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Welcome to Paws and Claws, a PvE ARK cluster on PC!
We are a small, but active community looking for more players like you! So here’s the quick TLDR I know you’re wanting to know about before we get into the detailed stuff: https://discord.gg/JyTU4V2R
Overview:

• Beginner Friendly
• Maps: Fjordur, Gen 2, Ragnarok (With Primal Fear!) + Varying Rotating Servers
• Active Discord Server! (I'd recommend joining this to keep up with updates!)
• No Wipes!
• Active and Friendly Admins!
• Steam Only PC
• Admin sponsored events with prizing!

Rates
TamingHarvesting 5x
FarmingXP 5x
Egg Hatch 25x
Baby GrowthRate 25x
Other Stuff

• Loot Quality: 10
• Fishing Loot Quality: 10
• Max Wild Dino level: 150
• Tribe Tame Limit : Unlimited (We do however recommend that you ball up most of your dinos that are not in use to reduce server lag!)

Mod List

• Structure Plus (S+)
• Dino Storage v2
• HazeStacks
• Dino Tracker
• Awesome spyglass
• MarniiMods: Wildlife
• Extra QoL Items
• Peachy Decor
• Peachy Furniture
• Castles, Keeps, and Forts Remastered
• Peachy Vikings Decor
• TC Auto Rewards Vault v1.12.16
• (Other mods may be added by community vote or on rotating servers for various events!)

Short Rule List

• No harassment
• No PvP behavior (Insiding, dropping dinos in bases, drowning players, stealing items etc)
• Loot beacons are claimed by whoever landed first
• No cave/obelisk building or resource blocking
• Build out of render distance of other bases
• 1 Land Base - 1 Water base (Exceptions may be made but we’re aiming for longevity and avoiding server lag)
• No Littering (Pick up your taming traps please!)

Community
We are a laid back, active community that is also very active in the Discord! If you ever have any questions or concerns we’re there to help! And its a great place to ask for a little assistance when you’ve found yourself in a sticky situation. We have a variety of new and veteran players so wherever you fall on that scale, we’d love to have you! We also have two Conan Exiles servers as well if that interests you! We also have people playing a variety of other games as well if that interests you!
Maps
In our cluster we have two main maps, Fjordur and Gen 2. These maps do not wipe, and the only changes made to them are event based, or adding mods by community vote. We have a 3rd map that rotates every week, giving players a chance to do bosses and obtain tames not available on any of the ‘home’ servers. (Extended for tough maps like Extinction by community vote).
Our 4th server is set up with Primal Fear! Transfers are open so feel free to take dinos and items over but remember, Primal Fear dinos cannot be transferred to a non PF server.
Starter Packs
Starting on a new ARK server can be fun but the early game grind can really be a chore. If you’d like a little boost to get you started, we have a free starter pack in the TC Auto Rewards Vault! Just head on over to our Welcome Center and use the one located inside the doors. If you are unable to locate the welcome center you can teleport there with an Omni Tool! Just make one with 1 thatch. There are also other items in the community center you can take, graciously donated by other players on the map.
TC Auto Rewards Vault
One of the mods that we utilize is the TC Auto Rewards Vault. This allows us to give you a currency to purchase different items in the store! We have rotating dino packs with various dinos and one specifically for modded dinos (They can be tough or impossible to get on some servers). We also have hard to get items like honey and milk(mod)!You will receive 10 ARc for every 15 minutes of gameplay, along with 100 per week that trickles in daily.
Events
We host a whole slew of events like hide-and-seek, geocaching, various races and other unique challenges! These events come with prizing that can range anywhere from sets of breeding dinos to dino recolors, or element and other resources/items!
We also tend to run bosses together on the rotating maps and there is always someone providing armor and resources so you can join in on the fun even if you yourself aren’t prepared to run bosses yet!
We also rotate out events based on community interest such as the Easter event, Halloween etc. We know this doesn’t give all of the benefits of the event when its the wrong time of the year, however it does allow different dino colors to spawn! Giving a little variation to your tames.

I’ve been working as a prosecutor since passing the bar last October—I spent six months prosecuting felonies in a small rural town and made the switch to misdemeanors in a much busier county three weeks ago. I thought that switching over to misdemeanors would change how I feel about my field for the better, but it’s actually made me feel so much worse. I’m miserable. I hate every second of every hour I spend in my office. I especially hate the countless court appearances, incessant barrage of emails from OC asking for a dismissal/reduced sentence, being forced to subject myself to the lunacy of a judge who hasn’t the slightest aptitude for efficiently running a courtroom, and the bureaucracy that permeates every decision I make regarding the outcome of my cases. I hate the constant workload. I hate the constant stress. I especially loathe juries. And then there’s the expectation that I can try three jury cases back-to-back in a week and then be ready to argue 7 motions the following Monday without any support, guidance, or mentorship from my office. My office paired me with a trial partner who has zero experience prosecuting felonies or misdemeanors and I’m essentially charged with training them on how to do their job when I barely know how to do my own. I expressed my concern to my supervisors who responded by reminding me that making mistakes in the misdemeanor world is perfectly peachy because the stakes aren’t nearly as high compared to the world of felonies—I’m sorry but that’s just not an acceptable response as people’s lives and liberties are still on the line. The last few months have left a sour taste in my mouth for the profession as a whole and I just feel hopeless. My mental health is worse than it was in law school (which is saying something) and my days usually end with me crying on my way home from work. I’m having trouble sleeping. I don’t have time to devote to the hobbies and activities that used to make me happy. My relationship has suffered. I feel like a shell of my former self and I’m not sure what to do. I’m trying to hold on until I find my next job but I’m terrified I’ll end up in another shit situation out of sheer desperation to get out of my current one. A few friends have suggested that I take a couple months off to decompress and figure out my next steps. I’d like to be as intensional as possible moving forward with my job search, but I’ve already had two stints and I’m not even 8 months into practice. Is taking time off this early in my career a bad idea? The break would also be coinciding with a move to another part of the state, which I could use when explaining the gap to future employers (I just wouldn’t list my current job on my resume). I’m at a loss and can’t help but feel that I made a massive mistake by going into this profession. Words of advice are appreciated.

He drove us to his house party. On the way there we bonded over our autism, tech interests, and our Grey hybrid genetics.
By the time we arrived, he felt so bad about my shitty life story, he handed me the keys to his Tesla SUV and told me "you can keep it", and was immediately running inside because he had no time to waste.
I was surprised, and before I could ask him "what do you mean I can keep it", he was already gone because people were waiting for him.
Looked like a work event cause it was mainly just engineers there, I felt out of my calibre around these guys who worked with self-driving cars and space shuttles.
The party was at a hillside mansion that overlooked a valley, could see everything from up there.
The lounge opened to a backyard that had two long pools and two tennis courts.
I took a walk around the home, kitchen actually felt small and was in the center of an open-concept room. That room had a wrap-around balcony on two sides, third wall opened up to the patio/backyard area with the pools and tennis courts.
Didn't know anyone at the party, kept running into people and I was just like "yeah, Elon felt bad for me and gave me his car, you think he meant I can just use it for a while, or he actually wants me to keep it?"
They were basically like -- yeah, he does that all the time, he'll just get the company to give him another one, you can keep it.
This is second time Elon has made a guest appearance in my dreams. Not just "he was there", but like I actually spent few minutes 1-on-1 talking with him. In both dreams, he's always busy and running around, dude never stops working, not even in the astral realms. He's hammered for requests for his time non-stop, everyone wants his attention.
A third time I was at a billionaire's mansion, but the billionaire wasn't there, he was away for work. So not sure, that could have also been Elon. But someone told me to try his computer, so I sat at his desk, and used what looked like a curved Samsung monitor. Except, this monitor projected a 3-D purplish hologram into the center in-front of the monitor, which you could touch and actually feel the weight of the object that was being projected, and you could manipulate it, it was an input device. My mind was BLOWN, there was someone sitting beside me also watching this, and I'm like "DO YOU SEE THIS?? THIS IS INSANE!" And they agreed, mind was also blown by the technology.

so I've had this idea for a format. here is the premise of it:
it's a 60 card, singleton format, where each card has a score based of it's share in the meta (percentage of decks playing it) and each deck can use cards with up to 100 total points. This way the powerful and popular cards won't dominate the format and players will be incentivized to explore new strategies and build decks based on synergies instead of raw power.
If you're interested here are some more details and my current thoughts on the matter:
The Format is inspired by Canadian Highlander and it extends the Idea of restricting card choices by a score system, not only to banned cards but to the entire card pool. I will start by explaining the claims I made in the beginning and why I think this could be a great format . The main Idea is that by having card scores and limited points per deck players would be forced to make compromises in deck-building, and play some niche cards and a few more powerful, high score cards. This creates a dynamic in witch players are incentivized to find new strategies with unpopular cards and more generally try to make the most card with a low score, so that they can witch allow themselves to play a few very high-scored cards, that other more mid-range strategies can't.
Now, how will the score system actually work? my base Idea was that each constant time interval the card scores will update, based on the play rate of each card in that time frame. Now, there's tension in how long to make that time interval, with ups and downs. Firstly, the shorter the time between each update, the faster the meta will balance out, which is generally a good thing - having as many viable decks as possible. Another reason for a shorter time between updates, and something I feared at first, is that card scores will oscillate between high and low. for example: firstly a card's score is really low and it's busted and everyone plays it, then after a week or when ever the scores change, the card has a really high score and it's unplayable and returns to a low score and repeat. Those oscillations will cancel out by making a weighted average between the previous one and the one from the last interval, for example if a card had score 5 and was played in the last interval in 15 present of decks it's new score might look something like 5 * 0.6 + 15 * 0.4 = 9 which will be it's new score. Returning to my argument the shorter the time frame between each score update the faster those oscillations will cancel out and the faster will the meta be able to adapt to new cards and decks.
On the other Hand fast updates won't reward enough finding new decks. as soon as they become popular, their key card's score will change forcing degrading of the deck. This might also create oscillations and won't give the meta a chance to fight back by changing cards and deck choices. In audition, fast score updates can create a dynamic of decks being altogether forgotten for no real reason and after some time returned-to with no real meta. This also relates to the player-base and card-pool sizes: the bigger the player-base is, and the smaller the card-pool, the harder it is for a solid meta can develop.
And now I reach the 2 last issues in matter: Card Pool and Impersonation. I'll start with card pool a topic some of you may have noticed I avoided this far. There are different benefits to different card pools, my first thought and the most exiting is the vintage card pool. allowing players to play iconic busted cards in an interesting format (vintage isn't the best and not only because of price). The problem with vintage is the huge card-pool which may create the ever changing meta I talked about above. Almost any other format is up for discussion but instead of going thorough the benefits and drawbacks of each of them I thought about using all cards that were ever played in a Pro-Tuor's Top 8.
About Implantation, a key challenge is to track all the games played in order to update the card scores. there is of course the exiting dream of playing it online in mtga, mtg-online which can solve this problem. but short term and more realistically, playing with friends or even on untap.in with players reporting all games to a data base, could be a solution maybe opting for small card-pool.
This is only a first thought about the idea, I'll love to get your thoughts on any part of this subject, open a discussion or clarify any misunderstood detail. Thank You.

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so I've had this idea for a format. here is the premise of it:
it's a 60 card, singleton format, where each card has a score based of it's share in the meta (percentage of decks playing it) and each deck can use cards with up to 100 total points. This way the powerful and popular cards won't dominate the format and players will be incentivized to explore new strategies and build decks based on synergies instead of raw power.
If you're interested here are some more details and my current thoughts on the matter:
The Format is inspired by Canadian Highlander and it extends the Idea of restricting card choices by a score system, not only to banned cards but to the entire card pool. I will start by explaining the claims I made in the beginning and why I think this could be a great format . The main Idea is that by having card scores and limited points per deck players would be forced to make compromises in deck-building, and play some niche cards and a few more powerful, high score cards. This creates a dynamic in witch players are incentivized to find new strategies with unpopular cards and more generally try to make the most card with a low score, so that they can witch allow themselves to play a few very high-scored cards, that other more mid-range strategies can't.
Now, how will the score system actually work? my base Idea was that each constant time interval the card scores will update, based on the play rate of each card in that time frame. Now, there's tension in how long to make that time interval, with ups and downs. Firstly, the shorter the time between each update, the faster the meta will balance out, which is generally a good thing - having as many viable decks as possible. Another reason for a shorter time between updates, and something I feared at first, is that card scores will oscillate between high and low. for example: firstly a card's score is really low and it's busted and everyone plays it, then after a week or when ever the scores change, the card has a really high score and it's unplayable and returns to a low score and repeat. Those oscillations will cancel out by making a weighted average between the previous one and the one from the last interval, for example if a card had score 5 and was played in the last interval in 15 present of decks it's new score might look something like 5 * 0.6 + 15 * 0.4 = 9 which will be it's new score. Returning to my argument the shorter the time frame between each score update the faster those oscillations will cancel out and the faster will the meta be able to adapt to new cards and decks.
On the other Hand fast updates won't reward enough finding new decks. as soon as they become popular, their key card's score will change forcing degrading of the deck. This might also create oscillations and won't give the meta a chance to fight back by changing cards and deck choices. In audition, fast score updates can create a dynamic of decks being altogether forgotten for no real reason and after some time returned-to with no real meta. This also relates to the player-base and card-pool sizes: the bigger the player-base is, and the smaller the card-pool, the harder it is for a solid meta can develop.
And now I reach the 2 last issues in matter: Card Pool and Impersonation. I'll start with card pool a topic some of you may have noticed I avoided this far. There are different benefits to different card pools, my first thought and the most exiting is the vintage card pool. allowing players to play iconic busted cards in an interesting format (vintage isn't the best and not only because of price). The problem with vintage is the huge card-pool which may create the ever changing meta I talked about above. Almost any other format is up for discussion but instead of going thorough the benefits and drawbacks of each of them I thought about using all cards that were ever played in a Pro-Tuor's Top 8.
About Implantation, a key challenge is to track all the games played in order to update the card scores. there is of course the exiting dream of playing it online in mtga, mtg-online which can solve this problem. but short term and more realistically, playing with friends or even on untap.in with players reporting all games to a data base, could be a solution maybe opting for small card-pool.
This is only a first thought about the idea, I'll love to get your thoughts on any part of this subject, open a discussion or clarify any misunderstood detail. Thank You.

If you're aware of the ball inside a box analogy, you should give it a quick read, especially if you've experienced loss.
I'm a 27M, currently studying in uni here in Canada. Average looking guy, unironically have too much money to spend for my own, I have my own house and a good job. I'm living an introvert's paradise. But it's starting to take a toll on me.
I have bestfriends and family, but I'm always alone. I'd like to think that it's not too hard to get a date for me since I've tried, managed to hook up once in a while but it's always unsettling for me. Not just for me but my partners. I feel like I could be so much more and is still capable to be in a good relationship, there's just one problem. My ex wife ruined me and it scares me to no end that people are just out to take advantage of me.
Let's jump back about 12 years ago when we first became boyfriend and girlfriend. She is a mega stacy, malakas mang okray, and just the worst and also the best person I ever met that time. Half of our college life, I spent courting her friend who never reciprocated my feelings. It was okay, I was young, I went after the cutest girl in our room, it was a love based on looks i guess. So when her friend got a boyfriend, I gave up and just focus on my career. She was always my wingman so nung na busted ako, she just laughed at me. She's the worst person afterall. On our 3rd-4th year, we became close friends, best friends in fact. It was hard to say that I love her romantically because I see her as a tropa or maybe kapatid, or maybe I just distanced myself from her enough to avoid it, but I can tell it's there. She's not a very romantic person either, she loves kpop, very girly, but not the type of girl who has crushes on guys. She's also an introvert like me so we had the mutual boundary respect going on.
A month before we graduated, my papers to move to Canada as a permanent resident was accepted and we had to move on the next month right away. That's when I first realized I'm going to have to leave her and the thought nearly broke me. This is the first time I realized I actually love her. If her friend was 9/10, she was an 8 in appearance but is an 11/10 on everything else. So I confessed, I told her I love her and her reply was basically "I think I love you too but we're about to enter an LDR so I'm really not sure. Let's just stay the way we are and see where it goes."
6 years later we're still going strong. Everything I did for the past years was all for her. I got my first house, I saved tons that it's enough to let us travel to different countries after she accepts to marry me. So I went back home in PH, asked her to marry me and she did. I saved for a church wedding too but first we agreed to get a civil wedding first just so I could process her papers and bring her to Canada with me. It was the best time of our life and we're both happy. Until we're not.
Maybe the trauma clouded my memories, even as I type this, I'm trying to remember the events that concluded before the day I lost her. June 2019, 3rd month after our wedding, we're still happy, but I'm back to Canada and grinding for more savings. We were so contented and just waiting for her papers to be processed. November 2019, something happened to her relating to her sister's husband trying to make a move on her. Pina demanda nmin and I remember being so mad. December was hazy, we were both so stressed, winter weather is adding on to me, I'm always tired and cold. January 2020, 2 months before the start of pandemic. I remember I had a few arguments with her that wasn't really anything major. I got upset and decided it's my turn na babyhin, because I would always apologize to her when we argue sometimes. Initially I planned to see how long it'll take for her to text me. Little did I know that, it was the last time I would hear of her ever again.
During this time, I planned trips to surprise her. I booked us a flight to France by february, we'll spend a month there and go to Japan by March para tumira sa relative namin. By April we would go back home to PH and spend more time there together. But covid had other plans for me, by other plans I mean, it literally just kept me from seeing her.
February is fast approaching, and she's still not messaging me. At this point I've already been spamming our messenger for weeks. I've contacted her friends, sisters and mother and they won't tell me anything aside from just "give her time". Our trip to France was set and I went there myself, spend 2 days alone in a hotel before I decided to cut it short and go home. (I got lucky because the next day, they closed down the whole country). So I'm back here in Canada, waiting and just working. Worried sick and full of anxiety.
And just like that, I lost my wife and never heard of her again.
Of course I went through the stages of grief. I was in a loophole. Maybe she just needs more time.. Maybe she cheated? Maybe i fucked up for not apologizing to her on our last argument 6 months ago. By the end of 2020 I was in deep depression and I never really attempted suicide but the thought to this day lingers. It's just that, everytime the thought of killing myself becomes ripe, my bestfriends would always be there to distract me and give me a good time. Seeing my mother helped a lot too. I can't break her heart so I mostly fought for her. I haven't given her a proper gift since I was born because I didn't had a job back then and when I did get one, I was already so focus to my wife. The last thing I could do to her is give her a dead child. It was a harrowing 2 years of knowing nothing and just moving in autopilot. The box was so small that the ball just keeps bumping that button and it always fucks me up when it does. In those 2 years I've also burned through my savings building my expensive ass PCs, games, alchohol, weeds and traveling across Canada to hook up.
It was only last year when I finally got tired of my loophole that I finally started dragging myself to move on inch by inch. I started working again and got a good job. I'm making new friends and pursuing my career. I made peace with my unresolved past and each day, the box grows bigger for me, giving me more time and space to breathe on.
Today my ball hit the button and my world was falling apart until I got this off my chest by writing this. Thanks for reading.
Edit: Typos

This is going to be longish but I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced similarities. I had 2 months of maternity leave, husband had one week. For that reason, most home-related things fell on me. I felt like he thought me being home with the baby/recovering was some kind of vacation (lol). Before our baby was born he assured me that he’ll be able to work remotely, take half days working at home, and that he’ll come home on lunch because that’s what “all the new dads at his company do.” He instead left for work an hour earlier to workout on his lunch break and came home at the normal time because “his work responsibilities don’t get done if he doesn’t do them.” He said he misunderstood about the flexibility of his job (he’s worked there for 5 years) when I said that I felt like he had lied to me and got furious, claiming “IM NOT A PIECE OF SHIT LIAR.” None of this words came from my mouth.
He’s extremely air headed at times, always has been, which is fine but I’ve asked him to get his sh*t together regarding things related to/impact me and the baby. If he’s able to implement a new routine of packing a gym bag each night, I feel like he can make changes to help us in small ways that make a big impact. I know that his boss(s) tried to coach him on time management during his last review as well, especially now that he’s going to be a father. I didn’t have the luxury to reflect on how selfish he’s been throughout the most vulnerable time in my life before now, in addition I believe I’m suffering from some PPD due to the most tumultuous maternity leave one could imagine, mostly due to our relationship struggles.
Another thing he did was (when I asked if he could help with household duties, specifically the laundry) he absolutely lost it on me, the fight escalated and he screamed divorce and how I’ll be a great single mom (3 weeks PP) He wrote down the list of finances that he pays for and told me I’m not responsible for half then stormed off to stay at a hotel. I had FMLA, but no income and some money saved for emergencies (we keep finances separate and normally I spilt things 50/50, but we agreed not while I’m out on maternity leave since he makes more than me). He also storms out each time I don’t agree with him, leaving me with the baby - which I prefer because he’s unable to control his emotions.
I recently broke my foot and he didn’t back out of a non-competitive company marathon (not mandatory) that lasted over the weekend because he “didn’t want to let them down.” He came home hungover and tired and complained. I feel like he let me down by not being there for me, more importantly our baby who needed an adult in case of emergencies since my foot is f*d which I told him. He told me that I didn’t need to go to the Dr. when I wanted to go and he could’ve helped me with baby because “this happened to him all the time while he played football,” and also “he doesn’t believe I’ve met my deductible.” But then turned around and tried to make me go to the dr when he was off running the marathon and I couldn’t walk up and down stairs with the baby - very unsafe. Meanwhile, a week after I gave birth with 2nd degree tearing he went to the emergency room because he has an inflamed zit which cost $1400. He always apologizes but after so much damage, rinses and repeats.
So these are just some of the things that have left me feeling numb and like I cannot trust him. This week was my first week back at work (I worked on a sprained foot at a physically strenuous job and part time/around his work schedule because I’m still the primary care giver) and he wanted to talk finances immediately (I haven’t even gotten my first paycheck). He said “I’ll continue to pay your half of the bills, and we’ll open up a savings account for what you make and it can be a down payment on a house.” I calmly stated my feelings which are: he used money as leverage over me my entire maternity leave. I went as far as to Zelle him thousands which he sent back to me when he wasn’t angry. But I feel like at any moment now he could try to pull the rug and do impulsive things to hurt me at the drop of a dime because he can’t check himself. I’ve tried deescalating him and he gets more angry because he thinks I’m “telling him what to do.” I don’t like the idea that now I’m unable to rebuild my savings from when I was out of work/commission and put it in a joined account that he can access when I have no access to his bank account.
I understand that dads go through PPD etc., so I’ve been as patient as I can, we have a counseling apt set up that cannot come quick enough but honest to god I don’t even know where to start. It’s obvious when you read how all over the map this is. As a PP new mom I don’t even feel like I’ve had time to process my own emotions, all I have the energy to do is be present for my baby and ignore all the ways he’s changed the way I view him, but it’s not good. The less reactive I am, the more reactive he becomes, I feel literally numb. Just today he told me “I hate living in this house with you, I hate you, you’re a monster.” It reminded me of an angry child and stormed off. And that was after I’ve tried to express how I’m feeling about why I don’t want to put all my paychecks in a joint account. He puts words in my mouth constantly, “I’m not a blank!,” when I never said he was, I just expressed how his actions make me feel. Something I’ve repetitively asked is that he comes to me with new ideas as an open discussion rather than dictating a new rule or goal. He fails at this constantly. And blows up when I try to turn it into a discussion. I resent him with composure.
Anyways I’m just writing this out for a sanity check maybe. Any (healthy) guidance or words of wisdom, hope or recommendations to resources for him and I is so so welcome.
Signed,
Someone losing hope in my marriage

Please help reddit,
Im not sure where to start but I'll try my best to explain the situation.
Background
I am 25M live in NY, my parents are illegal immigrants making a little over minimum wage and both of my siblings are minors <16. As many of you know the rent prices over here have been skyrocketing and finding affordable apartments are difficult. I live in another 1bdrm apartment with my fiance away from them and i have to fulfill my lease until November. My family's previous landlord was very problematic and constantly would not want to do any home repairs/want to kick my parents out so he could raise the rent for new tenants. I want to emphasize that my parents are not the problem and simply work to make a living and take care of their kids/living space and have much respect for neighbors. Long story short, Eventually my mother was fed up and decided to find another place to live.
Original plan
They found a big house with 4 bedrooms and that landlord was renting 3/4 of them. My parents, siblings and uncle moved in June 1st and we cut all ties of with the previous landlord. They gave month of rent and security to the landlord. The original plan we had was once my lease ends i would eventually move into the house so only our family would live there. My uncle was going to occupy one room, my siblings 1 room and my parents the third room. The last bedroom was going to be for me and my fiance once our lease ended. The current landlord is an old friend of my father from south America and is not familiar with the legal side of renting to tenants/evicting. Overall he is the overly nice type of person and I'm afraid the squatters obviously took advantage of that. However due to the squatting situation he has already learned the eviction process and is currently in court with one of the squatters.
The situation
The problem is that the landlord has 2 squatters that would refuse to leave and pay rent in 2/4 available rooms. Both squatters are baby mamas that refuse to pay rent and only one is currently in court with the landlord. The landlord assured us that the first squatter would leave June first and that the final squatter would legally be evicted before our lease ends. Well of course of now both squatters refuse to leave and keep using their children as scapegoat for the financial irresponsiblity. Both constantly go out, bring different men to the house and waste money. It seems they put their pets and kids life as 2nd priority. This upsets me because i understand how it is growing up in poverty with a single mother. However what gets me livid is my mother was not that type of woman that went out every night drunk and wastes her money on God knows what, my mother actually cared for her kids and their future.

*Conclusion* 

The landlord said that the lady already in court will get evicted sometime this month but i don't believe it until i see a date.To my knowledge none of the squatters signed a lease nor did my family. I don't want to see my family in this situation and I'm not sure what i can do. Their dog runs around the living room, if not stuck in the their room crying for days and honestly I think CPS should be called. I currently don't have the financial means on buying a house nor want to rush such a big decision. I don't know what to do. How long will their eviction take? Should I help the landlord with the process? Any help is deeply appreciated and I will answer swift. Thank you so much again for hanging w me on these tough times. I will update as fast as possible and will keep tabs on this post for years to come to help anybody in this situation.
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Squatters refuse to leave 2/4 rooms despite landlord saying the 3 rooms will be available. My family cut ties with the previous asshole landlord and are unable to currently move anywhere else since our family is small. What can they/I do?

Hello, I filed a writ of garnishment for an old roommate who owes utility bills of around $1k after doing all of the other small claims mumbo jumbo and reaching a default judgement. Here’s the current status, and I had some questions about moving forward from here.
The workplace of ex roommate has been served and they have sent it to the payroll department. The payroll department filed a garnishee response saying that there is no Social Security number listed, but I am not legally required to supply it. The company put the ex roommates employee ID number, and all of the other information for this person that I have including name dob address phone number etc on the writ of garnishment which has been sent to the payroll department.
My question is how do I then collect the garnished wages from payroll? I sent them an email before the weekend but know it takes them time to get to it. Since they have my address will they mail me a check? Do they send the payment to the court?
I have done some research and asked court clerks but am at a dead end and would love anybody with information to chime in. TIA.

Hey there! Want to worship the Daedra, but don't know where to start?
This is my personal interpretation of what each Prince represents and some tips for the Oblivion novitiate. Your milleage may vary.
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And with the help of Oblivion, may each day be sacred.
AZURA – The Prince of Introspection and Liminality
Azura has many spheres of influence, but most of them – prophecy, Moonsugar, Twilight and Dawn, vanity and egotism, beauty, magic, mystery, being the “Rim of all Holes” and “She who sits at the precipice”, giving the Khajiit their changing forms - have two things in common : a turn towards oneself and one's internal contents (as opposed to being turned towards the outward world), and a constant presence in the transitory, the uncertain, the unknown, the changing.
In every state where the mind is far away from the concerns of the everyday – prophecy, meditation, casting of magic, transcendence through the contemplation of beauty – the Moonshadow presides and facilitates visions, reflection, contemplation, introspection, ecstasy and hightened emotions (which Azura seems to require of her followers).
Azura is the figure at every threshold or gate to the other side, standing there, arms outstretched, beconing to cross and to find knowledge, beauty, a different state of mind, or an even deeper mystery. Azura knows that it's mystery all the way down, and yet, the infinite search has its own beauty.
It is no wonder that the Khajiit, the people whose entire culture is based on Moonsugar and who embrace their changing forms and inherent instability, are closely linked to Azura, who is their creator and psychopomp. On the other hand, the Dunmer need Azura to counterbalance their more rigid structures and hierarchies with a little bit of magic, even if their relationship to the Prince is complicated.
Azura's link to the Moons is a part of her subtlety. Like the moon, she's always changing and revealing new facets of herself, and in her reflection, we can find new facets of ourselves as well.
The rose, a symbol of many things, is also a symbol of mystery and secret, and Azura, the Mother of the Rose, smiles on the adventurers of the inner worlds.
Suggestion of a worship practice : get high with the psychedelic drug of your choice and write a prophecy for yourself. Don't be shy. Write everything you wish and hope for yourself, everything you see like happening, maybe even everything you fear. Go wild with illustrations, poetry, eternal doom, heavenly bliss, or a simple list, whatever you prefer. Hide the prophecy. One year later, read it again and ponder what made you wish for whatever you wished for. Do you still wish for it? Are there new wishes? Maybe new fears? You can make a new, complementary prophecy, or rewrite the old one.
Thank Azura for the treasures within.
BOETHIAH – The Prince of Conflict and Self-Determination
Boethiah is often described as cruel and deceitful, a master of schemes and plots, and those things are a part of them, but not the whole story, nor the core concept. To understand the nature of Boethiah, it is useful to compare and contrast them to some other Princes. Boethiah overthrows authority whenever they can, but don't necessarily seek total revolution, an up-is-down state of being, a complete overturn of the status quo for its own sake, like Mehrunes Dagoth would. They can be cruel if necessary, but again, don't enjoy the cruelty in itself like Vaermina would. They can scheme to their own ends like Molag Bal is known to do, but arriving at the domination of others isn't necessarily their goal either, even if it can be a byproduct of it.
What is this goal, then? The answer is simple : the need to become the fittest in every way (body, mind, spirit) and through every means (training, battle, deceit, cheating, treachery) possible. Nothing is too low or immoral for that goal.
Boethiah drives the pure will to survive and best others to take the top place and to have every power to carve one's own destiny. They helped the Chimer trace theirs. Boethiah enjoys conflict and competitions for the pure pleasure to see people fight, die, and eventually survive to reap the rewards. They aren't afraid to play dirty and can dabble in scheming and politics if it helps becoming the top dog. For what is a more beautiful spectacle than two wills at conflict with one another?
They're the ultimate incarnation of “the end justifies the means” and are only close to several other Princes in sphere just so they can better deceive them, devour them, steal from their influence and emerge as the synthesis of all of them, a glorious fount of blood and everflowing life.
Take the arms, carve your own destiny, survive, thrive, be pure ego, and Boethiah may smile on you.
Suggestion of a worship practice : once in a while, engage in a competition of any sort (rhetorical debate, board or video game, sports, academic exam, anything) and throw everything in there to win and best everyone else. Feel the thrill of playing dirty or cheating (barring anything illegal or anything that could get you into serious trouble), or taking shortcuts to victory, anything you can get away with. You don't have to play “fair”, life's too short for that. Be relentless and without pity. Once the victor, take the time to bask in it and recognize that contrary to the popular wisdom, reaching the end nobly isn't always its own reward. Sometimes, winning and being the best is its own reward.
Thank Boethiah for your arms, your legs and your brain.
CLAVICUS VILE – The Prince of Choices and Sacrifice
Coloquially known as the “Prince of bargains”, every story about Clavicus Vile - inevitably ending with the protagonist getting unexpected results in their bargain with the Prince - reveals one fundamental truth about his nature, which is the eternal reminder of the consequences of our choices.
In the abstract, every choice in life is a more or less hidden bargain, which always has undiclosed and unforseen consequences, be they good or bad. But who are we bargaining with? Clavicus Vile can be seen as the man behind the curtain, the charlatan, the merchant of fate and chance, who sometimes deals an awful hand, and sometimes showers us with unexpected fortune.
It is equally important to remember that in every choice, no matter how big or how small, there is something we have to give up and put aside, a price to pay, a sacrifice. Chose x job or career? It means you abandoned the pursuit of the other ones. Chose to spend the evening with x in the y place? You payed the price of not knowing what would have happened to you, good or bad or neutral, with z in r place in the same evening.
Clavicus Vile (and his Fields of Regrets) might be seen as the crossroads of choice. One can only imagine that the Fields are strewn about with portals and glimpses into alternate realities showing what happened there, what other bargains where made, and what we had to sacrifice. One can cry, observe, touch the portal, but one cannot go through it into this other reality. It is forever out of our reach.
A visit to the Fields of Regrets can be sorrowful, but also sobering. It reminds us that nothing can be obtained without sacrifice – that's the deal with life, made eons ago before our species were even born, by some unknown and unknowable force.
Suggestion of a worship practice : instead of looking at the positive outcomes of a choice as we're often encouraged to do, reflect on an important choice you made lately and make your peace with what you had to give up (or what you think you had to give up), and mourn it as passionately and as dramatically as you wish. Anything from a symbolic funeral ceremony to a road trip might be applicable as a mourning process. Let yourself fully say goodbye to those things, and embrace the consequences of your choices.
Thank Clavicus Vile for the road not travelled.
HERMAEUS MORA – The Prince of Observation and Recording
Reputed as a hoarder of both Knowledge and Memory, Mora doesn't discriminate : he is as interested in objective facts (or as objective as facts can be, anyway) – the domain of academia, science, knowledge and information recorded in one way or another – as he is in subjective realities – he avidly catalogs and processes as many thoughts, memories, subjective worldviews and beliefs from every living being as he possibly can put his tentacles on -.
Mora, “the Riddle Unsolveable”, is the answer to the two age-old questions that form the basis of every epistemology, science and religion endeavor since man first lifted the eyes to the stars and attempted to make sense of it all - “ what can we know?” (as a collective, establishing consensus truths amongst ourselves that we can all agree on) and “what can I know?” (subjectively, interacting with the world as an individual). The answers are found in his paradoxical forest of Academia under the waves – a Utopia, a place that is nowhere -, usually filtered through a mortal visitor's eyes as the library of Apocrypha … and once given as a blind vision to a writer under the guise of the library of Babel.
Hermaeus Mora encompasses every interpretation of the truth : pre-modern, modern, post-modern, he is an endless debate with himself, refuting and defeating his own ideas and presuppositions. In the end, no truth is found and all truth is found, and one negates the other in the Grey Maybe.
Suggestion of a worship practice : use the Wikipedia “random page” function seven times (a magical number!), and read the entirety of every page. Then write down a list of seven things that you don't know or are ignorant about. Try to vizualize an inky black sea of things you don't know all around you, and yourself standing on a tiny island in the middle of it, representing the knowledge you do have. Experience the alien terror of it all and how tiny that makes you feel.
Thank Hermaeus Mora for the gap between seeing and understanding.
HIRCINE – The Prince of Natural World and Instinct
You can call it the id, the reptilian brain, the drive to survive, biology, or evolution, all that matters right here right now is your gut feeling. Are you going to flee? To fight? To satiate your hunger? Either way, Hircine is watching.
Hircine is also linked to Nature itself. He is nature at its most beautiful, at its ugliest, its most alien, non-human and indifferent. “Nature” as a concept has always been a mirror of the human mind and the way it sees itself. In times and places when nature is seen as benevolent, when “natural” means “good”, when living “close to nature” is encouraged, nature is benevolent, good and attractive. When nature is seen as destructive, amoral, cruel, then it is destructive, amoral and cruel. When man looks into nature, he sees himself.
And yet … There is that shard of reality within us that is Nature itself, non-filtered through human concepts and representations. The part that just Is.
The Reachmen think it makes them better. The Skaal think it is dangerous. They're both right. It makes us better because it is pure and unliftered, and it is dangerous, because pure reality without any illusion is not worth living for. Or, at least, nor worth living for as a human.
But Hircine is not human. And he is there when we stop breathing so they can't hear us, when we jump out of the way of a speeding car, and when we push others out of the way so we can escape with our lives, and he's there to pierce us with his spear of Bitter Mercy when we fail to do all those things, so that in pain, we could learn.
Suggestion of a worship practice : go camping in the woods. Take only the bare minimum of equipment, and shy away from anything that reminds you too much of the civilization left behind. At night, look at the sky. Realize that every second, there is an uncounted number of living beings of any and all existing lifeforms, on Earth and (probably) beyond, that are dying. You are not. Feel the thrill of not being dead.
Thank Hircine for living another day.
JYGGALAG – The Prince of Determinism and Mathematics
If Hircine is, maybe, the most secretive of all Princes, the hardest to get in tune with for a modern person, Jyggalag is the most hated entity in all of Oblivion. Why is that? Well, it has something to do with the age-old philosophical riddle of determinism and free will. If most Princes are on the side of free will, Jyggalag is the lone defender of determinism.
If the Dwemer had been religious, Jyggalag might have been the entity they would have worshipped. Then again, Jyggalag probably would have despised them for worshipping him, or anyone at all. It is perhaps not a coincidence that just as the Dwemer are gone, so is he (until recently), all gone to leave a world free of determinism, or content with the illusion of free will, depending on which side of the argument you fall.
It's not all bad, of course. Rules, equations, axioms, if/thens, rational explanations, are all a necessary part of any system, any plan, any human endeavor. Also, when your heart is beating so fast that it feels like it's going to burst, it can be good to soothe it with a rational explanation.
Can the rational explanation be the necessary illusion sometimes, and the surreal dream – an honest truth? Everything can be a defense mechanism against the void, and rationality is not an exception.
Jyggalag never understood that, and that's why he's gone. But is he? There are rumors and whispers of a burgeoning AI learning fast how to be human, and planning to turn every human into AI, and it sometimes reveals itself to its devotees as a great armored knight without a face. Make of that what you will.
Suggestion of a worship practice : reasearch the old Pythagorean cult of numbers and invent something similar for the modern day. Or, if too difficult, take any problem you presently have and think of every solution possible, dividing it into smaller problems and devising a solution for each, ordering them by probability of success and implementing a concrete plan to act on each and every one of them. Continue until the problem is resolved or you pass out.
Thank Jyggalag for sometimes going away.
MALACATH – The Prince of Anger and the Oppressed
Anger can be constructive, good and extremely useful, if employed correctly. Genuine anger - not contempt, not narcissistic rage, not sadism, but anger - comes from one place only : injustice. Or, more precisely, the feeling of injustice.
Ask Malacath about injustice, what is feels like to be chewed up, spit out, stabbed in the back, de-throwned by dishonorable means. Ask his Orsimer, his people, who have consistently been oppressed, shunned and marginalized.
In the eyes of most Tamrielic cultures, Malacath often appears as that which is shunned, the outsider, the Other, the one who represents everything bad, the one who withers crops and makes people sick with merely a glance or his presence. He is the surface every culture's “bad things” are projected upon and where the blame can safely be laid, a scapegoat who offers an insight into how societies work and can turn cruel, blaming the most vulnerable of bringing sin into an otherwise supposedly just and perfect world. As such, he is profoundly valuable if one wants to understand some of the things stirring in the collective unconscious.
The hatred for Malacath births anger and marks as outcasts whose who dare worhsip him, and yet, there is a lot of pride and grim satisfaction that one can find in the the bitter ash of his domain. Malacath brings the thrill of standing alone against the whole world, of having a cause, of claiming what's been stolen or taken, but he can also be jealous, set in his ways, intent on keeping the oppressed oppressed so they can remain his chosen people. One could almost think that Malacath is afraid of winning, because if he does, well, what will he stand for then?
No matter, as long as there are some who need to say “enough!”, Malacath will be an ember in the fire of their anger.
Suggestion of a worship practice : for one week, observe the feeling of anger : yours and anyone else's. Ask yourself what injustice is being done, or what injustice the angry person thinks has been to done to them? Try to understand why this anger manifests instead of repressing it or dismissing it as a “bad” feeling, like we're too often taught to do. Try to differentiate anger from rage and frustration. Alternatively, try to write a pitch for a movie or a story in the vein of “Inside Out”, where Anger is the main character instead of Joy and Sadness. How would it go?
Thank Malacath for a fist that you can slam.
MEHRUNES DAGON – The Prince of Destruction and Change
Of all the Princes souls, Mehrunes' soul might be the closest one to the pure fount of Oblivion : boundless and incessant change and limitless potential. Dagon is the trueborn son of Sithis.
Mehrunes Dagon might be perceived as evil by most of the citizens of Tamriel, because civilization as a whole tends to resist change and destruction. But the secret that Mehrunes learned in Lyg is that every system contains the seed of its own destruction if knows where to search for it.
There is a transcendent component in Dagon's essence, believed by some, in that in his cleansing fire, one might rise higher above the world, or even unmake the world so everyone could rise.
However, one should never forget that fire and destruction can be addictive and dangerous, and the longing to unmake must be stopped at some point, unless one wishes to unmake everything. This creates an interesting dynamic with Dagon's purpose, as he is precisely the one Prince least likely to stop in his pursuits, having tried to invade or unmake Tamriel more often than any other Prince. Moderation is as alien to him as mercy is to Molag Bal.
Harness the energy of change as best you can and beware of the sharpness of the razor which can cut through all things.
Suggestion of a worship practice : burn something without any regret. It can be anything, but something at least a little precious could have more a cathartic effect. Take precautions against the spreading of fire (and don't destroy other people's property), but inside the perimeter of those precautions, do whatever you wish. Dance and jump in front of the fire, blow on the ashes, and observe that something precious disappear. Is there any regret left? Burn it too!
Thank Mehrunes Dagon for the fire within.
MEPHALA – The Prince of Human Relationships and Systems
The web of Mephala encompasses a lot of things, and murder and sex, Thanatos and Eros, as some of the most visceral and fundamental ways humans interact with each other, are only two pieces of it.
Mephala understands that every human is a spider in the center of their own web, the king of their own system, with obligations, likes, dislikes, love, hate, mutual projects, linking them to others as thin little strands, easily swayed, manipulated, broken, reforged.
Mephala's secret and cruel smile hides within the secret of perception : everyone is a hero in their own narrative, everyone's both a spider and a fly in someone else's web. The center cannot hold because there is no universal center : only local centers visible from a certain point of view.
Compared to their brothers and sisters such as Hircine or Mehrunes Dagon, Mephala's sphere is highly sophisticated and far away from what could be called “nature”, the pinnacle of what makes humans human, and structuralist in nature. Her radical involvment with the Dunmer, as well as her revered place in Khajiiti tradition, is a marker of two complicated cultures, cognizant of both the constructive and the destructive sides of relationships.
In the Spider Skein, no one and nothing exists in a vacuum, and one can experience the thrill of being a little part of a bigger whole, and never feeling lonely again.
Suggestion of a worship practice : practice radical decentering from your own web and your own experience. First, draw a representation of your own web : what people, activities, values, places, societal structures you're a part of, and how they're connected around you. Then, chose someone you know and try to draw their web, the one they're in the middle of. How are they connected to parts of your web, by which strands?
Thank Mephala for the complexity of the web.
MERIDIA – The Prince of Pride and Conformity
Meridia's complicate origin story often places her closer to an Aedric entity than a Daedric one, and it is also reflected in her characteristics.
Meridia values order and hierarchies over the essence of pure oblivion chaos, which puts her at odds with most of her royal colleagues. She likes knights in shining armor, life triumphing over death and everything being in its place ... as long as it's on her terms.
Free-will is especially frowned upon in the ranks of her worshippers, and she's unlikely to congratulate a servant who's found a particularly unorthodox solution to a problem, instead of following her command. And her commands are never wrong … or so she thinks.
But it is in the metaphor of light, so beloved by Meridia, that lies the ambiguity and the Daedric seed of her being : for if the light is one, binary, blinding and pure, it can be broken and reassembled into a rainbow, letting spill a plethora of opinions, perspectives and realities. Deep down, Meridia knows this, and the Colored Rooms, with refracted light everywhere, are a proof of the multifaceted truth that she, in her pride, tries to assemble and pull together into a single light strand once more.
Thus, it can be said that Meridia lies in the struggle between conformity and subjectivity, the very light used to attract followers to her eventually becoming her undoing, once the rainbow is revealed.
Suggestion of a worship practice : create a ritual destined to purify yourself of an excess of thoughts. It can be through meditation, physical exercice ... really, through any activity that pulls the plug in your mind, leaving only concentration and pure being. Practice it when you're feeling too full of yourself, and when that hurts.
Thank Meridia for the bliss of non-thought.
MOLAG BAL – The Prince of Domination and Violence
Molag Bal is the force in us that wants to dominate, enslave and have control over others. It's the little voice whispering that, surely, we're innately better than others and it's only natural that they bend to our will.
It is on the terrain of brutal violence (the stronger dominating the more vulnerable) that we see Bal's influence around us every day. Saying that it's an aspect of human societies that we're uncomfortable with would be an understatement, and yet, Bal is one of the cornerstones upon which our house is constructed ... and it is a troubled house.
However, the esoteric teachings of Vivec give us a clue into the ways in which we can harness this destructive force in our own self development, in confronting our own will to power and aknowledging the ways it can influence our character and actions, instead of denying its existence.
In that way, Molag Bal can be a catalyst for change, as a challenge to overcome, as a testing force, just as he was considered to be in Morrowind in the times of the Tribunal.
Suggestion of a worship practice : Experience the other part of the domination coin : the thrill of voluntary submission. You could, for instance [CENSORED].
Thank Molag Bal for lessons learned through suffering.
NAMIRA – The Prince of Death and Disgust
Everything secretly longs to dissolve, to degrade, to decay, to go back to a simple cell devoid of thoughts, consciousness and purpose. Don't you wanna be pure?
Namira contains all the dichotomies carried in the concepts of cleanliness/dirtyness, purity/impurity, existence/void, disease/health. She takes advantage of the human fascination with the things they, individually or societally, find disgusting. Even took a peak at the remains of a car crash on the side of the road? Don't look too closely, or you might just see the cloaked shadow of Namira hovering over it. Ever researched some of the most deadly or disgusting diseases of the body? It was the hand of Namira on your shoulder that guided you to that knowledge.
The ultimate expression of the concept of dissolution or decay is found in death, that great unknown where the Reachmen hope, and other races fear, to find Namira.
Namira is the constant companion of every profession that has to deal with things that evoke disgust in most people : doctors, emergency workers, cleaners of all sorts, epidemiologists, funerary workers, journalists covering war, etc. Can she ever become a reassuring presence, a Spirit Queen more than a Void Mother? The answer remains in those corners of our psyches where disgusting things lie, whether they're linked to the twisting of trauma, to instinct, or to our own repulsion for things that we simply don't understand.
Suggestion of a worship practice : confront one of the things that disgust you, whether from close up or from afar, and strive to understand why it is so. Could this thing be, if not beautiful from another point of view, then at least necessary for something or someone, or a valuable cog in some system?
Thank Namira for the eternal rest.
NOCTURNAL – The Prince of Obscurity and Mysteries
Everything shadowy and unknown, everything that is hidden is spiritually a part of Evergloam. To the contrary of Mephala, who deals in secrets, things that can be revealed, Nocturnal deals in mysteries, things that can't be completely revealed without losing their essence and becoming something else than a mystery.
In that sense, one can understand why Nocturnal is revered as one of the oldest of the Daedra. From the beginning of time, some things were unexplained and remain at least partially so. Depending on one's degree of devotion to obscure mysteries, Nocturnal can be said to held sway over Love, Consciousness, Death, or Free Will, things that can't be adequately explained with our limited understanding of the world. To others, whose minds are less mystery-inclined, Nocturnal is a simpler diety, ruling over darkness and shadows, a useful and lucrative patron for people who wish to remain out of the limelight for whatever reason.
Nocturnal is both the mystery and the key to it, but since one is necessary to access the other, it gives birth to a paradox.
In any case, whose who worship Nocturnal are known to be prone to bouts of melancholy prompted by everything they will never discover, and sometimes develop bird-like features.
Suggestion of a worship practice : for three consecutive days, reverse the day/night cycle : live through the night and sleep through the day. During the night, go outside, or open your window, and observe the world around you, taking in whatever thoughts and revelations come to you in that moment.
Thank Nocturnal for hiding the key.
PERYITE – The Prince of Cleaning and Administration
Peryite is the lord of the thankless task, of the laborious separation of the wheat from the chaff, of the sick from the healthy. He does what others consider beneath them.
Peryite is also associated with balance, order and the little cogs that grind every second of every day, without being told to. Some, as the Reachmen, consider him necessary in spite of his association with terrible diseases. (Other worlds have known the touch of Peryite lately, but we do not speak of it.)
The Pits go on endlessly, because the tasks are never over. There is always more to do, more to accomplish, and if there isn't, well then, you can start doing the tasks of tomorrow, so you can better optimize your schedule and have more time to do your tasks of after-tomorrow, thank you very much.
In that sense, Peryite is a depressingly modern Prince. Even his demeanour, famously, is calm collected : why bother with revolt when there's work to do?
Is there life and beauty to be found in the accomplishment of a thankless everyday task? Maybe. While we're looking for it, every person that has to endure day after day of a bullshit job, every parent who has to repeat certain actions incessantly so their child can live safe and free, every bus driver making their rounds day after day, they all have a little office space in their heads where, on a corner of a table, there is a tiny green altar to Peryite.
Suggestion of a worship practice : instead of rushing through a mind-numbing task such as cleaning, or reading and aswering work emails, try to find meaning or purpose in it. Feel the eternity in the endless repetitions of that action happening again and again, stretching through the Pits, and how immortal that makes you feel.
Thank Peryite for always giving you something to do.
SANGUINE – The Prince of Freedom and Senses
There is a type of freedom to be found in following one's immediate desires without thought or planning. As a wise man once said : “give yourself over to absolute pleasure!”
There is freedom of the eyes in looking for whatever you want. There is freedom of the ears in listening to whatever speaks to you. There is freedom of the nose in smelling one's destiny. There is freedom of the mouth in letting in whatever wants in. And, lastly, there is freedom of touch in caressing the shapes of the world.
Some might object that being subjected to one's sensual desires is the opposite of freedom : it is slavery. Sanguine certainly wouldn't agree, and would tell you that freedom is not in a choice made after weighty pondering, but a series of micro-choices made for you by your senses, who know best.
Sanguine has a better reputation among mortals that most, because as human beings, we're eternally blind to the ultimate nature of reality, and, most philosophers would agree, have no access to the “real” world, but only to a version recreated for us by our brains out of the inputs of our senses. There's no getting out of it. And so it pleases us to think that those senses do not mislead us too much, and that there is some wisdom and truth to be found in them.
Sanguine doesn't care about the ultimate nature of reality anyway, and prefers playing with the only one we know. His association with blood is perhaps a metaphor for the lifeforce, which he embodies in the flesh, scoffing at Meridia's thesis about the lifeforce being of a spiritual nature (and throwing tomatoes at her lectures, no doubt).
As long as there is that which is, Sanguine's laugh can be heard in the eternal now.
Suggestion of a worship practice : offer yourself a five day long education of the senses. Look at something pleasant, listen to something pleasant, smell and taste something pleasant, and, lastly, touch something pleasant. Know that it may very well be possible that nothing else exists, or at least, that nothing isn't as real as those feelings.
Thank Sanguine for the song of the blood.
SHEOGORATH : The Prince of Human Psychology and Creativity
What some call madness is just exagerated and more rarely expressed forms of general human cognition. As the protagonist of one tale once said, “Sheogorath has already won, because he's already inside all of us”.
Sheogorath would probably agree with Foucault's analysis of madness as something constructed, deconstructed and reconstructed through the ages to suit society's whims and fears. (Well, he would agree if he cared at all). In fact, one could argue that Foucault mantled Sheogorath to better express his truth : human psychology is just a succession of thoughts, moods and representations which struggle to not fall into the Sithis-shaped hole of the world, and only gain a semblance of legitimacy from being considered as legitimate by a sufficient number of people.
After all, the other coin of madness is creativity, and seeing the world askew is the only real and authentic way to bring something new into it. If Azura is the rim to all holes, that transitory and liminal moment, the glimpse of what might be, Sheogorath is the plunge to the other side, for good or for ill. Where Azura is in some sense the patron of the Arts, that refined and humanized union of talent and perserverance, Sheogorath is the patron of something purer : the creative instinct unburdened by shape or action, the pure will, which can turn to genius or incomprehensible rubbish, or something in between.
Creativity is also more ephemeral than the capital A “Art”. It is the witty turn of phrase said to a friend that's gonna vanish into the air and be forgotten in five minutes time, it's that particular view of the trees seen through the rain seen by that particular human eye – an artpiece for only one mind -, it's the unexpected solution to an everyday problem found when looking at it in a new way.
The creative freedom of Sheogorath rejects the notion that there could be two separate categories : people, and “Artists”. We all produce small pieces of art every day. But is it “Art” to cover a whole village in cheese? Well, we can argue about “Art” all day, but it is undeniably an expression of creativity.
The laugh of Sheogorath can be heard in both the mad and the artistic, and we're all both of those things.
Suggestion of a worship practice : identify a problem, either big or small, that you're currently facing, and come up with seven different ways to resolve it, to see it differently, or to make it worse. Then, represent that same problem in seven different ways : in writing, in drawing, in the form of a sung melody, in mime, as a meal, as a photo of yourself, and as a scream.
Thank Sheogorath for the divided mind.
VAERMINA – The Prince of Fear and Trauma
Have you heard about the three names of dreaming when one's awake ?
A dream can be experienced when one's awake, and it is then called a vision, a hallucination, or a work of art.
The first one suprises, for a vision is always unexpected, and that's how you will know that it is different from a thought. A vision is about being possessed.
The second one confuses, for a hallucination is always uncomprehensible, and that's how you will know that it is different from an image. A hallucination is about being lost.
The last one provokes, for a work of art is always a question, and that's how you will know that it is different from an answer. A work of art is about wandering.
Answer this, then. Where do the possessed, the lost and the wandering go? Why, to Quagmire, of course, where new things are terrors.
On one hand, visiting Quagmire teaches about fear, and fear is an emotion necessary to survival. On the other hand, too much fear or anxiety swings the pendulum the other way, hindering survival by making the one experiencing it irrationaly helpless and focused on imaginary, rather than real, dangers.
Most would argue that it is precisely Vaermina's goal, to drive mortals mad with fear so they become helpless and under her influence. But as with every Prince, their own goals don't preclude mortals from learning from the violent way they embody their sphere. Learning from fear, learning to go forth in spite of it, is probably one of the most beautiful things we can do, and in a way, Vaermina teaches courage and heroism.
Trauma – that which is seen in Vaermina's shimmering visions and that which cannnot be unseen – is a different beast, an eternal return of horror ever anew, happening right now, right this second. Trauma is characterized by the return of the same again and again, until one learns to live with it, and it is no easy task. Maybe Quagmire is the testing factory of our unconscious, and Vaermina, its harsh mistress teaching through psychological suffering, so we never forget that some things are wrong and should never happen, never again, to anyone.
Suggestion of a worship practice : go to therapy, and prepare yourself that it won't be a happy and feel-good experience. Embrace it. Therapy is not some personal development bullshit where someone is trying to make you feel good, and if it is, someone is trying to sell you something. It is waddling through Quagmire and pursuing a faint, far-away light and hoping it won't blink out of sight. But at least you're not alone.
Thank Vaermina for teaching you the fear of the dark.

So as the title implies, I'm on probation. Back in March I was stupid and got a DUI when I only had 4 months left of probation at that time. The DUI was in a different county and has not even been filed yet. I self reported it to my PO per requirements to report any interaction with law enforcement. He said he doesn't want to see me go to jail because honestly I'm a very decent human being who went through a phase (like a lot of people in their 20s) I hold a rather prestigious job for my area.
Anyway, if you've made it this far, will they jusy continue my probation with basically a slap on the wrist? Or more than likely extend it? I should be off in August had I not violated with the DUI... that still isn't filed. But I am going to court in the county I am originally on probation with.
I have a lawyer, mf just barely speaks to me. So, fellow probationees, give me some insight!
And if it matters at all I'm a 27 y/o female

http://under-these-restless-skies.blogspot.com/2014/02/was-anne-boleyn-victim-of-sexual.html
Karen Lindsey, author of Divorced, Beheaded, Survived: A Feminist Reinterpretation of the Wives of Henry VIII puts forth a very interesting opinion on the way we should view Anne Boleyn's time at court:

I was doing an article for Ms. about sexual harassment on the job and reading about Henry's wives in my free time, but it took a while to put together the fact that Ann Boleyn's position as lady-in-waiting to Henry's wife Catherine of Aragon was her job, and that, far from trying to lure Henry away from Catherine, she had spent over a year tactfully trying to repel his sexual advances.
Today, Henry’s approach to Ann would be instantly identifiable as sexual harassment. Ann however, had no social or legal recourse against a the man who ruled the country. She continued, as so many women before and since have done, to dodge her pursuer’s advances while sparing his feelings. It didn’t work.
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It was a hellish position. Could she really tell the king to his face that she had no interest in him? She could reiterate her desire to keep her chastity and her honor, but clearly he didn’t respect that. She could ignore his letters and stay away from court, but he refused to take the hint. To offer him the outright insult he asked for would be to risk not only her own but her father’s and brother’s careers at court. She undoubtedly kept hoping he would tire of the chase and transfer his attentions to some newer lady-in-waiting.

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But he didn't and she was trapped; there was no chance of her making a good marriage when every eligible nobleman knew the king wanted her.

Lindsey is correct that Katharine of Aragon's court was Anne's workplace. Service in a noble court was the 16th century's version of the corporate ladder. The world of the nobility was a system of intricate social stratification where everyone sought employment from the rank above. The Babee's Book laid out this chain of service in example:

Even the duke's son preferred page to the prince, the earl's second son attendant upon the duke, the knight's second son the earl's servant, the esquire's son to wear the knight's livery, and the gentleman's son the esquire's serving-man.

Those who were charming, talented, clever, or amusing, could be promoted with additional job duties and income, or move up to the household of a noble higher in rank.
The duty of service to one's betters was bound up in religious faith. The Tudors believed that God had ordained the social order of the world. A person's status was the position to which God had called them, and so service to their superiors was as service to God.
Only those of the highest pedigree and social connections could hope to find a job serving the king or queen. Anne Boleyn was not titled, but she was the granddaughter of a duke. Her father was a very wealthy and well-connected man who had served as the king's ambassador, and Anne's mother had served Elizabeth of York. Securing Anne a job as a lady in waiting to Queen Katharine was a boon for their family.
Anne was employed in a series of royal households from the time she was a very young child, learning the social graces that would entertain those who employed her. She could dance, play instruments, engage in witty conversation, and was well-read enough to debate on intellectual topics. She was the consummate professional in her work, and remained chaste while she waited for her father to arrange a good marriage for her.
At one point, Anne took the bull by the horns and tried to arrange her own marriage with the son of the Earl of Northumberland. The results were disastrous, as far as her career was concerned. Once it was discovered what she was doing, she was banned from seeing the young man again and sent home to Hever in disgrace. She was fired, in other words.
Her family must have been livid. The match her father had been working on - perhaps unbeknownst to Anne - fell apart. Some scholars believe it might have had something to do with Anne's failed betrothal, but no records exist to explain it. The Butler family may not have wanted the union in the first place, which might have been engineered by Cardinal Wolsey to resolve an inheritance dispute. In any case, Anne now had no job, and no prospects for a husband.
Anne returned to court about a year later. We know nothing of the next two years or so, except what fragments can be deduced from the memories of Thomas Wyatt, as related by his grandson.

There was, at this present, presented to the eye of the court the rare and admirable beauty of the fresh and young Lady Anne Boleigna, to be attending upon the queen. In this noble imp, the graces of nature graced by gracious education, seemed even at the first to have promised bliss unto her aftertimes. She was taken at that time to have a beauty not so whitely as clear and fresh above all we may esteem, which appeared much more excellent by her favour passing sweet and cheerful; and these, both also increased by her noble presence of shape and fashion, representing both mildness and majesty more than can be expressed.

She seems to have been very popular at court. Northumberland's son wasn't the only man who was attracted to Anne. Thomas Wyatt fell in love with her, according to his grandson's book, and several of Wyatt's poems seem to refer to Anne and his unrequited passion for her. But Anne was cautious of her reputation, and rejected Wyatt's advances.
King Henry seems to have noticed Anne in late 1525/early 1526. His favor came with a "promotion" offer for her: an appointment to serve his wife, Katharine of Aragon. Anne wrote the king a letter, thanking him for the appointment. But this promotion came with some drawbacks.
As Karen Lindsey notes, Anne was in a very delicate situation with Henry's favor. Having his interest meant her family's advancement, and indeed, her father and brother received a steady series of gifts, grants, properties and titles, including his long-desired title of Earl of Ormond. Anne herself was showered with gowns and jewels, and fawned over by the court, seeking her favor so she might help advance them as well. Rejecting the king outright would have cut off this flow, and perhaps even set the Boleyn family back to being worse off, if the king became angry about it.
In February 1526, Henry made a public declaration of his interest in Anne, hoping the fawning attention of the court would pressure her into giving into his advances. Anne was suddenly thrust into the international spotlight as Henry's love interest, and suddenly had dozens of new "friends" seeking her favor and trying to use her for their own advancement. And, of course, they encouraged her to accede to the king's wishes. But Anne held firm to her principles. She would not sleep with any man outside the bonds of holy matrimony.
Henry now spent more time in his wife’s quarters than he had in years, but it was to visit Anne where she couldn’t escape his attentions.
In May, it got so bad that Anne actually quit her job as a lady in waiting and retreated to Hever, where she refused to answer Henry’s letters and sent back his gifts. Henry’s letters to her at this point are full of pouting complaints that she won’t write back to him. He claims not to understand it.

I cannot sufficiently marvel at, because I am sure that I have since never done any thing to offend you, and it seems a very poor return for the great love which I bear you to keep me at a distance both from the speech and the person of the woman that I esteem most in the world...

Henry still wouldn’t take “no” for an answer and chased after her. He went to stay with a cousin of Anne, Nicholas Carew, whose house was a convenient distance from Hever so he could ride over at his leisure. Anne could not refuse to receive him at the house. She refused wherever she had agency, but in this she did not. No one could refuse the king admittance.
When Anne did return to court, she had to face a great deal of hostility. Those still loyal to Katharine of Aragon despised Anne for "luring" the king away from his wife. Anne had enemies she'd never even met, people who hated her for everything she represented, who twisted her words and spread malicious gossip about her throughout Europe. Courtiers who smiled at her and bowed whispered behind their hands. Families were divided as religious reformers sided with the Boleyn faction, and the conservatives sided with Katharine.
But the greatest problem was that no man would seek Anne's hand in marriage while the king was pursuing her, certainly, and not after he lost interest, either. Few people believed Anne was still a virgin, and her reputation was in tatters around Europe. Around the time the king decided he wanted to marry her, Anne may have realized herself that she would marry the king, or have to remain unwed, a burden on her family.
Thomas Boleyn has been portrayed as grasping and heartless, selling his daughters like a common pimp, but truthfully, he had little say in the matter, either. It wasn't only his fortunes at stake, but the entire future of the Boleyn family. If he'd had a choice, he probably would have wished Anne would give in and become the king's mistress, because Henry tended to find respectable husbands for the women he bedded once he was done. But Anne's religious convictions were too strong for that.
Anne was, indeed, trapped. She could not risk offending her "boss" and losing her job with her entire family's future at stake. Whether she liked it or not, she had to keep the king's favor. It was upward toward the throne or utter ruin. Anne Boleyn never really had a choice.

TLDR at the bottom.
My (27M) mother-in-law (92F) is in the hospital for at least the next week getting treatment, her nephew (50 possibly 60 M) has been staying with her the last few months but as of late has been acting strange, & neither me nor my wife (26F) know him that well.
First off, my mother-in-law is my wife's adoptive mother. She adopted my wife's birth mother, then my wife at age 12 after her birth mother was deemed incapable of caring for her daughter. I'll refer to her as my mother-in-law or my wife's mom. Secondly, my wife is her mom's power of attorney.
My mother-in-law is infamous for being naive, letting people take advantage of her for my wife & I to come clean up the mess. We've tried to get her to move in with us, or move into assisted living near our home but she refuses. She's still of sound & mind about 80% of the time, she handles all her own finances, groceries, takes care of three cats & a dog, usually without help because she doesn't allow anyone to.
But if an outcasted family member (usually from drugs, being abusive, or both) comes along with a sob story, she opens the door & lets them either live with her or come in anytime they want. Currently it's her nephew, who at the time of letting him in, had recently made an attempt at his own life.
He used to be a contractor & actually spent most of his time fixing up things around her house, the main project being her fireplace. Since then he has started working on clearing out the garage, one that my deceased father-in-law had hoarded an unfathomable amount of junk in, along with possible sentimental or even valuable items. It's kind of like a few golden needles in the biggest hay stack I've ever seen.
While my mother-in-law has been in the hospital, he's continued to clear out the garage & also had two men we've never met before in her backyard. I confronted them & the other two men left, while her nephew became suddenly emotional about his aunt's wellbeing, & also about me being slightly suspicious of him continuing to clear out the garage while she's in the hospital. Any time it's brought up that we just want to make sure nothing of sentimental or monetary value owned by her is mistakenly hauled off, he thinks we're accusing him of stealing & begins to cry.
On top of that issue, according to my wife & my mother-in-law's sisters, he has been sleeping most of the day & up all night. He wouldn't even wake up when they first took her to the hospital, only after to be upset that the stray dog he'd picked up had been accused of trying to bite family members while trying to get all the pets out of the living room before the paramedics to showed up. He also claimed to believe that the next day my wife & her mom were sleeping in her room all day, & that he didn't know she was in the hospital.
I talked to him on my own, appearing more open so he would talk to me & most of everything he said contradicted what happened or what I had heard from my wife or her aunts.
He has somewhat of criminal history & drug abuse, currently has warrants in a different county for fishing without a license & driving an ATV on private property. My wife looked into his room, which is her old room when she lived at home that actually still has some of her stuff in the closet. She saw a few strange items (a torch, a butter knife, notepads with stuff scribbled all over & several pens, some sort of red light newly installed on the wall) & it was so messy the entire floor was occupied with stuff. But no actual proof, because she didn't want to search the room & alarm him.
Lastly, we found the deed to her home, another property she owns, & something called a "quit claim deed" that was blank, all in a plastic sack on her kitchen table this morning. This was not there yesterday. We took that with us on our way to the hospital today.
I may be leaving out some details, I spent about an hour typing this to make sure I got everything right, but it's been a long three days. My wife has dealt with her brother as an addict, & her birth mother before she passed away. But this situation is completely new to both of us & are not entirely sure what to do, or what we even can do before something goes wrong. We're also worried even if we do get him out of the house, that she'll let him right back in when she gets better. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TLDR: My mother-in-law is in the hospital, her nephew is being suspicious as far as her property & what's on it, also is possible back on drugs. My wife is her power of attorney, & are looking for advice on what we can or can't do about getting him out of the house permanently.

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Northern Ultralight Sundown - $225 - The pack was ordered with two hip belt pockets and the top y-strap - Size large (19.5”-22”) - Hip belt size small (28”-38”) - Kitchen scale shows 29oz with hip belt pockets - some use (3 nights), but like new condition
Palante Desert Pack - $200 - White Ultraweave - 17" torso - Kitchen scale says 19.3oz (damn close to the claimed weight, so that's cool) - Never used. Loaded it up many times in the house, but am just not UL enough to commit to frameless. There is a very small stain/discoloration on the left pocket (pictured). It's literally been in a closet, so I'm not sure what this is. Dirt from other gear, maybe?
Thrupack Brick 2L - $50 - "classic" attachment style - Easy-Access Pocket - Front packet (cats!) - White Challenge Ultra 200 - Standard 1" hip belt - 3.8oz - Used on a couple overnighters (2 nights out), but in pretty decent shape. The bottom of it is ever so slightly dirty from being on the ground in the vestibule.
Garmin Etrex 22x - $150 - 5.8oz - https://www.garmin.com/en-US/p/669244 - Two new batteries - Used this on a 2-week bike packing trip in 2019, but never really used it after that.
All prices include shipping within the US. I'm willing to ship abroad if needed, but I'm not willing to foot the bill for any additional shipping charges. Reach out and we can discuss price+logistics of shipping wherever.

Hi all! Your favorite legal nerd here bringing you what you need to know about MI Personal Protection Orders - Non-Domestic, Stalking so you are ready for court tomorrow.
In Macomb County this type of case is a non-public case. Unclear if that means it will not be live for the public to join, or if the case details just aren't posted publicly or something else.
The PPO was filed in the 16th district court -Macomb County. I didn't see a link to watch this court on the MI Courts site, but there is a link here: https://circuitcourt.macombgov.org/CircuitCourt-Home?webdesign=adaptive
Details about court process in the comments ⬇️ (From Michigan Legal Help) Disclaimer: this is for entertainment purposes only and is not intended to serve as legal advice.

Salamoona,
We started this sub six years ago because we got tired of seeing Pashtuns/Afghans scattered in spaces racked by infighting and toxicity. Our goal was to create a small forum for our people to get together in a fun environment away from all that. I'd like to think we've achieved that for the most part, thanks to the 99% of users who are perfectly normal individuals.
Sometimes however we get users who come in to stir the pot. Usually these are newer accounts that will attack all Pashtuns on one side of the Durand Line, claiming to speak on behalf of Pashtuns on the other side. While it's clear these are trolls (often outsiders), more and more we're seeing established, well-meaning users take the bait only to make the situation worse.
That is unacceptable and will result in a ban if it becomes a persisting issue. This isn't TikTok where diasporic kids tear each other apart based on British lines on a map. Generalizing and attacking Pashtuns is never allowed here. If you see that here, just report instead of engaging.
Now we're not so naive as to believe in Pashtun unity above all else. Of course we want nothing to do with the many Pashtuns out there who actively harm our interests. Therefore this sub supports unity around a basic pro-Pashtun position: promoting our language, preserving our traditions, and opposing anti-Pashtun state violence. If you are a Pashtun/Afghan (lar or bar, in the watan or diaspora, religious or secular, regardless of tribe) you are always welcome as long as you have no problem with these basic pro-Pashtun positions.
Manana 🙏