Pico x boyfriend

srsly it’s a need

Honestly I (24F)try to see some both sides. Over the 3 years in this relationship I realized sometimes I do things simply because he try’s to tell me not to or I shouldn’t. Something about a man telling me to do anything makes me want to do the opposite but I guess that’s the Sagittarius in me. Overall I think a women relationship or not should be able to go out as often as she wants whenever. I personally see going out as a time to enjoy my friends company get drunk and laugh the next day at everyone’s outrageous behavior. I’m not a sex crazed man trying to find something living to have s*x with. Idk maybe it’s just me. Anyway share thoughts maybe I’m wrong and majority feel that for a woman in a relationship it’s not appropriate to go out every weekend. I’d love to hear from both sides. I’m all about my freedom and even though going out every weekend sounds like a nightmare to me if I woke up tomorrow and had the urge to I feel like I should have the right to boyfriend or single.

i became a believer in February, it was going so well and i was the happiest i’ve ever been (i struggle with lots of mental health issues). but these past two months, have been absolutely terrible. i stopped reading my Bible, i don’t go to church much, only pray bc i feel i have to. i’m stuck in my sin, i feel like i can’t stop sinning. i feel like i’m so far gone and i don’t know how to fix it, i don’t want to change but i know i have to. i feel like every aspect of my life has fallen apart, i don’t see a point in living but i don’t want to die. i feel like God just has so many rules i can’t follow, i feel like His plan for me is to only to see pain, i feel like He has no purpose for me. on top of that i feel constant loneliness. i’m 21 and off school for the summer and i spend all my days alone at home, i keep looking at men / boys to fix the problem (which is what i used to do before i became a believer) and obviously it’s not working. i think ab boys / men way too much, i feel like my life is incomplete without a boyfriend. i want to be like other girls my age who have boyfriends and go out drinking and have s*x, but i know i can’t do any of those things. i feel like i only crave things that are bad for me, and the worst part is i don’t want to change most of the time. but i feel so guilty and i know if i don’t change then i’m going down the wrong path.

Okay, so the title of this post pretty much says it all. I’ll go into detail since this is actually pretty short. As I said the title says it all; Freshman/Junior year of high school I had a really fun friend group( I am now a senior, well graduated now since it's the end of the school year.) So basically Freshman year I made really good friends and we were all very close. Unfortunately Junior year this friend group was kinda drifting apart( as expected in high school) I stayed very close with everyone even though the group drifted apart. One day I found out that this girl who bullied me really badly was transferring to my high school. For some context; this girl bullied me badly, she went to the same after-school recreational activity as me for the past two years. She would make fun of my weight, my looks, my acne, basically anything. I barely knew her and never spoke or stood up for myself except for one time. I told the bully that the things she was saying to me was extremely rude and that I would like her to leave me alone. (That is literally exactly what I said.) I walked away cause I didn't want any drama and as I said before I didn't ever speak to this girl unless it was in a group setting. Even then I just tried to avoid her. Eventually, the bullying stopped and she apologized to me, stating that she was going through a really rough time and shouldn't have taken her anger out on me. Everything was great and we would say hello to each other in passing. Well, I thought everything was great. The girl spread really nasty rumors about me and continued to bully me and it made me severely depressed. She would even tell me to “off” myself. As I said before I avoided this girl and NEVER spoke to her unless it was a hello or the time I told her to please stop bullying me. Well the director of the after-school recreational activity we were a part of had known about the bullying (I never said anything to anyone about it, but people would tell me that she was really mean and how they noticed her bullying me, so I assume someone reported her or the director noticed.) She got in trouble and I eventually left the recreational after-school activity because the bullying was too much for me and I was honestly so mentally affected by the things this bully would say to me I needed a break. Jumping back to when I found out the bully would be transferring to my school. I went to a small school so when we got a new student everyone was excited. I had told my friends a school this girl was a bully and said terrible things to me, and all of them supported me. I even stated that if they wanted to be friends with the bully I wouldn't care, it's a small school, I just asked if they did become friends with her to keep that friendship separate from me. All my friends were super kind and respected me. Now for the part you've been waiting on, one of my friends became friends with the bully. I truly wasn't bothered by this until he started inviting her to plans we would make for just us outside of school. I let it slide the first time but after that, I kindly reminded him that I didn't care if they were friends, just please leave me out of it, and that she said awful things to me. He listened and it didn't happen again. For context my friend who became friends with this bully is openly gay, he has no interest in girls and is dating another guy in our friend group that split up but we all remained close. So even though he remained close friends with the bully and didn't respect me I chose to just give up on trying and just hang out even if the bully was there because me and my friend were so close and I honestly loved hanging out with him. I just thought eventually the bully would realize that it doesn't bother me that she was friends with one if my close friends. As you may have guessed she continued to bully me, and eventually my friend came to me and apologized for how he didn’t respect how I wanted to keep the two friendships separate, and that he thinks that she is saying things that were really out of line and said she was even starting to bully him because of his sexuality. I accept his apology and told him I didn’t mind and that I understood that this high school, drama is going to happen and we’re all still growing. Skip forward a couple of months it’s now the middle of sophomore year sort of I get a text from my friend. He says that he had s-x with the bully... I was super confused and told him that I was feeling sad because I thought that all this drama was over. He told me not to tell his boyfriend at the time. Before I even got the chance to think about what just happened I got a Facetime from the boyfriend crying that the bully sent a snap chat picture of my friend and her naked(under the blanket, covered) saying “Look who stole your man”... Yeah, so I was like oh hell no, this friend isn't a good person and I said I was didn't with that friendship any more and my friend or now ex friend said I was being stupid and that I was in the wrong. I and the boyfriend are still close and actually, both transferred to an art school(not because of the drama, just because we both wanted to go there.)
So even though all this happened two years ago I recently found out the friend and the bully are dating now and it got me thinking about whether or not I made the right choice of not. I miss my friendship with the guy I dropped and I feel like I should have given him a second chance, some of my friends agree and some don't. Teenagers can be stupid sometimes...and I think I should apologize to the friend I dropped, so let me know if you think I was the Ahole and or made the right decision or not.

I(22F) had a friend lets call her “Maria” she and i started a friendly relationship 7 years ago (we were at high school at that time) after hight school she and i try to keep as much communication as possible until i started to date a guy lets call him “Bryan” he was 27 at the time and we were at the same school. One day Maria and i wanted to go out have somme. At the restaurant she did excuse herself to go to the bathroom and she left her phone behind and i saw a txt from my bf i knew her password at the minute that i open the convo i started to seen explicits pic . I was heart broken i wanted to cry but somehow i keep calm. After an hour i told her that i have to go home because a have and urgent call from my mom, in the taxi way back home i started crying my boyfriend was cheating whit my bff i block her and block him,it didn’t pas 3 hour that my phone started ringing, Maria try to convince me that our friend ship is more valuable to her than Bryan and she felt sorry of what she did, Bryan didn’t event try to call me. After a week of Maria trying to convince me to go and talk, i agree but i didn’t knew that Bryan will be there to, wen i saw his face i was furious and the reason of the talk it was to find a way for them to still date and find a solution that will make me happy not to be mad at them(like wtf!) i just left jelling at them(like a good latina xD) and erase every souvenir our picture i have whit them. This week i receive dm in my insta of her saying “I know that we have our differences and that what I did was not right but I'm going to have a baby from him and I want you to be his godmother and that we put our differences aside” i was livid and i obviously refuse her offer, i block her again and i talk about it whit somme people to have a different view and 3 of the 4 people that i told them that and they knew what happened in the past told me that i was taking it to personal and that i should accept her apologies.Idk any more AITA ?

I have been married to my husband for ten years, we dated for two years prior to that. Immediately before I dated my husband I dated the same man for 10 years. We met at work when I was 20 and was already in a relationship I started seeing him on the side and eventually left the other guy. We maintained separate residences but mostly lived together. we almost never fought. I worked and he finished school and I loved him deeply. After 7 years we broke up and I started dating other people, but none of them worked out. After about a year we got back together, and made plans for me to move in with him. Then my father passed away, he was my rock, and I moved into his house a few weeks after the funeral. A week later he went on tour with a band (work) it was a National and International tour. Honestly his house was falling apart and I was alone, I started playing online games and making up a fantasy life for myself. I started virtually cheating on him, sexting and Caming. I went and visited my boyfriend on tour on my 30th birthday and spent a good portion of the night crying alone in the hotel room. Then I started meeting the guy from the internet. One day my boyfriend found some chats and emails between me and internet guy, he kicked me out and it was over. I ended it with internet guy and even came clean to my online friends of the Fantasy I had created, I also stopped playing the online game. I tried to get my life back under control went to the gym, got a promotion at work and hung out with my friends and enjoy real life. I realized that I had a problem separating fantasy from reality and I have made a concerted effort to not lie or indulge in fantasy since. For me it is a slippery slope. I saw my ex a few times to get my last few things but he was still on tour. We were cordial but there was a lot of hurt. I kept hanging out with the same group of friends and slowly realized that though I wasn’t really ready for another relationship I had a lot more fun when one particular friend was there. Begrudgingly we started dating. My former boyfriend found out while on tour through a mutual acquaintance, that I was darting someone we both knew, he was very upset angry words were exchanged and we stopped speaking and avoided going to the same events. My now husband and I moved in together after 6 months and decided that at a year we would decide if we were going to get married or go our separate ways. We got married, almost exactly 2 years after we started dating. Two years later, we had our first child another two years later we had our second. I love my life. I love my kids. I love my husband. He is an amazing partner, father and makes me laugh daily. We aren’t perfect but we are very good. I am happy being his wife and being a mother is everything to me. In the past 12 years my ex and I have exchanged a few messages and both admitted culpability in the dissolution of our relationship. We have seen each other at a few events but our schedules are very different and it’s rare. I still feel shame and hurt for cheating on him. We still have a great deal of mutual friends and a few months ago we saw each other at a birthday party. We became friends on Facebook again and are occasionally chatting. I have been having x rated dreams about him almost every night. I also get excited when I get a message from him. And I feel guilty for it. In a lot of ways I still love him; but not as much as I love my family. I have told my husband we talk occasionally (it really is occasionally and it’s about stupid stuff) I have not told him about the dreams. My rational mind realizes that a stay at home mom of 40+ might wish for the simpler times of her 20’s. That sometimes one longs for a bit of excitement. My irrational mind says that I am going to leave my husband and children for what once was. I feel both excited and guilty. I don’t need any advise I just needed to put it out in the world.

(sorry but English is not my native language)
Brief background, I (M25) have been in a relationship for 2+ years with another guy (M26).
Let's call the online friend "A". Before I got the chance to know my current bf, A and I used to talk a lot and send memes and stuffs. He told me many years ago that he liked me, but I told him that we lived in different states and there wouldn't have been the opportunity to stay together, so we both agreed to stay just friends and called it a day. After that, we proceeded to talk as we usually did.
When I met my current boyfriend, A and I kinda stopped talking without any specific reason, but I still considered him a friend and I would have Always been there if he needed anything, it's just that we both had our lives and idk.
This night, I was going to bed and I saw A's message, asking for a dick pic "Because at this point, I think I kinda deserve it xD". We haven't talked for a year and he asked for a dick pic out of the blue. I'm so entitled, I told him I'm not going to and that I'm mad, especially because I find it truly disrespectful towards my boyfriend.
Now I really don't know what to do, A apologied but I don't know why I'm so mad about it.
I don't know if I'm overreacting. The idea of cheating is nauseating to me and coming from A really disappointed me immensely.
Should I forgive this act? Because it feels like an invite to cheating

Hey girls, I'm in need of a little adivce. I am currently 23 years old and my boyfriend is 26. We are both currently in college, and working. I am set to graduate in the summer of 2024. Long story short, I've had irregular periods since I was 16 and I was recently diagnosed with PCOS. My doctor currently has me on birth control to regulate my cycles which has been working for the past year, but I have also missed pills here and there, so I know it's not really effective for contraception... that's not what I'm worried about though. I am worried because me boyfriend and I have always had unprotected s*x and he always finishes in you know where and I'm still not pregnant 🫣🤔 I don't know if it's normal to feel a little disappointed at my age and seeing a negative pregnancy result or not. My boyfriend tried reassuring me saying that we're not ready for kids yet, and I totally get that. My point is that I'm afraid that if I'm not getting pregnant now that it means I won't be able to get pregnant... not to mention I have extreme baby fever, and I have always dreamed of being a mom.... help please 🙏🏼

so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a few years, at the start we naturally went through the honeymoon phase which includes copulating like rabbits. over the first year that died down, which is normal and i have no problem with as i also personally don’t have the stamina to keep up that lifestyle. so it slowed and slowed until we got to a steady once-a-week rumbling which is both for me and for him the best with our schedules/energy/libido/whatever. but in the past half year or so, it’s died almost completely.
funnily enough it started with him wanting to do no nut november, which i initially complained about but let it happen, except the one month turned to about one and a half before he broke his streak. after that we’ve had sporadic phases of returning to the once a week, but the entire month of march nothing happened and again the entire month of may. we’re both busy and it just happens that a lot of the time we choose sleep over sex but i’m starting to lose my mind a little bit. i wouldn’t even mind keeping it to once every 2 weeks but not even that happens. we’ve talked about it and he says it’s like his libido just died. i don’t think i’ve gotten considerably uglier and he’s constantly flooded with work both at university and his workplace so i believe him. he’s too bad at lying to be able to cover up cheating or “fulfilling” his needs somewhere else. he’s not cold or weird towards me, we still cuddle and giggle and act all cheesy together but i think he just plain doesn’t have a sex drive anymore. i still very much do have one.
we’ve talked about the issue multiple times and i’ve tried to find a way to tell him i’d like to keep up the once a week regimen without seeming like a creep that is desperate to get off but it’s genuinely hard to broach this subject without coming off as a s*x pest. i don’t want to put the blame on him because it’s not fair and i wouldn’t want to be treated like this had i been in his position. how do i go about this? i love him but this mismatch between our libidos is a bit frustrating if i’m being completely honest. i don’t want to break up with him but i also very much do NOT want to force him to have sex with me, aka r4pe.

(Apologies in advance if this is not the right sub; I'm willing to seek advice in a better sub if possible)
My boyfriend and I (both early 30's) have been together around 5 years, and recently made the decision to elope, just the two of us, abroad in about 6 months. There's a lot of reasons for this, but one big one is that his parents are from a VERY conservative religious background and have a lot of "requirements" for their kids' weddings and marriages that we want no part of (namely that there HAS to be a huge wedding with the entire extended family involved). My parents are more chill and I expect them to be supportive of this decision.
I'm trying to figure out how to tell my/our parents, and when. I'm curious about how other people approached this: did you tell your parents "we're eloping on X date in the future?" Did you wait and tell them "we're eloping next week?" Did you wait until afterwards to tell them?
I feel like I need to tell the family soon, ahead of time, but I'm dreading the inevitable backlash from the family members who are going to demand we have a traditional wedding and invite everyone. I would be willing to tell my own parents in advance, but I feel like it's unfair to keep it a secret from some people and not others. Any advice is appreciated.

Parece que recentemente só vemos posts de pessoas que ganham milhares, têm milhares em CA e ETFs, compram casas e têm parceiros com salários altos, ou vivem na casa dos pais e poupam 1500 por mês e ainda têm ajuda dos mesmos para comprar casas ou para bancarem viagens. Muitos queixam-se de serem cenários irrealistas, eu pessoalmente gostava era de ouvir o resto da história.
Disclaimer: Nao me quero fazer de coitadinho, nem inversamente parecer superior ou mais iluminado do que os outros. Apenas decidi partilhar a minha história para variar do tipico post de "tenho x, ganho x, estou bem?" e trazer uma discussão diferente para um sub de finanças... porque afinal de que adianta investir e poupar se não for feito de uma forma saudável e sustentável ?
Fui um aluno mediano no secundário. A minha pior disciplina era Matemática e seus derivados, e onde realmente brilhava era em Portugues e Filosofia. Contra todos os conselhos decidi estudar Engenharia Informática. Chumbei no exame nacional, em parte porque na altura estava focado no desporto e fazia parte da selecao nacional, mas sobretudo porque era simplesmente mau aluno, nao estava interessado e preferia jogar videojogos. No ano a seguir lá entrei no curso, num politecnico, e foi mais ou menos neste periodo que comecei inconscientemente a divergir da maior parte dos meus amigos. Em 2019 acabei a licenciatura (com cadeiras em atraso). A maior parte das pessoas nos meus circulos entraram em boas universidades e na sua grande maioria eram adolescentes normais de 18 e 19 anos com as prioridades normais de um adolescente. Hedonismo, engatar miudas, jogar videojogos, redes sociais etc...
Comecei a reparar que eu parecia ser o unico com um interesse especial em podcasts e audiobooks muito antes de estes serem populares, independencia financeira, e leitura. Durante muitos anos era a única pessoa que parecia saber da existencia do Reddit e só mais tarde na universidade é que reparei que algumas pessoas começaram a gostar destas coisas. Tudo o que levasse a uma troca de ideias, desafiarmos as nossas crenças e dogmas, e diálogos de mente aberta fascinava-me.
Terminada a licenciatura a maior parte dos meus amigos estava a fazer mestrados ou seguiram o percurso habitual de entrar numa consultora no Porto ou em Lisboa. Eu estava completamente desmotivado com o cenário em Portugal, já na altura fazia as contas dos 4% para saber se podia ser financeiramente independente em Portugal, fazia tracking de todas as minhas despesas num Excel e comecei a dar cópias do Rich Dad Poor Dad a amigos. Não era o mais brilhante, mas parecia ser o que mais questionava as coisas e pensava em futuros diferentes daquilo que os nossos pais nos diziam, não por fruto do meu génio, mas porque durante anos estive exposto a estas coisas na Internet.
Fiquei paralisado. Sabia que ia ser impossivel a independencia financeira em Portugal com salários a roçar os 1000 euros e que isso não me ia levar a uma vida que almejasse ter, e sabia que tinha desperdiçado 3 anos de licenciatura e não aprendi quase nada. Não gostava de estudar e preferia ver videos no youtube, ler livros, ou fazer cursos e code challenges. Não eram coisas que me ajudavam a ter boas notas, mas os meus mentores virtuais diziam ser o melhor a fazer, e a minha curiosidade obrigava-me a explorar esses tópicos. A escolha lógica era emigrar. Vivia numa cidade pequena por isso nunca tinha andado de autocarro, comboio, contava com uma mão as vezes que tinha andado de avião, e ao contrário dos meus amigos que foram estudar para outras cidades, eu fiquei na minha cidade natal e nunca tinha morado sozinho, mas era a escolha lógica. Eu simplesmente sabia que a progressão salarial em Portugal não era o suficiente para ter uma vida decente, por alguma razão parecia ser o único que aceitava este facto e de entre circa 100 alunos fui o único que emigrou.
Passei meses à procura de emprego e a fazer cursos online, e por esta altura já todos os meus amigos estavam a trabalhar. Depois de centenas de curriculos enviados lá arranjei uma posiçao a pagar abaixo da média em Londres, era o que me dava entrada no mercado britanico e nao podia pedir muito no primeiro emprego.
2 semanas depois estava em Londres, não tinha casa, não conhecia ninguém, amarrei-me ao primeiro quarto minimamente decente que uma agência me ofereceu e onde se passaram coisas fora da índole deste post, mas digamos que não foi uma boa experiencia. Londres viria a ser a cidade onde passei os dois anos e meio mais difíceis e desafiantes da minha vida, mas eu sabia que estar naquele mercado era a única maneira de ter uma progressão salarial que me iria levar à terra prometida. Afinal de contas quem é que quer programar até aos 70 ? E quem é que quer estar na casa dos pais até aos 30 a ganhar 1000 ou 1200 euros ? Apesar do custo de vida e do meu salário abaixo da média (na altura 1600 libras), fiz um fundo de emergência e conseguia investir 700 a 900 euros por mês graças às minhas skills de budgeting, meal prepping e expense tracking no Excel que vim a adquirir enquanto estudava.
Muitos dos meus amigos poupavam tanto ou mais do que eu porque vivam na casa dos pais, mas eu estava a ter algo que eles não tinham: experiencia de vida, e estava a seguir um sonho... Com o passar do tempo ficamos cada vez mais distantes, é o que acontece inevitavelmente quando estás longe das pessoas durante anos e perdes todos os momentos especiais. Em Londres fiz amigos, mas sabia que era temporário, por alguma razão lhe chamam de cidade transiente.
A pandemia aconteceu e eu fiquei 1 ano trancado num quarto minusculo. Trabalhava numa startup e o trabalho nunca diminuiu, pelo contrário. O meu manager fez-me a vida negra e durante meses fiz horas extras quase todos os dias, mas tinha que engolir porque não tinha experiência para arranjar trabalho em mais lado nenhum, e estava extremamente grato ao CEO pela oportunidade que me deu e por ser uma excelente pessoa. Tenho quase a certeza que o meu manager me odiava porque me envolvi com uma pessoa que trabalhava no mesmo office em quem ele estava interessado. Como muitos, entrei num loop de trabalhar, jogar videojogos, fumar e pedir take-away quase diariamente. Fazia de tudo para evitar o stress, sobretudo comer. Ao longo deste ano engordei 15 kg e fiquei na pior forma fisica da minha vida. Para um ex-atleta que outrora teve o melhor fisíco da escola, a minha auto-estima foi por agua abaixo, e especialmente para um puto de 24 anos que ainda é suscetivel a validaçao social alheia.
Entrei numa espiral depressiva, já não sabia o que estava ali a fazer. Qual era o propósito de eu estar ali? Dinheiro? Afinal de contas os meus amigos poupavam o mesmo que eu, ou mais, e eu não me imaginava a ficar ali anos suficientes para subir na carreira até chegar aos salários altos. Enfrentei os factos: estou deprimido, nao tenho amigos verdadeiros, a minha saude mental e fisica está-se a deteriorar, e de todos os emigrantes portugueses que conheci, nenhum era referencia. Todos eles me pareciam absolutamente miseráveis, que viviam por dinheiro, com as ocasionais férias no verão, a casa de campo em Portugal e o Mercedes para mostrar aos amigos.
Um dia, farto de tudo, despedi-me e decidi voltar para Portugal e fui para a casa dos meus pais, sem emprego, sem proposito, sem amigos. Tinha pouco mais de 20 mil euros, nao planeava comprar casa tao cedo porque nao fazia ideia do que queria fazer entao decidi viajar. Marquei um bilhete de 800 euros sem data de retorno e fui para a Turquia. Passei lá duas semanas, e depois fui para o sul de França, para os Açores e mais tarde para Marrocos e Malta. Era o reset que eu precisava. Gastei 6 mil euros a viajar durante o ano, mil numa camara fotografica, e mais de mil em pequenos luxos que abdiquei durante os ultimos anos (acho que durante 2 anos tinha comprado apenas 1 par de calças, e a roupa que tinha levado para Londres já nao me servia).
Comecei a procurar emprego. Graças à experiencia lá fora arranjei um emprego remoto para uma empresa europeia a ganhar 2000 euros liquidos, tanto quanto eu ganhava em Londres, só que agora estava na casa dos meus pais e nao tinha despesas. Voltei aos velhos hábitos e comecei logo a fazer as contas: se gastar apenas 500 euros por mês posso poupar 1500, o dobro do que poupava em Londres. Em menos de 10 anos posso comprar uma casa a pronto. Estava no el dorado, e ainda para mais com portugueses.
Passei os primeiros meses a trabalhar e a poupar, e este emprego era o oposto do outro. Eu nao fazia quase nada. Estava como queria: baixo stress, poupanças altas. Crypto estava no pico, já tinha recuperado as poupanças que gastei a viajar, e por estupidez e destino vem tudo por água abaixo. Em suma: perdi 5 mil euros em criptomoedas, e o mercado estourou. Os ETFs passaram para o vermelho, e com isto veio novamente o sentimento de vazio. A minha vida continuava na mesma, só que agora estava em Portugal. Sentia-me ingrato, porque já estava no top de rendimentos para a minha idade, mas a independencia financeira continuava a parecer impossivel quando fazia as contas, e comecei a duvidar se eu queria sequer isso, afinal qual é o objetivo: matar-me a trabalhar nos melhores anos da minha vida para desfrutar nos piores ? é verdade que ninguem quer trabalhar até aos 70, mas tambem ninguem quer trabalhar até aos 50 numa coisa que nao gosta.
Comecei a questionar-me mais sobre o que realmente queria. Comecei a ler menos de finanças e livros técnicos, e mais de auto-ajuda e clássicos como o "Man's search for meaning". Se para sucesso tenho de sacrificar felicidade então não o queria. E se o tiver, que seja vindo de algo virtuoso, com uma intençao genuina de acrescentar algo ao mundo, e não com esquemas, especulaçao, e tudo o resto que está a destruir os valores da sociedade.
Abdiquei do trabalho que considerava um sonho para algo mais desafiante porque percebi que mesmo que me garantissem aquele emprego com aumentos salariais ajustados à inflação não era ali que eu ia crescer. Encontrei uma startup com um produto interessante, com colegas de trabalho com quem posso conversar sobre algo mais do que trabalho, e com um salário ainda superior para minha surpresa. Graças à pandemia percebi que o remote veio para ficar, e graças a ter demorado o meu tempo a encontrar o meu primeiro emprego e investido nas tecnologias certas agora tinha alavancagem devido à experiência em tecnologias que, como previsto, estavam a ser muito requisitadas, e ao meu curriculo com empresas estrangeiras. Numa conversa entre amigos e depois de algumas pesquisas no reddit fiquei a saber que muitos médicos ganham menos do que eu, e quase todos os alumni das grandes universidades portuguesas também. Estranhamente isto não me fez sentir orgulho ou felicidade, porque eu sabia que a realidade, mesmo para mim, não era uma de luxo. Ainda estava a viver com os meus pais, e acima de tudo a minha métrica de sucesso já não era dinheiro, mas propósito e felicidade (cringe e privilegiado eu sei).
Abdiquei da segurança da casa dos meus pais e vim para uma das grandes cidades. Podia estar a poupar 1500 mas só poupo metade disso agora, uma escolha deliberal, e o mesmo montante que poupava quando vivia como um eremita em Londres. Dei um passo atrás para dar dois à frente. Nesta cidade estou no epicentro das coisas, estou num ginásio de crossfit onde conheço imensas pessoas e vou a eventos, estou lentamente a voltar à melhor forma física da minha vida, vou a meetups regularmente, vou trabalhar para um cowork e faço de tudo para me rodear e conhecer pessoas interessantes, porque no fundo é isso que faz a vida valer a pena viver: as conecçōes e memorias de momentos felizes partilhados com outros. Posso não ser a pessoa mais extrovertida, mas estou a fazer um esforço, porque sei que o que realmente preciso para ser feliz é um trabalho digno, uma boa rede de amigos que realmente queiram saber de mim e vice-versa, criar memórias e não desperdiçar tempo.
Podem dizer que qualquer um fazia o mesmo com o meu salário, mas até hoje, em quase todas as métricas na vida conheci dois tipos de pessoas, o extremo esquerdo e o direito, e no que toca a finanças conheço pessoas obcecadas com poupar dinheiro e pessoas obcecadas com gastar, raramente conheço uma pessoa equilibrada que sabe quando fazer qual. Vivemos numa era e sobretudo num país obcecado com dinheiro e comprar casas, ao ponto que conheço muitos a ganhar 2 mil euros que ainda vivem com os pais e não têm historias para contar, amigos com quem se realmente identifiquem, nem relacionamentos saudáveis,... e para quê ? Nao julgo estarem com os pais, especialmente se gostam deles, mas julgo o resto. Para aqueles que não podem é uma ofensa o desperdicio de vida que muita gente pratica. E não é porque querem realmente fazer isso, mas porque a sociedade e o guru das finanças do youtube disse que deve poupar o máximo para comprar a sua casa de sonho, e não pensar no resto.
Se este post servir de alguma coisa, que sirva de um apelo para se preocuparem menos com dinheiro e mais com a vossa felicidade. E por felicidade não me refiro a conforto nem a contentamento. Quando foi a ultima vez que meditaram, ou se sentaram no sofá 1 hora a pensar no que realmente querem ? A maior parte das pessoas deixam a vida andar e ignoram o sentimento que lhes diz que algo está mal. Não ignorem isso. Especialmente para aqueles que têm uma rede de apoio com a qual podem contar. Se têm a possibilidade de voltar para a casa dos vossos pais a qualquer momento e se sentem miseráveis no vosso trabalho não esperem por amanhã ! Vão viajar, emigrem, trabalhem na apanha da fruta na Australia com um visto temporario, as possibilidades são imensas... Se há coisa que estar no estrangeiro e viajar me deu foi isso: ouvir histórias diferentes e conhecer maneiras de pensar muuuito diferentes da nossa. Deixem de usar dinheiro e património como referência de sucesso, e usem o vosso propósito, felicidade, orgulho pessoal, e os amigos que têm. Façam memórias, partilhem histórias, e tornem-se uma pessoa de valor na vossa comunidade. Parece senso comum mas 99% das pessoas aqui não faz isso e reduzem-se a: trabalho, casa, investir no ETF, pagar empréstimos, viajar uma vez ao ano aos mesmos sitios onde todos os outros vão, fazer sempre o mesmo tipo de treino no ginásio, andar sempre com o mesmo grupo sem convidar aquela pessoa que conheceste na semana passada etc...
Talvez este post me saia pela culatra e acabe por passar uma impressão woke de alguém que julga a sociedade, mas só queria partilhar a minha história porque até hoje conheci poucas pessoas com percursos e maneiras de pensar semelhantes, especialmente na minha faixa etária, e se para mim este tipo de mensagem me levou a um sitio melhor, talvez faça o mesmo para outros.

I’ve heard that going airborne will end up screwing up your back and knees up hard, but that also it’s more about the amount of rucking airborne units do.
Is the large amount of rucking the case for everyone who’s airborne or specifically infantry? For example if I went in as a 13B with a option 4, would I ruck as much as an airborne infantrymen or is the general complaint of shot back and knees about being infantry and airborne?
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I am posting this for a friend, but if anybody can provide an answer, I think he would find it helpful:
I ets'ed in 07/2017 then reenlisted in 04/2023, so I'm past the 5 years. But when I signed my contract there were only orders for AIT. When I asked the counselor he said, "You don't go back to Basic. You go to Fort X to in process, then head to AIT." Yet, here I am getting sent to BCT.
Anything I can do here?
I'm not really hungry but I'll take one contract for the Coast Guard, please.
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Since yesterday in IPPS-A, the announcement tile has said "1 unread". When i open the tile, i have around 6 or so announcements, and i have opened them all. None of them require any action. Any ideas on what this could mean? Or is this IPPS-A being IPPS-A?
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Anyone know if someone in 75th Ranger Regiment who is a combat engineer will deal w more explosives such as clearing mines than a "normal" combat engineer?
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Hey guys, new to this thread. I am a Citadel Cadet participating in a Royal Lao Airborne ground school training this weekend to get Static Line qualified. We will be doing 5 SL jumps with a Royal Lao Jump Master, U.S. Army Jump Master, and Australian Jump Master, As a result, we will be awarded wings from the RLA, the US Army "Jump Wings," and the Australian Parachutist wings. Am I authorized to wear the US Army "Jump Wings" on my Cadet uniform as I will have been awarded them for jumping with a US Jump Master, but have not completed Airborne School? I understand the foreign wings are authorized, but was concerned about the US Wings, as I believe I may have found myself in a 'gray zone.' If anyone has some guidance, I would greatly appreciate it. - Have a great day.
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I’m 18 years old and I graduate this Sunday the 21st of may. I’ve been talking to my recruiter and he gave me the run down on benefits of the army. I’m considering going full time and interested in mos 91E as a career path. I’m sure my recruiter is just telling me what I want to hear. What should I expect in joining the army or should I change mos?
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So I've been out of the Army a year and some change, where do we get documents since AKO is retired? I need a copy of my DD-214
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My husband is finishing bootcamp and I was promised by a few recruiters that our infant son and I will be given special permissions to come live together during his 9-month AIT. On a different thread folks have warned me that this doesn't happen any more and I'm freaking out just a bit. Has anyone heard of this happening in the last few years? are families with really young kids and really long AIT durations worthy exceptions that anyone is aware of?
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Hey y’all I’m 23 and I’m planning on joining the reserve by the end of the year and was wondering if I’m able to attend airborne, ranger, special forces as a reserved? Also does mos skill transfer into the civilian world?
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I’m 22F and I want to be a Delta Force operator. I’m 5’8” and 168lbs.
Has a woman ever graduated Delta Force selection? Does anyone have advice for females that want to join Delta Force?
I can’t find much information online about female Delta Force operators.
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I'm Enlisting for active duty, assuming any MOS can be selected off a 95 ASVAB score . What MOS (if any) have the best quality of life? Mostly see 18 and 35 series as recommended the most, any reason in particular?
-Hours-Location (if it matters)-Whatever you can come up with-Chances of getting BAH ASAP or not having to live in base
Can't think of anything else, but any pros/cons that would weigh in favor of pros for said MOS. Preferably not jumping out of planes type stuff.... rapelling is fine tho.
Please no "look up for an MOS that you are passionate about or really want to do because you will be stuck with it and be hate your time in."
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Although hindsight is 20/20, what MOS should I have picked with these scores?
ASVAB line scores
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Are drill sergeants allowed to read recruits mail? I’m talking just letters, not packages.
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What is officer basic training like? Is it like BCT, if so in what ways? I know you need a Bachelor’s Degree in order to be an officer
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What does life look like for a 255S?
How does that change with rank, WO1-WO5?
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What does the xo do in a battalion? Are they involved with basic training and the privates at all?
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Hey guys, soon to be enlisted and had a question on my career and what would be best going forward.
So joining at 27 with a bachelors and wanted to do something unique/actually doing the job while also being helpful in getting a career once I get out. Can't go officer because of previous law violations. Currently my mentality is just go for an MOS where I can max out my bonus so I can throw all of that into TSP/IRA, go green to gold when I can, and try to go to every school that I can (airborne, ranger, etc.)
Currently looking at 19K cause tank go boom, big bonus, and I also have a passion for mechanics which is a career path I wouldn't mind too much especially if I can go to trade school while I'm in. Then eventually reclass to a tech field if possible and go tech/intel.
Does this sound like a sound like a good plan or is there another route that I am not seeing that would be more beneficial?
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I'll be joining my husband in July once he finishes basic and moving with our baby to live together during AIT. Does anyone know what that experience might be like and whether or not we'll have the option to live off-post? I know they are making an exception for us to live together as a family since People in AIT generally are in dorms. Any information would be helpful!
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Probably a stupid question- Can you split up your TLE days when PCSing? And if you do, do the days you check out of the hotel count "against" the TLE day count?
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How many times do pogs go to train in the field? For example how many times would 68n train a year?
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Would 68Ws assigned to an armor unit be permitted to wear tanker boots or no?
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When you guys buy boots do you buy your true size? Given that boots socks may be a little thicker?
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I'm very Interested in joining. I'm a female with a stature of 4'11. Currently I'm incredibly overweight-I'm trying to fix that. Would you recommend "PT" level workouts everyday or something more intense? What has helped you lose weight? I have lost 10 pounds so far with mostly just walking which is only the start, but looking for workouts that would help shed weight more effectively. Thanks in advanced!
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Sat down with my recruiter and told him I did weed back in 2020. Should i have just denied this? Will this disqualify me?
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What made you choose the army over any other branches of military? At what age did you say “yeah ima join the army?”
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I need to advice on which jobs have good transferable skills into the civilian world my recruiter told me the field artillery promotes the best but I’m looking for more skills I can learn for when I get out. I got some mechanical jobs and I don’t know anything about mechanic stuff so no clue how I got them but I got 13M 35P 91A 13B 14T 91J 92F 92G 88M 91B 91C 91D 91S
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So idk if this is the right spot to ask this but I'm currently stationed in Alaska with a DEROS of 20240907. I've been in for six years, currently an 11B E5 but hoping to pickup soon (ALC complete and all that jazz). Right now my parents are in South Carolina specifically around the fort Jackson area. They're not in good health so I am trying to see if I can volunteer to be a drill sergeant or recruiter to cut my DEROS short and take those assignments.
My questions are basically:
Can I leave an OCONUS assignment early to volunteer for drill/recruiting?
And if so, am I able to pick my location as a drill sergeant or recruiter if I volunteer, compared to being DA selected.
Any questions would be appreciated. I've gotten like seven different answers between my career counselor, PSG, internet, and even the recruiting teams and branch managers:
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What does a division special projects officer do? Would like a brief explanation of their role and life
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Arms 2.1 fat camp. Whats your experience? Easy to pass? RN BMI is 30 need 28
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When I log into DEERS, it says my email is still in the old format of, "name"[email protected]. I still haven't received any email about my levy brief or updates about going into IPPS-A to complete Member Elections (I already have on my own). Could this be an issue if the new official email is now "name"[email protected]? This is the email I've been checking.
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Im leaving soon for basic and Im curious; What MOS's in the army are the best and worst for quality of life? I know everyone is going to say "it depends" because if you like being outside in the woods, you are likely to enjoy being in the infantry more than a supply guy, and I understand that. However there are some jobs that are objectively cushy and some jobs that objectively suck.
Some things that would make a community suck
-horrible leadership -consistently long hours - lack of unit pride - lack of comradery -lack of purpose
some things that would make a community nicer
-better work/life balance - stationed at fewer bases/ less relocation of family -high unit pride/comradery
I am especially curious of quality of life within combat arms as well as EOD and intel, but I wanna hear about any job/community if its really good or really bad.
Thanks for any input.
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Any dog handlers stationed in MieSau Germany?
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My boyfriend is thinking of joining the US Army. No kids and no want for kids, so don't have to take that into consideration. We do live together, and we do have pets (because i know its been said to consider pets) So...Pros and cons of joining the military? What do you wish you knew before joining the military that you didn't find out until after joining? What did you have as a concern before joining that wasn't really much of a concern after? What wasn't a concern and it should have been the entire time? What should one joining be leery of? What about life after the military? Job opportunities, civilian life, difficulty adjusting, dealing with the VA (do you HAVE to use the VA once out of the military? I know my dad has constant issues with them) Just trying to gather as much information as possible so he can make the best decision for himself and what he wants in life long-term with as many facts as possible..after all, once he joins, he's property of the US government for the remainder of his contract and then some) Any help is very much appreciated and of course, thank you all for your role and your sacrifices in keeping us safe. I know it's not always easy, but it's much appreciated.
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Just graduated and will be attending West Point next year. I have a pretty good idea of what I want to do, but I’d like some inside knowledge to make sure I’m making the right choices now that will prepare me down the road. I know it sounds cliché, but simply put I want to jump out of planes and make things go boom. I’m very active, love grueling physical work, and want to push myself in what I do. What MOSs/schools/units should I be looking into now that will set me up for this?
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I’ve heard that going airborne will end up screwing up your back and knees up hard, but that also it’s more about the amount of rucking airborne units do.
Is the large amount of rucking the case for everyone who’s airborne or specifically infantry? For example if I went in as a 13B with a option 4, would I ruck as much as an airborne infantrymen or is the general complaint of shot back and knees about being infantry and airborne?
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I am posting this for a friend, but if anybody can provide an answer, I think he would find it helpful:
I ets'ed in 07/2017 then reenlisted in 04/2023, so I'm past the 5 years. But when I signed my contract there were only orders for AIT. When I asked the counselor he said, "You don't go back to Basic. You go to Fort X to in process, then head to AIT." Yet, here I am getting sent to BCT.
Anything I can do here?
I'm not really hungry but I'll take one contract for the Coast Guard, please.
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Since yesterday in IPPS-A, the announcement tile has said "1 unread". When i open the tile, i have around 6 or so announcements, and i have opened them all. None of them require any action. Any ideas on what this could mean? Or is this IPPS-A being IPPS-A?
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Anyone know if someone in 75th Ranger Regiment who is a combat engineer will deal w more explosives such as clearing mines than a "normal" combat engineer?
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Hey guys, new to this thread. I am a Citadel Cadet participating in a Royal Lao Airborne ground school training this weekend to get Static Line qualified. We will be doing 5 SL jumps with a Royal Lao Jump Master, U.S. Army Jump Master, and Australian Jump Master, As a result, we will be awarded wings from the RLA, the US Army "Jump Wings," and the Australian Parachutist wings. Am I authorized to wear the US Army "Jump Wings" on my Cadet uniform as I will have been awarded them for jumping with a US Jump Master, but have not completed Airborne School? I understand the foreign wings are authorized, but was concerned about the US Wings, as I believe I may have found myself in a 'gray zone.' If anyone has some guidance, I would greatly appreciate it. - Have a great day.
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I’m 18 years old and I graduate this Sunday the 21st of may. I’ve been talking to my recruiter and he gave me the run down on benefits of the army. I’m considering going full time and interested in mos 91E as a career path. I’m sure my recruiter is just telling me what I want to hear. What should I expect in joining the army or should I change mos?
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So I've been out of the Army a year and some change, where do we get documents since AKO is retired? I need a copy of my DD-214
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My husband is finishing bootcamp and I was promised by a few recruiters that our infant son and I will be given special permissions to come live together during his 9-month AIT. On a different thread folks have warned me that this doesn't happen any more and I'm freaking out just a bit. Has anyone heard of this happening in the last few years? are families with really young kids and really long AIT durations worthy exceptions that anyone is aware of?
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Hey y’all I’m 23 and I’m planning on joining the reserve by the end of the year and was wondering if I’m able to attend airborne, ranger, special forces as a reserved? Also does mos skill transfer into the civilian world?
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I’m 22F and I want to be a Delta Force operator. I’m 5’8” and 168lbs.
Has a woman ever graduated Delta Force selection? Does anyone have advice for females that want to join Delta Force?
I can’t find much information online about female Delta Force operators.
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I'm Enlisting for active duty, assuming any MOS can be selected off a 95 ASVAB score . What MOS (if any) have the best quality of life? Mostly see 18 and 35 series as recommended the most, any reason in particular?
-Hours-Location (if it matters)-Whatever you can come up with-Chances of getting BAH ASAP or not having to live in base
Can't think of anything else, but any pros/cons that would weigh in favor of pros for said MOS. Preferably not jumping out of planes type stuff.... rapelling is fine tho.
Please no "look up for an MOS that you are passionate about or really want to do because you will be stuck with it and be hate your time in."
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Although hindsight is 20/20, what MOS should I have picked with these scores?
ASVAB line scores
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Are drill sergeants allowed to read recruits mail? I’m talking just letters, not packages.
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What is officer basic training like? Is it like BCT, if so in what ways? I know you need a Bachelor’s Degree in order to be an officer
Link to Comment Chain
What does life look like for a 255S?
How does that change with rank, WO1-WO5?
Link to Comment Chain
What does the xo do in a battalion? Are they involved with basic training and the privates at all?
Link to Comment Chain
Hey guys, soon to be enlisted and had a question on my career and what would be best going forward.
So joining at 27 with a bachelors and wanted to do something unique/actually doing the job while also being helpful in getting a career once I get out. Can't go officer because of previous law violations. Currently my mentality is just go for an MOS where I can max out my bonus so I can throw all of that into TSP/IRA, go green to gold when I can, and try to go to every school that I can (airborne, ranger, etc.)
Currently looking at 19K cause tank go boom, big bonus, and I also have a passion for mechanics which is a career path I wouldn't mind too much especially if I can go to trade school while I'm in. Then eventually reclass to a tech field if possible and go tech/intel.
Does this sound like a sound like a good plan or is there another route that I am not seeing that would be more beneficial?
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I'll be joining my husband in July once he finishes basic and moving with our baby to live together during AIT. Does anyone know what that experience might be like and whether or not we'll have the option to live off-post? I know they are making an exception for us to live together as a family since People in AIT generally are in dorms. Any information would be helpful!
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Probably a stupid question- Can you split up your TLE days when PCSing? And if you do, do the days you check out of the hotel count "against" the TLE day count?
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How many times do pogs go to train in the field? For example how many times would 68n train a year?
Link to Comment Chain
Would 68Ws assigned to an armor unit be permitted to wear tanker boots or no?
Link to Comment Chain
When you guys buy boots do you buy your true size? Given that boots socks may be a little thicker?
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I'm very Interested in joining. I'm a female with a stature of 4'11. Currently I'm incredibly overweight-I'm trying to fix that. Would you recommend "PT" level workouts everyday or something more intense? What has helped you lose weight? I have lost 10 pounds so far with mostly just walking which is only the start, but looking for workouts that would help shed weight more effectively. Thanks in advanced!
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Sat down with my recruiter and told him I did weed back in 2020. Should i have just denied this? Will this disqualify me?
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What made you choose the army over any other branches of military? At what age did you say “yeah ima join the army?”
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I need to advice on which jobs have good transferable skills into the civilian world my recruiter told me the field artillery promotes the best but I’m looking for more skills I can learn for when I get out. I got some mechanical jobs and I don’t know anything about mechanic stuff so no clue how I got them but I got 13M 35P 91A 13B 14T 91J 92F 92G 88M 91B 91C 91D 91S
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So idk if this is the right spot to ask this but I'm currently stationed in Alaska with a DEROS of 20240907. I've been in for six years, currently an 11B E5 but hoping to pickup soon (ALC complete and all that jazz). Right now my parents are in South Carolina specifically around the fort Jackson area. They're not in good health so I am trying to see if I can volunteer to be a drill sergeant or recruiter to cut my DEROS short and take those assignments.
My questions are basically:
Can I leave an OCONUS assignment early to volunteer for drill/recruiting?
And if so, am I able to pick my location as a drill sergeant or recruiter if I volunteer, compared to being DA selected.
Any questions would be appreciated. I've gotten like seven different answers between my career counselor, PSG, internet, and even the recruiting teams and branch managers:
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What does a division special projects officer do? Would like a brief explanation of their role and life
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Arms 2.1 fat camp. Whats your experience? Easy to pass? RN BMI is 30 need 28
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When I log into DEERS, it says my email is still in the old format of, "name"[email protected]. I still haven't received any email about my levy brief or updates about going into IPPS-A to complete Member Elections (I already have on my own). Could this be an issue if the new official email is now "name"[email protected]? This is the email I've been checking.
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Im leaving soon for basic and Im curious; What MOS's in the army are the best and worst for quality of life? I know everyone is going to say "it depends" because if you like being outside in the woods, you are likely to enjoy being in the infantry more than a supply guy, and I understand that. However there are some jobs that are objectively cushy and some jobs that objectively suck.
Some things that would make a community suck
-horrible leadership -consistently long hours - lack of unit pride - lack of comradery -lack of purpose
some things that would make a community nicer
-better work/life balance - stationed at fewer bases/ less relocation of family -high unit pride/comradery
I am especially curious of quality of life within combat arms as well as EOD and intel, but I wanna hear about any job/community if its really good or really bad.
Thanks for any input.
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Any dog handlers stationed in MieSau Germany?
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My boyfriend is thinking of joining the US Army. No kids and no want for kids, so don't have to take that into consideration. We do live together, and we do have pets (because i know its been said to consider pets) So...Pros and cons of joining the military? What do you wish you knew before joining the military that you didn't find out until after joining? What did you have as a concern before joining that wasn't really much of a concern after? What wasn't a concern and it should have been the entire time? What should one joining be leery of? What about life after the military? Job opportunities, civilian life, difficulty adjusting, dealing with the VA (do you HAVE to use the VA once out of the military? I know my dad has constant issues with them) Just trying to gather as much information as possible so he can make the best decision for himself and what he wants in life long-term with as many facts as possible..after all, once he joins, he's property of the US government for the remainder of his contract and then some) Any help is very much appreciated and of course, thank you all for your role and your sacrifices in keeping us safe. I know it's not always easy, but it's much appreciated.
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Just graduated and will be attending West Point next year. I have a pretty good idea of what I want to do, but I’d like some inside knowledge to make sure I’m making the right choices now that will prepare me down the road. I know it sounds cliché, but simply put I want to jump out of planes and make things go boom. I’m very active, love grueling physical work, and want to push myself in what I do. What MOSs/schools/units should I be looking into now that will set me up for this?
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So, we already discussed what DC was doing to match the tenor of the early years of the War on Terror: A grim, smarter-than-it-thinks miniseries full of gratuitous rape that was meant to take the shine off the Silver Age by showing the darker side of its greatest heroes. Marvel, on the other hand, was trying to find a way to capture the zeitgeist of a post-9/11 era of existential threats, constant government surveillance, and the idea that if you weren’t with America, you were against it. A Captain America storyline saw Cap wrestle with the very concept of Guantanamo Bay; like any story arc that involves Cap doubting whether America lives up to its ideals, this made certain conservatives pissy, to the point that bad movie cataloguer Michael Medved wrote an entire article asking if Cap was a traitor. Avengers Disassembled briefly saw the Avengers face down their demons, as the Scarlet Witch goes crazy (again) and starts killing team members, her reality manipulations causing fault lines to form among Marvel’s greatest superteam. But there hadn’t yet been a storyline that would tie the entire Marvel Universe together with the burning question, “Which side are you on?”
Yeah, it’s got nothing to do with the Sokovia Accords. We’d be a lot better off if it did.
Part 1: Mark Millar’s March to the C-Word
Content Warning: Sexual assault. None of this is germane to the topic of the drama, so feel free to skip ahead to Part 1.5 if you don’t want to deal with this. Tl;dr: Mark Millar, the writer of the event, has a near pathological need to be a 3edgy5u contrarian.
Every comics crossover is ultimately a chance for one creative in the stable to shine or falter. The editors pick a writer who has turned out dependable work and give them a chance to try to alter the status quo but good. And for Civil War, Marvel’s EiC Joe Quesada decided the best person to lead the charge was Ultimates writer Mark Millar.
But who is Millar? Well, we could say “edgelord” and leave it at that, but we’re trying to dig deeper. Millar came up in comics alongside fellow Scot Grant Morrison, long before Morrison said the only time they want to bump into Millar on the streets of Glasgow is while going at 100 miles per hour. This antipathy is alleged to have stemmed from Millar copping several ideas from Morrison that went into Superman: Red Son. But after getting a start on Superman Adventures and as a cowriter on parts of Morrison’s JLA run, Millar soon branched out to WildStorm, where he took over The Authority from departing creatowritesex pest Warren Ellis.
The reason I bring up Red Son (for those non-geeks, an alternative universe comic premised on “What if Superman’s rocket had landed in Soviet Russia?”) is to frame a constant refrain about Mark Millar. He has good high-concept ideas… which often get trammeled up in an almost Pavlovian urge to shock, disturb, and/or titillate the reader. For instance, in The Authority, Ellis had introduced Apollo and Midnighter, two close companions who just happened to share the rough power sets and demeanors of Superman and Batman, with a few tweaks. Then he revealed they were boyfriends, which was a pretty bold move for a late Nineties comic book full of widescreen action and lovingly-rendered eviscerations.
In Millar’s first arc on the title, centered on a villainous Jack Kirby clone sending out a team of baddies who totally aren’t the Avengers, Apollo is subdued and is strongly implied to have been raped by someone who’s not Captain America. Apollo gets revenge by destroying EvilCap’s spinal column with his laser vision, then leaving him to the tender mercies of Midnighter, who is strongly implied to have sodomized him with a jackhammer.
In case you can’t tell, Millar loved him some rape. And it kept showing up in his creator-owned titles as well, all of which were basically written as Hollywood pitch docs. Wanted asks the question, “What if the supervillains won and secretly ruled the world from behind the scenes?” Well, an Eminem clone would take the opportunity to step into his dead villainous dad’s shoes and commit a lot of rape (yeah, there’s a reason the movie version replaced this with basically the Euthanatos from Mage: the Ascension getting orders from a magic loom). Chosen asks the question, “What if Jesus were born today?” Well, in a blatantly obvious twist, it turns out he’s actually the Antichrist, and part of his journey into realizing his evil nature involves being raped by all the demons of Hell.
It’s not that Millar can’t write innocent or restrained; he got started on the Superman: the Animated Series comic spin-off, and some of his titles such as Huck and Starlight have been praised for being relatively wholesome (keep in mind Huck is basically “What if Superman was Forrest Gump?” when I say “relatively”). And, as mentioned above, his works are made for high-concept log lines. You might recognize some of his various pitch docs: Kick-Ass, The Secret Service (source for the Kingsman movies), and, as mentioned above, Wanted. It’s just there’s this unctuous contrarian streak to a lot of his titles, a tendency to focus on venality, grotesquerie, and sodomy, with an air of pop culture edge. This also leaked into his image outside of his writing, with comments like “Games are for pedos” and ventures like the creator-owned comics periodical CLiNT (yes, the kerning is intentional). This streak continues to this day, as The Magic Order, a title that emerged from his deal with Netflix, features a magical escapologist who, she feels it very important to tell the reader in a direct monologue, escaped her own abortion. Bottom line, Millar has a sense of vision, but it’s betrayed at times by this reflexive desire to prove he’s smarter than the reader, to rub your face in the contradictions and make you a party to the artifice of it all. Usually with a dash of rape.
But at Marvel, Millar was riding the lightning of the Ultimate Universe. His Ultimates title was drawing on the wide-screen action image of JLA and The Authority, creating the cinematic language that would come to define the MCU. The choice to fantasy cast Samuel L. Jackson as Nick Fury is why we have Samuel L. Jackson as Nick Fury. He also painted the Hulk as a cannibalistic monster, cemented Hank Pym’s reputation as a wifebeater, and gave us Captain America yelling “Surrender? Do you think this A on my head stands for France?”, so let’s just keep that in perspective.
But the Ultimate Universe was its own pocket universe. Millar was being tapped to write a story for Earth-616, the main Marvel Universe. And he had a vision:

“I opted instead for making the superhero dilemma something a little different. People thought they were dangerous, but they did not want a ban. What they wanted was superheroes paid by the federal government like cops and open to the same kind of scrutiny. It was the perfect solution and nobody, as far as I'm aware, has done this before.”

Yeah. About that.
Part 1.5: What Has Come Before
Ultimately, the crux of Civil War is something that has been explored lightly in the past at Marvel: The idea that, instead of being unlicensed vigilantes who decide the best solution of societal issues is to beat up assholes in spandex, superheroes become licensed government officers that register their true identities with Uncle Sam and solve societal issues by beating up assholes in spandex. In Marvel’s history, it hasn’t gone well. The reality of government liaisons to superhero bodies has ranged from Valerie Cooper, who worked with government mutant team X-Factor but still found herself backing the genocidal Sentinel program as a big “Yeah, but what if…?”, to Henry Peter Gyrich, an inflamed obstructionist asshole who had to be held back from flipping a switch that would depower every superhuman individual on Earth. The idea of heroes themselves bristling against a government they disagreed with had a long history, as there was a period where Steve Rogers quit being Captain America, and the government had to find a replacement while he rode around on a motorcycle in a surprisingly slutty costume. But the idea of registering with the government has usually ended up on the “No” side due to one big cohort at Marvel: Mutants.
Ever since the days of Chris Claremont, a general conceit of the Marvel Universe is that mutants are a stand-in for your minority group of choice. Hated and feared, born different and feeling alienated, painted as an existential menace and threat to the status quo. Of course, it’s long been pointed out that the metaphor breaks down on the general grounds that, say, gays can’t shoot laser beams out of their eyes. I have my thoughts on that which I might share in the comments if someone pokes me hard enough, but it’s been general editorial consensus that people with powers, especially those of persecuted minorities, being compelled to share their true names, addresses, and natures with the federal government is a “That train’s never late!” move. Not only that, it’s a slippery slope. The classic X-Men story “Days of Future Past” is entirely premised on the idea that a government program of genocidal robots built to wipe out mutants will eventually run out of mutants… and then start turning on humans who could give birth to mutants, and then it’s Skynet all over again.
Another running meme in the Marvel Universe is that the X-Men usually exist in a Schrodinger’s cat situation with the rest of the superhero universe, both coexisting and in their own worlds. Yes, mutants have served on the Avengers, and yes, Thor intervened when the Morlocks were nearly wiped out in the sewers under New York. But Captain America, for all his proud statements of living up to America’s ideals, has a habit of missing the plot whenever the US government (or Canada, seat of all the Marvel Universe’s governmental evils - no, really) decides it’s Genocide O’Clock. And when the mutant nation of Genosha was completely wiped out by said murder robots, the Avengers seemed to be all “New phone who dis?” But when the two do intersect, there’s usually support for the mutants. One story in Fantastic Four had Reed Richards - Mr. Fantastic, stretchy man, greatest genius in the Marvel Universe, guy who’s probably being cucked by a fish-man - get tapped by the US government to make a device that detects mutants and other people with powers. He does… and then uses it to show why the government probably doesn’t want it, as it pings several members of Congress as having just enough genetic variation to qualify as “mutants,” even if they don’t have powers.
All in all, while the argument has some merit, for years, Marvel has come down on the position that asking people with powers to reveal their identities to the federal government is something that could go really bad if somebody with a hate-on for superheroes ends up in power. Something that would never happen oh yeah it totally did. But before it all went to Hell, Civil War at least gave an opportunity to reexamine the concept and see if it had merit.
It might have. But not with this argument.
Part 1.75: What Else Has Happened Before?
And now, some things that will ultimately give context for what happens next:

• In the pages of Thor, all of Asgard eventually runs headlong into Ragnarok. Thor and the rest of the Asgardians give their lives to save the earth, taking Thor off the board… for now.
• As mentioned above, the Avengers experience a critical fault due to Wanda going batshit (a common lament). With Avengers Mansion destroyed and the team at odds, it is eventually reunited under Tony Stark, who put the Avengers up in a tower he built.
• Nick Fury has vanished due to doing some skullduggery in the pages of the miniseries Secret War (no, not Secret Wars, this is different). Acting head of SHIELD, the all-purpose super spy squad of Marvel, is Maria Hill, who can’t seem to draw her pistol without shooting herself in the foot.
• Due to Wanda continuing to go batshit, the House of M crossover event ends with her casting a spell: “No more mutants.” While the damage is staunched, Earth-616’s population of mutants (which was recently established to be somewhere around 16 million) is reduced to 200, the rest being depowered or dying as a result of being depowered. This was because, as Editor-in-Chief Joe Quesada said, the idea of mutants being everywhere made them “boring.” The fact that mutants were starting to be written less as a minority stand-in and more as an actual minority group with fashion, culture, music, and neighborhoods might have had something to do with that. From the wake of this event emerges Sally Floyd, a journalist whose own mutant daughter died before the mass depowering due to having a power that was more curse than blessing. The series Generation M follows her as the viewpoint character as she investigates the stories of former mutants.

Part 2: Connecticut Can’t Catch a Break
The big kick-off for Civil War involves the New Warriors, a team of teen heroes who have, as of a recently canceled series, been trying to make it big as reality TV stars. They get in a fight with a bunch of villains in the small town of Stamford, CT, when exploding villain Nitro goes positively nuclear, resulting in a blast much bigger than any he’s generated. [1] Not only does this mostly wipe out the New Warriors (save for kinetic energy-absorbing goofball Speedball), but it also happens to hit a nearby school. In the end, 612 people are dead, many of them children, and the nation wants answers.
With public opinion turning against the New Warriors, former member Hindsight starts leaking secret identities to get the heat off his back. This only makes things worse. Secret identities have only recently stopped being a thing for some heroes: Captain America only came out a few years ago, it was only recently that Tony Stark stopped pretending Iron Man was his bodyguard, and Daredevil was almost outed in the pages of his book. But something needs to be done, so Tony helps work with Congress to pass the Super Human Registration Act, which requires that all people with powers or working as vigilantes register their identities with the government to receive training and oversight. If you don’t? Believe it or not, jail, right away.
Fault lines quickly develop in the superhero community. While Tony is leading the “pro” side, alongside Reed Richards (yeah, we’ll get to that), Captain America, usually painted as the embodiment of the dream of America despite its compromised history and many sins, is against it. He’s lived through Richard Nixon being a secret fascist and shooting himself in the head after being fingered as mastermind of a vast criminal conspiracy (yes, that happened ); he knows how badly this could go in the wrong hands. Needless to say, Maria Hill and SHIELD hear his concerns, understand his problems with it, and are willing to iron out the kinks through reasoned debate.
Just kidding. Before the law has even been signed, Maria sics SHIELD’s elite Cape-Killers squad on Cap with the intent of getting him behind bars. Cap swiftly goes underground and starts his own group of anti-registration superheroes.
The fight continues for the next few issues. Spider-Man, caught in the middle, reveals himself to be Peter Parker at a press conference, declaring his support for the SHRA. Doctor Strange is so powerful that he tells the government to fuck off, and somehow, Maria Hill doesn’t decide to go charging up his asshole. Ben Grimm, the ever-loving blue-eyed Thing, is so sick of all the conflict he goes to France. But things are still at a stalemate, and while SHIELD may be acting like a bunch of merry assholes, it seems like there’s a debate to be had that could still be resolved reasonably… except for one key factor.
Part 3: I Fought the Law, and the Law… Huh?
No one ever really defined what the Super Human Registration Act, the legislation that tore the Marvel Universe’s superhero community asunder, did. Every book that had an issue that touched on the event seemed to have a different understanding of its principles, as well as just how fascist it might be in the long run. In the pages of She-Hulk, attorney Jennifer Walters/She-Hulk argues the law is a net good, as it gives heroes the backing and resources they need to not have to go it alone, while also having some measure of government oversight. In the pages of Civil War Frontline (oh, and we’ll get back to Civil War Frontline, don’t you worry), Wonder Man is told by the government that he needs to do a job for them, and if he refuses, well, one thousand years dungeon.
Which then leads into the other issue behind the SHRA. Namely, that everyone in favor was either starting to swing towards fascism or embracing bootlicking as a lifestyle, not a kink. In the pages of Amazing Spider-Man, Peter asks Reed Richards, who has always bucked authority and once stopped the US government from doing something just like this with mutants, why he’s pro-registration. Reed then reveals that an uncle who has never been mentioned before was called before HUAC; he refused to name names, his career was ruined, and he killed himself. From this, Reed - the man who stole a rocketship because the government said “no” to his planned space voyage - has learned that the government is always right, especially when they could step on your neck (this was received so badly that a later comic revealed he’d actually borrowed the concept of psychohistory from Asimov’s Foundation, he’d made it work somehow, and his calculations showed that this was the only way to avoid a greater disaster). This comic also revealed that people who were in violation of the SHRA were sent to a literal extradimensional Gitmo, a prison in the Negative Zone that later comics would reveal was overseen by… Captain Marvel. No, not that one. No, not that one. The Kree superhero Captain Mar-Vell, who had famously died of cancer decades before. How did he come back from the dead? Fuck if we know.
This “the law says what you want it to say” approach spread across various books and miniseries meant to cross over into the event. In the pages of a crossover mini between the Runaways and the Young Avengers, this meant SHIELD Cape-Killer squads were using lethal force against teenagers. The second-to-last issue of the mini ends with several members of both teams in extradimensional Gitmo, about to be dissected by a guy who’s horny for torture. The fact that all the captive heroes were the queer members of both teams? Total coincidence. Honestly.
So, it quickly becomes clear that the editorial control on this event is less than cohesive. There are different ideas all over as to what the SHRA does, and some of those ideas are tacking pretty fashy. But if the law is being painted as that bad, then clearly, there must be some greater statement of freedom vs. security. Maybe Millar’s really painting a subversive picture of what happens when you trade liberty for control, right?
Part 4: Why Do You Hate the Good Thing?
After the publication of Civil War #3, Millar would say in an interview he was actually pro-registration. I can’t find that interview, but here’s a similar sentiment shared years later:

“Weirdly, some of the other writers would often make Tony the bad guy, which I thought was a strange choice because I was actually on Tony’s side... In the real world, if somebody had superpowers, I’d like them to be registered in the same way that somebody who has a gun has to carry a license. But a gun can kill several people while a superhero can kill several thousands of people, so on a pragmatic level I’m 100% on Tony’s side. Maybe on a romantic level, Cap’s position makes sense but I don’t think anybody in the real world would really want that."”

And again, here’s the thing: He’s not entirely wrong. As said above, the idea of civil liberties for all and “free to me you and me” falls down a little when one of your neighbors can blow up a city block by thinking real hard. But Millar is fighting against years of ideological inertia in the Marvel Universe, as well as painting Captain America, the guy who has always embodied the ideal of a righteous, just America, as in the wrong. He needs to make one hell of an argument.
So here’s what happens in the pages of Civil War #3 to sell the audience on the SHRA:

• Thor comes back from the dead… and he’s on Tony’s side! Well, not really. Tony and Reed both realized that having one of the most beloved gods of the Marvel Universe come out on their side would be a big win… if only he wasn’t dead. So, they cloned him. Or rather, they T-800’d him, putting cloned divine flesh on a robot skeleton. But I’m sure he’s perfectly under control, and - oh, he just killed Goliath. In the next issue, one of Marvel’s black male heroes, frozen at the size of a small townhouse in death, will be buried in a gigantic ditch, wrapped in a tarp and chains. You’d think Hank Pym could grow a large enough coffin, at least.
• With Cap and the anti-registration side escaping once again, Tony decides he needs a dedicated team that can track down fugitive superhumans. To do so, he creates a new version of the Thunderbolts, a concept long associated with “villains acting like heroes.” And who does he put on this team? Venom, the Spider-Man villain who eats people’s brains; Bullseye, the Daredevil villain who will kill anyone for the lulz; and Norman Osborn, a.k.a. The Green Goblin, who famously murdered Spider-Man’s girlfriend Gwen Stacy.

Again. Tony’s in the right. The SHRA is good.
Part 5: Yadda, Yadda, Yadda
The next few issues of Civil War might best be described as “They fight, and fight, and fight and fight and fight.” The anti-registration side picks up The Punisher, Marvel’s most avowed murderer of criminals - and Cap is somewhat shocked but not entirely surprised when two minor villains join the anti-registration side and Frank promptly kills them on sight. Spider-Man starts realizing things are weird on the pro-reg side and defects, after he has set his entire life on fire. The X-Men have continued to stay out of this whole mess. In the lead-up, Emma Frost called Tony out on the Avengers’ complete absence when Genosha got nuked. Later, Carol Danvers (then Ms. Marvel, now Captain Marvel) will show up at the Xavier School to pitch the SHRA just after a massive terrorist attack kills dozens of students. Emma responds by telepathically dogwalking her.
By the final issue of the miniseries, the SHRA has expanded out into the Fifty States Initiative, wherein each state gets its own superteam. There’s a big final battle, Hercules kills Robo-Thor, and Cap nearly takes out Tony, only to be stopped by… the heroes of 9/11. No shit, Captain America is subdued by cops, firefighters, and paramedics. And when that happens, Cap finally takes a look around, realizes their big ideological street brawl has resulted in collateral damage, and surrenders. The SHRA wins, though Tony feels a little bad about it. Cap is ready to stand trial and to argue that, while he may have done something wrong, he did it for the right reasons.
Once again: Yeah. About that.
Part 6: MySpace Tom Didn’t Die For This
Running alongside Civil War is Civil War Frontline, a street-level book written by Paul Jenkins that managed to capture this world-breaking conflict through the eyes of people on the street. Though it has side stories, its main leads are Ben Urich, Peter Parker’s journalist buddy at The Daily Bugle, and the aforementioned Sally Floyd. Throughout the series, they start to realize there’s a story underneath the SHRA, as if somebody is playing the angles.
Before we talk about that conclusion, let’s talk about a side story. Remember how we said part of the comics community saw Identity Crisis as a driven effort to make things less “wacky” and intentionally darken the DCU? Well, that same tonal approach led to one of the more laughable moments of a pretty laughable arc. See, despite the fact that, as established, it was Nitro who blew up Stamford, it’s Speedball, the only survivor of the New Warriors, that views himself as responsible and is held up as a scapegoat by the general public. In addition, the blast screwed up his powers. Now, he doesn’t absorb and reflect kinetic energy; rather, he generates energy based on pain. So, he builds himself a new, extreme outfit lined with 612 spikes, one for each person who died in Stamford. This will drive his crusade to make things right - not as Speedball… but as Penance.
It was so laughably DeviantArt “OC do not steal” that no one could take it seriously. Look what you did, you took a perfectly good goofball and gave him an emo streak. The turn is swiftly mocked in other Marvel books, and it’s eventually revealed that Speedball still had his original powerset and always intended to put Nitro in the Goofy Suit of Dark Inner Torment as punishment for his crimes. But this turn gives you a sense of the tone and heft Jenkins was bringing to the proceedings.
Anyway, back to the main plot. Ben and Sally follow the thread as Namor, as he is wont to do, declares war on the surface world after an Atlantean diplomat is shot. But it turns out the assassination was arranged by Norman Osborn, who decided it was better to beg forgiveness than ask permission and manipulated Atlantis into war so that Tony could have another piece of evidence for getting superhumans on a leash. And the two journalists deduce that, on some level, Tony had to know this would be an inevitable outcome of giving state backing to an unhinged mogul who dresses like a Power Rangers villain. Weighing what to do with this information, Ben and Sally, who are kind of sick of the collateral damage by this point, sit on it while they go in for an interview with Captain America, now in custody and willing to tell his side of the story.
And then. And then. The monologue. If you want a lesson in how to assassinate a character in 30 seconds or less, this monologue is a great example. Sally Floyd calls Captain America out as completely divorced from American values. Now, again, Captain America has long served as the beating liberal heart of the Marvel Universe. He has always represented an America that reckons with its legacy of things like internment camps, Manifest Destiny, and Jim Crow, in order to transcend these scars and embody the promise offered by Emma Lazarus’s New Colossus, carved on the side of the Statue of Liberty. Why is he out of touch with Americans at the dawn of the 21st century?
Well, he’s never heard of MySpace. [2] He doesn’t watch NASCAR. He doesn’t follow American Idol. There are pop culture moments that have aged like milk; this one had all the permanence of an ice cream cone in a blast furnace. But despite the inanity of Floyd’s argument - and trust me, there are fan edits dedicated to Cap pointing out how full of shit this argument is - it’s clear it represents something else. This is a post-9/11 world. Fuck civil liberties, we have a no-fly list and Gitmo, and if the American people really cared, they’d do something other than watch Simon Cowell read aspiring singers to filth. What does Captain America stand for in this moment of crisis?
Nothing. Because he just looks away from Sally Floyd. No doubt thinking, “Oh my God this bitch.” But to underline the argument in question, Sally storms out of the interview, Ben in tow. She still has that information on Norman Osborn’s false flag operation… and while she and Ben confront Tony on everything that went down, they decide the story should never see the light of day. Because they wouldn’t dare jeopardize the SHRA, because security is more important than the truth.
Oh. And then Cap gets shot. And dies. He totally dies (except he doesn’t but we’ll get to that). If ever there was an unintentional thesis statement for this event, running in the late stages of the Bush era, it would be this: “It’s better to trust that the powers that be who oversee the new America will keep you safe, even when they stage false flag operations, stick you in a gulag, and put their trust in monsters. All that civil liberty stuff was the old America. And the old America was hopeless. It wasn’t even on MySpace.”
Epilogue: Consequences Keep Consequencing
As you can tell from that last paragraph, a lot of the fan reception to Civil War likely had a lot to do with the period. This was the Bush era, a time where you were for America or against it. We were in the shadow of the Patriot Act, Gitmo, and widespread wiretaps, paranoid about what civil liberty we’d be asked to put on the pyre next in the name of Freedom. A story all about the warm, clenching fist of government control that tells you to ignore the collateral damage… well, it wasn’t great for the cultural moment.
The ideas of Civil War aren’t necessarily bad ones. I frame Cap as the liberal dream of what America could be, but there are good arguments to be made that America has never been that and Cap is just copium for liberals. His most recent title, Sentinel of Liberty, opens with Steve saying he is out of touch with the average American - not because he doesn’t watch NASCAR, but because he’s a WWII veteran who looks maybe 30 years old at most and whose best friends are all superheroes or spies. A narrative that has him on the wrong side of the issue and detonates his beliefs isn’t impossible, but it probably shouldn’t be one where people who got powers due to a fluke of birth or a radiation accident are told by the government, “Join with us or we’ll send supervillains after you.” Hell, as the Civil War movie proves, there is a way to tell a story about a superhero community torn in half by the idea of mandatory registration as government-controlled actors, and just why people would think that could be a bad idea (“Hey, remember when a good chunk of our intelligence apparatus turned out to be Nazi stay behinds?”).
But in the context of the era, and coupled with the execution, Civil War felt like a hard sell, and you could feel the thumb pressing on the scale every second while reading it. The moral center of the Marvel Universe is wrong, the winning side employs sadistic murderers and has an extradimensional Gitmo, and the writer is telling you that any sane individual would be on Team Green Goblin Employer.
So how did that all work out? Well…

• With Cap seemingly dead, shot by his brainwashed love interest Sharon Carter as part of a plot by the Red Skull, Bucky Barnes/the Winter Soldier becomes the new Cap. Only it turns out Steve wasn’t killed, but shot with a time bullet that Billy Pilgrims his ass. He eventually comes back.
• Thor comes back, finds out what Tony did, and beats his ass all the way across post-Katrina New Orleans (thank you to Powman_7 for the link).
• The Secret Invasion event happens next, which leads to Skrull infiltrators hitting everything (this is also the explanation for Captain Mar-Vell’s miraculous resurrection: He was a Skrull all along). With Tony caught with his pants down and Norman Osborn seeming to save the day, Norman - who has been losing his shit for some time - takes over the Initiative and forms his own fascist cabal, HAMMER. To try and stop Norman from learning everything on every hero ever, Tony goes on the run and actually starts deleting his own brain, which he then reassembles with a backup from before anyone even thought of the SHRA. The fact that getting rid of Tony’s “Oops I did a fascism” period came out alongside Iron Man hitting theaters is a coincidence, I’m sure.

As for Spider-Man? It might not shock you, but having a hero without the resources of Tony Stark out himself to the world carries liabilities. An assassin who tries to kill Peter instead hits Aunt May, and it appears she’ll die of her injuries. All this leads to One More Day… and if you thought the fans hated Civil War? Oh, BABY.
[1] This is eventually explored in the pages of Wolverine, of all books, as Wolverine decides maybe somebody should track down the person who actually killed hundreds of children. It’s revealed that Nitro was given power-boosting drugs by the CEO of Damage Control, Marvel’s designated “clean up after the super-battle” corporation, as a way of generating business. In a sign of how little this matters, Wolverine tells Maria Hill to her face that the person responsible for a mass casualty event is the pawn of a powerful conspiracy, and she basically says, “Not my problem.” Cobie Smulders must thank the gods that her Maria Hill is written as somebody with basic human decency.
[2] Hilariously, when Sally Floyd was brought back during Nick Spencer’s Captain America run because no one had piled enough dung on her corpse, this line was retconned to her asking him about Twitter. Given everything Elon’s been doing lately, we’ll see if that ages just as poorly.

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Bugsnax	$13.39	$33.49	60% off	Matches low
Call Of Duty Modern Warfare	$26.39	$79.99	67% off	Matches low
Carrion	$10.79	$26.99	60% off	New Lowest
Carrion	$10.79	$26.99	60% off	Matches low
Chernobylite	$19.99	$39.99	50% off	Lowest price $17.99 on 2023-3-1
Chernobylite	$19.99	$39.99	50% off	Lowest price $17.99 on 2023-3-1
Chicken Police Paint It Red	$13.49	$26.99	50% off	New Lowest
Chicken Police Paint It Red Ps4 Ps5	$13.49	$26.99	50% off	New Lowest
Chrono Cross The Radical Dreamers Edition	$18.89	$26.99	30% off	Matches low
Cions Of Vega Ps4 Ps5	$6.64	$9.49	30% off	New Lowest
Cooking Simulator	$14.84	$26.99	45% off	Matches low
Crash Bandicoot Crashiversary Bundle	$59.99	$149.99	60% off	Matches low
Crash Bandicoot Quadrilogy Bundle	$45.99	$114.99	60% off	Matches low
Cricket 22	$27.99	$69.99	60% off	New Lowest
Cricket 22	$27.99	$69.99	60% off	New Lowest
Crisis Core Final Fantasy Vii Reunion	$46.89	$66.99	30% off	New Lowest
Crossing Souls	$2.99	$19.99	85% off	Matches low
Crsed Dark Horse Bundle	$13.49	$26.99	50% off	Lowest price $10.79 on 2023-4-12
Crsed Nutcracker Bundle	$13.49	$26.99	50% off	Matches low
Crsed Street Kid Bundle	$13.49	$26.99	50% off	Lowest price $10.79 on 2023-4-12
Crsed Vampire Hunter Bundle	$13.49	$26.99	50% off	Lowest price $10.79 on 2023-4-12
Crusader Kings Iii	$43.54	$66.99	35% off	New Lowest
Curse Of The Sea Rats	$21.59	$26.99	20% off	New Lowest
Curse Of The Sea Rats	$21.59	$26.99	20% off	New Lowest
Dark Souls Ii Scholar Of The First Sin	$24.99	$49.99	50% off	Lowest price $12.49 on 2019-12-2
Dark Souls Iii	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Lowest price $12.79 on 2020-6-3
Dark Souls Remastered	$27.49	$54.99	50% off	Matches low
Darkest Dungeon	$6.69	$33.49	80% off	Lowest price $3.34 on 2023-3-1
Dayz	$40.19	$66.99	40% off	Lowest price $33.49 on 2022-12-21
Dead Island 2	$78.40	$98.00	19% off	New Lowest
Dead Space	$62.99	$89.99	30% off	New Lowest
Deathloop	$19.99	$79.99	75% off	New Lowest
Deeeer Simulator Your Average Everyday Deer Game	$13.49	$26.99	50% off	Matches low
Deemo Reborn	$16.04	$53.49	70% off	Matches low
Deep Rock Galactic	$13.19	$39.99	67% off	Matches low
Deexit Eternal Matters	$21.59	$26.99	20% off	New Lowest
Deliver Us Mars Ps4 Ps5	$27.99	$39.99	30% off	Matches low
Demeo	$37.44	$53.49	30% off	New Lowest
Demon Slayer Kimetsu No Yaiba The Hinokami Chronicles Ps4 Ps5	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Matches low
Deus Ex Mankind Divided	$5.99	$39.99	85% off	Lowest price $5.59 on 2020-3-4
Disney Dreamlight Valley	$29.99	$39.99	25% off	Matches low
Disney Speedstorm Standard Founders Pack	$31.99	$39.99	20% off	New Lowest
Divinity Original Sin 2 Definitive Edition	$31.99	$79.99	60% off	Lowest price $26.39 on 2021-8-18
Doom Eternal Deluxe Edition	$30.85	$119.99	74% off	Lowest price $23.37 on 2023-5-12
Doom Eternal Year One Pass Standalone	$15.99	$39.99	60% off	Matches low
Dragon Ball Z Kakarot Legendary Edition	$79.99	$159.99	50% off	Matches low
Dungeons 3	$19.99	$66.99	70% off	Lowest price $8.02 on 2020-2-19
Dying Light 2 Stay Human Ps5	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Matches low
Dying Light 2 Stay Human Ps5	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	New Lowest
Earth Defense Force 5	$31.99	$79.99	60% off	Matches low
Earth Defense Force41 Wingdiver The Shooter	$2.69	$26.99	90% off	Matches low
Earth Defense Forceiron Rain	$19.99	$79.99	75% off	Matches low
Earth Defense Forceworld Brothers	$32.09	$79.99	59% off	Matches low
Eiyuden Chronicle Rising	$11.99	$19.99	40% off	New Lowest
Ender Lilies Quietus Of The Knights	$15.49	$30.99	50% off	New Lowest
Enlisted Battle For Moscow High Caliber Bundle	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	New Lowest
Enlisted Battle Of Tunisia Desert Warriors Bundle	$26.74	$53.49	50% off	New Lowest
Enlisted Pacific War Maneuver Warfare Bundle	$19.99	$39.99	50% off	Matches low
Escape Game Fort Boyard	$11.99	$39.99	70% off	Lowest price $7.99 on 2023-3-1
Fallout 4	$8.90	$39.99	77% off	Lowest price $6.74 on 2022-9-28
Far Changing Tides	$13.49	$26.99	50% off	Matches low
Final Fantasy Vii Remake	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Lowest price $31.99 on 2022-3-16
Final Fantasy Vii Remake Intergrade	$53.28	$93.49	43% off	Lowest price $52.35 on 2021-12-22
Final Fantasy Vii Remake Intergrade Digital Deluxe Edition	$80.39	$119.99	33% off	Lowest price $67.19 on 2021-12-22
Finding The Soul Orb Ps4 Ps5	$5.69	$9.49	40% off	New Lowest
Flashback	$5.02	$33.49	85% off	Lowest price $1.67 on 2022-5-18
Forspoken	$46.74	$93.49	50% off	New Lowest
Forspoken Digital Deluxe Upgrade	$16.50	$33.00	50% off	New Lowest
Fort Triumph	$9.17	$26.99	66% off	Lowest price $5.39 on 2023-3-1
Ghost Of Tsushima Directors Cut	$37.79	$	0% off	Matches low
Ghostrunner	$15.99	$39.99	60% off	Lowest price $13.99 on 2023-3-29
Ghostrunner Ps5	$15.99	$39.99	60% off	Lowest price $13.99 on 2023-3-29
Ghostwire Tokyo	$31.99	$79.99	60% off	Lowest price $27.99 on 2023-3-24
Giana Sisters Twisted Dreams Directors Cut	$3.99	$19.99	80% off	Matches low
Gleamlight	$6.59	$21.99	70% off	Lowest price $4.39 on 2023-4-12
Goat Simulator 3	$25.34	$38.99	35% off	New Lowest
God Of War Ragnark	$63.89	$89.99	29% off	New Lowest
God Of War Ragnark	$52.79	$79.99	34% off	New Lowest
Gotham Knights	$29.69	$89.99	67% off	Matches low
Gran Turismo 7	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Matches low
Gran Turismo 7	$51.29	$89.99	43% off	Matches low
Grand Theft Auto The Trilogy The Definitive Edition	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Matches low
Grand Theft Auto V Playstation5	$24.99	$12.50	-99% off	Lowest price $12.5 on 2022-6-15
Gravel	$2.69	$62.99	95% off	Matches low
Green Hell	$20.09	$33.49	40% off	New Lowest
Grimgrimoire Oncemore	$53.59	$66.99	20% off	New Lowest
Gungrave Gore	$30.14	$66.99	55% off	Matches low
Hades	$20.09	$33.49	40% off	Matches low
Hell Let Loose	$40.11	$53.49	25% off	Lowest price $37.44 on 2023-4-12
Hindsight	$13.19	$19.99	34% off	New Lowest
Hollow Knight	$9.99	$19.99	50% off	Lowest price $7.99 on 2021-2-24
Horizon Forbidden West	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Matches low
Horizon Forbidden West	$51.29	$89.99	43% off	Matches low
Horse Tales Emerald Valley Ranch	$32.09	$53.49	40% off	Matches low
Hot Wheels Unleashed	$13.39	$66.99	80% off	Matches low
Hot Wheels Unleashed	$13.39	$66.99	80% off	Matches low
Hot Wheels Unleashed	$13.39	$66.99	80% off	New Lowest
I Hate Running Backwards	$1.99	$19.99	90% off	New Lowest
It Came From Space And Ate Our Brains	$1.99	$19.99	90% off	Matches low
It Takes Two Ps4 And Ps5	$27.49	$54.99	50% off	Lowest price $21.44 on 2022-4-27
Kingdom Come Deliverance Royal Edition	$10.69	$53.49	80% off	Matches low
La Noire	$24.99	$49.99	50% off	Matches low
Labyrinth Life	$26.79	$66.99	60% off	Lowest price $26.12 on 2022-12-21
Labyrinth Of Zangetsu	$31.99	$39.99	20% off	New Lowest
Lara Croft And The Temple Of Osiris	$4.04	$26.99	85% off	Matches low
Lara Croft Go	$2.69	$10.99	75% off	Lowest price $2.19 on 2020-2-21
Lego Star Wars The Skywalker Saga Ps4 Ps5	$31.99	$79.99	60% off	Matches low
Lets Sing 2023	$37.44	$53.49	30% off	New Lowest
Like A Dragon Ishin Ps4 Ps5	$55.99	$79.99	30% off	New Lowest
Little Nightmares I Ii Bundle Ps4 Ps5	$20.09	$66.99	70% off	Matches low
Little Nightmares Ii Deluxe Edition Ps4 Ps5	$21.39	$53.49	60% off	Matches low
Lost Judgment Digital Ultimate Edition Ps4 Ps5	$35.99	$119.99	70% off	Matches low
Lost Judgment Ps4 Ps5	$27.99	$79.99	65% off	Matches low
Lumines Remastered	$5.99	$19.99	70% off	Matches low
Madden Nfl 23 Ps4	$23.99	$79.99	70% off	Matches low
Madden Nfl 23 Ps5	$26.99	$89.99	70% off	Matches low
Mafia Definitive Edition	$18.72	$53.49	65% off	Matches low
Marsupilami Hoobadventure Ps5	$13.49	$39.99	66% off	Lowest price $11.99 on 2023-3-29
Marvels Avengers	$8.02	$79.99	89% off	New Lowest
Marvels Avengers	$8.02	$79.99	89% off	New Lowest
Marvels Guardians Of The Galaxy Ps4 And Ps5	$31.99	$79.99	60% off	Lowest price $23.99 on 2023-4-26
Marvels Midnight Suns Enhanced Edition	$44.99	$89.99	50% off	Matches low
Marvels Spiderman Miles Morales	$25.99	$64.99	60% off	Matches low
Mass Effect Legendary Edition	$19.99	$79.99	75% off	Matches low
Matchpoint Tennis Championships	$46.89	$66.99	30% off	Matches low
Metro Exodus	$7.99	$53.49	85% off	Matches low
Middleearth Shadow Of Mordor Game Of The Year Edition	$7.49	$29.99	75% off	Matches low
Miraculous Rise Of The Sphinx	$20.09	$66.99	70% off	New Lowest
Mlb The Show 23 Ps4	$52.79	$79.99	34% off	New Lowest
Mlb The Show 23 Ps5	$63.89	$89.99	29% off	New Lowest
Mobile Suit Gundam Battle Operation Code Fairy Standard Edition	$26.79	$66.99	60% off	New Lowest
Monster Energy Supercross The Official Videogame 6	$47.99	$79.99	40% off	New Lowest
Mortal Kombat Xl	$7.49	$29.99	75% off	Lowest price $5.99 on 2021-12-22
Mortal Shell Enhanced Edition	$15.99	$39.99	60% off	Lowest price $11.99 on 2023-3-15
Mortal Shell Enhanced Edition	$15.99	$39.99	60% off	New Lowest
Moto Racer 4	$5.34	$53.49	90% off	Lowest price $2.67 on 2021-8-25
Moto Racer 4 Deluxe Edition	$11.99	$79.99	85% off	Lowest price $3.99 on 2022-2-2
Motogp22 Ps4 Ps5	$10.04	$66.99	85% off	New Lowest
Murder Mystery Machine	$8.09	$26.99	70% off	New Lowest
Mxgp 2021 The Official Motocross Videogame	$10.04	$66.99	85% off	New Lowest
Mxgp 2021 The Official Motocross Videogame	$10.04	$66.99	85% off	New Lowest
Nba 2k23 Michael Jordan Edition Preorder	$24.49	$119.99	79% off	New Lowest
Necrosphere Deluxe	$3.29	$10.99	70% off	Matches low
Need For Speed Unbound Palace Edition	$29.99	$99.99	70% off	New Lowest
Neon White	$23.44	$33.49	30% off	New Lowest
New Super Luckys Tale	$11.99	$53.49	77% off	Matches low
New Tales From The Borderlands	$24.99	$49.99	50% off	Matches low
No Mans Sky Ps4 And Ps5	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Matches low
Nobody Saves The World	$17.99	$29.99	40% off	Matches low
Norco	$11.69	$19.49	40% off	New Lowest
Not A Hero	$1.74	$17.49	90% off	New Lowest
Of Bird And Cage	$5.39	$13.49	60% off	New Lowest
Offroad Racing Buggy X Atv X Moto	$5.39	$26.99	80% off	Lowest price $2.69 on 2023-3-1
Offroad Racing Buggy X Atv X Moto	$5.39	$26.99	80% off	New Lowest
Olija	$5.99	$19.99	70% off	New Lowest
Olija	$5.99	$19.99	70% off	New Lowest
Olliolli World Ps4ps5	$23.99	$39.99	40% off	Lowest price $13.19 on 2022-12-21
Omen Of Sorrow	$20.24	$26.99	25% off	New Lowest
One Piece Odyssey Deluxe Edition Ps4 Ps5	$79.44	$113.49	30% off	New Lowest
Onee Chanbara Origin	$35.99	$79.99	55% off	Matches low
Orcs Must Die 3 Ps4 Ps5	$15.99	$39.99	60% off	New Lowest
Outer Wilds	$20.09	$Unavailable	0% off	Matches low
Outer Wilds Archaeologist Edition	$32.09	$53.49	40% off	Matches low
Pathfinder Kingmaker	$10.69	$66.99	84% off	Lowest price $8.02 on 2023-4-12
Peppa Pig World Adventures	$37.44	$53.49	30% off	New Lowest
Pga 2k23 Crossgen Edition	$31.49	$89.99	65% off	Matches low
Pga Tour 2k23	$26.39	$79.99	67% off	Matches low
Pga Tour 2k23 X Nba 2k23 Bundle	$35.99	$119.99	70% off	New Lowest
Pirates Outlaws	$16.09	$22.99	30% off	New Lowest
Postal 4 No Regerts	$37.44	$53.49	30% off	New Lowest
Process Of Elimination	$42.79	$53.49	20% off	New Lowest
Psychonauts	$2.69	$13.49	80% off	Matches low
Quake	$5.39	$13.49	60% off	Matches low
Raccoon City Edition	$18.74	$74.99	75% off	Matches low
Raiden Iv X Mikado Remix	$29.99	$39.99	25% off	New Lowest
Railway Empire	$13.49	$79.99	83% off	Matches low
Raptor Boyfriend A High School Romance Ps4 Ps5	$13.29	$18.99	30% off	Matches low
Ratchet And Clank Rift Apart	$37.79	$89.99	58% off	Matches low
Red Dead Redemption 2	$14.99	$79.99	81% off	Matches low
Resident Evil Village Gold Edition	$35.99	$59.99	40% off	Matches low
Rez Infinite	$15.99	$39.99	60% off	Lowest price $11.99 on 2023-1-4
Rez Infinite	$29.99	$39.99	25% off	Matches low
Ride 4	$10.04	$66.99	85% off	New Lowest
Ride 4 Ps4 And Ps5	$10.04	$66.99	85% off	New Lowest
Riders Republic Deluxe Edition	$24.99	$99.99	75% off	Matches low
Riders Republic Gold Edition	$32.49	$129.99	75% off	Matches low
Road 96 Mile 0	$13.99	$17.49	20% off	New Lowest
Road 96 Mile 0 Full Journey	$21.59	$35.99	40% off	New Lowest
Ronin	$2.02	$13.49	85% off	Matches low
Salt And Sacrifice	$13.49	$26.99	50% off	Matches low
Samurai Maiden Ps4 Ps5	$59.99	$79.99	25% off	New Lowest
Sayonara Wild Hearts	$10.49	$17.49	40% off	Lowest price $10.48 on 2020-12-22
Sbk22 Ps4 Ps5	$13.37	$53.49	75% off	New Lowest
Sekiro Shadows Die Twice	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Matches low
Session Skate Sim	$33.49	$66.99	50% off	Matches low
Sherlock Holmes The Awakened Deluxe Edition	$53.59	$66.99	20% off	New Lowest
Sid Meiers Civilization Vi	$7.99	$79.99	90% off	Matches low
Sifu	$32.09	$53.49	40% off	Matches low
Sine Mora Ex	$5.99	$19.99	70% off	Lowest price $3.99 on 2021-5-26
Smile For Me	$15.99	$19.99	20% off	New Lowest
Sniper Elite 5	$39.99	$79.99	50% off	Matches low
Snowrunner	$26.74	$53.49	50% off	Matches low
Solar Ash	$26.74	$53.49	50% off	New Lowest
Sonic Frontiers Ps4 Ps5	$47.99	$79.99	40% off	New Lowest
Spacebase Startopia Extended Edition Ps4 And Ps5	$25.72	$86.49	70% off	Matches low
Spongebob Squarepants The Cosmic Shake	$31.99	$39.99	20% off	New Lowest
Star Wars Squadrons	$8.24	$54.99	85% off	Matches low
Strafe	$4.99	$19.99	75% off	New Lowest
Stranded Alien Dawn	$37.59	$46.99	20% off	New Lowest
Stranded Deep	$10.79	$26.99	60% off	Matches low
Stranger Of Paradise Final Fantasy Origin	$42.79	$79.99	46% off	New Lowest
Stray	$29.99	$39.99	25% off	New Lowest
Subject 13	$1.89	$9.49	80% off	Lowest price $0.94 on 2022-12-21
Sudden Strike 4	$13.49	$79.99	83% off	Lowest price $10.79 on 2021-3-17
Super Bomberman R	$29.99	$59.99	50% off	Lowest price $8.99 on 2021-11-10
Syberia The World Before	$40.19	$66.99	40% off	New Lowest
Tactics Ogre Reborn	$44.21	$66.99	34% off	New Lowest
Tails Of Iron	$11.72	$33.49	65% off	New Lowest
Tchia Ps4 Ps5	$29.99	$39.99	25% off	New Lowest
Terraria	$13.49	$19.99	32% off	Lowest price $7.99 on 2019-1-7
Tetris Effect	$26.74	$53.49	50% off	Lowest price $21.39 on 2022-11-18
Tetris Effect Connected	$40.11	$53.49	25% off	Matches low
The Casino Collection	$5.99	$14.99	60% off	Matches low
The Elder Scrolls Online	$7.49	$24.99	70% off	Matches low
The Elder Scrolls V Skyrim Special Edition	$13.37	$53.49	75% off	Matches low
The Entropy Centre	$23.44	$33.49	30% off	Lowest price $21.76 on 2023-4-26
The Escapists 2	$8.09	$26.99	70% off	Lowest price $6.74 on 2020-12-22
The Forest	$10.79	$26.99	60% off	Lowest price $9.44 on 2023-2-15
The Jackbox Party Pack 8	$23.99	$39.99	40% off	Matches low
The Jackbox Party Pack 9	$27.99	$39.99	30% off	Matches low
The King Of Fighters Xv Standard Edition Ps4 Ps5	$31.99	$	0% off	Matches low
The Last Campfire	$4.99	$19.99	75% off	Lowest price $3.99 on 2023-3-29
The Last Of Us Part I	$63.89	$89.99	29% off	Matches low
The Last Worker	$20.24	$26.99	25% off	New Lowest
The Legend Of Heroes Trails To Azure	$42.79	$53.49	20% off	New Lowest
The Midnight Sanctuary	$4.04	$13.49	70% off	Matches low
The Outer Worlds Spacers Choice Edition	$52.79	$79.99	34% off	New Lowest
The Pathless Ps4 And Ps5	$26.74	$53.49	50% off	Matches low
The Quarry For Ps4	$26.39	$79.99	67% off	New Lowest
The Quarry For Ps5	$29.69	$89.99	67% off	New Lowest
The Witcher 3 Wild Hunt Complete Edition	$33.49	$66.99	50% off	Matches low
The Wreck	$21.59	$26.99	20% off	New Lowest
Tiny Metal	$5.99	$19.99	70% off	Matches low
Tiny Tinas Wonderlands For Ps4	$31.99	$79.99	60% off	New Lowest
Titan Souls	$1.99	$19.99	90% off	New Lowest
Tokyo Dark Remembrance	$8.09	$26.99	70% off	Matches low
Tortuga A Pirates Tale	$31.99	$39.99	20% off	Matches low
Townsmen Vr	$42.79	$53.49	20% off	New Lowest
Tramsim Console Edition Deluxe	$53.59	$66.99	20% off	New Lowest
Unpacking	$16.19	$26.99	40% off	New Lowest
Void Trrlm2 Void Terrarium 2	$40.11	$53.49	25% off	New Lowest
Warhammer 40000 Mechanicus	$10.69	$53.49	80% off	New Lowest
Wild Hearts Standard Edition	$53.99	$Early access trial	0% off	New Lowest
Wobbly Life	$18.39	$22.99	20% off	New Lowest
Wolfenstein Ii The New Colossus	$8.02	$79.99	89% off	Matches low
Wwe 2k23	$53.59	$79.99	33% off	New Lowest
Wwe 2k23 Crossgen Digital Edition	$67.49	$89.99	25% off	Matches low
Yakuza Like A Dragon Ps4 And Ps5	$19.99	$79.99	75% off	New Lowest
Yesterday Origins	$6.02	$33.49	82% off	Lowest price $2.34 on 2023-3-1

*History is a beta feature, only goes back as far as I've been tracking this item, and may not be 100% accurate

Okay so I realise this is going to be like finding a needle in a haystack the size of Europe.. Basically there was this stupid video I saw on Facebook 1 or 2 years ago and I thought it was hilarious. Think it must have been taken down because it’s no longer saved on my fb. Tried typing stuff into google but nothing is working. So it could have been a tiktok idk. In the video (I’m assuming pronouns here ofc- there’s a girl/young lady with short hair and glasses and a ‘mom’ tattoo that says something like ‘I wish I had a boyfriend’ 🥺 and then a guy with brown hair comes in and he’s like ‘do you wanna be MY boyfriend?’ And she says ‘noo Tracy I don’t wanna be your boyfriend’ and he’s like ‘come on Angelica Date me’ and she says no ‘you’re ugly and weird and have a girls name and that’s really stupid for a boy to have’ and then he turns round and says something like ‘come onnn I’ve got boy parts down there, I’ve got a hose and 2 grapes for ya! I’ve got a dollar and 50 cents for ya!’ And then I think she says okayy I guess you can take me on 1 date. Then I think it finishes, that’s all I can really remember. The main part that made it funny was they’re awkward body language and the guy keeps making the most weird movements and gestures I cry watching it. It was just so random and stupid. Think it was less than 30 seconds long and took place outside in daylight. (American) or at least American accents I think. Anywho thanks for reading, hopefully, magically, someone will know what I’m talking about/ who made and posted it. PLZ X

I’ve been dating this guy (28M) for 1.5 months. We instantly got along really well, and I can honestly say I’ve never been so into someone after such little time. The feeling is mutual and I can tell he really likes me through his actions. We see each-other several times a week and talk all the time.
He has so many good traits and I’m very attracted to him, besides the fact that one of his bestfriends is his ex girlfriend.
I noticed even on the first date that he mentioned her several times. Every time I see him, this girl somehow always gets brought up. They lived together for a year in 2019, and he said they’re still really close friends because she has poor mental health and he wants to be there for her.
Apparently they still phone call often, but don’t see each-other because now she lives hours away. He said they’ve been friends since high school and that it was a friendship that turned into a relationship.
I’ve never expressed my discomfort with him or told him that it rubs me the wrong way. But it’s starting to get serious between us and I want to see other people’s opinions on this. Am i wrong for thinking this could be a potential issue? I don’t like the idea of my boyfriend being another girl’s BEST friend, let alone someone he used to live and have s*x with.
Does anyone have advice or suggestions?