Sunday Vibes....
41yo man in uniform looking for love
You Should Want to Get to Know Me Because:*

• handsome and fit, can pull you up when dangling off a collapsed bridge - taller than you
• my mom says im smart and funny
• monogamous, trustworthy and honest...maybe to a fault
• going to pet all your animals
• sweet, kind and nurturing - also opinionated, strong willed and not a pushover
• romantic
• great listener, very curious and supportive - interested in psychology and mental health issues
• likes to have anything from silly to deep conversations - knows how to keep a conversation going
• YEP, still makes the best lasagna
• physically affectionate and cuddly

I Want to Get to Know You If:

• single only!!
• likes to cuddle and affectionate
• willing to put effort into building a meaningful connection - either relationship or friendship
• doesn't take everything too seriously/literally - knows how to joke around.

Growing up in a situation where i never had the newest clothes or a full fridge all the time and lots of hand-me-downs, along with lots of frugal nights. Anytime I gain the littest amount of money, and can buy myself something as simple as an ice-cream cone, it really makes me appreciate all those times where the simplicity of ice cream and anything was not attainable for me. Knowing i was at that low of a place gives me such a great sense of appreciation for the small things; and although I would not of preferred to be in a low income state (still am) I can now atleast afford the smallest of items, and im truly greatful for all of it.
Word vomit, I know, just wanted to show some appreciation for the small things in life and see if anyone can relate:)

Our marriage is most certainly being put through the ultimate stress test this year.
We’re pregnant with my first baby (husband has another child that he has 50/50 custody of) and I won’t be working for a year after she arrives. We currently rent a small two bedroom and desperately need a bigger place.
My husband is under so much stress and I don’t feel there’s anything I can do. He works a physically demanding job and has to wake up early. He’s tired constantly and the stress of trying to find us a new place is eating away at him. Sometimes it feels like it’s eating away at our marriage, too.
We’re trying to decide if we should rent in our city, or move to a town an hour away to buy. We can’t afford to buy in our city.
We’d be getting more value for our money if we move out of town (bigger house, land, and we’d be able to build equity for the future) but he’d have to commute back to our current town for work. That’s two hrs of driving each day.
I’d also have to make the commute every other week, with my newborn, to get my stepson to school. And there’s the high risk that as my stepson gets older, he’ll want to live with his mom, in town, by his friends and his school, instead.
Renting in town would overall be a few hundred dollars a month cheaper, and our financial quality of life would be less stressful, but there’s always a risk of rent increase. My husband is seriously afraid that if we don’t buy now, we’ll never be able to. He desperately, desperately wants to own a home, and he is angry at himself for not buying when the market was better a few years back.
He’s occasionally been impatient and irritable with me over the last couple of months. I know he’s just under a ton of stress, but it’s hard to not take it personally. I wish we weren’t in this situation so I wouldn’t feel so stressed in my last trimester of pregnancy. Sometimes, I feel alone, but I know he feels alone too, with our family’s financial well-being resting squarely on his shoulders. I don’t know what to do. I’m just trying to be there for him, and support him.
I’m at the point where I really don’t care either way what we end up doing. I don’t mind if i have to drive two hours each day every other week with a new baby. If moving outside our city and commuting, so we can buy, is what he thinks is best for our long term financial stability then I’ll trust him on that. I just want whatever decision we decide to be something he can live with, and for this transitional period of our life to be over with.

To give some background to why this skill feat is being made, my friend will friend will running a game soon set in a flooded world where the main antagonist are a water cult where we eventually plan to go back in time to stop them from flooding the world, needless to say there will be a lot of water combat, so I wish to make a skill feat for mages that helps getting over someone of the rough edges of underwater combat for casters like unwater Marauder does for martials, we party only has 2 bouned casters for magic (me a goblin magus, and a Cleric+ armorclad warprist battle Zoo Green Dragon) so we can't afford or be spamming out water breathing every fight likes it's going out of style
Boiling Humm feat 1
General, skill
Prerequisites trained in Arcana, Nature, Occultism, or Religion
Water is no hamper to your magic and you can hold your breath while casting spells, you can cast spells with the fire trait underwater and you spells ignore the usual resistances from a creature being underwater, finally you no longer loose all remaining air when casting a spell with a verbal components
I want to ask if this is a normal power level for a first level skill feat, my GM is open to it but he still doesn't have a full handle the balance of the system (he's played a barbarian 2 to 16 though so he's not lost or anything)

I'm trying to get back into watching TTT but am quite confused about some of the new stuff, was wondering it I could get a basic recap of new roles/rules and just anything good to know. Last time I watched was around when they added in the romantic (dies if their assigned person dies). Thank you for any help, much appreciated.

I have never been one to ask for help but this time I am at my wits end and I hope that the universe will hear me out. I recently moved out from a very abusive relationship and started over from scratch. It wasn't easy. Every day I second guessed myself but took it one day at a time.
When I moved I had nothing and used all my savings to find a roof over my head. I am working two jobs and my latest pay was used to cover my extensive medical bills. Yesterday night, I got robbed at gun point when going back home and I lost all my valuables including my phone( it took me 8 months to be able to save and afford that phone) and money. I am very frustrated and hurt. I am writing this seeking help from anyone who'll be touched.
Any form of help will be appreciated as I try to get back to my feet. I don't know where my next meal will come from or how I'll be able to work without my devices. As I figure it out, I am requesting for help. May your cups always overflow in abundance.

[This is a translated excerpt from Clemens Traub’s “Future for Fridays?”. It’s a reflection about his time as an activist in “Fridays for Future” – the German branch of “School Strike for Climate”. The specific problem of western environmentalism discussed therein is germane to the issue of dysfunctional leftism often discussed on stupidpol and as far as I can tell nothing of this unique to Germany. The book is from 2020 and by now the movement “Fridays for Future” basically defunct. Meanwhile, the preferred tactic of current activists is it to glue themselves on main roads during rush hour. This protest method obviously affects working class people most, who have to physically show up at work (and often have to use cars to do so), and is less disruptive for the WFH email caste. The result of this is, surprisingly, a staggering 80+% disapproval rating for the climate organization “Last Generation” which is doing this.]
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I know the typical milieu of most “Fridays for Future” protesters well. In a way, it's my own and that of my current circle of friends: metropolitan, left-liberal, hip. A space for the daughters of doctors to meet the sons of lawyers. Gin tasting and discussions about plastic-free shopping and zero waste are equally high on the agenda. Veganism is as much part of the unspoken code of being trendy as frequenting second-hand shops. And the organic grocery store around the corner naturally enhances the location of your own home.
The offspring of the professional class keep to themselves. Does the climate movement represent a cross-section of society? Not even close! Fridays for Future is the rebellion of the privileged, and the movement offers them the perfect opportunity to flaunt their own cosmopolitan lifestyle and talent.
Many of my climate-concerned friends are questioning whether the social background of the demonstrators matters at all. Isn't that absolutely unimportant? The main thing, they are convinced, is that the earth is saved. It doesn't matter by whom. The population has been silent for long enough, and now it is finally time to stand up.
I admit that the consistency of this chain of thought was extremely appealing to me and that using social origin as an argument against a group is of course nonsensical. The outlined combative spirit also enthralled me at first. At the beginning of my participation in "Fridays for Future", saving the world was the only thing that counted for me. It didn’t matter who stood by my side. And it still wouldn’t matter for me today.
But what matters to me is the behavior and reasoning of the people protesting with me. And here the circle closes, because the social background reveals more about the movement than the demonstrators would like to admit.
In fact, I take the view that the exclusive social background of the young protesters is the actual birth defect of "Fridays for Future". But because the movement was far too homogeneous, far too elitist and correspondingly far too aloof right from the start, its members remained oblivious to it. Ultimately, only those who are doing well in material terms have the time and leisure to consider climate protection as the most important and also the only political issue of our time and to subordinate everything else to it.
Located in its ivory tower, the movement doesn't even notice that its criticism is leveled at the lifestyle of many economically disadvantaged people, who for financial reasons do not always have a choice. They are denounced as climate sinners because they don't shop in health food stores but at discounters. It never occurs to the demonstrators that there are people whose worries about ever-increasing electricity bills and rental charges make a discussion about forgoing air travel irrelevant from the outset.
And how could they? In their sheltered world, all of that is very far away. But that is exactly what makes the movement a risk, because it jeopardizes the already fragile cohesion of our society. For a large part of the population, however, other, more pressing everyday concerns prevail. For those who are afraid of being affected by job cuts in view of the announcements by the industry, the slashing and burning of tropical rain forest is currently of secondary importance.
Likewise, the extinction of exotic animal species is very far away for someone who worries every day about their tenuous retirement arrangements. That doesn't mean that everyday worries should completely obscure the problems of climate change, but it does explain why climate change is not the first priority for people with existential concerns.
It also explains why measures to save the climate must take economic concerns into account. And it explains why more and more people are wondering whether protesters will finally also take to the streets to deal with their everyday distress: lack affordable housing, declining pensions... plenty of issues exist.
The entire political discourse, both between the parties and outside of parliament, on the street, completely ignores the reality of life for many people in Germany! And I can well imagine that that's not a good feeling for many. The public discussions, which are often far removed from everyday life, exclude less privileged people. The result: we are all sitting on a social powder keg.
I don't originally hail from this metropolitan milieu, but grew up in a region that is often dismissed as "rural backwater". Publications such as "Landlust" and "Landleben" [trendy magazines promoting life in the country side] fulfill the longing of city dwellers for pure nature, but this dream only seems to apply to those people who consciously decide to have a weekend house in the forest. However, anyone who grew up in a rural environment will hardly benefit from this.
My parents live in the Palatinate. I grew up there too. My heart clings to the region, it is scenically beautiful with rows of wine-growing villages. But for an urbanite in pursuit of self-actualization it has to be the worst nightmare. In case your are unfamiliar with Palatinate’s culture: Schlachtfest instead of whiskey tasting. Very few apartments are actually furnished in this “country style” featured in the magazines. My home village isn’t shooting location for documentaries about gentrification. Maybe a camera team will get lost in one of our many hamlets at a Saumagen-centered village festival. But that would be pretty rare.
Drowsy villages provide the perfect backdrop while growing up. An ideal, idyllic world. But the older I got, the more I was drawn to the big city. I longed for a place that was more vibrant than the Palatinate and which could offer me more adventures and opportunities on the way to adulthood. Precisely this big, wide world I longed for. And I today I indeed enjoy its advantages. Whenever I drive home today, I have a feeling that two worlds that don't really have much to do with each other are colliding.
Shortly after attending my first Fridays for Future rallies, I paid another visit to my old homeland – these are becoming less and less frequent. When I enthusiastically told my acquaintances there about my experiences at the recent "Fridays for Future" demonstrations, I quickly realized how little they were interested. Out of pure friendship and politeness, they listened to me with half an ear.
I was quite surprised by that. What was the most hotly debated topic of recent weeks in my university town was met with absolute indifference among my old school friends here. They were more interested in the last day of the Bundesliga match or their last Tinder date than in the great climate revolution.
To be honest, I was initially disappointed and then increasingly angry at this lack of interest. While we young people in the big cities are trying to save our planet, the people in my home village are letting us down, I thought. Don't they understand that they too only have one planet at their disposal, just like us from "Fridays for Future"? Luckily, out of politeness, I kept those thoughts to myself.
In the days that followed, I started hearing disparaging comments about Fridays for Future with increasing frequency. In the eyes of my old friends, the movement was an "eco-sect", the self-promotion of big-city, left-wing weirdos. Someone called Greta Thunberg a "deranged menace". In addition to insults, they appeared to become increasingly bothered by the patronizing demeanor of many Fridays for Future protesters, who seem to perceive ICE-car drivers and meat eaters as second-class citizens.
The more often this happened, the deeper the wedge was driven between my current city life and my origins in my home village in the Palatinate. Between my old and my new world. For the first time in my life, I was just happy when I was able to drive back to the big city: finally the ideal world again, even if it was on the verge of collapse.
Ever since that visit, I've been quite hypersensitive whenever my enthusiasm for "Fridays for Future" wasn't shared 100 percent. In my eyes, there were simply only climate heroes on the one hand and climate sinners on the other. The absolute good or absolute bad – and nothing in between! It was only later that I realized how much I was already influenced by the “Fridays for Future” movement.
At first I could only offer my my old acquaintances reproaches. I accused them of being apolitical and uninformed about the world anyway. A mechanism of exclusion that is very common in "Fridays for Future", as I later realized. After all, at university I even mocked my old acquaintances as provincials, something I had always hated myself when my new metropolitan friends teased me about it.
But it was so much easier to just dismiss them as uninformed "provincials" than to argue with them and take them seriously. I didn't ask why my friends from my old home country saw "Fridays for Future" as arrogant or aloof, I didn't care at the time. Possible self-doubts could not arise in the first place.
I didn't anticipate, that this would actually fiercely play up in me over the coming weeks! I thought more and more about the experiences in my home country. It just wouldn't let me go. Where does the rejection of “Fridays for Future” come from, I asked myself. Where does the indifference in the face of urgent global climate problems come from? How could it be that my friends didn't see those and that they didn't comprehend the seriousness of the situation? I looked for answers but couldn't find any.
For several weeks, every Friday, there was no longer any plastic dishware in the university cafeteria. This gesture, following the "Fridays for Future" demonstrations, was intended to set an example for environmental protection. What should have caused storms of enthusiasm in theory, however, meant a very special kind of chaos in practice: balancing a piece of raspberry cake on your bare hand without a plate is more difficult than it might sound. Once the first piece of cake hit the floor, a discussion about the plastic boycott quickly broke out in the canteen.
It immediately turned out that the cashiers could only laugh at what they considered to be an idiotic ban on plastic. Their statements shocked many of my fellow students, who are big "FfF" fans. Instead of relaxed humorous small talk, my fellow students reacted with deadly seriousness. In the heat of the moment, the cashiers were even treated with extremely condescending insults. I will never forget how my fellow students lost all human decency that day in the supposed fight for climate protection. For the first time I noticed how fanatical and arrogant many of my "FfF" acquaintances had long since become.
After that event, something actually changed in me. But I didn't want to admit it to myself at first. But the more often I demonstrated at "Fridays for Future", the more alien the movement became to me. Today I know: It took an event like the one in the university canteen or a stay in my old home country to open my eyes and to realize how important sincerely attempting to understand other realms of experience before applying crude labels to people. Due to its exclusionary megalomania, “Fridays for Future” is incapable of this realization. But only a person who approaches other people, takes them seriously and wants to understand their everyday lives will be listened to. Only those people can actually affect something. They might even, in the best case scenario, save our planet!
While "Fridays for Future" was unable to make inroads my home village’s community, the media was showed more interest. Interviews with activists became more and more frequent on television. The talk shows couldn't get enough of them. "Markus Lanz", "Anne Will" or "Hart aber Fair": All of them had at least one "FfF" activist to visit. The more I saw them there, the more their arrogant demeanor bothered me. I suddenly switched off people who I still saw as inspiring personalities a few months ago. They kept raising their index fingers admonishingly. Looking down from the ivory tower at anyone who disagreed.
That finger wagging was slowly but surely becoming the hallmark of the movement. Their image of the enemy was crystal clear. Their worldview is dangerously one-dimensional. My big city friends suddenly fought everyone they saw as complicit in the misery of the world: the meat eaters, the plastic bag carriers, the ICE-car drivers, the short-haul fliers, the long-haul fliers, the cruise tourists, the farmers, and of course the evil SUV owners. But honestly, don't we all belong to one of these groups from time to time?
Once they suddenly started cursing anyone who accidentally commits a tiny climate sin, even if it's just incorrect sorting of trash, I felt like they were in the ultimate battle against the rest of humanity. Elitist hubris everywhere I looked. In their moral arrogance they were (and still are) completely unaware of how many "normal" people they alienated by doing so. My assessment that "Fridays for Future" is primarily a movement of socially privileged young people has now been backed up by corresponding figures. The Berlin “Institute for Protest and Movement Research” got to the bottom of the social composition of the climate movement. On March 15, 2019, it surveyed “Fridays for Future” protesters at rallies in Berlin and Bremen. The study was financed by the Bündnis 90/Die Grünen-affiliated "Heinrich Böll Foundation".
The study’s results were illuminating: More than 90 percent of those surveyed stated that they had at least completed their Abitur (or advanced technical college entrance qualification) or were currently striving to do so. An overwhelming majority of 90 percent! Not even 1 percent of the demonstrators attended secondary schools [which prepare pupils for non-academic vocational training]. Almost two-thirds of the students considered themselves to be in the upper-middle class. Even before that, I had no doubt that "Fridays for Future" is a movement of the affluent. But what I read in this study surpassed my guesses. "Fridays for Future" does not even begin to embody the cross-section of society, as has often been claimed.
I was surprised how little the sobering result of the study was then discussed. Society had to be informed about the privileged background and the resulting aloofness of the young protesters. Doesn't this change the entire perspective on the defining social debate of the last few months?
The figureheads of the movement in particular all come from the “most bourgeois” background. For example, we have Luisa Neubauer, the best-known German "Fridays for Future" activist. She grew up in the relatively expensive Elbe suburb of Iserbrook in Hamburg. Everyone in Hamburg knows: Not exactly a residential area that is known for its social housing. She did her Abitur in Hamburg-Blankenese. It is Hamburg's villa district par excellence. Sightseeing buses now offer tours through the district to present the magnificent villas to curious tourists. She is a scholarship holder of the party-affiliated foundation Bündnis 90/Die Grünen and is also a member of the party. So nothing stands in the way of a career in politics, she says so herself. "I don't want to rule out a career in politics," she told Zeit Campus, for example. [Neubauer is, in fact, a scion of the oligarchical Reemtsma clan; so is her cousin, another figurehead of the movement]
It’s less a rebellion from below and more a case of perfect self-marketing. But now cracks do appear in this underdog stage production. Today Luisa Neubauer can only be reached via her management. Demonstrators as pop stars! And of course you can't just talk to them on the street when you're demonstrating together. At least not with “Fridays for Future”. Please, what a naive notion! Although there are also critics of the excessive portrayal of people within the "Fridays for Future" movement, there is no real change in sight.
In the meantime, the climate movement has become one thing in particular: a career springboard for ambitious young elites. "Fridays for Future" is the perfect stage to make a name for yourself. Many of the educated offspring of academics are of course aware of this. The more media attention, the more attractive it is to be in the front row. Supposedly idealistic activism can now be marketed very well.
But not only the figureheads like Luisa Neubauer want to get some of the public spotlight. More and more "Neubauer disciples" are trying their luck in the "Fridays for Future" profiling machine. There we have, to name just a few examples, Linus Steinmetz, Carla Reemtsma or Sebastian Grieme.
Getting an appearance on a talk show or at least being able to read your name in the newspaper - all of this can become an opportunity of a lifetime. Being in the front row not only feels incredibly good, it is also a kind of free ticket for later professional life. And as if that wasn't enough: A flood of new Instagram followers is of course also a fantastic side effect. With this in mind: full speed ahead!
Who could object? Everyone is looking for recognition. Doesn't everyone want to take advantage of the opportunities in their life? And finally, every society needs ambitious young people who will later enrich politics, business and culture.
At best, people who want to be the center of attention also bear responsibility for themselves and others. So far no problem, you might think at first.
But how will many people with limited financial resources feel when those rebels who constantly lash out at the lifestyles of others take advantage of it for themselves? While many citizens have to accept new climate costs in their everyday lives, they also experience how Luisa Neubauer is offered a position on the supervisory board at Siemens. In view of this, the suspicion of many people that climate activists are making careers at the expense of other citizens is all too understandable.
I have other concerns as well. In our time, the frustration with the elites is growing. The "enraged citizen phenomenon" has become one of the most discussed topics of this decade. Intellectuals around the world are concerned about the cause of this worrying development. Our society is currently experiencing a "rift" between two major population groups. In an anthology they edited, the political and social scientists Wolfgang Merkel, Ruud Koopmans and Michael Zürn differentiate between “cosmopolitans” and “communitarians”.
There are those who benefit from the future and are therefore relaxed about it. Above all, they see opportunities in it and view the globalization of our world with optimism. This group is referred to as cosmopolitans. But many people are also afraid of change. They believe that the future will not hold anything good and, potentially, only the ever-possible economic decline. Given the "opening" of the world, communitarians see the dangers in particular. They often have the feeling that they are not really noticed by society's elite.
The well-known distinction between “anywheres” and “somewheres” by the British journalist and author David Goodhart supports this finding. Goodhart distinguishes "anywheres" who are educated, wealthy and will feel at home in their circles around the world, and "somewheres". They belong to completely different social milieus and are relegated to a specific place where they work, live, have their friends and struggle to assert their status.
Most "Fridays for Future" activists know: the future belongs to them. Many have the classic biography of a cosmopolitan. Because of their social background, they were born with everything they needed to benefit from our system. Everything is just right: the appearance, the social environment and of course the education.
Although they face the end of the world as a constant threat, their future does not scare them. Why? The doors are wide open for them. They master the complicated rules of our individualized knowledge society very well. You will do your internship in Brussels and not in Bottrop. Better the EU Commission than retail, a sector without future anyway. And also: cultivate connections! Your English vocabulary is usually larger than German. Perfectly prepared for the future, come what may - because they are the elite of tomorrow. The dangerous thing about it: most of the demonstrators are not even aware of this.
The well-trained "Fridays for Future" activists prefer to see themselves as misunderstood outsiders in society. Being an outsider is what makes rebellion sexy. At the same time I say to myself: What must a socially disadvantaged person think when suddenly wealthy cosmopolitans like to play the role of the outsider! And they don't just like it the role. No, they are really putting effort into staging it.
The classic distribution of roles between "perpetrator" and "victim" in the social context is thus turned upside down in a negligent manner: no longer the single mother and multi-jobber is seen as a victim of the existing social conditions, but the climate-conscious scholarship holder who has to experience how the consumption of affordable meat endangers our environment.
But that's not all: instead of listening to the concerns of hard-working people, they blame them for their environmentally unfriendly diesel car, which they need for their daily commute to work.
Instead of considering questions of justice with "Fridays for Future", the movement reduced itself from the start to questions of lifestyle. In my circle of friends, too, the extinction of species is simply cooler than poverty in old age and the issue of gender is hipper than low basic pension.
Above all, the privileged know the social code of the new “morally good” life. The new green-bourgeois bearing regulates the friend-foe scheme of the climate debate. A mechanism of exclusion that often pushes fellow citizens who are already worse off even further aside. A good person has long been only someone who can show an ecologically sound certificate of good conduct. The existential feeling of many that they just have to somehow make ends meet does not exist in the living environment of the (upper) bourgeois offspring. In the climate debate of the last few months, worlds have collided that couldn't be more different. Worlds that are moving further and further apart.
[The author doesn’t mention it, but the social milieu that makes up the bulk of the climate movement is also very fond of importing anglo-inspired race discourse. Towards the end of its decline, they were increasingly caught in purity spirals. For example: should white musicians with dreadlocks be allowed to play during happenings?
The study from “Institute for Protest and Movement Research” also examined ethnicity of the protesters: they are predominantly of ethnic German stock, much more so than the average German citizen. Who could have known?]

Governor Tim Walz was my house rep. He was one of the 10-20 most conservative democrats in the house. Refused to sponsor MFA. Among many other terrible stances he had. I campaigned strongly against him in the 2018 primary.
He just had a legislative session that any reasonable progressive would be deeply impressed by.
Free school meals, legal weed, paid family leave, strong union protections, end to non-compete, drivers licenses for noncitizens, more affordable/free college, teachers being able to negotiate class sizes, gun reform, abortion rights, LGBT protections, and being a sanctuary state for both abortion and gender affirming care, etc.
If every progressive in Minnesota followed the strategy pushed by some on the left of “don’t vote for moderates” after Walz beat strong progressive Erin Murphy in the primary, then instead of having arguably the most impressive legislative session of any state in recent memory, we would’ve had a republican governor and literally none of this passes and probably much worse stuff gets passed.
This is a real world example of voting blue no matter who directly benefitting people not just of Minnesota. But the ridiculous legislation targeted at trans youth and women in Iowa, North/South Dakota.. now they have the right to come to this state and receive that care. Which they wouldn’t have had without a historically moderate Tim Walz as Governor.

I'm honestly tired by barbers messing up my hair. Does someone have a recommendation for an affordable English speaking barber? My hair is extremely straight and Asian looking. On a serious note can anyone just randomly start a saloon? I cut my hair once in 4 months I let it grow and in this time period I also cut it bits here and there but after 4 months I have to see a barber but it just gives me anxiety and fear to visit one in this country.

Hiya people, how've you been? I hope you're having a wonderful day. 😊
Btw, I'd love to have invisibility or teleportation, IMO it's awesome.
I'm just a guy who loves learning new languages and hopes to become a polyglot and a translator someday. I'm here to to find my soulmate, someone who will make my days better and my life colorfull, someone who will be my safe point and that I'll be able to love with everything I've got, without holding back any feelings. Anyway, I'm looking for a long term LDR that could lead to something more, I don't like this hook up culture thing at all.
Here are some things about me so you can get to know me better:

• I'm 5'7 (1.70 cm) tall, with white skin, short brown hair, brown eyes, and a little bit chubby 167lbs (76 kg), but I'm working out to get in better shape. We can exchange pictures early on to get to know each other better, as physical attraction is kinda important.
• As you already know I love learning new languages, I already now Portuguese (my native language), English (still working on it), and a little of Spanish and LIBRAS (Brazilian Sign Language), but I have plans to learn more in the future.
• I love watching animes, series, and sitcoms; reading books and manga; enjoying memes; practicing meditation, and so on.
• I love dogs, ducks, and I don't like cats that much.
• Strictly monogamous.
• Sometimes can get attached to people easily.
• I neither smoke nor drink alcohol.

What do I want from you? Well... I'm looking for someone who's just as romantic, lovey-dovey, and clingy as I am, the rest we can work out gradually.
My dealbreakers (because we all have things that we don't like, right?):

• Smoke or 420 friendly (gosh I hate it).
• Drink too much.
• I'm a super lovey-dovey guy like "uwu I luv u sweetie pie," so if you don't like it, unfortunately, I'm not for you.
• If you don't like to give and take affection.
• Don't wanna have kids.
• Older than 28.
• Takes too long to reply.

If you've reached this far, congratulations! I'd love to talk to you, maybe I'm your soulmate and you don't even know it yet lol. Anyway, hit me up anytime. 🥰
Wait! Just one more thing before you talk to me, I know I'm not the best person to talk to, but I'll try my best, so be patient with me. And I'm not that fluent in English yet, so be aware of it, and PLEASE don't let me do all the talking lol. 😂

Hiya people, how've you been? I hope you're having a wonderful day. 😊
Btw, I'd love to have invisibility or teleportation, IMO it's awesome.
I'm just a guy who loves learning new languages and hopes to become a polyglot and a translator someday. I'm here to to find my soulmate, someone who will make my days better and my life colorfull, someone who will be my safe point and that I'll be able to love with everything I've got, without holding back any feelings. Anyway, I'm looking for a long term LDR that could lead to something more, I don't like this hook up culture thing at all.
Here are some things about me so you can get to know me better:

• I'm 5'7 (1.70 cm) tall, with white skin, short brown hair, brown eyes, and a little bit chubby 167lbs (76 kg), but I'm working out to get in better shape. We can exchange pictures early on to get to know each other better, as physical attraction is kinda important.
• As you already know I love learning new languages, I already now Portuguese (my native language), English (still working on it), and a little of Spanish and LIBRAS (Brazilian Sign Language), but I have plans to learn more in the future.
• I love watching animes, series, and sitcoms; reading books and manga; enjoying memes; practicing meditation, and so on.
• I love dogs, ducks, and I don't like cats that much.
• Strictly monogamous.
• Sometimes can get attached to people easily.
• I neither smoke nor drink alcohol.

What do I want from you? Well... I'm looking for someone who's just as romantic, lovey-dovey, and clingy as I am, the rest we can work out gradually.
My dealbreakers (because we all have things that we don't like, right?):

• Smoke or 420 friendly (gosh I hate it).
• Drink too much.
• I'm a super lovey-dovey guy like "uwu I luv u sweetie pie," so if you don't like it, unfortunately, I'm not for you.
• If you don't like to give and take affection.
• Don't wanna have kids.
• Older than 28.
• Takes too long to reply.

If you've reached this far, congratulations! I'd love to talk to you, maybe I'm your soulmate and you don't even know it yet lol. Anyway, hit me up anytime. 🥰
Wait! Just one more thing before you talk to me, I know I'm not the best person to talk to, but I'll try my best, so be patient with me. And I'm not that fluent in English yet, so be aware of it, and PLEASE don't let me do all the talking lol. 😂

TL;DR: I (25F) am in a new relationship and my best friend (24F) is extremely possessive, passive aggressive, and weird about it.
My best friend and I have been extremely close since we were about 13. We‘ve lived together for about 6 years now.
I started dating when I was young, while she did not. She has never been in a real romantic relationship, save for some middle and high school situations and short-lived flings. I got into my first serious adult relationship when I was 21. We had some issues adjusting and figuring out how to make sure we still had time to hang out, but it pretty quickly turned into me having to schedule people into my life to make sure everyone had equal time. It was draining and difficult, and I was met with passive aggressive behavior from my best friend if I slipped up or made other plans. This caused many arguments between my partner and I.
We broke up after almost three years and she was supportive of me through the breakup. After a year of being single and our friendship being smooth sailing, I got into a relationship in February. As of writing this post, we’ve been together a little over three months. My partner (31M) is wonderful and everyone around me likes him and thinks he’s great for me. The day I started talking to him, her demeanor toward me changed. She became defensive and uncomfortable at any mention of him. Everyone else in my life was excited and supportive of me, but she just wasn’t.
My boyfriend and I initially met online and he was out of town for the week, so we were texting quite a bit in the very beginning. She told me several times that I “wasn’t present” because I was on my phone. When I would excitedly tell her things about our conversation, like cool things we had in common or coincidences in our lives, I would be met with passive aggressive body language. It was clear she didn’t want to hear anything about him. It hurt my feelings but I figured she would come out of it. She also mentioned that she wasn’t “emotionally ready” for me to get into another relationship, which struck me as odd.
She fought as things progressed naturally within my relationship. She and I had plans on my birthday to go to a casual dinner, and I thought it would be a good chance for her to officially meet my boyfriend if he also came. I also just wanted him to be there to celebrate my day with me. When I brought it up, she immediately said she didn’t want to go. I spent several hours of my birthday trying to convince her that just because I wanted another person there doesn’t mean I didn’t want her there. It was important to me that they both came.
She started making plans on days I spent with my partner, and claimed that it was the only way it would “hurt less” that I was leaving. She even said she felt the need to leave the house first to “feel better” about me going out. She would get upset with me for not continuing our text conversation when I was with him. She started getting frustrated with me for not telling her about my dates with him, even though she didn’t ask and seemed unenthused and uncomfortable when I did mention details.
When I finally confronted her about her actions, she admitted that she was afraid I wouldn’t “need her” anymore and that I was leaving her. I explained to her that different relationships fulfill different personal needs, and that she couldn’t possibly fulfill my need for a romantic partner, and vice versa. I assured her that she is still important to me and that I still value our relationship. Unfortunately this conversation changed absolutely nothing.
I thought having my boyfriend over more often and spending time with both of them would help her. She likes him, they have good conversation, and they get along very well. It has nothing to do with him as a person. Still, she tells me she doesn’t enjoy being around us and it makes her extremely anxious. She actively avoids socializing with us and will stay in her room. There was one night I was making the three of us dinner and she decided halfway through me cooking that she wasn’t comfortable and got up and went to her room for the rest of the night.
She hates being in public with us, especially if we hold hands or walk together. She guilts me for doing these things. We went to a restaurant recently in a group setting for a graduation celebration. I sat next to my boyfriend and across from her. We got up to go wash our hands in the restroom and when we were out of earshot of the group, she said, “you suck for not sitting next to me. Fuck you.” She later claimed that she was just joking/being dramatic when I told her how hurtful it was. She did apologize, but said that she “has dramatic and emotional initial reactions” and it’s “just how she is.”
She gets upset anytime I have “unexpected” plans with my boyfriend. He has random days off, and we have opposite schedules, so it’s hard to see him sometimes. I see him two times per week. She and I live together, and I see her every day. I guess I don’t see it as a big deal to sometimes go out with my partner unexpectedly. She makes me feel extremely guilty and like a bad friend when I do this.
I feel I should also mention that she does have a life outside of me. Friends, family, work, hobbies, etc. It’s not like I’m her entire world and I’be abandoned her in any way. I always make sure I have time for her, as I care about her and it’s important to me as well.
I feel incredibly unsupported by her. I’m extremely happy in my relationship and everyone else in my life seems to be very happy for me and interested in getting to know my boyfriend. It hurts me that she seems to see this as a burden and can’t be excited for me.
There is nothing in this post that I haven’t said to her or confronted her with. She has apologized- rather genuinely- upon confrontation several times, and knows what she’s doing, but continues the same cycles. I truly don’t want this to be the end of our friendship, but I feel like I can’t get through to her and nothing is changing. I also don’t want this to become an issue between my boyfriend and I. What do I do? How can I approach this situation in a productive manner?

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anything else have what feels like chronic back pain due to housekeeping? im only 20 and i can barely walk normally most days because my back is just so messed these days.
do you have any tips & tricks to reduce this, and when should i consider slowing down? i dont wanna be immobile by age 40 🤣
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I have realized my preferences, ideas of fun, and ideas for improvement differ from most, on the topic of Vr and what I want "out of the experience". My first gaming system was a Sega genesis, got that when i was around 5 years old. With sonic 2. Good old days... So naturally I came into gaming before 3d really even made it to consols, I remember once it did, (playstation) , and then Nintendo 64.. those were amazing times, and the way games were made and structured (level design, music, story, artistic direction) IN MY OPINION, was more creative, fun, and replayable. Of course I'm not discounting the greats like halo, etc etc. But there is some thing about the NON super realistic graphics that has a place in my heart.
So as to not drag this on TOO far about retro gaming, lets connect the two (retro gaming and VR)
I find the hyper realism in so many games, and the cookie cutter setup of game play and story and etc, is making gaming boring.
I'm afraid we may be going that same route with VR. See, my foray into vr was not inspired by ready player one. I actually have never seen the movie. But it seems most large vr content creators like to reference the movie and their hopes to be able to "full dive". Where as I'm enjoying this stage of vr. I do wish there were more games and more creative content, but I feel we are so focused on making the tech better, or making the graphics look better, we are enjoying what we have as much, or being as creative with it.
DONT GET ME WRONG, I'm not saying I don't want that [full dive] available, or that it shouldn't be. But, I'm not really into replacing reality with vr. I don't want to sound pretentious about that, but it's just... not my thing.
And so, games being hyper realistic in vr doesn't really excite me, or the whole , "physics based game play for immersion" Is not the pennacle of vr gaming for me. It is cool some times. But I find it makes melee combat feel silly.
I just want good games with fun game play mechanics, and that aren't all cookie cutter, or take 15 years to develop bc they look like real life, but the game play is bland and predictable.
Vr has so much potential, we all say that and mean it. But I think maybe our definitions of potential may vary. I don't think any of us are wrong.
And I'm not saying I wouldn't want to "full dive" sky dive. Or some thing like that.
But I am saying, I'm not clocking every new vr development hoping that it gets me closer to (full dive)
I'll try to wrap this up, I also prefer my rift cv1, over my quest 2 for PC vr.
There is some thing about the quest 2 I just can't put my finger on... that doesn't hit the spot in terms of feeling as good as my cv1. Idk if it's field of view, or maybe I can get my IPD Perfect with the cv1 but not Q2, or compression from airlink/link cable... idk. But I sincerely hope for more PC vr headsets that are affordable. I don't really care much about pixel density as much as I care about field of view and outside in tracking.
This is getting long I suck at expressing my thoughts And I hope I don't come off as a butthole or opinionated. I want all of us with our different preferences to have options. I want all of us to win!

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Something about you: I'm looking for someone who is genuine, respectful, loyal. It would be nice to have someone with similar hobbies but not neccesary. Someone who is able to hold conversation, who enjoys being given attention and being checked on during the day. Location not important as if it clicks, I'm willing to make things work and possibly relocate.
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This is a long one, I never post on Reddit but genuinely I don’t know what else to do.
I went to a local 2 year community college after graduating in 2022. My college was completely paid for through financial aid, and even if it wasn’t, my parents wouldn’t pay for it. My dad couldn’t afford it and though my mom had the ability to, she made it very clear she had no intentions of helping me out with college from the get go.
The issue started in the fall of 2022. I was in four classes, two in person, one hybrid, and one online. I did good for a few weeks but quickly the workload became too much for me to handle and I just shut down. I was working part time and was dealing with a lot of family drama with my mom and her husband and I just couldn’t handle it. Looking back, I could’ve done a lot more. There was a point in the semester where I didn’t even check for assignments or anything. It’s embarassing to admit but there was just something stopping me mentally from doing it. I ended up with a warning, meaning I could return for the spring semester with my fafsa but I had to raise my GPA. I decided not to tell my parents about the probation because I genuinely planned on raising my GPA and fixing things. In the spring, I was enrolled in four in person classes. On Mondays, I was on campus from 8:30-5:30 in back to back classes. Wednesday’s, I was there 8:30-2:40 also in back to back classes. The rest of the week I was working, maybe about 15-20 hours a week. At this point, I had enough of what was going on with my mom and her husband and decided to live full time with my dad. It was really emotionally draining for me. I won’t get into details here but it was a lot. I also got into drinking with my friends on our days off. As the semester went on, I just lost touch. I guess it was a mix of everything with my family, long days on campus, working, and then wanting to be with my friends. I fully understand and admit that I could’ve done all these things and still succeeded anyways. I’m not trying to make excuses, just explaining the circumstances around what was going on.
That being said, I knew that I had to raise my GPA or risk losing my FAFSA. It stressed me out a lot but i still chose to skip and not do assignments. I really wish I had a decent explanation for why. I don’t know why I shut down when things get difficult. Everyone I’ve talked to about this says it was just burnout but it doesn’t feel that way. I know I had a lot going on but I still feel like I was just lazy. The semester went on and I didn’t raise my GPA. In May, my dad sat me down and asked me honestly if I was going to class. I told him no, and that I was thinking about taking time off. We made an agreement that while I wasn’t in school I would work full time and help with bills. At this point, I wasn’t sure if I would be suspended academically, but I knew that if I was, I would just be suspended for the summer semester and would be able to return in the fall assuming I could regain my FAFSA. I told my dad that I wanted to take the fall semester off to work and decide on a new major, he said that he didn’t agree but that he supported me and loved me anyways. Shorty after we had this talk, I received an email just like the one I had received in December informing me of my academic probation. It struck me as weird, because I was already on probation and my first warning, therefore the next step would be suspension and losing my FAFSA. I knew in the back of my mind this was some mistake on the colleges part, and that I was on suspension and would be losing my FAFSA. But I held onto hope that maybe I was wrong and had another chance at fixing things. I decided not to tell my dad, as he never knew that I was on probation to begin with. It was probably a good couple weeks before I received another email stating that the previous information was a mistake, I was on academic suspension for the summer and my FAFSA would not be reinstated. I was upset but I knew it was coming. I decided that I wasn’t going to tell my dad, as he already knew I was taking time off. I was going to handle everything myself, appeal my FAFSA and hope I get it back. And in the meantime, hold up my part of the agreement and work full time. I was also informed that I had to pay back part of my FAFSA in order to re enroll, but figured that working full time I would be able to take care of it myself. I did feel guilty about hiding it from him, but I was in so deep I didn’t feel like I could come clean. My dad and I are very close. He has always had my back and supported me and I didn’t want to disappoint him. In my mind, I was an adult and it was my mistakes to fix, and I had planned on fixing them.
This morning, my dad came into my room, visibly angry, and said we needed to talk. He said he was going to give me one shot to be honest about what was going on with school and I told him everything. He said he already knew, that this morning my mom had received a letter addressed to me that informed her of the academic suspension. He is pissed and rightfully so. He said he’s disappointed about school, but more upset that I lied to him. And he’s completely right. He said his first thought was to sell my car that’s in his name and let me figure it out for myself, talking about kicking me out. He asked me a bunch of questions about what happened and I told him honestly. I didn’t tell him about the drinking, but everything else I came clean about. He said everyone else in my family is pissed, and that apparently they told him that they thought I was going down this path, but he defended me to them. It was really upsetting to hear but I deserve to hear it. I have let him down so much and he doesn’t deserve it at all. He told me he wasn’t sure how he planned on punishing me, but that I wasn’t allowed to go out with my friends and I’d only be allowed to go back and forth to work. I will also have to find a full time job as soon as possible, but I was already looking for one. I really don’t know where to go from here. I know this is all my fault, and it’s all a consequence of my own actions, but I don’t know what else to do. I had it really good and I fucked everything up. I don’t think my dad or anyone else in my family will ever be able to trust me again. Im lucky he’s even letting me live here. I don’t know how to make things right and I don’t know what I should do. There’s a lot of detail I’m leaving out, so if I need to elaborate on anything I will.