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2023.06.05 01:41 camknoppmusic To get a NC license, the DMV says that I need to show proof of NC car insurance, but my car isn't yet registered in North Carolina, so how am I supposed to get NC car insurance...?
On the Geico website, I tried changing my address from my previous MA address to my new NC address, and an error flare appeared stating that a MA car registration requires MA car insurance. But in order to register my car in North Carolina, I need to get a NC license, so it seems like a bit of catch-22 here...
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2023.06.05 01:31 suitcasefullofbees Caitlin, a kimono is not the “perfect outfit” to wear to a Chinese lantern festival 🤦♀️
2023.06.05 01:25 ZynaKanmuri I went to my local festival today and saw a local artist was selling drawings. I saw they had a Dream SMP drawing and I fangirled like crazy! 😍😍
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2023.06.05 01:15 Selkcahs Red Deck Wins (RDW) - A Burn/Kuldotha Comprehensive Primer
| Red Deck Wins (RDW) - A Burn/Kuldotha Comprehensive Primer https://preview.redd.it/c1qrmmjy134b1.png?width=381&format=png&auto=webp&s=fe97f85dcc3ec5e493a200175af7920ff7815806 Hi guys, my name is Selkcahs ( https://twitter.com/selkcahs) and I’m an Argentinian MTG/MTGO Grinder that has played competitive Magic for the last 10 years and enjoys writing MTG Primers. While i have dabled myself in a multitude of formats, I've been always pulled back to Pauper due to it’s unique qualities and characteristics. I’ve also played a lot of Archetypes but I've had modestly successful results in the competitive scene with the infamous Red Deck Wins ( https://www.mtggoldfish.com/deck/300634#paper). While a great many players see themselves above the simplicity of playing Red Aggro, choosing more complex and colorful options; I've always respected the core idea behind it: finding the faster and most efficient way to kill your opponent. “A harmony of mathematical precision” - The Architect expressing his thoughts about the efficiency of Red Deck Wins. That being said, i think it was about time for me to immerse into what is the most dominant Red Aggro Archetype that has ever been seen in the Format; so I hope you enjoy the reading as much as I've enjoyed the writing. A bit of history first... https://preview.redd.it/yqjlp8z1234b1.png?width=306&format=png&auto=webp&s=a7ab53a48760f5b2937c4cc28fb34d6895a08a33 A long time ago, when extra Mana in the Pool burned you and Combat Damage used the Stack, a man made history and revolutionized the whole idea of Deckbuilding in Magic forever. That man was called Paul Sligh, who made 2nd Place in the Atlanta PTQ in 1996 with a deck that by all standards (old and new) seems lackluster and not suited for competitive play. https://www.mtggoldfish.com/deck/3858668#paper The deck itself wasn’t fancy at all and it didn’t play the best cards of his time (it even broke the Golden rule in Magic, to not play more than 60 cards), but it did 1 thing particulary well: It curved with Creatures and Spells from Turn 1, which allowed it to maintain the Tempo advantage with early board presence and pressure. This game plan was helped by Red damage spells that served both as Removals to control the board and Burn to damage directly the opponent’s life totals. The results obtained by Paul in the tournament were so impactful in the Magic competitive scene that from that point on the new decks that followed the same game plan were named “Sligh” in honour of the man that started a new era of building and playing Aggro strategies (even if the original deck idea was designed by another famous player, Jay Schneider). While we have come a long road from that 1996 Atlanta PTQ, the core concepts of that first Mono Red Archetype sticked trough almost all formats: efficient and cheap creatures, combined with Burn spells that focused on closing the game as fast as possible, was a perfectly sound plan to achieve victory in the game of Magic. The Red Menace https://preview.redd.it/l8ab9ma9234b1.png?width=292&format=png&auto=webp&s=3f08c5509b657256786bcf14c936a048d42b38d7 Since the beginning of the Pauper format, the Red Aggro Archetype has existed because the best Burn spells in the game are commons (Fireblast, Lightning Bolt, Chain Lightning and all the subsequent and weaker iterations). Despite that, Red Aggro in Pauper historically lacked cheap and efficient creatures to complement their game plan, which meant that it existed as a 2nd Tier deck at most that could only achieve good results sporadically. But that is the past brother, because in the year 2022 Wizards released Double Masters; an expansion focused on reprints that made the fatal mistake of downgrading to common one of the best Red creatures ever printed: She’s beautiful, isn’t she? The moment Monastery was legal on Pauper the entire metagame warped around it, classic Burn decks started playing very similarly to their Legacy counterpart thanks to now having an efficient and hard-to-answer creature. In a few weeks, the format gave birth to a new iteration of Red Aggro called Hot Dogs; which used Monastery, Kiln Fiend and Festival Crasher; paired with various cheap and “free” spells, to deliver One Turn Kills before Turn 4. - Hot Dogs: https://www.mtggoldfish.com/deck/5058490#paper When the meta adapted and started efficiently countering the fragile game plan of deploying few early creatures and going all-in for the OTK, Red Mages commited themselves to explore other nefarious ways to abuse their new Prowess girlfriend until someone hit the jackpot when he realized that a combination of Red/Colorless Artifacts allowed you to play Kuldotha Rebirth in a Red Aggro shell with few concessions thanks to cards like Great Furnace, Chromatic Star, Implement of Combustion and Experimental Synthetizer. The most important of those Artifact cards was Synthethizer because it provided something that was unkown to most Burn players until then: Card Advantage. Since that first Sligh deck, Monored has caracterized itself for being all about the Tempo advantage, trading at most 1 for 1 while abusing the early game pressure to nullify the extra cards that your opponent would have in hand until you managed to kill them. With the adition of Synthetizer players started searching other Red cards that provided some sort of Card Advantage when they realized that effects like Reckless Impulse were essentially “Draw 2 cards” when you have that many cheap spells that can be easily deployed during the course of 2 Turns. And thus, the abomination was given birth: - Kuldotha Red: https://www.mtggoldfish.com/deck/5094195#paper When the deck was in its apogee, Wizards decided it was a good idea to print another Reckless Impulse; this time named Wrenn’s Resolve. This meant that while Kuldotha continued as a perfectly consistent game plan, Red Decks now had enough card advantage to not even need to play the board with small creatures and focus on more Burn Spells and “Ping” creatures that, if left unanswered, will usually mean a swift and violent death. - Mono Red Burn: https://www.mtggoldfish.com/deck/5626897#online The Primer itself Okay, this storytelling until now has been nice and fun, but i promised you a Primer (which usually means an explanation in depth of the Archetype itself) and so i shall deliver: - The Rations https://preview.redd.it/v6u6islg234b1.png?width=576&format=png&auto=webp&s=b1c7bdab8de4144d9a4c64e441f9ea02fae1f540 Yeah you guessed it, we will be playing the best lands a Red Aggro deck can wish for: untapped Basic Mountains. While the most important thing about that beautiful Red mana generator is that it comes Untapped, the Mountain Type is extremely important whenever you are playing cards like Fireblast or Lava Dart. In adittion to those, we also have some more interesting options at our disposal for different purposes: - Mountain: Everything we really need to be honest.
- Great Furnace: Oh boy do i wish i could play 18 of this bad boys, but being able to use 4 in any interation of Burn that abuses Artifacts is good enough.
- The Autonomous Furnace: the only tapped land that we can afford to play because it allows us to increase our chances of not getting screwed in the early game while also cycling itself in the Mid/Late stages of the match. You will usually see it as a 1-of and sometimes as a 2-of.
- Forgotten Cave: A card no longer used in most lists because it can’t be cycled when revealed with “exile” effects.
- The Troops https://preview.redd.it/uqodj32m234b1.png?width=576&format=png&auto=webp&s=9bbbb2bb0f2378f004316c2b8dc5b8675f462f58 As we already discussed, a fundamental part of RDW is having efficient creatures to put pressure in the early game, and this are the best options avalaible right now: - Monastery Swiftspear: Nuff said, it’s so good that its played in any format it’s legal. While to the inexpert eye it may not seem that oppressive, you will soon realize that Prowess triggers with EVERYTHING that is not a creature and that it’s almost impossible to safely block because it can always be pumped in various ways during the Combat Phase. In all intents and purposes, a busted card.
- Voldaren Epicuren: a seemingly inoffensive 1/1 that does A LOT of things, which are dealing direct damage when it ETB and giving you a token Artifact that allows you to cycle useless cards (usually extra Lands). While the card is good by itself, it will always be played in iterations of the deck that can abuse the Artifact Blood Token in various ways.
- Goblin Blast-Runner: A new 1-drop that can deal a lot of damage when you can consistently sacrifice permanents each turn.
- Kuldotha Rebirth: While Kuldotha is a Sorcery, it represents three 1/1 Creatures for 1 mana as long as you can easily get an artifact to sacrifice. While it may seem not that broken, anyone that has played with or against it knows how much of a powerhouse it is.
- Goblin Bushwacker: A monster of a card that multiplies the damage of your board unexpectedly, allowing you to deal massive amounts of damage; used specifically to abuse Kuldotha Rebirth.
- Dwarven Forge-Chanter: The best Red Prowess card besides Monastery, having to deal 2 damage to kill it with a spot removal makes it feel like a common Eidolon of the Great Rebel sometimes.
- Kessig Flamebreather: A “Ping” creature utilized in more Burn focused lists.
- Thermo-Alchemist: Another “Ping” creature like Kessig, used to complement it.
- Burning-Tree Emissary: Another beast of an infrequent downgraded to common. Multiple copies of her in the early game can give you an unfair Tempo advantage while also being decent in the Midgame when combined with other cards.
- Underworld Rage-Hound: A creature that has seen little use but that has a lot of potential in grindy matchups.
- Burning Prophet: A card that has seen little use mainly due to how inconsistent the Scry value usually is in redundant Aggro decks.
- The Guns https://preview.redd.it/g7ueg5go234b1.png?width=576&format=png&auto=webp&s=ab14856d22b9c98071ae03d4bdcc750a9f5b5544 One fundamental component of Red Aggro is playing cards that deal direct damage to the opponent, to their creatures or both; here are the best options in today’s Pauper: - Lightning Bolt: The best red damage spell ever printed, period.
- Chain Lightning: The next best thing after Lightning Bolt, a bit tricky to play against decks with easy access to double Red.
- Galvanic Blast: An extremely powerful burn spell as long as you can consistently have Metalcraft; in the worst cases it works as a Shock which usually gets the job done.
- Lava Dart: The bane of Faires and most 1 thoughness Creatures while also providing 2 triggers in 1 card of Prowess/Ping. A monster of a card in the right situation.
- Fireblast: 0 mana for 4 damage? Well yes we’ll take it. The small detail of having 2 sacrifice 2 Mountains is usually little relevant in the Mid/Late game.
- Searing Blaze: An historic 2x1 card for Burn. While it usually shines in formats with Fetchlands, it’s still good enough when played on your turn with the natural landrop.
- Lava Spike: 1 mana for 3 damage to the face is usually all you really need when playing a list focused on burning your opponent directly.
- Rift Bolt: One of the “worst” 1 mana burn spell due to having to wait 1 turn to work or costing 3 (which is sub-optimal to say the least).
- Skewer the Critics: The least used “Bolt” of the pack due to how hard can it be to cast for 1 mana in a lot of situations.
- Firebolt: A sorcery Shock with an expensive Flashback, rarely used.
- Seal of Fire: Another niche card that has it uses when you want to use Trigger effects while saving the “shock” for later.
- Needle Drop: A tool from another time when Red Burn decks didn’t had any real access to card advantage, rarely used this days.
- Goblin Grenade: A niche option for decks that heavily use Goblins creatures.
- Shock: Just don’t play this, please.
- Curse of the Pierced Heart: If i find you playing this card we gonna have problems okay? This is from a bygone era when Burn was desperate for a way to maintain damage-over-time; this is no longer the case now that we have access to card advantage mechanisms.
- The Ammo https://preview.redd.it/543ymqgq234b1.png?width=576&format=png&auto=webp&s=bae5401eaef1bdba7f21cd988bb362ed3908a34b While for classic Burn players the adittion of non-land cards that don’t efficiently deal direct damage or inmediatly increase the board presence may seem strange, they are the sole reason why Burn stopped being a Tier 2/3 deck and become the undisputed master of the format. - Reckless Impulse/Wrenn’s Resolve: Both cards do exactly the same effect, they exile 2 cards until the end of your next turn; for all intents are purposes, in a low curve Burn deck, this effectively is “2 mana, draw 2 cards”. This type of card advantage allows Burn to not be afraid of play the value game and it’s common nowadays seeing Red Aggro outgrinding their opponents thanks to this kind of tools.
- Experimental Syntethizer: An absolute beast of an Artifact, when correctly played it represents a 3x1 card advantage that is extremely hard to deal with. Do take in mind that the card exiled must be played the same turn or it will be lost; but then again, this is usually an easy endeavour in a low curve deck.
- Chromatic Star: A card that cycles itself while providing an Artifact. Usually used by lists with Kuldotha Rebirth.
- Implement of Combustion: A cousin of Chromatic Star, it deals damage when being manually cycled but it doesn’t provide mana. Depending on your approach to the Archetype you may sometimes find more value in the extra point of damage instead of regaining the invested mana when cycling with Star.
- Mutagenic Growth: A “free” pump spell specially useful in Prowess based lists.
- Manamorphse: A card that allows “free” triggers of Ping and Prowess creatures.
- The Garrison https://preview.redd.it/0tv0hldt234b1.png?width=576&format=png&auto=webp&s=4c4448c2a93da17b3f04d439941c84898d47e05f Sometimes people don’t like being burned to death, so they will try to employ strategies to prevent us from doing that; and while when choosing between only Red card our Sideboaes options may seem limited, we have more than enough tools against most decks in the format. - End the Festivities: It allows us to deal with 1 thougness creatures for 1 mana while also doing a bit of damage to the opponent. An extremely efficient sweeper that is sometimes Mainborded.
- Electrickery: Instant sweeper that can very relevant against Faeries or Bushwacker + Kuldotha.
- Pyroblast/Red Elemental Blast: The anti-Blue hate cards by default, they come in handy specially to counter opposing Hydroblast/Blue Elemental Blast. You will always find youself using Pyroblast over REB (unless you want more than 4 copies) because Pyro can be played against any permanent/spell even if it’s not Blue, thus allowing us to get a Prowess/Ping trigger if needed.
- Gorilla Shaman: A monkey that hates Affinity almost as much as you, while useless against Bridges it can get a lot of value against normal Artfifact Lands and other pesky permanents. Ironically, it can be sided in sometimes against Kuldotha based lists trying to punish their heavy Artifact use.
- Smash to Smithereens: Destroying an artfact and dealing 3 damage? You are playing Burn, what else do you really need?
- Shattering Blow: In a format plagued by indestructible Bridges, Shattering Blow can win some games by itself in the right situations.
- Relic of Progenitus: The best Graveyard hate in the format, as long as you are not heavily depending on your own Graveyard to play.
- Raze: We will usually have far more Lands that we need to comfortly operate, which allows us to trade 1x2 to destroy powerful enemy Lands like Bouncelands, Basilisk Gate and Lands enchanted with Utopia Sprawl/Abundant Growth.
- Molten Rain: Paying 3 mana to destroy a Land is a lot for us, you are probably better with Raze in most situations.
- Flaring Pain: A great way to bypass effects that prevent damage, specially against cards like Prismatic Strands.
- Flame Slash: 1 mana for 4 damage to a creature is great way to clear the board and keep swinging our boys sideways.
- Mine Collapse: A “free” removal spells that can take out most creatures in the format.
- Martyr of Ashes: An old card no longer used due to how hard it is to get good value out of it.
- The Battle Plan Von Moltke after he casted 3 Lightning Bolts to the face and the opponent responded with a Weather the Storm. “A game plan for Burn? Isn’t as easy as just targeting all our spells to the opponent’s face while we swing with our creatures?” Oh my sweet summer child, you couldn’t be more wrong. While Aggro decks in general (specially Red ones) have a straightforward strategy of killing the opponent as fast as possible, and sometimes you will encounter yourself with “automatic” hands were the road to victory is extremely clear; this also means that the slightest mistake can put you in a position where you lack the resources needed to close the game. Countless games of Magic have been lost because the opponent stayed at 1 life away of lethal only for you to realize that you missed that 1 point of damage in a seemingly unimportant missplay some turns before. So the central point is: you will probably have to take a lot less decisions when playing Red Aggro than other more “complicated” Archetypes, so you better think things through really well because having few decisions means that the smallest innacuracy will often have dire consequences. … “Okay, okay, Got it. Just don’t fuck up and point everything to the face then?” Wrong again, probably the worst play Monored can do today is Turn 1: Mountain, Bolt to the face. While more classic iterations of the Archetype focus on incinerating the opponent’s life total as fast as possible, we have learnt better. While Red Aggro’s goal is to maximize the damage dealt to the opponent, usually the most efficient way to do this is by sticking a few good Threats into the board and using our damage spells to control it and consistently deal damage over time; a plan that is helped by our newfound access to Card Advantage that will keep Creatures and Burn spells flowing turn after turn. Thus, we will only point our Bolts directly to the face when they will allow us to close the game in the immeadiate future. While in the 2 current iterations of RDW we will see a propensity of Kuldotha caring more on maintaining board control and Ping Burn more focused on burning directly the opponent, neither of this decks can afford to mindlessly waste their Bolts. … “So you mean that i have to THINK when playing Monored?” Sadly yes, besides the nut draw where you will win the match effortlessly you will need to find the right balance between board development, card advantage and burning the fuck out of your opponent’s creatures/life points. Playing correctly will usually allows us to neutralize the few ways our adversary has to counter us: - Did the opponent chained 2/3 Weather the Storm and went up to 60 lifes?
No problem mate, they have just lost those cards because we will be grinding them out with card advantage and our creatures will eventually drain their life attacking, even if it takes a good couple of turns. - Is the opponent holding multiple Blue mana open with potential Counterspell effects?
Easy peasy lemon squeezy. If they are leaving a lot of mana open and unused, they probably won’t be able to advance their game plan either, we can just gather our cheap resources and play them all together baiting their responses. If we play something and it resolves, we call it a win and continue to let them waste their Tempo; if they do decide to user their Countermagic, we then have an opening to resolve a potentially more powerful spell, which should be something that provides card advantage that would then allows to happily trade one of those extra resources to their Counterspells later. - Are they killing each and every creature we put on the Board?
Well after all we are called Burn for something and while we do like to use our creatures to push damage, we are more than happy to go the incendiary route when needed. Also, as long as you don’t walk into a sweeper situation that allows the opponent to trade 1 big removal for several of our resources, we should be able to eventually utilize our card advantage to put into play more threats than the amount of removals spells our opponent have. - Is the opponent drawing a lot of cards, gaining life and also pressuring us?
Well give me a break, you can’t win them all. Sadly sometimes you will lose no matter what you do, specially if the opponent is well prepared and teched against Burn. With all the positives we have discussed here, in some situations playing a Monocolor Aggro deck that everyone is expecting is not the smartest choice; but even then, current RDW is so powerful that with a bit of luck you can even get good results against the harshest of matchups. Burn samples: https://www.mtggoldfish.com/deck/5654255#paper https://www.mtggoldfish.com/deck/5654242#paper Kuldotha samples: https://www.mtggoldfish.com/deck/5654243#paper https://www.mtggoldfish.com/deck/5641081#paper Conclusion https://preview.redd.it/xgfo9902334b1.png?width=480&format=png&auto=webp&s=78d986da2f9bacfbf934ff4d0f7457f095410536 Okay, that’s been a long one for me and i hope that everyone that read it had a good time. As of June 2023, and since the release of the Lady in Red in June 2022, we have experienced an undisputed dominance of the different variants of Red Deck Wins that shaped the format around it; basically, if you are playing a deck that is too slow to withstand an early Monastery/Kuldotha opening you are setting yourself up for a rough time in Pauper. This have forced the players to choose between 3 main option if they decide to play the format competitively: - Play a Burn variant.
- Play an anti-Burn Archetype.
- Play a “Combo” deck that tries to ignore being set on fire while it does it’s own thing.
As the Pauper Format Panel (PFP), who’s in charge of monitoring the “health” of the metagame, has stated multiple times that they think there are no changes needed in the format; we are left with the only option of basking in ther infinite knowledge and enjoy being constantly burned to death if we want to continue playing Pauper in the foreseable future. If you enjoyed the reading be sure to check my other Primers: https://www.reddit.com/Paupecomments/w5td9k/faeries_primer_a_comprehensive_guide/ https://www.reddit.com/Paupecomments/wxzd8e/uw_cawgate_prime I also have a Patreon that, while mainly focused on the UW Caw-Gate Archetype right now, provides anything related to the Pauper format; including decks discussion, metagame analysis and coaching services. submitted by Selkcahs to Pauper [link] [comments] |
2023.06.05 01:10 power_wife_mum What is the interpretation of my dreams? Winning the lottery and lucid dreaming
What is an interpretation of my dream about winning a lottery and lucid dreaming? I just had a dream that I won the 2nd prize ($1.5 million). I realised it was a dream, I asked my mum to slap me hard. Then it didn't feel painful so I realised that I am definitely in a dream. I then woke up (but still in dream without realising), first thing I did was to check my lotto ticket again and it was still the same lotto combination and prize that I won. I still couldn't believe it - so I asked someone again to slap my face, this time I felt the pain so I accepted the fact that it is real. Later I realised again and I woke up again and it feels more like reality. I was so excited to call my parents to let them know I won and I was getting ready to claim my lotto winnings. Then a new dream shifted to something else, I still know in that moment I won lottery. I was on this meeting (sort of) then there was this young lady who was making a rainbow unicorn bath spa cream, she has a really pretty container that i adored so much. Our mentor even commented that she is going to go a long way if she keeps pushing and sells it as the product itself has so much potential. I commented "if you are not gonna do it, I will do it" and I asked her for quote to email me so I can feature her products in my self-love boxes.
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2023.06.05 01:08 Spyder2036 The Great Eddie Murphy As The Great Prince Akeem Coming To America Funko Pop. W/Protector
2023.06.05 00:52 ChocolateDoozy Ain't that on the nose? china seller...
I was talking to a friend about my bikes and looked to
ebay.com, only to be baffled within moments.
https://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_from=R40&_trksid=p2334524.m570.l1313&_nkw=mountainbike&_sacat=0&LH_TitleDesc=0&rt=nc&_odkw=bike&_osacat=0&LH_BIN=1&_udhi=250 New bikes for 76$ to 98$ bucks! What a steal! ... hah... yeah, total steal I bet.
I checked out the seller and 99% of the items he sold are cheap figurines with those bikes mixed in at the end.
11kongweiquan10 . Ain't that a trustworthy name? It sounds to me like a name generator had a hiccup.
Anyway, there is buyer protection, but I think that won't matter since he/eBay can afford to lose 75~100$
if the case goes through. Which I think it will not. Since the transaction will mostlikely never complete.
I read the part about shipment and how 'prices may vary' and got the feeling that,
if you order it, they will slap some nutjob-like fees on it or ask for you to send money via some third-party service so it can't be traced or resolved via eBay... and that's when you are fkd.
Am I about right, or is this super legit, and I am just a bit paranoid :)
I mean... that be a first... someone lying on the internet lol
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2023.06.05 00:49 juicius Conrad review - on-going review and comparison between Conrad Seoul, Osaka, and Tokyo. June, 2023
Our family is taking a trip in June, 2023, from Korea to Japan and staying multiple nights at Conrad and other Hilton properties. We have 4 nights (10 nights total, across 3 rooms) at the Conrad Seoul, 2 nights (4 nights, 2 connected rooms) at Hilton Osaka, 2 nights (4 nights, 2 rooms) at Hilton Garden Inn Kyoto, and finally 9 nights at Conrad Tokyo.
We're on our third day at the Conrad Seoul and I wanted to give my impressions, and if there's interest, I'll update in the comments.
Overall, I am very impressed with the hotel and the service at the Conrad Seoul. We had previously stayed at the Conrad LV and its sister property Crockfords, and while the Crockfords may have had a tiny bit more polish, the service was by far superior to anything we have received anywhere among the Hilton brands.
A case in point, we arrived severely jetlagged and exhausted beyond recent (and far, to be honest... not the most exhausted you've been, but close) memory due to the foolish (in retrospect) flight itinerary I had booked. We flew into Haneda at 4PM after a lengthy but uneventful flight from the US and had planned to see the sights in Tokyo before making a connecting flight to Incheon the following day (morning?) at 2AM. We had intended to soften the blow by taking a shower and relaxing at the Delta Sky Club (DSC) for a few hours after landing but due to a colossal brainfart on my part, exited the terminal before trying to look for the DSC. It shouldn't surprise anyone that the DSC is behind the immigration control, by the terminal.
4PM Japan being 3AM local time, the kids immediately fell asleep into light and fitful and ultimately unsatisfying sleep and that would come back to haunt us later. My wife and I then abandoned the plan to take the Keikyuu line to the city and tried to make the best of it in the airport. Long story short, everyone was extremely tired out.
We landed at Incheon around 5AM the following day and not having anything particularly to do (immigration line was fast), we took the subway to the Conrad Seoul, hoping against hope that they would show us mercy and let us check in at... 9:30AM. The reservation was booked through AmEx FHR and I'm a Diamond member but I wasn't sure if that would matter. But the staff who greeted us at the front desk immediately tries her best to help us. We had booked 3 rooms, 1 for us and 2 for the family who would be joining us. She gave us several options, even trying to find an upgrade for us, even though I stressed that my priority at that time was a room, any room, that would allow us to take a shower. She found an upgraded river-view room and apologized that it was on the lower floor (14). She said if we could wait an hour or so, a higher floor room can be arranged. No way. A room? Done!
She went through all the niceties and the benefits from the FHR and the Diamond status fast and gave us our keys. The luggage was delivered in a short order and we could finally relax. She (DM for name) even noted helpfully that the breakfast was still being served at the Executive Lounge and at the Zest (2nd floor) if we should be inclined to take advantage. No thank you, but kind of you to offer.
She also extended the Executive Lounge privileges to our kids (13 and 16), and everyone at the other 2 rooms. I was hoping for this but not really expecting. She also extended breakfast to everyone.
The room was a deluxe king. It had a day bed/sofa, and a large (looked larger than ours at home, but I didn't measure it or anything) king size bed. The bathroom was pretty roomy and had a bathtub and a glorious shower I'll go in some length to praise later. The toilet was a bidet and enclosed (which, in a puzzling trend, is increasingly not the norm). 2 vanity sink with a large, peripherally illuminated mirror closes out this intro.
For the shower... The temperature is controlled by a separate dial and it gets scalding hot. Don't tempt the hot water god. Gradually work your way up to your temperature. Sprayer want is mounted on a vertically sliding bar and is controlled for the intensity by its own dial. Lastly, there's a rainfall shower head above similarly controlled. Water pressure is extremely satisfying. And what's more, turning on the sprayer and the waterfall does not seem to reduce the water pressure to an appreciable degree, or reduce the temperature of the water. Other hotels put in shower systems with pulsing heads and lights and aroma and all that, but a good shower just requires water to the temperature of your liking and a LOT of it. That's it and the Conrad Seoul has it. I can't tell you how it felt to me luxuriating in that cascade of almost scalding hot water hitting me from above and the side. The bath robe was good, very absorbent, and not heavy at all. I could stay in it all day.
The service at the EL was impeccable. Afternoon tea was not anything special, just some pastries and drinks. The happy hour had more substantial offerings: buffalo wings, beef cutlets, braised salmon, grilled vegetables along with a complement of alcohol, including make it yourself cocktail. But above all, the view was spectacular. The windows run the entire length of the EL and you can take almost the entirety of the Han river (that you can see) from the lounge. The coffee service is automatic, but it brewed very satisfying latte and cappuccino.
El had breakfast and it was an abbreviated service compared to the breakfast buffet at the Zest. I'll talk more on that in the comments if there's an interest.
Now for the negatives... Our room was carpeted and running along the middle of the room, the carpet had detached and there was a noticeable hump. Not so high you could trip on it, but not necessarily what you expect in a luxury hotel. Our room did not have the signature Dyson hair dryer you expect at the Conrad. I know, the horrors. That's pretty much it. Being closer to the ground actually made the river view more intimate, although we missed the stage that was being set up for the music festival on the banks of the river from our relatively lower vantage point.
And now for something substantial. All the rooms on our reservations were kings and were upgraded to the river view kings. Which was fine, We had planned for our daughter to stay in a room with her cousin and for me to share the room with my brother. 2 in a room so the king was ideal. But with my kids being so tired and falling asleep at odd hours, and also, I remembered belatedly that my brother snored, that plan needed a change. So our whole family of 4 ended up staying in the same room. Not ideal for a king.
Talking to the front staff, they agreed to look for a twin room for us for that say and the remaining day, and it was arranged that we would pack our luggage and leave for the day around 3-4PM, and they would prep the new room and transfer the luggage while we were gone. It did not happen. Apparently, a hotel member stopped by at around 12:30, peeked in, noticed the luggage was not ready, and decided on his own that we did not want to move after all. Our 13 year old son was there but he did not ask him (although he doesn't speak Korean). So when we returned from a diner with an extended family around 9PM, we were still in the same room. Maybe in the grand scheme of things, a minor point but we had not fully recovered from our jet lag and the prospect of unpacking and packing again was not something I was relishing. In this trip, we tried to minimize the packing (see 9 straight days at one hotel) because I hate it. I hate lugging around luggage even more.
But in the larger sense, it speaks of a breakdown in communication and a failure to do a little extra (by reaching out to me) that could have prevented a service issue. I happen to think that running a hotel is 90% service (and 5% hot shower) so failing at the service would sour even the most luxurious facilities and amenities.
In the end, they upgraded us to a twin room at the Executive floor for the remaining stays so they recovered quite well (even though it took a little prompting... Conrad Seoul is notoriously stingy on next tier upgrade). We're not getting any extra benefit for being on the Executive floor because we have the EL access anyway but we now have the Dyson hairdryer! Our two other rooms at the 28th floor had it so maybe the lower floors don't have it...
Feel free to ask if there's anything you are curious about. We dined at the Zest evening buffet, ate at Atrio, and ordered a cake from the bakery in the lobby. I used the gym, toured the pool, and used the underground access to the subways and the malls extensively. I'll make a separate post for the Conrad Osaka and Conrad Tokyo.
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2023.06.05 00:46 neveruntil L.A. Filmmaker - Advice
Hey Everyone,
As title says I'm looking for some advice. I'm a director with a recent short film that did relatively successful, playing at major international film festivals like IFFR, Clermont-Ferrand, New Orleans Film Festival, Atlanta Film Festival, Austin Film Festival etc and even played at major art institutions like MoMA.
I was recently a writer in a writers room but now on strike as I am part of the WGA.
My question to the group, any advice on some jobs that I can do in the L.A. area or remote elsewhere to make some money? Maybe using my insight in the film industry?
Anyone in a similar situation? How are you getting by in L.A. financially? Please feel free to also DM me if there are opportunities you'd like to share.
Thanks for your insight.
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2023.06.05 00:38 Rakeda [US,WW][H] Sealed Product (S&M TeamUp ETBs, S&M Unbroken Bonds BB, Evolving Skies BB, Evolving Skies Blisters) [W] High End Trades (Slabs, Sealed, Raw)
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I look forward to seeing what you all have for trade!
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2023.06.05 00:32 Strejl Base Decor Cosmetic Packs Idea
| Current base auto-generated decor Currently, there’s auto-generated base decor created around buildings (See above image), including decorative bushes, pots, fences, gardens, etc. One idea for cosmetic packs that players could purchase to support development of the game could be cosmetic packs for base decor that you would be able to use in your multiplayer games. These wouldn’t change the appearance of buildings, or units, so readability would be much less of an obstacle, and you could utilize assets from previous events like enchanted grove to create some of these. Themes could include general ideas like “Gardens”, “Festival”, “Enchanted Grove”, “Naval”, “Bandits”, etc or could be faction specific, like “Lunar New Year” or “Oktoberfest”. submitted by Strejl to aoe4 [link] [comments] |
2023.06.05 00:32 World-Tight [Local] - 'I’m running out of things': Three Rivers Arts Festival finds new home on Fort Duquesne Boulevard Pgh Post-Gazette
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2023.06.05 00:31 Ecstatic-Guidance746 My sister made a homophobic remark about me and doesn't see the problem
I came with some kind of understanding about my sexual identity when I was around 14, around the time when I first started to notice that I saw girls just as attractive as I saw guys. Now, I'm 18, and while I don't feel comfortable labeling myself as Bi or Pan, I know I am attracted to a person without actually seeing their gender. I didn't tell my family about it, as my mum isn't open to the LGBTQ+ community, and grandma is the whole other story. However, I have been open about my relationships with other people aprons, in school, work, and even people I first meet. I also came out to my sister when I was around 16 or 17. Back then, she just hummed to herself, but didn't say anything against or supportive, making me kinda assume that she didn't really care. So I have been open about my crushes with her, though not that open about my girl crushes as I am about boy crushes, well, you get it.
For about a year now, I have been questioning my gender identity, as I didn't feel as comfortable as I could whenever I was called a "girl." I even tried out new pronouns, asking the teachers at school to use they/them pronouns in school. However, I haven't told about my turmoil to anyone else, just keeping all the thoughts inside trying not to instigate anything. But, I wanted to try to talk with my sister recently about my gender identity.
As I study abroad, I usually talk with her during the morning for me, right before school. So, around a week ago, I called my sister. We started having a general conversation like about films, scandals, and family drama. At some point, we were talking about different castings when I said something like "I really think that actress is really beautiful." My sister said something like, "Make sure to not say anything like that in front of mum." I smiled and mentioned that Mum actually bought me a t0shirt in thrift shirt from a last year pride collection, while knowing the meaning. My sister was surprised and was silent for a moment. I felt a bit uneasy, and joked that maybe in ten years I can tell my um that I like girls. My sister didn't even smile or anything, and said "You are confused. I think you just didn't find the right guy yet."
I instantly got upset, feeling almost betrayed by that. I don't think she knew how malicious and homophobic that sounded because after she could see my mood change, she asked what happened. I tried to keep myself calm, and answer as I usually do, but I must have sounded cold when answering, 'cause she said that "I know that something happened. Your face wasn't like that before." I was already tired, and just said that it was, she just didn't notice it. She got angry, saying, "What did I say to make you that upset? I didn't do anything bad, did I?" I shrug and said, "No, you didn't." While trying not to cry. She got upset and finished the call after we had stayed silent for 5 minutes.
I cried in my classroom while no one was around, cursed myself for saying shit to her. We haven't spoken since. I know she didn't mean it maliciously and could easily not know what she said was terrible. But it still hurts.
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2023.06.05 00:25 thrwawypainterssuck9 [NC] Painting company damaged new floors
Hi everyone, long time lurker here. Looking for some advice.
We recently bought a new house and have been doing numerous things to the home to get it perfect before we move in. We just had the hardwood floors refinished everywhere which cost over 11k. The painting was done the week after and we noticed after the painters pulled back the paper they used to protect the floors that there were deep scratches everywhere. I mean everywhere. There are dozens across the home, many of which are several feet long. We looked back over the camera footage and the painters were using box cutters on the hardwoods to cut the paper. Absolutely ridiculous and total negligence. The painting company did acknowledge they screwed up and I have a recording of them saying they will take responsibility over it. I also have hours of video recordings of them cutting the paper on the floors.
Here is where it gets interesting. The painting company is thinking it can just be buffed out for a couple hundred dollars. We called back our flooring company for repair and they said it would never look perfect if we had them repaired. The scratches are too deep and too many, and the fact that it's difficult to match the dark stain we chose. They said it would never look quite right. There are over 100 boards needed to be replaced, and they said it would be more cost effective and better to refinish the whole floor again. They were adamant it would not look right if it was repaired any other way. We have called out a second independent company who basically stated the same thing. We're trying to get three independent recommendations and are still waiting for the third.
The issue is that the painters are expecting a few hundred to repair it, but the actual cost will be over 10k. Additionally, if we have to get them refinished again we have to slide out our whole move date again, also costing us thousands of dollars from lost rent on our current home, fees to vendors for rescheduling, etc.
Finally, we still owe the painters 2/3 of the job - 13k of 19k (6k deposit already paid). The job is completed and by the terms of the contract I believe we have to pay, however we are apprehensive to do so given the property damage and lack of resolution. The painting company has been dragging their feet on getting 'their guy' to come out for an estimate and I have very little confidence that they will make it right.
Looking for advice here. With the damages we are well beyond small claims and are planning to hire an attorney. What should we do? Should we pay them for the work completed? Anything we are missing here? Also important to note that they broke the terms of the original painting contract as well. The contract stated they would sand trim and clean walls prior to paint - they did none of this and the job looks horrible. If we truly cannot repair the scratches and have to move the date we are looking at a total cost to us in damages of over 35k.
What should we do?
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2023.06.05 00:25 thrwawypainterssuck9 [NC] Painting company damaged new floors
Hi everyone, long time lurker here. Looking for some advice.
We recently bought a new house and have been doing numerous things to the home to get it perfect before we move in. We just had the hardwood floors refinished everywhere which cost over 11k. The painting was done the week after and we noticed after the painters pulled back the paper they used to protect the floors that there were deep scratches everywhere. I mean everywhere. There are dozens across the home, many of which are several feet long. We looked back over the camera footage and the painters were using box cutters on the hardwoods to cut the paper. Absolutely ridiculous and total negligence. The painting company did acknowledge they screwed up and I have a recording of them saying they will take responsibility over it. I also have hours of video recordings of them cutting the paper on the floors.
Here is where it gets interesting. The painting company is thinking it can just be buffed out for a couple hundred dollars. We called back our flooring company for repair and they said it would never look perfect if we had them repaired. The scratches are too deep and too many, and the fact that it's difficult to match the dark stain we chose. They said it would never look quite right. There are over 100 boards needed to be replaced, and they said it would be more cost effective and better to refinish the whole floor again. They were adamant it would not look right if it was repaired any other way. We have called out a second independent company who basically stated the same thing. We're trying to get three independent recommendations and are still waiting for the third.
The issue is that the painters are expecting a few hundred to repair it, but the actual cost will be over 10k. Additionally, if we have to get them refinished again we have to slide out our whole move date again, also costing us thousands of dollars from lost rent on our current home, fees to vendors for rescheduling, etc.
Finally, we still owe the painters 2/3 of the job - 13k of 19k (6k deposit already paid). The job is completed and by the terms of the contract I believe we have to pay, however we are apprehensive to do so given the property damage and lack of resolution. The painting company has been dragging their feet on getting 'their guy' to come out for an estimate and I have very little confidence that they will make it right.
Looking for advice here. With the damages we are well beyond small claims and are planning to hire an attorney. What should we do? Should we pay them for the work completed? Anything we are missing here? Also important to note that they broke the terms of the original painting contract as well. The contract stated they would sand trim and clean walls prior to paint - they did none of this and the job looks horrible. If we truly cannot repair the scratches and have to move the date we are looking at a total cost to us in damages of over 35k.
What should we do?
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2023.06.05 00:24 thrwawypainterssuck9 [NC] Painting company damaged new floors
Hi everyone, long time lurker here. Looking for some advice.
We recently bought a new house and have been doing numerous things to the home to get it perfect before we move in. We just had the hardwood floors refinished everywhere which cost over 11k. The painting was done the week after and we noticed after the painters pulled back the paper they used to protect the floors that there were deep scratches everywhere. I mean everywhere. There are dozens across the home, many of which are several feet long. We looked back over the camera footage and the painters were using box cutters on the hardwoods to cut the paper. Absolutely ridiculous and total negligence. The painting company did acknowledge they screwed up and I have a recording of them saying they will take responsibility over it. I also have hours of video recordings of them cutting the paper on the floors.
Here is where it gets interesting. The painting company is thinking it can just be buffed out for a couple hundred dollars. We called back our flooring company for repair and they said it would never look perfect if we had them repaired. The scratches are too deep and too many, and the fact that it's difficult to match the dark stain we chose. They said it would never look quite right. There are over 100 boards needed to be replaced, and they said it would be more cost effective and better to refinish the whole floor again. They were adamant it would not look right if it was repaired any other way. We have called out a second independent company who basically stated the same thing. We're trying to get three independent recommendations and are still waiting for the third.
The issue is that the painters are expecting a few hundred to repair it, but the actual cost will be over 10k. Additionally, if we have to get them refinished again we have to slide out our whole move date again, also costing us thousands of dollars from lost rent on our current home, fees to vendors for rescheduling, etc.
Finally, we still owe the painters 2/3 of the job - 13k of 19k (6k deposit already paid). The job is completed and by the terms of the contract I believe we have to pay, however we are apprehensive to do so given the property damage and lack of resolution. The painting company has been dragging their feet on getting 'their guy' to come out for an estimate and I have very little confidence that they will make it right.
Looking for advice here. With the damages we are well beyond small claims and are planning to hire an attorney. What should we do? Should we pay them for the work completed? Anything we are missing here? Also important to note that they broke the terms of the original painting contract as well. The contract stated they would sand trim and clean walls prior to paint - they did none of this and the job looks horrible. If we truly cannot repair the scratches and have to move the date we are looking at a total cost to us in damages of over 35k.
What should we do?
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2023.06.05 00:24 Top_Lingonberry_7517 AITA because I do not want that my gf is constantly on assembly?
I (22m) and my gf (18f) live in our own apartment. She has not had a job for a few months. But I am currently able to support both of us with my salary. At least somehow. Always very scarce, but so far we have always come through somehow.
I have then asked her to look for a new job, or training. I am finished with my training in the IT field for almost a year, so I'm at home a lot, because home office, and also support her where I can.
She has now had a job in the event industry as a stage hands / event helper through her father. That was at Rock im Park festival in Nuremberg, Germany, today is Monday, so that's over today. We live in Nuremberg, so that was doable. She really likes the job, she would like to do it permanently through another company.
Since I know from my own experience that the job requires a high willingness to travel, I'm not really keen on the fact that I only see my gf between jobs, or that she is only at home then. I know that I can't really handle that, or have any desire to have a long-distance/weekend relationship. When we got together, we also agreed that this is not a good thing. Have both been through it with ex partners, both thought it sucked. It's a really big argument topic between us, but she doesn't want to understand that I really can't handle it. We are talking about festivals, concerts, etc. Germany-wide or even abroad. Construction and dismantling. At Rock im Park, for example, they started setting up 3 weeks beforehand.
Personally, I also just don't want to be alone, if I already have a partner. We've been talking/arguing/discussing for weeks that I don't think it's so cool and that there's a danger that the relationship will break up. Nobody wants that, but the (not quite insignificant) risk is there.
AITA because I do not want that my gf is constantly on assembly?
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2023.06.05 00:21 EchoJobs New Relic is hiring Fellow Software Engineer - AI USD 230k-288k Atlanta, GA US Minneapolis, MN Seattle, WA Charlotte, NC Remote Portland, OR Dallas, TX Houston, TX Miami, FL New York, NY San Francisco, CA [PyTorch R Machine Learning Spark Java Kubernetes Kafka MySQL Go TensorFlow]
2023.06.05 00:17 jlebo RFK Jr. to Speak at New Hampshire Porcfest Freedom Festival
https://porcfest.com/about/speakers/ Most of the speakers are conservative or libertarian leaning, including RFK Jr.'s 'fellow Democrats' Tulsi Gabbard and Dennis Kucinich, some guy from the American Institute of Economic Research (conservative group) and Larry Elder and Vivek Ramaswamy.
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2023.06.05 00:12 ThrowRAanonymous4 In short: I [23M] have sexual trauma and it has brought a lot of sadness and confusion to my best relationship ever with partner [21F] - need help immensely. Please
Hey. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I’ve been considering posting it for over a year. Access to therapy has been hard. My insurance doesn’t cover many providers nearby and none of them take new patients, so I have finally begun to turn to society for help. Hopefully, it will work well until I can get everything sorted out the way I need. Anyway, here goes.
I (23M, straight) am with the love of my life (21F, bisexual) whom I absolutely adore. The relationship we have is mutually magical. We’ve discussed it over and over, cried and been absolutely astonished at the things we have in common and all the life situations which brought us together. We also connect heavily on a spiritual and philosophical level, which is great too.
My backstory is basically this (I will try to be brief): My mom and dad divorced when I was 2. I always felt uncomfortable around my dad. My mom had explained to me many times that he is a diagnosed narcissist and a sex addict who used to cheat on her a lot amongst other things she will never disclose to me. The only thing she ever told me was at the age of 16 when I asked her if something happened to me as a child with my dad because I always felt very sick around him when I visited. She explained that I exhibited behavior as a baby (touching her and trying to get her to touch me in ways I should not have been able to conceive of) and that a psychiatrist had told her that was not something any baby does unless they learned the behavior somewhere else. The only person I had been around other than her is my dad.
Flash forward to 6 years later, I’m having the time of my life at a festival with my now partner (we got together a little over a year ago now; we live together) and I begin having repressed memories come up. It feels almost like a cursed miracle. I knew what I knew when I was a baby. I knew I told my mom. And I knew that’s the main reason she left him.
So in my current relationship, it is the best one I’ve ever had. That’s for both of us too. We both had the exact same things happen in every other relationship. We got cheated on. Beyond that we were generally kind of emotionally abused. We both had similarly fucked up childhoods and families. The only thing that was different was she was SA’d around the age of 19, while for me it was by my father as a baby as I said earlier. Mine also may have happened more than once. Mind you these memories have been coming in slowly so there may be more, I’m not sure. I have pieces and parts.
But here’s been the most difficult thing to accept in my current relationship: I used to be really into porn. I’ll be honest. I used to be into threesomes the most. Nowadays it makes sense that I wanted sexual liberation due to my trauma. But my entire life I was barely comfortable ever with even touching someone else, let alone having sex. I had sex with a total of maybe 4 people before my current partner and only one of them was a romantic partner. All of them were not nearly close to as good as what I have now. But before she met me, my partner had a threesome with another girl she’s good friends with as well as her best friend’s brother (which every girl used to find attractive back when I knew him at school) and he has had many threesomes before her too. In other words, my main sexual fantasy was a drunk mistake with the love of my life for him. And she always says she could never do that with me because she loves me and it was a mistake with someone she didn’t care about in that way. But that was the only person she ever did it with. It makes me feel like I’m nothing sometimes. Am I not worth that lust and trust she had in him that night? Not to mention, her and her best friend will likely be hanging out for the rest of their lives, so it’s not like this guy is going anywhere. She’s gonna have to hang out with him. Also, for more info, they were never interested in each other romantically before or after this and had never tried to do anything with each other. It was just that one time and it was with another girl there that they both liked. She knew him for 5 years before this happened (this happened 3 years ago, 2 years before we got together). It is also worth noting I grew up catholic and I was hammered into believing that sex was for making love ONLY. And it’s hard for me to believe otherwise sometimes because it feels so amazing with her. But I know logically that isn’t the truth. I don’t consider myself to be catholic anymore or anything. But the sexual trauma has amounted to so much difficultly loving myself and feeling comfortable sexually. On top of that, my girlfriend is usually pretty shy and likes me to make the first move. She has always been this way apparently and says she actually has grown to be the most sexually comfortable with me than anyone she’s ever been with. She has repeated every time the topic has arose how much she feels the threesome was a mistake. But I can’t seem to move past the fact that I’m commiting my whole life and getting rid of my persuance of sexual liberation to someone who got theirs and gave another man the thing I fantasized about is tough. I know I am wrong in some ways, but the trauma makes it hard to tell when I am and when I am not. I just feel like it’s unfair honestly. I need serious help, not judgement. I will listen. I want to grow past this for myself and for her. But I also want to feel like I’ve gotten the sexual freedom from trauma like I need to have as a human. I hope that makes sense.
She also has let me know that apparently everyone used to think I was attractive back when we went to school. I didn’t know this and I’ve expressed to her how I felt ugly and as though no one was ever interested in me. Apparently, everyone thought I gave off the vibe that I was “too hot for them” and I was just intimidating. To me, that’s kind of shocking. But in an odd way, it makes me feel worse and better at the same time. Because I feel like if I had been as confident as the person she did that with, I would have had my own experience and hence, been a lot more chill about this. I was extremely insecure. Which makes a lot of sense with the trauma memories coming up. But she brought me a lot of my confidence in that area. Our sex is great (sorry if TMI) it’s just this one thing that gets to me honestly.
Just to be clear, she is phenomenal to me. That’s why I want to figure out this confusion. Nothing other than this is wrong.
I think it’s mainly just knowing that my dad used me in that way it feels as though that guy using my current partner to do something I will never get to do with her is just salt on the wound. Hopefully that gives perspective.
Thank you
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