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I'm still a bit confused about the whole ordeal. I have a lot of emotions and I don't know how to identify or process them very well, so I would need your insights. I (28F) met my boyfriend (30M) a year and a half ago. I met him because we both played on the same server of a game, and I frequently crossed paths with one of his friends (they also met online in this game). I got invited to their discord server where they chill together, and I started hanging out more with them. There were mainly 3 friends who always played together and get along super well, and I loved hanging around them. But it was kind of clear since day 1 that I was the "outsider", so I tried to be one more in the group. We'd spent a lot of time together and played many different games together. As time passed, feelings between me and my boyfriend appeared, and we have been dating for almost a year, long distance (same country, different regions). He is currently unemployed, so he visits me from time to time, staying for long periods (2-3 weeks at a time). I love him very much although sometimes it's difficult for me to handle him as he is a very closed person and doesn't always share things with me (when he is feeling down and doesn't admit it but I can tell because he behaves differently). He overthinks everything, doesn't trust anyone, and has a very negative opinion about himself and life in general. I have kindly pushed him to see a therapist, but he has always refused. Mentally is not that I am in a much better place, but I tend to have a more optimistic view of things. The point is, I love him but sometimes it's difficult. I see and value that he has come a long way with me has opened up about many things and tries to be better for me. But when he is in one of "these days" and doesn't communicate with me and says he is "fine" although it is clear he isn't, it's challenging for me. With this in mind, onto the actual topic. The two of us and one of the friends from the server started playing a new game together. It's a survival game where you battle bosses and every time you defeat one, you unlock powers/recipes/structures to improve your abilities and take on stronger bosses. All of us need to be fighting each boss because if we don't participate in the fight, we don't unlock anything, even if we are connected to the server. Since we started playing, I feel like the third wheel/outsider. They both go alone in quests without letting me know (when we are on a call together) and I follow them like a dog. Even when there are two of us playing (my boyfriend and me, or the friend and me), I wouldn't dream of going for a boss because I know the missing person wouldn't be able to unlock it. There are plenty of things you can do besides going for a boss, like gathering resources or exploring the map. But yesterday, we were playing and we stopped to have dinner. It took me longer to come back to the game because of cooking and eating (they both live with their parents, so they don't cook), and also because my mom called me and I was chatting with her for a good half hour. When I do, they both are joking about changes that they've made in our base and that I am going to be mad when I see them, and that I may not notice. I did notice of course: there's a new structure, that we didn't have before and that could only be there if they unlocked it by defeating a boss. So, because I took longer, they went without me. I was fuming, but I played like I didn't notice, muted myself for a bit, and pretended to be afk. I do think my boyfriend noticed because my tone of voice changed after seeing it. They disconnected shortly afterward, while I was still afk. When I think about it, it is like "I'm 28, why get so upset because of a game". It's not the game, I guess. It's 1) being left out consistently by them, while I always care that everyone is included. They wouldn't do it to each other, but to me, yes. It makes me feel like I'm the less important person in the group. And 2) they did it knowing that I would get upset, and they didn't care. And they joked about it in front of me. They rather play an extra 30/45 minutes regardless of how I feel. And one of these persons it's my boyfriend. And now I have all these feelings bottled up and don't know what to do. I feel like a need a couple of days away from my boyfriend to process everything, stop being emotional, and be able to have a mature discussion about it. I don't do well in confrontations. I always get very emotional and start crying, and I hate that. Makes the other person feel pity for me and the conversation it's unbalanced. The problem is, my boyfriend is coming to visit tomorrow, for a couple of weeks. And I don't feel prepared to have this conversation. The best thing for me would be to tell him not to come, but I don't know if that would be blowing things out of proportion. Also, he's spent a good chunk of money on the ticket and, as said, he's unemployed. It makes a difference for him to lose that money. Also, I don't think the conversation will change much, as the group dynamic is what it is. I don't know if it's partly my fault for barging in this group. They were his friends before mine, and maybe I have stepped into their territory and he wants his time with them without me. He has never said anything about this though (but given how he is, he wouldn't either). I feel like I don't want to play with them anymore, especially not this game. But I don't know if this is childish and overreacting or self-preservation. I feel I have invested a lot of time with them, taking this time from spending time with other friends that would treat me better. My boyfriend has texted me normally as if nothing happened, and that makes me feel stupid for feeling this bad. I haven't answered him, I don't feel like being cheerful and like nothing happened. I'm at an impasse here, with the clock ticking. Thoughts?

I (18M) have just completed 12th from the IB board and I came back home to be greeted with enormous pressure and I can't take it anymore. Its not like I have not faced pressure, its a combination of things. First off, my goddamn boards are over so I deserve a break and not be constantly bombarded with tasks and tensions from every family member. And I as a student have shown great achievements, first off I have an additional subject as music (cause extracurricular is needed for foreign universities) where in my performances have been played in IB virtual conferences at a global scale. On top of this I do 6 subjects and I have a consistent 35 above points out of 42 (which translates to about 95 - 96 percent or more than a 3.7 3.8 GPA, which according to me is insane since I passed 10th with just 89 percent (not really fancy at all.) On top of that in my CAS portfolio I have taken tasks which have leadership and organizational qualities (not a lot but I do have them nonetheless) (which is a necessary extracurricular component in IB). On top of that (yeah it continues) I have made a research paper draft of about 6000 words all while juggling the IB curriculum (a pretty intense curriculum according to world standards) and transferring between two schools and teaching probably 70 percent of my physics and math portion to myself since I had missing teachers in the first school (wow)). I know it sounds like I am blowing my own trumpet and its probably due to a couple of things.
First of all both the schools pampered me like crazy, I was treated like some sort of genius and that's probably why I have such a high sense of self worth, but I know that it was nothing but mere stupidity since the competition was shit and I didn't achieve excellence in any particular subject. Also the second reason is that I alone with my father whose strong suit really isn't directly supporting me and he basically left me to figure things out on my own and never really asked about my academics at all which makes me really irritated when someone does ask me (which happens on the regular with my mother and the rest of my family who welp constantly tell me to do this and that and so on and so forth). Its a difficulty I have on my end and I am trying to improve. At first I used to get angry at this, something for which all of my friends having the time of their life during these vacations was the catalyst for (and I mean EVERYBODY irrespective of their economic class or even academic performance, it not neither the trope of the business man's son who screws around all day, it was even with my middle class friends who were gaming all day enjoying non-stop, and not even the trope of the student who fails every time so he just does time pass all day everyday, it was everyone from my topper friends to those average students who were again going on trips having the time of their life) now I just get sad thinking that I am not even enough for them, it makes me feel as though all I did was worth nothing to them.
Now, from their shoes they are correct too because I will be facing global competition when I submit my application and anything that bumps up my score will be useful and they have pushed me in doing good things as well, like learning python which is interesting and useful and also really accentuates my profile a lot, they also made me enroll in an engineering mechanics course which was really interesting for me and probably holds great value, but they have sort made this prison of sorts where I can't really enjoy. Like, they want to me (and will probably force me to) continue my piano lessons and tell me to give examinations which is a weekly commitment that is going to drain my weekend of 3 hours (I know this does not sound like a lot but hear me out) coupled with the fact that they are pushing me to do another course, and have already enrolled me in a IIT Bombay course. They have also enrolled me in a German language course which is about 5 hours daily which is going to start from next month and although they teach me good things like cooking and keeping track of my applications, all of this combined makes me feel so claustrophobic and chained to be honest.
I feel (and this is my opinion which I am ready to mold because I have my flaws like blowing my own trumpet constantly) that it is wrong for them to literally make a prison cell for their child in a time where this probably my last vacation as a child free of responsibilities, and make an environment where in I have to hide from them to even have any fun (like playing games or watching series) since I will be dead if I got caught slacking off all of this while I am the only one who seems to studying and burdened while others are enjoying. Like I feel I am in right but also in the wrong so I would like to know your opinions on it, also thanks for reading till here if you have :)
I planned to post this yesterday but I got sucked into my daily routine (yeah I have a fucking routine in my vacations (wow so fun) and as you can see by my tone I am now tired of this prison at this point like I am fed up of my family)

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My mom was typically the breadwinner of the family. We where never the priority because of her will to help her siblings/parents. Whenever we ask for something, we where always set aside cause someone needs it first. That made me independent type of person who is more dissociated to my parents when I became an adult. Now that I have partner, I am not the needy-demanding type of person for I feel guilty asking people of what I want. Whenever I ask something to my partner, I get so frustrated and it digs up the trauma " Cause someone needs it more than you" thing. I felt bad for him for me feeling this way. I just couldn't help feeling and thoughts coming through my mind as if he's like mom and I felt everyone is like that.

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Learning to drive - something perhaps I should have done at 18 (ample time but no car or money to learn) and at now at 36 you have the money to learn but no time. Like most working professionals in Dubai, our jobs are demanding so carving time out to learn needs to be well planned and fruitful.
If this post could do anything, I hope you can learn from my mistakes, so here goes:

1. Picking Finance If you are a new driver (having never driven back home either) - take the unlimited/contract option with your driving school. It will cost nearly double the normal package but is worth it because you don't have the financial stress of paying more if you fail - I didn't think it would be this difficult to pass and I was wrong. In Dubai you need to complete 40 hours to take the test (split between parking and on road), for a new new driver this is simply not enough hours to build confidence (this is why you hear of so many stories of people repeating the test - in particular new drivers). To compare, in a Melbourne, Australia the minimum hours needed is 120.
2. Picking a Driving Institution, pick wisely. Most people review the online comments to gauge how good a school is. The tip here is to talk to friends, family or colleagues that have passed out a particular branch/location. The opinion of the brands (EDI, DDC, Belhasa, Galadari) vary among people and I didn't find it an accurate measure but the branch is more important. I used Dubai Driving Institute in Al Quoz. Nice range of instructors but the location is a challenge. I will explain later in the post.
3. Selecting a Driving Instructor in most cases you will be assigned a driving instructor. As a first time driver, you aren't going to know if your instructor is good or bad. What you should ask yourself after the four classes is - does this person spend a lot of time on their phone? Does this person stop my mistakes or does this person teach me how to do it correctly? The latter is more important. If you aren't learning, request for a change and don't be worried about what people will think - you are paying to be thought.
4. Driving Institution Location - this is an important factor in where you learn to drive. Al Quoz is an industrial area filled with large trucks, commercial buses, vehicles and in general traffic at all times. To add to this you have drivers who aren't as courteous, will cut, will not signal, you have pedestrians crossing at undesignated areas, road cleaners and people moving on the wrong side of the road with their little scooters, cycles and mopeds. As a learning area, it reminds one a little of driving in India / Egypt. For a first time driver, perhaps there are easier routes to train in like the Dry Docks or DIP.
5. Passing the Theory Test - really straight forward, complete the course and practice the mock exams theory + video scenario. There are a pool of about 300 odd questions, from which you get 40 (35 theory + 5 video scenarios) on your RTA exam. Only when you can consistently secure 90% plus on the mock exams, you should attempt the RTA Theory Test.
6. Passing the Parking Test - the first tip is to practice this in the location you are doing the test. I practiced it at the Al Quoz Branch but did the test at the Al Khail branch - the reason behind this is the automated testing facility is here and you need to familiarize yourself with the automated vehicle. The second tip, which I learned from one of the senior trainers is - parking is mathematics, if you get the basics right you'll be able to park consistently. Watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oTeIdxINoO8&t=524s it will greatly benefit you. I passed the hill park, emergency breaking, parallel parking and angle parking on the first go. Failing only garage because I have a problem with the method from the training school.
7. Garage Parking - at the school, they train you to use the sticker indication on the rear passenger window which is bonkers (its apparently a trick to help students pass you can see this in 12:06 of the video shared above). The challenge with this method is depending on your height, seat location, backrest location or whether you wear glasses all affect the angle. For the longest time I couldn't crack this as I kept getting or failing by small margins. The easiest way to pass this is to angle the car in and readjust it in front of you (the RTA allows you to do this in the test) before parking. Again here only attempt the parking when you have cleared the internal mock tests.
8. RTA Myth - they have a quota of people to fail everyday, this is not true - you can either drive or not it's that simple.
9. RTA Instructors - have different temperaments, if you are nervous it will reflect when you drive and they can pick up on that. Test when only when confident.
10. Mental Pressure - it took me seven attempts, I remember distinctly when I failed the third time, I wanted to give up. Instead I reframed my thinking to accept that failing the test simply meant the RTA was keeping me safe by telling me I didn't have sufficient knowledge to be on the road. The second change I made was to stop comparing myself and telling people about my test - failing stopped becoming a burden.

Failures
Driving Test Failures - all my failures where down to one key thing - situational awareness. I was thought what to do on the road but not how to think on the road. This his impacted my decision making/confidence. You can only gain situational awareness when you have been on the road long enough and hence why I would encourage new drivers to get at least 60 to 80 hours before they take the test. Most people won't talk about their failures, I will tell you about mine with the hope you can learn from it.

1. Failure 1 - attempted to cross the T junction without sufficient gap (I couldn't assess distance vs speed). What I should have done is let the speeding car pass and then cross.
2. Failure 2 - this is the only one I was unhappy with the judgement. I waited 'too long' to move into a lane to overtake, I was told during the test I was failing because I will cause a traffic jam. All I wanted was a clear road to be able to safely take the car. Debatable.
3. Failure 3 - turned into the second lane instead of the third lane at the U-turn. Correct thing to have done would have been to turn into the third lane.
4. Failure 4 - attempted to merge on to a road without sufficient gap. I was thought to take the gap, the correct thing for a driving school car to do is to wait for a clear road where there is not debate on the distance x speed.
5. Failure 5 - there was a cleaner on the road at the before signal turn (this happened in the afternoon), I slowed down and moved to the left but the correct thing to have done was slow down, blow horn, indicate to move to the left (even though the line is being cut).
6. Failure 6 - I made an assumption that a taxi to my left would wait/allow me to pass but he was in a hurry and entered the round about a second before I could. I should have just waited, allowed him to pass.

Through all my tests - vehicle control, lane changes and general observance of rules was good. The lack of situational awareness cost me, especially judging distance x speed.
Tips to Pass the Test
Besides the normal things, here's ten things I wish I knew before I started:

1. You are likely to test in a Nissan Sunny, the steering wheel has a notch below it to adjust it. Adjust it to the top most position position, this will build familiarity in your mind and the position is always the same. An internal examiner showed me this - after five months.
2. Build a routine when you get into the car - adjust seat, adjust mirrors, then seat belt, then check for passenger seat belts. This routine becomes habit and habit will give you confidence.
3. When you drive, check your rear view mirror every 5-8 seconds. Improves situational awareness.
4. If you turn anywhere, just indicate. Make it a habit.
5. In Al Quoz, indicate about 10 meters before the turn as there are lots of little garages/shops and drivers behind might think you are going there instead.
6. Assume everyone on the road is unpredictable, it will train you to be a better defensive driver.
7. If you are testing in Al Quoz, I recommend to test in the morning.
8. Examiners are there to test basics and observe your understanding of the road. They're never going to ask you to try a lane change when the situation doesn't permit - what they will check is your judgement of the situation.
9. Don't compare yourself to others.
10. The vehicle on the left has priority.
11. If you finish your internal classes, test within three days.
12. Know where your pedestrian crossings are. Pedestrians in Al Quoz take this space for granted.
13. If you are in the left lane at a pedestrian crossing, you are expected to indicate and cross at the right - the examiner won't ask you but its expected (have seen people on the test fail for this).
14. If you happen to fail, try and book classes to learn immediately - don't be dejected or give up, everyone goes through it. The quicker you learn, the quicker you are able to test again. The momentum of wanting to learn and taking the test is what will drive you.
15. At a round about, learn to exit and enter from every direction. Have seen other test members in the car who are so used to doing one thing, they forget when the examiner takes them to a new route.
16. Know your area you are testing in - you'll be able to anticipate the roads you are connecting and the environment before you get there.
17. If testing Al Quoz, use your horn - trust me you'll need it.
18. Learn to start the car (most cars are already started when you enter). Occasionally if you go first, you might be asked to start the car.
19. If you're asked to lane change, don't forget to check your blind spot.
20. On the day of the test, arrive a minimum 30 minutes early and say a small prayer - both of these will soothe you.
21. Given how busy Al Quoz is, some of the Stop lines have faded or are covered with dust, don't let this fool you - know these spots, look for the boards and stop.
22. If you don't have the confidence, don't test.
23. Assuming you have practiced 80 hours thats a total of 4,800 minutes, your test is 10 minutes - you got this.
24. Always remember, the RTA is out to keep you safe. If they fail you, they are saving you.
25. Unlike the Parking Test where there are 5 things you are tested on, there's not menu of items you have for the Driving Test but here's the top 5 things you definitely need to know: Situational Awareness, Lane Change, U-Turns into 2 & 3 lanes, Merging, Entering/Exiting Roundabouts

Finally, seventh heaven - aced the test on this attempt. Unlike before I was confident and calm. I arrived early, said a small prayer, did the same routine I always do when I enter the car, drove confidently - on the day had to enteexit a round about, do a u-turn, a couple of t-junctions and lane change twice - entire thing lasted ten minutes.
If you have found this post it's probably either you have failed and you are looking for some hope and guidance, I hope the above is of some use to you. To conclude, you need two key things going into the test experience and confidence. Experience comes from repetition, repetition builds confidence.
All the best.
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I don't want to be her friend anymore and I regret how much of my life I have shared with her. We both struggle with mental health so I thought I could open up and she would get it. Right now she just went on a fucking power trip and threw everything I had ever told her about my struggles in my face because I didn't want to talk about what happened today. I feel so much regret for opening up I have had moments when I thought she over stepped before but I let it go. Now she tells me she wants to call for a wellness check on me because I don't want to talk about what happened to me today but I told her it wasn't good. She said she would give me time. How much time? 6hours. She called me and said that she thought I was hiding something because I wasn't talking about what happened and she thinks it has to be something bad. I have a terrible abusive home life. I thought she understood what it was like to have suicidal thoughts since she's been struggling with it so long. She has refused to talk to me for 3days because she didn't feel good and wanted space. I got 6 hrs. If she didn't know so much I would tell her we're done for this little stunt. I know she will just tell people about the worst parts of my life in the guise of being worried I might hurt myself if I tell her to not talk to me again. There's also the fact that I'm in a bad situation and I have no support oof how I hate her right now though. I don't know if we'll get back to normal again. I will pretend to be open so she doesn't blow up my life besides that I'm fucking over it. I used to say that I had no idea what would break up the friendship. This, fucking threatening me with the things I have shared with you so you can extract more information. How fucking dare you. I loved her dearly until this very conversation even if I could clearly see she had her faults I would let it slide knowing I'm not fucking perfect but this? THIS! I'M NOT GIVING HER ANOTHER CHANCE TO BE CLOSE TO ME.

On June 6th 2023 I was sent by NASA to go to Jupiter’s moon Europa, they didn’t tell us what ship we would use to get there or how much time it would take to get there. After a bit of talking they put me and my crew-mates on a ship and we were off. i thought it would take months maybe even years so i started watching TikTok to pass the time but it turns out we got there in just 5 minutes, i don’t know how thats possible but, it happened. We got off the ship and went down onto the surface with our spacesuits on, we drilled a hole big enough for us to slide into and under the surface so we could reach the water underneath. Once we got to the water, we deployed our nanotech submarines provided by NASA. We explored the planet, searching for life but we found something that we weren’t supposed to see. It had big wings and gils that looked like caves, its teeth were the size of 500 Eiffel towers lined up one against the other and it had large antennas with lights on them that looked like stars in the night sky. We decided to explore some more so we sped off into the depths of Europa. We travelled allot for what felt like hours until we found something I never thought would be so close to us. There was a big continent under a hole, it was around the size of Africa so we decided to go down the hole. Once inside we deployed our parachutes and waited until we landed onto the surface. After what felt like hours we landed and we started exploring, we found out that there was breathable air on this continent so we could take our spacesuits off, the continent‘s temperature was around 77ºF, like a sunny day on Earth. We decided to look up into the sky and we saw 3 artificial suns. They looked as bright as the normal Sun, and felt like it too but we soon saw something mind-blowing in the horizon. After walking for an hour we found what looked to be like pyramids and they looked like the concept art for what the pyramids on Earth would have looked like if they were recently built. We didn’t see anyone so we decided to enter the pyramids. We entered the biggest on which from out point of view was the 2nd pyramid. The first thing we saw was two enormous entrances around the width of a normal Earth house. We decided to split up into groups of two and enter the doorways. We stayed communicated over coms, we walked for around 5 minutes where me and my crew-mate saw a gigantic dinner table with what looked like millions if not billions of people sitting and eating. Even though I couldn’t see the entire room because it was so large, the visible area of this room looked like it was bigger than the pyramid itself, the food there was served by flying robots that went around the table at unimaginable speeds. We only got to look at them for about 5 seconds before everyone in there stopped, the room went silent and they got up from their tables and came running at us. We ran out of there and deployed our submarines. We shot out of there at what seemed like light speed. We arrived at the ship but unfortunately my other two crew-mated didn’t, we used the phone on the ship to call the team that sent us there and tell them they need to bring us back, they gave us some instructions on how to set the route, the destination and the speed. Before we knew it we were back where we started from but, something felt, off. The informant told us that we had travelled for 3 days in what felt like 5 hours, we told the informant everything we saw and he told us to not tell this to anyone. I’m still wondering if I should post this

So. I (F28) met a guy at work (M38) and told him I had never been asked out on a proper date. Like an actual go out to dinner and really be treated to a nice night. I usually just get invited to hang out at someone's place or treat them to a meal or activity etc.
Anyway, we had hung out a few times prior at his place and such which is perfectly fine since my life is a cartoon and nothing ever happens "typically" to me lol. So, I had spent the night at his and when we woke up, he tells me what he has planned for the day. We're gonna get up, get ready, drive over the pass to the "big city" (we live like 64 miles east of a big touristy town for the area over a mountain pass) and spend the day over there, eat, see a movie, shop, really whatever fits the bill. I'm like cool, sounds like a day, fucking pumped for it, love it.
We head over, having a great time, lots of laughs, good conversation etc. It's like an hour drive so great time to chat lol. We dick around for a while and decide to go eat at a local pub style resturant in town that we don't really get to enjoy unless we're in the area so why not? Well, we're talking and eating and get some drinks. Specifically, Irish Death. I had about 4 or 5 20oz glasses and I think he had like 2 lol. Bill comes, he paid, and he goes yknow I think we should hit the restrooms before we leave and I was like nah I'm good (foreshadowing, I was not). He goes to the restroom, I don't. I have never liked using public restrooms, my mom was a bit of a germaphobe when I was younger so I just got good at holding it lol. Anyway, he comes back, I stand up and in that moment, I transitioned from stone cold sober, to fucking loaded in a blink of an eye. But I got my shit handled and we walked out to the car and head home.
As we are driving, I'm noticing the pressure in my bladder begins to build. Okay, whatever, I got this. We make it over the pass. Fabulous, only like 30 miles to go. The pressure is becoming painful. Still got this. Make it into the first bigger town in the valley. Tell dude we should stop at my place because " I gotta race like a piss horse", he's like cool, not a problem we should grab some extra clothes and shit while we're there too. I'm like hell yeah, 30miles just went to like 15, I got this but GOD do I have to pee.
Keep on driving. We get 1 (one) mile away from my house and I am begging this man to pull over because I AM going to piss myself. I'm doing the potty dance, wiggling, anything to distract from the agony that I am in. This man says we are less than a mile away and as he says this, I uncontrollably piss myself.
Do you know what it's like as an adult, to look into the eyes of another adult and tell them you just pissed yourself? because I didn't until that moment. This man is howling. He's like "ONE MILE!!!! WE ARE ONE MILE AWAY!!!! I CAN SEE YOUR HOUSE!!!!" which I am apologizing like a mad woman in between my own laughs because of course I would do this on my first real date.
We pull into my place, I immediately grab a towel and cleaner (THANK GOD for leather seats) and clean his car up, go inside, say thank you for the date and apologized again. Told him he can leave (because even though I'm tanked and laughing, I am mortified) and I'm sorry for any trouble and I totally understand if he doesn't want to see me again, no hard feelings because I would also like to never see me again too. He reassures me because now I'm starting to break down. I strip and get in the shower and ugly cry and when I got out he was just chilling on my couch. I told him I was ok and he really doesn't have to wait for me and I'll be ok. I go to my room and throw on the most depressing and comfy clothes I have because, clearly, I will never see him again because I'm a nightmare. I plop on my bed and curl up to cry and have my drunk pitty party, and he comes in and curls up right behind me on my bed and just held me.
After like 2 mins of my pitty party he gently shakes me and goes "so, are you done? Ready to get up now? We have plans still and I still wanna hang out with you." I spun around so fast because, like, really??? Were you not there for this whole traumatic experience??? And he just said, next time I suggest we use the restroom, you should probably do that lmaooo.
Anyway, we're engaged now and I have never been more happy or loved in my entire life and this is definitely one of the most embarrassing stories that has ever happened to me. But, hey, now it's at least on the internet for forever.

Howdy gang,
I have just recently gotten into System Shock 2, and going into it, I knew about the spiders, and went in with the plan to just use Jocke's mod to delete them from the game. What I was not anticipating was my adoration for the game, and the desire to try to be as true to the original as possible (not counting SCP and major fixes like that.) So I have come to a dilemma, I can play the game without feeling like I'm going to pass out, but I also feel like deleting 3 types of enemies really cripples the difficulty by a noticeable margin. I tried with the mod off, and I flat out couldn't do it. No matter how hard I tried to power through, the adults just flat out made me too sick to continue.
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I was wondering, is there a way to edit the models in such a way that the spiders behave the same way 'stat' wise, poison damage, all that jazz, but the model itself is modded/hacked/edited to shit to such a degree that it is unrecognizable? I made my own sprite for Terraria to replace the spiders with MS Paint-grade circles, but I realize that a 2D sprite doesn't stack up to a 3D model. It does not need to look good, as long as it is less spidery (a jumping cube would do the trick!) I was initially thinking of just pasting over the texture file with a photo or a meme or something to make it less 'cohesive,' but I have no earthly clue how to edit crf files and redistribute them back into the game. I opened up the mesh.crf file, and it's all greek to me, I'm afraid. I got a buddy who does a lot with Blender, so if we can somehow figure out the tech side of things, we got the model in the bag
At this point, I'm so addicted to the game that I would be willing to pay someone to make this a reality. System Shock is just too good
Thank you for reading, I greatly appreciate it! The talent of the modding scene never fails to amaze me.
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The fact that you’re getting any views by default is great, and shouldn’t be taken for granted.
If you’ve ever tried starting a YouTube, Twitch, or Instagram page, you’ll notice you will maybe get between 0-20 viewers.
People don’t realize that 200-400 views is a lot, and is much more than you’ll get on any other platform. TikTok gives you a lot more opportunity to go viral compared to these other platforms, and that’s what people don’t realize.
200-400 views gives you more than enough crucial information into why your content isnt blowing up. Look at your retention rate (should be high compared to the length of your video), like/view ratio (15%+), saves, comments, shares, and other factors.
Even if you’re not pulling the numbers you’re looking for , you should consider yourself lucky to gain 200 views in the first place. It still puts your name out there, and gives you ample opportunity to see why it hasn’t passed the algorithm.
Failure = experience, and you should remember that. There’s a reason why people don’t watch your videos, and it’s your responsibility to find out why.

for some context me and my girlfriend do not live togther because we cannot afford it, my girlfriend just finished just graduated from culinary recentely, so because of her graduation she bought herself a ps5 to celebrate and posted it on her story, so her sister's husband's brother told her that she deserved it and he was proud of her and that he should buy her a drink next time she goes out. she was weirded out when he said that and she asked her sisters for advice, one of the sisters agreed with her that it was weird and flirtatious, and the other 2 sisters said that its normal that adults celebrate with drinks. she ended up telling him thanks he replied saying "to celebrate" and she hearthed that message. I had no idea who this man was unitil today though she says they are not close. She told me about it and asked for my opinion i told her it was weird and it did seem flirtatious. I asked her though if she could politely tell him that she wont get a drink with him, just to make sure things are clear, she refuses to tell him, saying its rude, then cause he's family and then the conversation is over already and that shell tell him when he mentions it again. I told her that it was disrespectful to me to have a guy thinking he is gonna go get drinks with her and that she needs to be clear. its like leaving a door open for another man in my opinion.

I (24F) just bought a house and moved my Mom in due to her health issues. Well on day 2 of us getting settled in my mom and I decided to have a drink to celebrate. My mom NEVER drinks so this was a special occasion. As the night goes on my mom is wasted and leans in to tell me that my oldest brother (37M) has a daughter with his first girlfriend when they were both 17-18.I told her she was lying and to prove it. Prove it she did. She showed me her FB messages from this random girl (Let's say her name is Amy) from 5 years ago. Amy told my mom that my brother got her pregnant when they were dating and that she gave her daughter up for adoption from birth. Amy asked my mom to keep it a secret from my brother because the adopted daughter was going to be in search of her family when she becomes an adult, and Amy knew how terrible my brother was then and didn't want her daughter to be disappointed. I don't blame Amy, My brother is garbage. I asked my mom why is she saying something about this now? Her response was that with her health declining, she didn't know if she'd be comfortable taking this to the grave, but she also wants her granddaughter to have a chance to rekindle a lost bond now that my brother is "put together". However, she wants to keep it a secret because he already has a family, 2 boys and a different daughter with another woman and feels like it would make his wife angry. This doesn't sit well with me. My mom and I talked for a while, then she asked me to help deliver the news to my brother. No problem as I'm just a blunt and very direct person.So the next day (yesterday) I called my brotherto tell him everything. His response to me was saying that I'M a liar and I'M trying to ruin his life because him and his wife are on good terms. I got frustrated and sent him the screen shots, and even showed him a random woman that matched with our 23&me that we ALL took in december that NO ONE knew who she was so we brushed it off as a random cousin. My brother's wife then called me asking what my brother and I were talking about on the phone so I sent her everything. My brother tried lying to HIS wife saying how I am not inviting them to my house warming party this weekend because "I don't like his family" I TOLD HER EVERYTHING. I even sent all the screenshots. The wife started sobbing then stated that she saw THAT DAUGHTER 2 months ago asking for my brother. The wife thought it was one of my brothers mistresses and told her to go away and never come back. Now everyone is mad at me for creating a fight and I shouldn't have said anything to anyone because this has nothing to do with me.I just wanna know who my niece is and hope she didn't experience the trauma that sometimes comes from adoption, and to clear up any questions she might have. Also warn her about all the medical problems she might experience due to my family's poor gene pool in that aspect. AITA?

There are few negative traits in gameplay of Diablo 4 that significantly lowers quality of the game in my opinion.
1) Lack of content – Im speaking not about the total amount of content in the game(the world is huge, no argue there), but the fact that the vast majority of it is basically copy pasted. If you found a new enemy you gona find it again in 20 nearby dungeons, and those dungeons are , usually pretty much the same in terms of things that happen in them-you just push mob wave after mob wave, with 1-2 special mobs and in the end you fight with VERY healthy special mob, which, in some rare instances may have unique attack\mechanic, but usually don’t, and it leads to the feeling that you did not just cleared 5 different dungeons but one same dungeon 5 times in a row. I think game would benefited greatly if it had half the amount of dungeons , half the size but more unique instead.
2) Leveling system – I think that leveling system is weaker than, for example, of Diablo 2. Lack of ability to pick your secondary stats like dex\str but more importantly auto leveling-which kills your sense of progress. You fought hordes of mobs, leveled up, closed the game, came back and suddenly you deal less damage than you did before log out, to those same mobs in this same location. This is not good when you level up only to find out that mob that you killed in one shot before is now must be killed in 2 shots. Some folks told me just to maxlevel-but then you hit the very same problem but from the other side-game becomes too easy, since you already max level, with good gear and there is almost nothing game can throw at you that you cant deal with, and quite easily deal with. You never feel strong in diablo either not strong enough or so strong that it does not matter. Generally speaking I think auto leveling system can be described only as lazy design.
3) Grind – as a result of first 2 points game is too grindy. I understand that grind is important part of every Diablo game, but It never felt so SLUGGISH in any other Diablo game. Game goes at the same speed all the time, there are no places that you can go in and it felt better\worse suited for one class or another, it’s the same job, all the time, with the same reward of a chance to get better gear. Sometimes game hardens up and throws tough unique opponent that provides challenge but it happens extremely rare. Events also break the vicious cycle of blandness but only for first locations-before you saw all what they can provide and they become another occasional grind.
4) Dailies and battlepass – bane of videogames.
I talk with some people about this and heard mixed opinions. Some people agree with me, some treated those things above not as negative but positive traits. And then I finaly got it – most of the people who agree with me had little or none interest with mmorpg games, and most of the people who did not usually had big investment and love in mmorpg game, specifically with WoW. Diablo 4 as game feels like its designed by and for mmorpg gamers ,not arpg gamers which resulted in those things above and some debatable design choices, like lackluster of wasd movement for example and overall blandness- game is not about things to explore but things to farm. End result: 10% of good main quest and some original dungeons and rest 90% of the game is grind for the sake of grind. Many may say that that what Diablo series is about, and those traits are part of series in general, but personaly I cant say that I play Diablo games for grind, and even if put it that way, as I said before, grind in any Diablo game never felt so sluggish as in Diablo 4 and those negative traits where not as accented. Don’t get me wrong, I generally enjoy Diablo 4, it’s a good game and a good rpg but for me it feels like weakest of Diablo games(excluding diablo immortal, because diablo immortal does no exist in my world of unicorns and rainbows), and personally , im sure, that if issues that where listed before where adressed Diablo 4 would be much better game, not just ANOTHER Diablo game, but BEST Diablo game.

My dad (59M) married his now ex-wife (49F) (we’ll call her “Mary”) when I (17F) was about a year and a half old- my mother passed away when I was five weeks old.
Growing up, the family dynamic was a bit strange, Mary had a son who was 11 so she was in charge of parenting him on her own (my dad had no say in anything) but because I was so young my dad and Mary raised me together- I was even expected to call Mary “mom”. When I got older, I didn’t want to call Mary “mom” which caused a rift between us in the final years of her and my dad’s marriage. They separated when I was 11 (they still aren’t legally divorced because Mary is mainly unemployed (she works as a freelance house cleaner occasionally- but she lives in government subsidized housing) so she receives health benefits from my dad’s work as his “spouse”). Mary still relies on my dad for a lot of things- mainly getting rides to places around the city (ie. going to the store to get groceries) and a lot of times after they’re done she comes over to our place and her and my dad “hang out” - they don’t do much, mainly watch TV and talk. Sometimes my dad invites Mary over so her and I can “spend time together”- I don’t now who’s idea this is but I don’t want this. My dad often drops this on me unexpectedly- he announces “Mary is coming over today” or sometimes I’ll wake up late-ish on weekends and come downstairs and Mary is already there.
I’ve always felt like my dad moved on from my mom too quickly and Mary is a reminder of that. My moms death and how my dad has dealt with that (ignoring it) has been the cause of a lot of arguments between us.
If I had it my way, Mary wouldn’t come over at all. I know she feels a motherly connection to me- she still gives me birthday gifts and Christmas gifts etc...but I just don’t feel the same way towards her.
I’ve told my dad I don’t want to see Mary but my dad says she’s the only adult in his life (besides family members) that he can talk to, so he likes to have her over. Mary is his only friend- my dad kind of has an avoidant personality and doesn’t talk to many people. If Mary and my dad want to spend time together on their own time, outside of the house I’m fine with that- but AITA for not wanting them to spend time together in the house and not wanting to see Mary?

Start out with balanced tanks then buff them to shit. Ok inline with the rest of the series but now you buff them more and give them thermals??? To blow up a tank an infantry soldier needs to get up close to a tank (impossible because of thermals) put all 3 c5 on it, pull the trigger which is a 2 second animation for no fucking reason. Then run away which is impossible because thermals and finish it off with a rocket launcher because an intire inventory of C5 isn't enough somehow. Going back to BF4 ffs

For me, sometimes I look at family members (who I see everyday) or friends (who I see often) and I question if I recognize them. Like is that what they've always looked like. They tend to look different to me. It's also hard to recognize myself in the mirror. It's such a weird feeling but I dont dwell on it. I feel like I'm numb to it now. I never feel present. I've just recently began to even acknowledge it to myself. I've had some trauma as a kid. Death was a huge prescence in my childhood. I witnessed my beloved grandfather die of a heart attack at age 9. I believe I was home from school sick or I was just lounging in my grandparents apt. (They lived in the apt below me, my mom and my brother. I was always very close to my maternal grandparents as my mother was a single mother who worked and went to night college. Father was never in the picture. He is life long drug addict loser. We were never involved with his family either.) I was in the living room watching tv and I hear my grandmother screaming my grandfather's name. I run into the kitchen and he's having a heart attack. My grandmother instructed me to hold a spoon in his mouth so he doesn't swallow his tongue while she called 911. I only remember small pieces of what happened next. I remember the EMTs coming in. I remember my aunt and mom coming home from work while EMS was there. I don't know when my brother came downstairs. I remember being told to go upstairs to our apt and being talked to by my mom's best friend saying my grandfather loved us. My brother and I didn't attend his funeral. That was decided for us by my mother. I remember playing in the street when my family came walking back from it. There is a funeral home 2 blocks from our building. Several other family members died pretty close in years. We are Italian on my mothers side. My grandmother had 4 siblings. They would come over for holidays or stop by since they all lived in the same city. Only 2 ended up having 1 child each so my mom didnt have many cousins. They all died within years of each other and the holiday tables became empty. That was traumatic. My grandmother who I was immensely close with died in 2017. She became diabetic and developed some sores on her legs from always sitting. Thinking about it as an adult, she must have had deep depression. She had poor immigrant parents and worked in a doll/baby dress making factory as a kid. When she got into her 60s, she became sort of agoraphobic. She didnt wanna go anywhere. She just would sit in the kitchen watching tv. We bonded over tv and films. She refused to go to the doctor. Her legs got worst. The day before we basically carried her out the door to go to the hospital, I was sitting in the living room with her and she seemed out of it. When she was admitted to the hospital, they said she had sepsis. She started asking where my grandfather was and he's been dead since '93. She only recognized me. Not my mom, aunt or brother. She was on the mend after a few weeks and was sent to rehab. She had a back slide in rehab. The week that she passed away, I was hella sick with the flu. I was told I couldn't go visit. My aunt called and I could hear my grandmother screaming. This happened a few times the week of her dead. She wouldn't talk just wail. They'd give her the phone and tell her it's me but she wouldn't speak just cry or scream. This haunts me. I wonder if anyone can tell me why this was happening. It still freaks me out. I got a call on a Fri at 1am from my mom saying that don't get upset but she passed away. The rehab just called. I remember dropping to the floor and crawled under my bed and cried. my mom doesn't live too far. She came over but I locked myself in my bedroom and stood under the bed. I think this is where my Ddp started kicking into high gear. A few months later, a close friend/coworker died suddenly at the age of 26. We had spent a few days the week prior hanging out after work even though he hated social activities. We went to a movie screening, play and comedy show all in 1 week. His mom said she believes he may subconsciously have known his time was coming to an end and wanted to spend as much time with me as he could. I think the constant prescence of death has caused my dp/dr. I definitely disassociate a lot. I feel like my life has gone in a fast forward. How am I later in my 30s? I feel like I blinked and all those years were skipped. I dont remember my 20s much or most of my 30s. This seems like it's all over the place but it's the first time I've been able to put pieces together and describe what I've been experiencing. Basically, I feel like I float through life and every day my brain is a white board that gets wiped clean. I'm not present and I become unfamiliar with my surroundings and people.

The entire premise was that monsters exist but only teenagers can hunt them because adults will freeze at the sight of them Pretty sure the first episode was a giant worm that was attracted by vibrations and they defeated it by putting a washing machine with explosives on an open field and waiting for the worm to eat it. In another episode there was a shapeshifter and one of the crew was trapped in a cocoon. They had to figure out wich one of them was the monster before the person inside got digested. Also in a later season a girl joined that grew up in the monster dimension

Looking for a roleplay buddy that is is into the idea of going out/cheating/teasing guys etc.
I'm 28m, athletic, kinda nerdy, pretty hung, and think it’s hot when my partner teases me a bit (a lot). I think it'd be really hot to fantasize a vacation where we go to mess around on some island and act out with an attractive couple there. Or go on a summer road trip where you ask me to bring my best friends and let them fuck you in the backseat while I drive. That night, I'll take photos and videos of you while you mess around drunk and ready for fun in our hotel room. I’ll blindfold you first, shove my c*ck in your mouth, then tell them to quietly swap places with me so you blow them good. You can tease me the whole night then let me finish all over you ;) We can rewatch the videos when I fuck you later that week.
dm me if you want to be my roleplay partner, ideally for a while. Would love to find someone who doesn’t mind building up slowly over text and letting me know how much it turns her on to get my c*k hard and cheat with friends/etc