My MIL and SIL hates me. I have 2 kids and she sometimes babysit for us. My family is in a different country and we are tight financially so we can’t afford Nannies that often so I appreciate their help but it’s always so stressful. She hates that my toddler has a nap time. She says and acts like I’m too strict. She always ends up skipping his nap time when he is at her house and feeding him whatever junk food he wants. He used to eat healthy and now he only want crackers. He gets home so cranky and takes me a whole week to put him back on a schedule. He has a camera at home and I give it to her so she will know when he wakes up and receive the camera notifications and she will never plug the Wi-Fi camera on saying she “doesn’t know”. I have birth 6 weeks ago and we had a wedding last weekend and my SO begged me to go and to let his mom be a “grandma”. I felt so wrong leaving my new baby with her but again I felt like I should trust on her and that she would follow my directions. She said she was only watching the baby at her house so we had to pack everything for baby and toddler. My baby has really sensitive skin and bad reflux so I tried to explain everything to her and showed her the cream I’ve been using on her. Well, we went to the wedding and of course my toddler never got his naps, I found my 6 week old baby with horrible rashes, stinky milk clothes like she haven’t even changed her clothes and hoarse voice. She was also overheated. She took the baby and toddler in a long walk outside on a travel system stroller it wasn’t even on a bassinet. I was so so shocked by it and of course I confronted my husband and he said “l dont remember if she had those rashes before.” Like really? I would never hand my baby with baby rashes like that. And said he “noticed her voice weird since last week” also no true. I’m the mother in maternity leave and I’m with that baby 24 hours and she was perfectly fine. I had to take the baby to the hospital to figure out the rashes and her voice and the DR said it was from crying a lot. My MIL once confronted by my husband said she would pick up my baby within 30 seconds and that’s too hard to handle a toddler and a infant! And she had the audacity to call me and say that my baby girl had those rashes before. I said no man she didn’t with all respect. My baby is better now but we have a wedding in 2 weeks which I was looking forward to go. I barely get out of the house since I had my baby and I can’t count on anyone and my husband wants me to give their family another chance but I feel like a failure if I do and I keep trying to find new solutions but nothing comes to mind!!!

Last night I crunched the numbers: when my grandfather bought his first property in the late 60s it equated to just over 2 times his annual disposable income as a doctor… flash forward 55 years and that same property (in Dalkeith no less) is equivalent to almost 25 times the annual disposable income of a doctor of comparable position.
It wasn’t a watershed moment as such but it concretised something I already knew to be the case… and I suddenly no longer feel qualms about relying on familial financing to help me not only stay afloat but live the life I want to live.
I could try to carve my own path independently but the reality is that I’ll be working myself to the bone whilst still never managing to lead the comfortable lifestyle in a suburb I’d like to live in plus travelling and engaging with hobbies and interests… at least not until I’ve been wage slaving away for a decade or two - and even then I’ll need some stars to align to achieve that.
It seems to me that it’s a vastly different world that the one my parents inherited and unrecognisable to that of my grandparents, and so holding the younger generations to the same standards of financial independence is naive and unjust… even a bit sadistic when you consider that their generations self-serving and short sighted policies and attitudes lead to this predicament.
In addition to the housing and rental scarcity and soaring interest rates and inflation, the cost of tertiary education is now higher than it’s ever been in Australia (Unbelievable to think that it was effectively free for a decade), and bulk billing doctors are a dying breed, plus welfare payments have stagnated to the point that they’re almost unsustainably meagre.
Several friends have moved back in with parents or are in sharehousing and will be for the foreseeable future - the notion of overseas travel is a pipe dream and the notion of having a child is farcical ( although you’ll notice that those who pump out kids like a people production line are usually those least able to even provide for themselves but that’s another topic)
Whilst I can cough up enough to feed the wolf at the door, I’ve realised that if I am to travel anywhere besides Bali within the next few years I’ll need to rely on mummy and daddies spade coin. I never wanted to have to put my hand out but you know what, fuck it. If they’re able and willing to finance my travel, hobbies, to set me up in my own house, all the better.
There could be another pandemic or world war within the decade for all I know, I could get run down by a tow truck mobster on meth and wind up quadriplegic, AI proliferation could lead to mass layoffs, I don’t want to run the risk of never getting to experience the things I’d like to experience because I tried to pave my own way in a game that’s rigged against me. I don’t see the pride or virtue in that.
Also the philosophy that kids should have to earn their stripes as their parents did is a fatuous one for the above reasons and I believe there’s often some simmering resentment in the equation as well: a parents duty above all should be to ensure that their children’s lives are as comfortable as possible, otherwise they should bloody reproduce - as long as their children are making the effort to study and work and aren’t blowing it all on booze and bullshit they should be willing to help them out if they have the means.. in fact they should embrace their ability to do so.
Of course I feel greatly for anyone who doesn’t have a wallet to lean on or property to inherit.. I personally am more than happy to pay a hefty inheritance tax and much of my income if I knew it were being used wisely to ameliorate the pain points a la the Scandinavian system… I truly hope we see some nationwide changes that balance the scales somewhat but I can’t see it happening anytime soon… at least not whilst the legislators and politicians on both sides of the house are personally benefiting from the current state of affairs and are more concerned with securing another term in office to feather their own nest than the quality of life of the average person and long term prosperity.
Anyone who’s read this far… I raise my half empty glass to you but also I ask: does this sound reasonable or am I just rationalising my way out of working hard?

I have a deep, abiding desire to walk the Caminos. I’ve talked about it to my friends and they love it. I’m probably going in 2024. But here’s the thing—I can’t explain why. I can’t articulate it. I can’t bring it into focus.
I’m not religious. I’m not out there to find myself. I’m not trying to prove I can do it. It’s just a strong, nebulous desire.
So im wondering: why are you on a pilgrimage?

TL;DR How do you know at any given moment, if you are over- or understimulated, had to little alone or social time, were missing creativity, intellectual stimulation or needed to decompress and so on?
How do you know what you are missing on any given day? I often read that people know they are missing e.g. creativity or inspiration so they will make a point of doing something creative. Or they are socially exhausted so they will spend time alone, or the other way around need to socialize so they will meet up with friends. I always wonder - how do they realize what they will need before it's too late? For me I will only notice that I am exhausted, but I couldn't tell if I was over- or understimulated, had to little alone or social time, was missing creativity, intellectual stimulation or needed to decompress and so on. Of course I can go through what I did the last days and weeks and take guesses, but I could never be sure if they were right plus - and this is the biggest issue - I only notice if the balance is already off. I have no idea how to take care that there is a balance beforehand and plan my week accordingly.
Of course I know to have a mix of work, social life, time to myself, breaks etc. but I wouldnt know if and how often the free time should be filled with which kinds of acitivities. If I decide to spend my free day with exercise, meeting friends, going to a museum, for a walk in nature or going to a party I often realize later on that I am feeling no different or worse than before. On other days the activities I decide on are exactly what I needed. It's basically like roulette.
I feel like there's a memo I missed, does everyone have a display on their phone with sims-like bars showing if they need too sleep or eat?
Have you ever encountered a similiar issue? How do you keep a balance in your everyday life? How can you tell what you need?
I hope you guys have some advice or tips for me.

I was in a conversation once where someone was describing a logical fallacy or concept and used a story to illustrate it. The story basically went like this:
Driver Dan wants to turn right from a small residential street onto a busy boulevard during rush hour. He can see a long line of cars, 20 in total. The gaps between the first 19 cars, and their speed, make it clearly unsafe to turn between them. There is a gap between cars 19 and 20 that is easily safe enough to make his turn. Dan notices the safe gap after car 19 but also sees that after the 20th car there are no more cars, so he waits until the 20th car has passed to make his turn.
The logical fallacy being described was basically that Dan was misinterpreting a safe (or acceptable) situation as dangerous (or undesirable) because there was another, overly safe alternative available.
Is there a term for this? It’s related to the cliche “the perfect is the enemy of the good” and the Nirvana fallacy but it isn’t those. I thought the person describing it was using a term as if it had an official name but maybe not.

My PD, whom I have always had a good relationship with, took me aside the other day and told me he no longer sees me as the inquisitive, enthusiastic resident that I once was. At first, I thought he was admonishing me for not doing well, but in hindsight I think he's just worried about me.
His words have been gnawing at me for days. I'm not quite sure why it took hearing that to come to this realization, but I have become an unhappy, stressed, hollow person over these past few years. I cannot fully blame medicine for it, but the stress, demands, time commitments of this field have all attributed immensely. I feel like a robot going through the motions and genuinely do not understand why I continue. I should clarify that I'm not suicidal, I have kids whom rely on me and I would never abandon them, nor do I feel the need or desire to kill myself. But I don't know why I continue with medicine. It has not been the career I envisioned, and the few moments here and there of interest and happiness it brings me seem to be further and further between periods of stress, anxiety, missing my family/friends, and all of the other feelings of guilt and unease that I'm sure many others have experienced in this field.
I'm not even sure why I'm writing this. Catharsis, maybe. I have an upcoming appointment with a psychiatrist, but the more I dwell on this, the more I fear that maybe medicine is not a fitting career for me.

So last year this time, I decided to move in with 2 of my friends from college who were gonna work in the same place I was. We were friends but not very close cause they had personalities that didn’t gel that well with me. It was a small college so most of us from the batch were friends to some level.
Just to give you brief intro to them, one is 22 year old who acts like a 12 year old at work. She talks like an anime character and is very loud. The other one was in a situationship with one of my close friends from work. She was very unfair in how she treated him but now they are dating and inseparable. She is very opinionated and loud too.
I myself am an introvert and not very comfortable around loud people as I usually can’t speak up. We used to cook together but not anymore because my personal routine started differing from theirs. From then on I have been subconsciously distancing myself from them. I find everything they do annoying, they have also been outright ignoring me. Texting me like I am a stranger though I try not to do that cause that makes things more awkward. At this point I am so ready to move out and live alone but atm I can’t. What can I do to deal with this for the time time being?

i constantly feel neglected in my relationship. we have been together for 5 years and he tends to prioritize his friends over me. i'm not saying he can't spend it with his friends but the time frame seems a bit unfair and such overkill.
we're in a semi-long distance relationship, we barely see eachother for personal reasons. so we make time to hangout at night (since this is what works for us) through facetime. lately, it has been such a problem because i barely get to hangout with him because he's been dedicated to his friends. his day is dedicated to what he wants to do and it usually falls into gaming and spending it with his friends, i've calculated the hours and it falls down to around 8-10 hours on his time/friends. my calculated time is just 6-8 hours (on a good day) but sometimes it's only 3 hours or even just a good 45 minutes. my time is constantly being split into half and it gets frustrating because imagine you're looking forward to spending it with your SO and they don't feel the same, it becomes disappointing and such a let down. meanwhile on my end it seems like he cannot get enough of his friends, borderline obsessed maybe? the only time that i've noticed he voluntarily gets off is if either he knows he messed up or none of his friends are online or bored of the same game or has some form of bodily discomfort or just that one in a blue moon of wanting to hangout with me.
a couple of days ago, i've been noticing that our texts have become shorter and shorter and also dry. i just don't apply that much pressure by complaining daily and getting his attention to respond, so i usually just push it to the side and keep it moving. but on that day, it had been 5 hours and i haven't heard from him and i know what he's doing but it's also that he's actively sending tiktoks or liking posts on twitter but seems to be incapable of responding. i got upset and basically pushed him off and stopped responding. the next day i was still salty and we haven't texted at all that day but he's active on snapchat and twitter. not a word on my end. he called me but i didn't pick up because it seemed like bull since you've gone comfortably going about your day without saying a word. so i've been giving him the same energy and it seems that he got upset about it.
again it just seems unfair that he has all his time and energy towards other things/friends but it seems like i'm getting scrap, leftovers.
i know i'm going to get responses within the "break up with him" spectrum but i'm in it for the long run just don't want the easy way out. all relationships have different problems.
what should i do? i've given him solutions on how to better manage time but it just seems that it only works for a couple of days/weeks then it's back to square one.

I’m 22 M. I feel like guys can never admit this, but that fact that I’m this young and feel this way irks me. The last significant GF I had was in high school for 8 months and she dumped me after we graduated. I’m really tall and athletic but my personality absolutely sucked, so once she moved away for university it was an easy decision for her. And she was super attractive so she found someone new like a week later (they are still together).
I don’t know - I just really don’t have much hope these days that i’ll find someone for me. I see some of my friends dating super awesome girls and it drains me. I don’t envy it; I just forgot what that feels like. I’ve slept with some girls and been on more “serious” dates in the pst few years, but every time I either am not feeling it or the girl backs off when I press further. Basically, nothing has clicked at all for me romantically and I just graduated university, so that precious time to make connections is over.
I feel like i’m interesting but maybe i’m not. After quitting college sports, I picked up guitar and songwriting (hopefully starting a band soon), workout almost every day, sometimes go to the bar with friends, and I’ll start teaching high schoolers next semester. Having seemingly nobody but a few friends to share these experiences with leaves me incredibly hollow. I lose interest in stuff fast these days.
Kind of a wall of text/rant, but thanks for reading if you did. Any words of wisdom are welcome.

I’m a US born white guy. My moms side immigrated sometime in the 1600s I think. But my dads side of the family immigrated in the 30s from Poland. I know that side of the family is completely Slavic. However, I know that the family has lost nearly all of the Slavic culture since the move to the states. I personally have only experienced some of the dishes That the family makes and my grandparents talk about family that spoke the language. Essentially all other customs have been lost in the family. This has bothered me for some time and I wanted to get back in touch with my slavic ancestors. I’ve learned some of the language (polish and Russian) but I’m very far from fluent. And I’ve learned to cook some of the dishes.
The reason I’m here now is because while reading up on Slavic history, I learned about how the ancient Slavs were pagan tribes that were eventually wiped out by Christian’s. The Slavs had a rich culture that was essentially wiped out or assimilated into “western civilization” so I had the thought of trying to keep some aspects of that culture alive with an ancient Slavic tattoo (I would put time into it and learn what the tattoos meant to the people of the time).
Some people have mentioned that it could be inappropriate given I’m a 4th generation American. In addition, I know little from that culture. However, I’ve always felt some ties (even if they were small) to the culture.
Thoughts?

My MIL and SIL hates me. I have 2 kids and she sometimes babysit for us. My family is in a different country and we are tight financially so we can’t afford Nannies that often so I appreciate their help but it’s always so stressful. She hates that my toddler has a nap time. She says and acts like I’m too strict. She always ends up skipping his nap time when he is at her house and feeding him whatever junk food he wants. He used to eat healthy and now he only want crackers. He gets home so cranky and takes me a whole week to put him back on a schedule. He has a camera at home and I give it to her so she will know when he wakes up and receive the camera notifications and she will never plug the Wi-Fi camera on saying she “doesn’t know”. I have birth 6 weeks ago and we had a wedding last weekend and my SO begged me to go and to let his mom be a “grandma”. I felt so wrong leaving my new baby with her but again I felt like I should trust on her and that she would follow my directions. She said she was only watching the baby at her house so we had to pack everything for baby and toddler. My baby has really sensitive skin and bad reflux so I tried to explain everything to her and showed her the cream I’ve been using on her. Well, we went to the wedding and of course my toddler never got his naps, I found my 6 week old baby with horrible rashes, stinky milk clothes like she haven’t even changed her clothes and hoarse voice. She was also overheated. She took the baby and toddler in a long walk outside on a travel system stroller it wasn’t even on a bassinet. I was so so shocked by it and of course I confronted my husband and he said “l dont remember if she had those rashes before.” Like really? I would never hand my baby with baby rashes like that. And said he “noticed her voice weird since last week” also no true. I’m the mother in maternity leave and I’m with that baby 24 hours and she was perfectly fine. I had to take the baby to the hospital to figure out the rashes and her voice and the DR said it was from crying a lot. My MIL once confronted by my husband said she would pick up my baby within 30 seconds and that’s too hard to handle a toddler and a infant! And she had the audacity to call me and say that my baby girl had those rashes before. I said no man she didn’t with all respect. My baby is better now but we have a wedding in 2 weeks which I was looking forward to go. I barely get out of the house since I had my baby and I can’t count on anyone and my husband wants me to give their family another chance but I feel like a failure if I do and I keep trying to find new solutions but nothing comes to mind!!!

Hi! My family has been on extended trip to Colorado. We are based in Colorado Springs, staying at a family member's house who was out of town. We'd like to come up to Estes Park for a week or so, beginning this weekend, but see that there are thunderstorms and flash flood warnings tonight and rain I'm the forecast for the next week or so. It has been super cloudy in COS with rain in the forecast, but it hasn't been too bad. We have still gotten plenty of outside time! We just aren't super familiar with Colorado weather, i.e. if there is always rain in the forecast, but but not a lot of rain. Should this forecast deter us from making the trip this weekend if our focus is to spend time hiking and being outside?

I moved to my new home 3 mo ths ago. I have a crush on my neighbor that lives behind my back yard and is a single dad. We can hear everything and are in close proximity. I dont really know him and have only talked to him once but find him very attractive based on looks and habits. From living in close quarters I can tell he has good qualities. I also think I've picked up on signs that show he has taken notice of me as well.
This last weekend I went to a winery with two friends and we came back to my place after where we continued to drink to the point of being loaded. We ate an edible as well. I definitely was loud and obnoxious. When we were inside my house I told them all about my neighbor and how I want to slip him my number and think he may be interested. My friend happens to work at his son's school and told me about him and rumors about his sons mom. The next morning after waking up and not remembering going to bed, to my horror I realized my back sliding glass door and curtains which are apart of my bedroom in the back of the house had been wide open the whole time. The back door faces his driveway which he was in working on his truck late. I am positive he heard us and our conversations and now I am feeling humiliated. What do I do? Just pretend it never happened and stay away from him?
He came home today and I think I overheard him telling somebody about it and how I am hella dumb. He seemed very upset.

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I’m getting married in a little over a week and due to unexpected circumstances we are having to leave 6 days earlier than planned. This means we’ll be gone a total of around 12-13 days. We had already arranged for a sitter to check in on our kitty for 30 minutes a day for the original 6 days. I am sure we could book the sitter for additional days or have a friend pick up the slack.
He’s very warm with the sitter, but he’s generally pretty skittish and shy around new people which makes me think a 16 hour road trip each way to a new environment with the potential to get pretty loud may not be the best for him. But at the same time he loves us so much. I hate to leave him for more than a couple days. I feel stressed and guilty. But I don’t want to put him through an even more stressful situation to make myself feel slightly better.
Will he be better off staying home for 12-13 days with daily visits than a long road trip to a new place but with his people?

I put a trigger warning in case the subject of hell might upset anyone. Recently i have had this almost overwhelming fear of hell. Im so anxious that if a hell exists me or my loved ones might get sent to it.
im so frightened by the threat of hell i cant live comfortably. i feel like if im truly myself in this life and hell exists, i might get sent there. im in a happy relationship, but i cant help but feel guilt because it is a queer one. Im worried that any family that has passed on have been sent there for all of eternity and there isn't anything i can do.
i know what i believe in but my anxiety just keeps going back to the "what if" idea.
does anyone have any advice that could help me out? if so, i would be incredibly grateful

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