said I can start whenever I am ready. also, this shop is 5 minutes away from home. ye I do not want to do sales jobs anymore. I don't see any bright futures.
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give me some advise!!!

For the last five years, I was working in the humanitarian field, overseas. In November 2020, I met someone and we formed a grassroots organization together. We were business partners, then best friends, and then after six months we fell absolutely in love. We lived together, we spent 24/7 together (both because of work and because we were very in love). We had a kitten, he embraced my dog, we travelled all the time and fell more in love. For two and a half years everything was great. Then my visa expired and I had to move to my home country. We discussed at length, and agreed we'd start an immigration claim so he could move here as well. That was started in December.
So in late December, I headed home after 5 years, thinking my partner would follow a few months later. We videocalled all the time, I found a job, I got us a place, I bought us a car, I set up our entire life, always consulting him and checking in if it's what he wanted.
After only three months of being physically separated, he abruptly ended things stating he "didn't want any responsibilities and wasn't even sure if he wanted to move." So now I'm in my home country but a totally different city where I know no one, 5000kms away from my hometown and 15,000kms away from him. He continues to live in our apartment in the country overseas that we lived together in for years. I'm devastated, to say the least. I have no social support system here, my heart is broken, I miss our life together. I thought I was coming home to start my future with him. I tried no contact, I tried lots of contact, I tried being understanding, I tried fighting for him. He just says that he "does not want to be in a relationship". He insists he still loves me but just wants to be "best friends" like before. He keeps saying that he just learned that it's better to be on your own, always. I feel like he is a completely different person than the guy I just lived with for 2.5 years.
Now I'm alone here and locked into a lease, a work contract, a rental contract. I'd give it all up and go back to him, but he's insisted I should not do that.
I feel I'm losing my time - after this many years, I didn't think I'd be left alone, in a new place with no friends, no support, no family, and no future. I keep thinking "He's going to come around, he's going to come around, he's going to come around" which I know is prolonging the pain. But how do I even begin to move forward when I created a future for us, and now I'm living in its shadow?
Why did he just...give up? And how the hell does a 35 year old (36 this week) start over when my heart, soul, and mind are 15,000kms and an unavailable relationship away?

For context, I've been gaming since I was 5. I started with an NES, and have owned 1 console from every generation from the NES to the 7th Gen, including all 3 7th Gen. Switched to PC when the 8th gen hit. Gaming was nearly my only hobby for about 10 straight years. I have a lot of skin in the game and the personal value to me and my formulative years is immeasurable. I've been seeing how the hobby has evolved, and it frankly disgusts me
I switched to PC at the 8th gen, so I haven't bought many console games in 8 years. I wanted to complete a few series I had on console, so I looked back into it. Holy crap has the game changed. There's no love for the hobby, or even the games, anymore. It's ALL dollars and cents now. Youtubers are "look at all these expensive games I got." Everyone online is "look at all these expensive games I got." It seems to have completely infected this hobby. It feels like everyone just boils it down to the money now. Treating it as some sort of investment. It's infuriating
It's also infectious. When I got back into collecting I said "Well, if this is the game now, I suppose I'll play it. This is just what game collecting is now apperently." I never resold, but I scoured sites hunting for deals for hours. Didn't even care what it was. A game on pricechart for $3 that's selling for $2? Buy it. Collection value go up." And it totally changed how I viewed the hobby. It wasn't even fun anymore. I wasn't even buying them to play. I was just hoarding the like some kind of dragon going "collection value go up hee hee." Once I realized that, I stopped immediately and went back into "normal" collecting, and have enjoyed the hobby much more ever since
Now, it seems like everyone is doing it. Finding games in the wild is near impossible, and if you do, the community of mostly resellers are so toxic that the seller judges anyone looking for games. Resellers all say they're "hardcore gamers" right? It's completely ruined the market and has basically sucked the will out of me to continue collecting
I've been getting more and more jaded until someone posted this video in the comments section of a post here: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qAHWmAiDcyA&pp=ygUUcHJvIHBpY2tlciB5YXJkIHNhbGU%3D) My reaction to it was about as harsh as you could get. I had a legitimate reaction of "screw this. I'll go all digital out of sheer spite. I don't want to give slime like that anything to go off of. The games I own aren't investments. They're not bought and sold to make money. They're owned for fun. You can't sell digital games or ROM's, so the fun is all there is." The hard part is that I'll unlikely have other family members who enjoy the hobby, so once I'm deceased, they'll sell all my stuff and those kinds of people win anyway
I'm at a bit of an impasse. I love my physical games, but I almost don't want to collect more because the hobby seems almost rotten because of all the financial get rich quick people who've infiltrated it. Even if I hold onto it for now, I don't want it sold. I want it kept in the family for others to play, but I have a sinking feeling it'll just be sold with all my other possessions. I still have other games I want, but I almost don't want to collect them because the hobby just feels different
Does anyone feel the same way? I almost feel like I'm yelling into a void because everyone online is so focused on the same thing. I don't really know where to go from here

I was diagnosed with IIH a month and a half ago and immediately upon diagnosis I started taking Acetazolamide, 250mg twice a day. Since then I've developed problems with my memory, brain fog, as well as my balance, and I can't tell if they are to do with the medication or the condition itself but I've decided to finally call my GP and bring it up. The medication also gives me a very intense tingling, almost crawling sensation in my feet and fingertips and when I first discussed it with an ophthalmologist I said that it wasn't bothering me too much but it is now too severe to ignore and it wakes me up at night. I still get headaches when stressing or straining (physical exertion, crying etc) and on really hot days but they don't happen nearly as often as they did before I was diagnosed and I can easily manage them with paracetamol. I'm not too enthused about the idea of changing my medication or considering a shunt placement (I hate being in hospitals for any reason), but if it was absolutely necessary and would improve my everyday life I would go through with it.
How should I best go about these points in the appointment? I'm going to take notes throughout to make sure that I don't lose any information. It may help to hear some other perspectives on the other medication options, dosages and the pros and cons of shunts, as well as generally how to deal with these symptoms and side effects, because my particular GP is not too great so I wouldn't be surprised if I didn't get much out of this appointment.

I haven't worked since really long time due to my insomnia. I would like to try an opportunity and start working. What are the jobs that people from this forum could recommend me? Or from your experience what kind of jobs you are doing while suffering of this condition. I just imagine how horrible is going to work with zero hours of sleeping and I freak out, because i have experienced it also. I feel out of the market and when you are interviewed and asked what you were doing in the last years and they check this gaps in your resume, pfff, and then you know that you have struggled a lot with your mental health, but you feel it is still taboo to talk about this, more if you want to get a job.

so, the other day, I was with my bf and I was going to walk him halfway home (my mum and dad don’t drive, his does so he usually gets a lift home, but tonight he couldn’t so we just walked it. It’s about a 40ish minute walk from mines to his). So we start walking, and 10 minutes in he tells me I can go home now. (It’s around 8oclock. This area is near an area that’s known to have some dodgy activities but nothing ever happened on this road) so I don’t want him to walk the whole rest of the way alone, I’d feel horrible as he always walks me half way or his stepdad gives me a lift home. So I tell him no and we keep walking and he tells me just “to go home” and I tell him “no” and then ask him “why” and he said something along the lines of I don’t need you to walk me. I told him I was walking him. And we keep going back and forth so he asks “why do you do this everytime. Why do you walk me home” and I say “I do it because I care about you” and he says “it’s getting annoying” and so I ask him “so it’s annoying that I care about you?” And he replies “right now, yea it is”
That really upset me. I don’t know why, but it really really got me. I cant even say anything to him because he’s upset and annoyed me. So I just turn my head away from him. I tell him i cant believe he would say that. So he says to me “you know what my house is like. This walk I get from my house to yours is the only quiet time I get. Yeah I’m in my room, but I still have that going on in my house” (he has 4 siblings). I had no idea what to say to him so I say nothing but I just nod. So we walk the rest in silence. Then we get to the point we usually leave at and I apologise for being cheeky and he just says bye to me.
I walk home in tears. I don’t know why but the fact he told me it was annoying that I cared about him really got me. He apologised saying he’s “been really overwhelmed lately. Please don’t be upset”. But he doesn’t know what I’m dealing with, because every time I go to him with a problem he doesn’t listen to it properly. My bestfriend is ditching me for some other boy (she has a boyfriend and is spending all her time with him and this other boy). But he doesn’t know that because he’ll say “she’s still going to be your best friend and blah blah blah, but he clearly doesn’t understand what I’m trying to tell him the fact that my bestfirend is drifting from me and I’m not going to stop it, but it still upsets me. Anyways I get it he can have stuff going on, and everyone has their own shit but I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong here?
Idk man. There’s just a lot going on right now and I don’t want to overreact.

Hello there 👋🏽
I’ll be driving for the next 3 hours and I think it would be real fun to talk to someone in the meantime. I use discord and remember I am driving so service might not cooperate at times. Should be fine as I’ve been this way before. I really only ask that you be above 21 cause I don’t think I have much I relate with a teenager with 😅
I’d love to hear how was your day or what do you feel good about lately, but I’m okay with listening if you got stuff on your mind.
If you think you’re not interesting to talk about (which I find those people 9 out of 10 are like the most interesting) you can ask me about anything. I suppose here are some random talking points of me? 😳
-I work at a retro game store -I have a cat (who I adore) -prior military -did not eat meat at all until I was 19 -live near DC -ummm… -I like orange Gatorade?