Long story short. In my house there is two electrical outlets within the same wall. One of them is plugged for the TV and a lamp, the other one is only for the internet and router. For some reason, a few days ago I started to notice that the living room lamp starts to blink and the computer shuts off automatically. This is also causing the internet router to shut off as well. What can this possibly be? Is it that the whole electrical line in that wall is bad? Could this be only the outlets (The TV one) in specific that needs a replacement? I am just praying that this is something that won’t cost 1K + to fix since I don’t have the money. Thanks!

Hi all, hope this is the right place to ask a noob question.
Currently facing an issue with my toilet and its flapper, chain, and lever. There’s currently too much slack in the chain which makes it so that every time we flush, we have to hold the lever a little while. Otherwise, the flapper will immediately close and/or the toilet bowl won’t fill up with enough water.
Alternatively, when I shorten the chain by just 1 link, the initial flush will work perfectly. However the flapper won’t close (not enough slack in chain) without moving the lever in the opposite direction and thus giving it more slack.
Would appreciate any advice anyone has regarding this predicament!

It didn’t used to happen this much, but 1) I keep forgetting to flush the toilet and 2) keep forgetting to close the fridge.
She’s being nice about it, but I’m soooo embarrassed and feel so bad every time. I just forget. I don’t know why my memory is so bad lately - might be fine me having COVID about a month ago???
Does anyone have any suggestions to remember other than a sign???

Me (22F) and my SO (24M) live with our friend (19F, we’ll call her RM). RM is dating my SO’s younger brother, so our relationship is very familial and we’ve been very happy living together for the past 8 months.
I found out I was pregnant 4 months ago, and initially we all agreed we’d stay living at our current rental together because we have a bungalow in the backyard where the baby and I could sleep so as not to disturb RM during the night. As time has gone on, however, I realise it’s impractical for me to be living in the bungalow with the baby as it has no toilet or running water, and I’d need to come into the house frequently with the baby at all times of the day, meaning we would still be disturbing RM anyway while my SO and I have to walk between the house and the bungalow all night.
My SO thinks me, the baby and him should find our own apartment if we can find people to cover our lease that RM is comfortable living with. We sat down with RM and told her our plan, explaining that we don’t want to make her life centred around our baby when it’s not her responsibility. We have plenty of time to find new tenants and when we told RM our idea, we made it clear that we would deal with all the real estate transfers and help her find roommates she’s comfortable with.
RM was very, very upset and has been avoiding us like the plague. She told us she felt like we were abandoning her, which I feel terrible about, but I really feel this is the best choice for all of us. I’ve tried to give her space to process and sent her messages asking her if she needed anything, ordering her food, trying to let her know we care about her and want to find a solution, but she won’t respond. I care a lot about her and I’m so, so confused.
AITA?

Hello, and welcome to Music’s Biggest Night!
That’s right, it’s the GRAMMYs. The year is 1994 and our category is Best Alternative Music Album. We’ll be rating each of the five nominees on Indieheads, but before we get to the nominees, a quick word about rates.
Hey, quick question, what are rates?
Obviously, if you're familiar with the process, skip this. But if you're new, I'll explain so this doesn't seem like a wild block of text!
Rates are a subreddit game in which a user scores a group of songs on a scale from 1-10, with each individual also given a single 11 and a single 0 to be used exactly once per rate. They will then message their ballot to the rate host, who will tally up all the points and then reveal the final results over a weekend, eliminating songs one by one until the last track remaining wins the rate and bragging rights forever. While there's just a bit more to know, I feel this is the basics of what you'll need to understand what's going on. I do recommend this video made by our popheads brethren to get a fuller picture; while some of the info applies specifically to the way popheads do their rates, the overall format is similar.

Introduction

The GRAMMYs are awards presented by The Recording Academy of the United States to recognize outstanding achievements in the music industry. The name derives from the trophy, which is shaped like an old-fashioned gramophone. The awards celebrate a variety of categories, but we’re going to be looking at Best Alternative Music Album or, as it was called at the time, Best Alternative Music Performance. The question of what "alternative" really means can be debated forever, but the original intent of this award was to celebrate non-mainstream rock albums which were heavily played on college radio. The category first appeared in 1991, so in 1994 the award is still pretty new.
And now, let’s meet our nominees!

Belly - Star

Belly are the act here that seem discussed least frequently on Indieheads, so I’m excited to see what everyone thinks of them. By the time of starting Belly, Tanya Donelly (lead vocals and rhythm guitar) had already been in two other classic indie rock bands. She was a co-founder of Throwing Muses with her step-sister Kristin Hersch, contributing vocals and guitar for the band’s first decade, though she’d only get a handful of songs per album. Donelly would later start The Breeders with Pixies bassist and vocalist Kim Deal. The Breeders’ debut, Pod, featured Deal as the primary songwriter because existing record contracts prohibited the two from sharing primary writing credits. While they originally intended to alternate albums, Tanya had begun to form Belly by the time it was her turn to do a Breeders album. She recruited Fred Abong (bass) and brothers Tom (guitar) and Chris (drums) Gorman as they’d all known each other while going to high school in Rhode Island.
Belly co-produced most of their 1993 debut Star with Tracy Chisholm. Gil Norton, who’d previously produced Throwing Muses’ self-titled debut, produced four tracks, including singles "Gepetto," "Slow Dog," and "Feed the Tree." "Feed the Tree," one of the album’s highlights, would be the band’s highest charting hit, reaching 95th on the Billboard Hot 100 and topping the Modern Rock Chart. Star is an effective fusion of alternative rock with jangle pop, dream pop, "haunting" folk, and even some light country influences. At the 1994 GRAMMYs, Belly were also up for Best New Artist with Blind Melon, Digable Planets, and SWV, ultimately losing to R&B singer Toni Braxton. Belly released a sophomore album King in 1995 and Donelly released several solo albums before reuniting with the King lineup to release a third album in 2018. While Star may not have achieved the canonical stature of some of 1994’s other nominees, it is nevertheless a very enjoyable release from a strong songwriter who’d finally gotten the chance to make an album-length statement of her own.
Are Indieheads gonna feed the tree? Will this be an album to die for?
Tracklist:

1. Someone to Die For
2. Angel
3. Dusted
4. Every Word
5. Gepetto
6. Witch
7. Slow Dog
8. Low Red Moon
9. Feed The Tree
10. Full Moon, Empty Heart
11. White Belly
12. Untogether
13. Star
14. Sad Dress
15. Stay

Nirvana - In Utero

If you were wondering where "Heart Shaped Box" was in the Guitar Hero Rate, well I’ve got a treat for you!
Kurt Cobain (vocals and guitar) and Krist Novoselic (bass) met while attending Aberdeen High School in the late 1980s. They shuffled through various names, ultimately deciding on Nirvana because Cobain wanted a name that sounded beautiful and nice instead of mean and raunchy. In their early years, they worked with several different drummers, recording 1989’s Sub Pop debut Bleach with Chad Channing on drums. Channing left the band as they worked on their follow-up. Kurt and Krist met drummer Dave Grohl days after he’d moved to Seattle following the break up of his Washington DC band Scream. The addition of Dave solidified Nirvana’s classic lineup. The trio began seeking a major label to buy them out of their Sub Pop contract as they were dissatisfied with the label’s lack of promotion and distribution of their debut. They eventually signed with DGC Records per the recommendation of Sonic Youth’s Kim Gordon. Upon signing, they began work on their major label debut, Nevermind, with producer Butch Vig. 1991’s Nevermind was an unexpected success, bringing grunge and alternative rock to the mainstream and even surpassing Michael Jackson on the Billboard albums chart.
In the aftermath of Nevermind’s success, Cobain felt he needed to reclaim his punk ethic. Wanting to depart from Butch Vig’s slick production (don’t worry, we’ll still be hearing from Vig a little later), he sought to work with Steve Albini. Albini was famous in the underground for his work as frontman for Big Black and various production work, including PJ Harvey’s Dry. He sent a copy of Dry to Cobain to give him an idea of the acoustics in his studio. Albini dismissed Nirvana as "R.E.M. with a fuzzbox" (more on R.E.M. soon!) but decided to work with them because he felt bad for them, recognizing them as "the same sort of people as all the small-fry bands I deal with." The band pushed for minimal label oversight and recorded In Utero quickly, wrapping recording sessions in as little as 13 days. The album was noisier and more abrasive than Nevermind, resulting in much dispute between the band, Albini, and the label. Cobain sought to make the kind of record he’d enjoy owning as a fan but began having second thoughts about the sound when listening to it at home. The press picked up on conflict about the album’s sound. The band denied this and DGC president David Geffen called Newsweek to explain they would release whatever Nirvana recorded. Behind the scenes, the band tried to fix the album’s sound in the mastering process, which Albini was strongly against. He’d later supply an alternate mix for the album’s 20th anniversary re-release. R.E.M producer Scott Litt was brought on to remix "Heart Shaped Box" and "All Apologies" which were intended to be the album’s singles.
In Utero was released in September of 1993 following a low-key release strategy which sent "Heart Shaped Box" as a promo-only single to various rock station formats but not Top 40. Walmart and K-Mart initially refused to stock the album due to its back cover and the title of the song "Rape Me." (A content note on that song, while it is interpreted as commentary on the invasive music press, it was intended to be a lyrically literal anti-rape song from the perspective of a victim. As this is a rate, you can score this song however you see fit, but I hope it goes without saying that everyone should please be respectful of this subject matter in their comments.) Despite In Utero’s abrasive sound and reduced mainstream promotion, the album still debuted at number one on the Billboard album charts and was well-received by critics. The music often hits harder and faster than Nevermind, containing more of the "punk" feel that Cobain was aiming for compared to the grunge of their early work and their Seattle contemporaries. Check out this MTV clip if you’d like to see how college students in 1993 received the album at the time. The band toured America shortly after In Utero came out. Their European tour that was cut short as Cobain suffered from a drug overdose. A couple weeks later, Cobain died by suicide. As with the subject matter of "Rape Me," I want to request that everyone is respectful of this in their comments, I will ask for edits (or omit comments myself) if they are inappropriate. Despite the tragic ending, Nirvana is still seen as one of American and alternative rock’s most important bands and In Utero remains highly regarded to this day.
Will our comments be all apologies? Are the results of this rate gonna be, uhhh, dumb?
Tracklist: 1. Serve the Servants 2. Scentless Apprentice 3. Heart-Shaped Box 4. Rape Me 5. Frances Farmer Will Have Her Revenge on Seattle 6. Dumb 7. Very Ape 8. Milk It 9. Pennyroyal Tea 10. Radio Friendly Unit Shifter 11. Tourette’s 12. All Apologies

R.E.M. - Automatic for the People

If there’s a band who can rival Nirvana’s stature in the American alternative rock canon, it’s gotta be R.E.M. They are often cited as one of the first "alternative" rock bands and were important for the college radio format. Formed in Athens, Georgia in 1980, Michael Stipe (vocals), Peter Buck (guitar), Mike Mills (bass), and Bill Berry (drums) released 5 albums with independent label I.R.S. Records. This run of releases showed them evolving from a jangle rock sound to a louder, more anthemic sound on their final record for the label, Document. After "The One I Love" became their first mainstream hit, the band signed to Warner Brothers, kicking off a second act that resulted in yet another 5 album run of great music.
At the start of the 90s, R.E.M. opted out of touring and became a studio band. The band recorded demos for the songs "Drive," "Try Not to Breathe," and "Nightswimming" at Prince’s Paisley Park Studios while mixing their 1991 album, Out of Time. Out of Time was a huge success, arriving as alternative rock was becoming mainstream. It spawned the massive single "Losing My Religion" and even ended up winning the GRAMMY award for Best Alternative Music Album in 1992. After concluding promotional duties in early 1991, the band returned to the studio to continue work on what would become Automatic for the People. It is the fourth of six records the band would produce with Scott Litt. The band traded off instruments in the studio, with Buck playing the mandolin famously featured on "Losing My Religion," Mills playing piano or organ, and Berry playing bass. Initial attempts to make a harder rocking follow-up did not pan out, as the band found they were writing better without drums. The material began to take on a more melancholic tone. The lush orchestration of Out of Time is rendered in a somber greyscale, with arrangements contributed by Led Zeppelin’s John Paul Jones. Lyrically, the album muses on loss and mourning, prompting rumors that balding Michael Stipe was dying of cancer or AIDs. Luckily, he was not but that is the lens through which some critics and listeners received this work. The album also finds room for political commentary, most noticeably in "Ignoreland" which pushes against Republican politics of the time, but also in opener "Drive" which calls back to the group’s work with the Rock to Vote movement, for which they added a petition on the longbox packaging of Out of Time.
Automatic for the People released on October 5, 1992 (gotta love the GRAMMYs odd eligibility window) debuting at number 2 on the Billboard 200. Unlike its predecessor, it never reached the top spot, thanks to Garth Brooks. Six of the album’s 12 tracks were released as singles including "Drive," "Everybody Hurts" which has unfortunately been diluted through years of ironic use in comedies, the cryptic, Andy Kaufman referencing "Man on the Moon," and "Nightswimming," an emotional piano ballad that has become a fan favorite. The album was critically acclaimed upon release and, while perhaps not as fun as their jangle material, this nocturnal bummer is regarded by many as one of the band’s masterpieces.
Will everybody hurt? Are R.E.M. going to get a raw deal?
Tracklist: 1. Drive 2. Try Not to Breathe 3. The Sidewinder Sleeps Tonite 4. Everybody Hurts 5. New Orleans Instrumental No. 1 6. Sweetness Follows 7. Monty Got a Raw Deal 8. Ignoreland 9. Star Me Kitten 10. Man on the Moon 11. Nightswimming 12. Find the River

The Smashing Pumpkins - Siamese Dream

The Smashing Pumpkins formed in 1988 when Billy Corgan (vocals and guitar, he prefers William Patrick Corgan now though) met James Iha (guitar) while working at a record store in Chicago, Illinois. They performed as a duo with a drum machine, eventually adding bassist D’arcy Wretzky after meeting her at a show by the Dan Reed Network. Jazz drummer Jimmy Chamberlain was recommended by a friend of Corgan’s after the trio were booked for a show under the condition that they’d play with a live drummer instead of their drum machine. With Chamberlain on board, the band’s classic lineup had been formed and their sound began to shift in a harder rock direction.
Siamese Dream, the group’s 1993 sophomore album, expands on their 1991 debut Gish in every possible way. The band switched from Virgin subsidiary Caroline Records to Virgin itself. Butch Vig, who produced Nirvana’s massive Nevermind right after finishing work on Gish, returned to produce the follow-up. Where Gish’s $20,000 budget and month of recording time was "unprecedented" for Vig, Corgan and Vig spent four months on Siamese Dream and went $250,000 over budget. This is what happens when you let Billy overdub everyone else’s guitar and bass parts (something the rest of the band wasn’t particularly happy about) to get as many as 100 guitar parts compressed into one song.
The meticulous studio process paid off, as Siamese Dream was a bigger hit than Gish, peaking at 10 on the Billboard 200. The band’s influences from metal, dreampop, and shoegaze give the album a layered and unique sound compared to the grungier alternative music of the time. Singles "Cherub Rock" and "Today" have been featured in the Guitar Hero and Rock Band videogame series. While never released as a single, "Mayonaise" has become a fan favorite and won a Rolling Stone poll for best Pumpkins song, beating out singles from Siamese Dream. Judging from some early discussion since this rate was announced, some of you seem pretty excited to rate "Mayonnaise." While the double album follow-up Mellon Collie and the Infinite Sadness took the band to the height of their popularity, Siamese Dream is often regarded as their masterpiece and one of the best rock albums of the 90s.
Will we be sweet sweet to the Pumpkins? The rater in me is the rater in you, I’ll send this ballot over to you
Tracklist: 1. Cherub Rock 2. Quiet 3. Today 4. Hummer 5. Rocket 6. Disarm 7. Soma 8. Geek U.S.A. 9. Mayonaise 10. Spaceboy 11. Silverfuck 12. Sweet Sweet 13. Luna

U2 - Zooropa

Whoa hey is it U2sday??
Formed in Dublin, Ireland in 1976, U2 (Bono on vocals, The Edge on guitar, Adam Clayton on bass, and Larry Mullen Jr. on drums) have become the top-selling Irish musical act of all-time, with an estimated 170+ million records sold. Across the 80s, U2 evolved their early post-punk sound to the anthemic rock of The Joshua Tree. While touring America for that album, the band recorded Rattle and Hum, a hybrid live/studio record (and accompanying concert film) which documented the tour and the group’s fascination with American roots music. Despite the album’s commercial success, most consider it a misguided failure. Even Bono admitted at their final show for the album’s Lovetown Tour that "we have to go away and dream it all up again."
1993’s Zooropa catches U2 at their most adventurous. 1991’s Achtung Baby and its subsequent Zoo TV tour rebranded the band for the new decade. While they continued working with Unforgettable Fire and The Joshua Tree producers Brian Eno and Daniel Lanois, they updated their sound with influences from electronic, dance, and industrial music. On stage, they dabbled in irony to counter the sincerity of their 80s output with Bono playing characters such as The Fly and Macphisto. Emboldened by the critical and commercial success of this album and tour, they began working on a promotional EP during a break between Zoo TV tour legs. Despite working quickly in the studio, this EP expanded into a full-length album, requiring the band to travel between concerts and the studio in Dublin to finish working on the album during the first month of the Zooropa leg.
Zooropa finally arrived in July of 1993 and it shows the band doubling down on their early 90s ideas. The sound of the album, built from loops of soundcheck jamming and leftover sketches from Achtung Baby, ventures even further from traditional rock instrumentation and songwriting, bolstered by production from Brian Eno, Flood (moving from an engineering to production role), and The Edge, who received production credits for the first time. The fragmented nature of the album’s production is reflected in the eclectic tracklist which bounces between the multi-movement art-rock of the title track, dancefloor fillers like "Daddy’s Gonna Pay for Your Crashed Car," and ballads like "For the First Time" and "Stay (Faraway, So Close!)" Unique vocal choices like The Edge’s spoken-word rapping on lead-single "Numb," Bono’s falsetto on "Lemon," and a Johnny Cash feature on closer "The Wanderer" help the album feel more varied than U2’s previous material. The album’s lyrics often examine Zoo TV’s concepts of "sensory overload" and technology more explicitly than Achtung Baby.
While U2 are reluctant to acknowledge Zooropa now (likely influenced by the failure of 1997’s Pop, a rushed, mixed bag of an album that stretched audience’s tolerance for 90s U2 to a Rattle and Hum-like breaking point) the album was successful when it came out. Zooropa debuted at number one in several countries and finished ninth on 1993’s Pazz and Jop poll. It would also go on to win this GRAMMY award for Best Alternative Music album, with Bono shrugging on stage, shouting out Smashing Pumpkins, and promising to "the young people of America" that they will "continue to abuse our position and fuck up the mainstream" in his acceptance speech.
Will U2 stay the champions in our rate or will they be faraway so close to the top?
Tracklist: 1. Zooropa 2. Babyface 3. Numb 4. Lemon 5. Stay (Faraway, So Close!) 6. Daddy’s Gonna Pay for Your Crashed Car 7. Some Days Are Better Than Others 8. The First Time 9. Dirty Day 10. The Wanderer

Bonus Rate

While our rates often have a bonus, there is no bonus for the 1994 GRAMMYs since this rate is 5 albums instead of the usual 4.
Now, it’s time for the boring, but necessary parts:

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Rules - READ ALL OF THESE BEFORE SUBMITTING YOUR SCORES

1. Listen to each song and assign each a score between 1 and 10. decimals are fine, but please refrain from giving decimal scores that have two decimal spots: giving a 7.2 is okay, but giving a 7.25 will give me a headache. This is because I'm using a computer program to parse the votes and print everything out (more on that later).
   
2. Yes, you have to listen to every song. We're all in this together. I will not accept your ballot if you have a score missing, because it will crash the program (more on that later).
   
3. Your scores should NOT be considered confidential. They aren’t. Feel free to shitpost about them in the general discussion threads whenever you feel like it - users over at popheads usually just talk about their averages of the albums and what 11 and 0 they gave (which I will explain on the next bullet point!)
   
4. You may give ONE song a 0 and ONE song an 11. This is ONE song TOTAL. Please reserve these for your least favorite and most favorite tracks; excessive sabotage ruins rate results and generally makes things less fun.
   
5. You can change your scores at any time! Feel free to PM me at any point after submission and I'll be happy to revise them for you.
   
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Formatting

Songs - This is correct:

TITLE: 10

You may also and are generally encouraged to leave comments with your scores!
This is correct (single space after the score, no colon):

TITLE: 10 Something Funny idk

Any of the following formats are incorrect:

Red Moon 10 A Red Moon rises, blood has been spilled this night
Red Moon: 10: A Red Moon rises, blood has been spilled this night
Red Moon: (10) A Red Moon rises, blood has been spilled this night
Red Moon: A Red Moon rises, blood has been spilled this night 10
Red Moon - 10 A Red Moon rises, blood has been spilled this night
Red Moon: 10/10 A Red Moon rises, blood has been spilled this night

Albums - This is correct (add a colon after the album on your ballot if you're making a comment on the full album):

Album: Zooropa: wow this rules, i wish they'd uploaded this album to my phone instead

Due Date: July 9

Reveal: July 14 - 16

Finally, here are the links you'll need to start rating again:

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If you want a reminder of what rates are coming up soon, here is the link to the announcement post for the current cycle, and if you want to learn about all the past rates we have done, here is the rate history spreadsheet.

hi all, i (19F) have been suffering with anxiety induced IBS for the last couple of years, i get both constipation and diarrhoea depending on the situation (definitely worse c than d). About a month ago i moved in with my boyfriend and i haven’t had a normal bowel movement since, i have been blacked up so bad the last month that i’m barely going once a week. Me and my partner both have high sex drives, usually going at it at least once a day, the last few weeks though i’ve been calling it off completely because no matter that position we do it in or what speed we go, i get unbearable pain in the abdomen that lasts for ages, it’s gotten to a point where even ibuprofen won’t help. My boyfriend says he understands and that he doesn’t mind that we aren’t a having sex but it’s really starting to bother me, i’ve tried everything in the books to help myself, like yoga, changing my diet, forcing myself to sit on the toilet for hours, i even started eating my usual trigger foods like coffee and whole milk but even those aren’t helping, i’m starting to think my last option is a laxative but i really don’t feel like an intestinal clear out, especially since the last time i tired a laxative, it ended up being a really horrible experience and i was wishing i had just stayed constipated. I know that a laxative isn’t a sure answer too, it’ll clear me out and then i’ll continue being constipated until this flare up is over, i suppose my only option at this point is to wait it out but i really hate the idea of just waiting and waiting, especially since i’m in pain everyday, i’d really like some support or advice ig idk at this point, thank you :(

throwaway account. i’ve been dating my BF about a year now, he had just moved back to our state when we started dating and lived in a family member’s spare room while he got settled, so we really only spent time at my apartment. now he has an apartment of his own and we’ve been spending more time there.
i got a sense from his car and just his habits that he isn’t the cleanest person, but honestly, since i’ve been able to see him actually living in an apartment, i’ve been kind of shocked and disgusted. he’s been there more than a month and still doesn’t have a garbage can. there’s either trash on the counter or it’s all in a huge trash bag on the floor. no furniture. frequently forgets to flush toilets. mattress on the bare floor. no sheets, no pillowcases. (he OWNS them. he just doesn’t use them.)
i think i’m looking for advice about how to approach this. our relationship is really loving and he’s my best friend. he struggles with depression, but i feel like i’m not being unreasonable by feeling anxious about this. he’s talked about wanting me to move in next year, which i used to be on board with, but i’m getting really uncomfortable now that i can see what living with him would really be like. advice?

Before I call my property manager again, I thought I would see if anyone had any advice for me.
On Friday at 9am, I discovered a massive leak at the water meter. I contacted our city water department and my property manager. Within an hour, the city was out and shut off the water at the meter. There is a pipe on our side of the meter that has come unattached. The city person advised me that it would be an easy fix and cost a few hundred dollars but since it’s on our side of the meter he can’t touch it.
I contacted the PM back again and let them know that the water was off but I needed someone out ASAP to fix the pipe. This is a nationwide company so I’m just talking to reps in a call center. I stressed to them that we are a family of four, including 2 young children and 2 large dogs, we live in the desert and it is summer and we have absolutely no access to running water in the home. They assured me they would get someone out. I called every hour on Friday. Finally at 3:30pm, someone showed up but they were told to shut off the water, they were not authorized or equipped to do any repair. I called the PM again and asked about hotel accommodations as we could not even flush toilets. I let them know that I would have to bring in water from the pool to fill toilet basins so we could use the facilities. They forwarded my concerns and assured me again that someone would call me back. Again, no call back.
Saturday, I called again at 8:30 am. Same thing. Forwarded my concerns and said they would see about scheduling someone to come out. At 10:30, they said they had posted the job on a job board and would let me know. At 3pm, I booked a hotel room for us and emailed the PM and said I would be deducting the amount from Next months rent as the home is uninhabitable. They advised me to check with my renters insurance for coverage and let them know. Funnily enough, they administer my renters insurance policy so I let them know that and have heard nothing back.
Today….nothing. No phone calls, emails or texts from the PM. We have the hotel booked for tonight as well so I’m hoping they will get someone here tomorrow to fix it.
I’d just like to know, am I in the right here that they should pay for the hotel? Every time I google it it talks about hot water but I haven’t found anything about running water. To me, they should pay. I can guarantee that if I called plumbers I could get someone out here within the hour. They just don’t want to pay the higher weekend rates.
State is Nevada.
Thanks!

So, weeks passed us by, Michael pestered his mother and father often for genetic modification, but on this, there was no budging them. I will relay a little bit of how it went, and from there, just picture it over a period of weeks.
“We are not moving onto a military base just so that you can turn into the Extremely-Credible Hulk.” William emphasized while he was sitting at his work desk, he had a virtual reality set on and though I couldn’t see exactly what he was doing, it wasn’t hard to work out based on the way his hands moved.
He was doing some virtual typing and swiping through the AI design elements of the starbase to select adaptive modifications based on something Bonny Red sent to him.
What she sent, I don’t know. I just told him to do as he thought best.
I was at the coffee table in the kitchen watching Michael argue with his father.
“But da-a-a-ad, I really, really want it!” He insisted.
“And I really…really don’t want to move. It’s military base testing only, Michael. You’ll be put in separate classes from all your friends, not just for the offline portion, but for the online ones too.” Rebecca chimed in from the next room. Her own remote connection in the living room let her hear everything that was going on, and she was quick to back up her husband.
Michael was sullen, frustrated, and I thought I understood it. But the notion of leaving his friends behind wasn’t a happy one. While on the Red Spark he’d made friends with a number of children his age. From my perspective as a dlamisa, they were vital connections that should not be severed lightly, one never knew when a favor would be needed. Even if he lacked the innate genius of his elder sister, if my observations were correct, he was a talented boy with an adaptable mind and could go far in life with the right help.
Still, I didn’t say anything.
The fact that such modified children were separated from others wasn’t as bad as it sounds. The concern was simply that because their strength was growing much faster, that they might not know innately how to control it and therefore injure someone else, perhaps severely.
Ergo, temporary separation, observation, and then gradual reintegration into the more normal offline socialization done from their online schools.
“I know but… but I really want it. And I won’t be away from my friends forever… it’s just a year, and we can stay in touch in other ways…”
So, round and round they went, for weeks.
And if I may admit my foibles without shame, I, like the others, was convinced that it was just because he lost that final match.
It wasn’t until eight weeks later that Rebecca finally snapped, “We’re not going to move just so you can be better at fighting!”
“That’s not why I want it!” Michael shouted… his face was flushed red and his lower lip trembled… Michael did not shout, he was not an angry boy…
“So why then?” William asked, leaving his desk and coming to where his growing boy stood shaking with his fists clenched, he crouched down and asked at eye level with his son, “Tell us, why really?”
“So I don’t ever have to run away again! Like we did when we lived with the Aunt Bonny!” Michael shouted.
I never really thought about it at the time, it just seemed like Michael had been enjoying his stay on the Red Spark. But now, having heard him say that?
The house was quiet. Very quiet.
“Michael, those times are over…” William squeezed his son’s shoulder and Rebecca removed her headset to look their way.
“Your father is right, those people are gone and they’re never coming back. Everything is fine. Trust us.” She said gently, I could see she wanted to rise, to move, but in this it seemed Michael favored his father, so she waited, and let her husband speak.
“It is, I promise. There’s nothing to worry about and everybody is going to work hard to make sure things stay that way, OK? Do you trust us?” William asked and held his son’s gaze with his own.
There could be entire studies done on this exact scene, and nothing more. Rebecca’s deferral to her husband drew much commentary, and I think it comes down to natural divide that seems to occur between parents and children.
It is not simply that sometimes one child is ‘favored’ over the other by a parent. It is that children see their parents in different ways. William was never a large man, he was fit for his age, but hardly a warrior specimen despite his military past.
But fathers in human society serve as the models of young men more often than not, and dealing with danger is something frequently romanticized as a ‘male’ ideal. The desire to be a hero and save the day is little buried in them, and as the larger of the pair, it was natural that he would be seen as a source of greater security.
This sometimes seems at odds with the male predisposition for danger tolerance. It is similarly at odds with Rebecca’s own personality, which ‘tends’ toward being very vocal and opinionated. I maintain that her silence was due to a recognition that Michael was starting to identify more with his father, which is a common part of the maturing process for small humans, and she chose not to interfere with that development.
Of Michael, I could say that he was… very much like his sister. Fauve had no interest in genetic augmentation as he did, but if you consider the course of her career as it was currently progressing, it was just war and aggression by other means. She wanted to crush the xenophobes utterly, even more than they already were, which was saying something, since most ended up dead in the Silent Civil War.
Michael’s influences were not media experts like Teresa and Percival. His influences were military. Byron, Boatswain, Genghis, Iskandar, and it was showing.
What I also understood was this… that even though a child might not be of an age to understand the full nature of circumstances, that does not make them fully ignorant. Michael’s formative years of childhood were born out of an attempt on his very life. I doubt very much Fauve ever showed him her video work…
But by now? At this age? He was forming vast reasoning capabilities and he could reflect on memories that were still there, retroactively coming to conclusions and learning from those around him. Not to mention he was surely able to pick up on the tension in the family.
I concluded one thing… if they wouldn’t let him get a genetic modification now, he would just get one later. I think, for better or for worse, the course of his life was now set, and there was one clear direction for it to go.
“I still want it,” He said, and crossed his arms in front of his chest.
His parents sighed together.
William’s head slumped and his arm relaxed though his hand did not let go of Michael’s shoulder.
“We can’t just ‘move’. The only people who get these things are those who go into space or who live on a military base, and we don’t have either. When you’re older, if you insist, after the human trials are done…” William looked over his shoulder toward his wife, she gave a subtle nod in his direction.
“We can revisit this and see about it.” William finished, “If you feel that strongly about it.”
Michael seemed to sense that he was not going to get any farther with them, and so he nodded. “OK, dad, mom.”
There were a few hugs traded after that, not as much as when he was smaller, as he was starting to grow up, little by little, and the same need for physical touch wouldn’t exist, at least not in the same way or same frequency.
But when he grew up, I wondered, would I see him as the adult? Or the boy?
I couldn’t know the answer to that question, but whatever the answer, I was sure I’d look back on days like this one, quite fondly.
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So basically I’ve never been able to hold it for long but when ever I see the toilet I get an instant rush and it feels like I’m holding it all between my legs as when I do make it to the toilet it all rushes at once (pretend to fill your hands with water and then think if you seperated your hands quickly, it all flushes down quickly)
This means I’m soaking the back of my underwear, my pad, the floor, even sometimes the wall because it’s just this one big gush of water, all. The. Time!
To lessen the time it takes in the bathroom to the toilet I’m having to get undressed in my room before reaching the bathroom but obviously that just delays the time in which I get to a bathroom so isn’t the most useful
I’ve been doing the pelvic floor exercises, I can’t cut back on drinking as it’s getting to the summer months but I just don’t know what to do
Any advice?

I use the veteran controls for controller, (where circle is knife and R3 is crouch) but that means with hybrid scopes (like the RM68 for example) every time I’m ADS and want to switch to the irons or vice versa, it automatically makes me crouch or stand (because I’m pressing R3) What binding on controller could I put toggle scope too that won’t interfere with any other actions?

Hello! This is just one write-up in a series of write-ups I will be doing making the case for the best survivor. For each write-up, I will look at one legendary player, and explain why they have an argument for being the best player survivor has seen. If you don't feel like reading, you can watch the YouTube video version of it on my channel.
Of all of the candidates, I can go over for the Best Survivor, Sandra might be the most difficult, and at the same time, the most simple one to make the case for. On paper she had a resume that stood for 39 seasons as an unbeatable, one-of-one achievement. Sandra came onto the show in Season 7 Pearl Islands and finished as the sole survivor of the season, which for many viewers already puts you in contention as one of the greatest survivors to ever play. 13 seasons later, on heroes vs villains, Sandra comes back, and wins her second million. In one of the most beloved and hyped of seasons, on one of the most star-studded casts, this little potty-mouthed lady found a way to get all the way to the end and be the sole survivor yet again. In a game where returning winners are immediately targeted as massive threats, this is an incredible achievement. Her title as the only two-time winner stood until a season of all returning winners was introduced, effectively ending the record no matter what happened. Even then, the player who won that season, Tony, needed a second season between his two winning ones to fumble the game and reduce his target for Winners at War. Every other returning player who you can think of, any great you can put a name on that returned for a second time, failed to do what Sandra did. It is a fact that Sandra’s two back-to-back wins immediately put her into the GOAT conversation for survivor. On the other hand, this is in fact Sandra we’re talking about. Now I love Sandra, and I know it sounds pretty rude, but at first glance, she seems to have zero of the qualities the best survivor player holds. So far in my series, my two other candidates for best ever have been domineering, physically fit alpha males, and you would be hard-pressed to find any other player as opposed to them as Sandra. She’s at worst a challenge liability who warms the sit-out bench, and in her two postmergers has not once won individual immunity. She isn’t some all-controlling godfather, and she isn’t exactly the master of the idol play. She speaks her mind and gets into fights with her tribemates. Winners are supposed to be threats to the game, but looking at all of this, maybe you can see the perspective of some - is she really ever an actual threat, or did she just luck out? What I have just outlined is the polarizing debate about Sandra that seems to follow her around. Because if you’re invested in Survivor like I am, there’s a huge chance you either think Sandra is one of, if not the best to ever play, or flat-out one of the worst winners who had the amazing fate of winning twice. Clearly, since this video is arguing for Sandra being the Best, I’ll stick with the former position in this video, but I’ll even let you know I have gone back and forth continuously about ranking Sandra as legendary or middling. I’ve thought about this a lot, and I will try my hardest in this video to convince you Sandra is the best, but I will not pretend she’s your standard fantastic player. What Sandra really is, is maybe the most unorthodox, unique player the game has ever seen.
Season 7 of survivor is probably the most engaging and chaotic of the early seasons. Sandra famously begins the season helping her tribe out by bargaining with the local villagers in spanish. She becomes a key part of Rupert’s Drake Tribe alliance, which gets her all the way to the merge. But that alliance is shattered by the third vote of the merge. This is due to some major shenanigans; for one, the unprecedented twist occurs of having two people who were previously voted out re-enter the game. Additional mischief ensues to the scheming of one Jonny Fairplay, in my eyes one of the most underrated strategists of the early game, and one of the great Sandra bickering partners. In large part due to the outcasts and Fairplay, Rupert is blindsided, and the Drake alliance crumbles, as Jon and the Outcasts slowly take over. Oh, but Sandra still wins. What? Yeah; even with her alliance crumbling and placed in arguably the most chaotic postmerge the game had seen up to that point, Sandra still makes it to the end and wins handily, 6-1. Oh, well, clearly she can’t repeat a run like that again. 6 years later, Sandra returned to the Villains tribe of the universally lauded season 20 of the show, Heroes vs Villains, where once more she is met with some unprecedented and chaotic 39 days, a game-changing strategist, and Rupert. This time, she ingrains herself in Boston Rob’s villain alliance in the early pre merge, before once more disorder ensues. Russell Hantz happens, using hidden immunity idols like no one ever has before to destroy Rob’s alliance, and eventually take out the Robfather himself all before the merge. Sandra appears to be down for the count, relegated to the perimeter of the villain's tribe along with the fellow challenge beast Courtney Yates, where she once more bickers with another squat little man for her remaining time in the game. The merge ensues, and just like at the villains' beach, through some all-time great idol play, the heroes roll over, one by one, to Russell. It seems like Hantz and Parvati are all but unstoppable… oh, and then Sandra wins again. 6-3. How does this keep happening? Is it really luck that Sandra, in some of the most chaotic seasons we’ve seen, beginning already in poor circumstances due to her poor challenge abilities and emphasized by her alliances continuously collapsing, wins not once but two times? Lightning does not strike twice, but Sandra does.
Yes, the haters will say, she really is that lucky. Like pearl island's final immunity challenge. For those that don’t know, in the final challenge of pearl islands, Jonny Fairplay has to win one more challenge against Lil and Sandra, to guarantee himself immunity and kick Sandra out. Jon is not a challenge threat but against them, he’s an Olympic athlete. Of course, the final challenge is all about squatting, the one thing Lil is good at. Wishy-washy Lil wins and very much in character, stabs fair play in the back and essentially hands Sandra the million, the contest being so one-sided due to said compulsive backstabbing. If the challenge was based around anything else except squatting, Sandra doesn’t win. Oh, and look at Heroes vs Villains, in the very last moments of that final immunity challenge. Jerri is less than half a second away from winning this immunity. If that happens, Sandra is out instead of Jerri in the final four. Maybe if you’re a real survivor nerd, you know that even with her translation help, Sandra was still probably the first to go out on the drake tribe if they lose the first challenge. Which by the way, the drake tribe win by no more than a couple yards. If the morgan team never hits a bit of muddy sand, Sandra Diaz-twine, potential best survivor ever candidate, is the first player voted out of her very first season.
You know, a wise man once said “ if ifs and buts were candies and nuts we'd all have a merry christmas", and that’s what I’m hearing here. These are all hypothetical situations that never happened. Who's to say they know if x, y, and z didn’t happen, sandra would have no chance of winning? Even without squats, women usually win the balance and focus-heavy final challenges of the first 7 seasons. In season 20, no matter who gets immunity Sandra is pretty safe considering russell and jerri saw her as a goat to bring to the end. In fact, jerri winning probably means Parvati goes in her place, and from what we know Jerri does not beat Sandra in a final tribal council scenario. And with the possibility of her getting out first… seriously, can you really call yourself a great survivor if you weren’t close to getting out first in your winning season? Also, why Sandra would just roll over and die? She has the ability to scramble and get the vote off of her, so why wouldn’t she in this scenario? Hypotheticals and calling out Sandra’s challenge luck only take you so far, let’s talk about all of the most obvious moments where she lacked luck. Season 7 episode 13, Jon and Burton seem to be wrapping the season up. One of the three women is going home next. While Jon and Burton are off for a reward, Sandra guides Darrah and Lil to begin flipping on the boys, once more preying on Lil and Darrah’s wishy-washy behavior. As the men get back to camp, she pretends to have given up on the game as they had predicted, setting up the spectacular blindside of Burton. Fast forward to Season 20 Episode 8. The villains' tribe loses in a disappointing fashion to the heroes, with Sandra’s close ally Courtney being the main target due to her poor challenge performance. Courtney seems like the obvious choice, except for the fact Sandra has been convincing Russell that Coach Wade is out to get him, as an act of vengeance for voting out his ally Rob. Russell in his paranoia believes Sandra for the most part, and even though Coach is completely fine with voting out Courtney to keep the tribe strong, he is instead blindsided, and Sandra’s ally is saved.
And never mind the unfortunate circumstances of having her alliances crumble around her and being forced to play from the bottom, one of the hardest situations a player can get themselves into. But no, doubters will tell you that actually, being at the bottom helped Sandra. She just got to sit on the sidelines while the bigger threats were taken out. In fact, if Russell had gone out just like Sandra wanted, she surely would have lost. That bitter jury hated Russell and his allies so much they would’ve voted for anyone instead of them, so no Russell equals no Sandra win. The first thing to address here is this; why are you bringing out the hypotheticals again man? Why are we automatically assuming that taking a far easier road would’ve meant absolute death for Sandra? We’ve seen this woman adapt to every crappy situation the game threw at her, why would it be so hard for her to once walk to the straightforward path to victory. Secondly, let’s talk about this “bitter jury” which purportedly handed Sandra the win unfairly. No matter what video you watch from me, I will never admit that a bitter jury is a thing, mainly because it isn’t. The jury is the end all be all of the game of Survivor. Being judged by your peers, and taking care of the way they see you are baked into the very essence of the game. Saying a jury can be bitter or wrong is like saying a basketball is wrong when you miss a shot. Ball don’t lie, and neither does a jury. Finally, sitting on the sidelines is a very diminishing term for the skill that might be the most important to the entire game: threat-level management. There are arguments for who is the best challenge beast or mastermind in Survivor History, but Sandra is without a doubt the greatest threat manager the game has ever seen. In her entire season, Sandra, who had all but one person write her name down on day 39, logged exactly 0 votes against her the previous 38 days. In her second season, now with the revered distinction as a returning winner, she logged a whopping… 3 votes against her. Now’s a good time to bring up Sandra’s other appearances. Sandra returned for two more appearances as a player, and once as a giant stone head. But for those player appearances, you would think, a two-time winner would be dead in the water immediately. Her target would just be too big to bare, and an appearance after the first vote of her tribe would be a miracle. But this is Sandra, so are you even surprised when I tell you she survived until day 16 both times, outlasting multiple players from her own tribes along the way? Yeah sure, day 16 is not exactly a long run, especially pre-shortened seasons, but anything past day 3 for a two-time winner should be looked at with bafflement. As well, both times Sandra got out on some pretty iffy terms. For those latter 2 seasons, she was relatively safe until the Jeff probst special, a lopsided tribe swap, which completely obliterated her chances of surviving in season 35 game changers. In 40 after a more fair swap occurred, but Sandra was the target of a pretty controversial idol play, that lots of people argued was a dumb move on the idol player’s part that Sandra couldn’t have predicted. To me, I think it still stands that Sandra’s threat-level management is of a caliber of its own. Her unmatched ability to sneak under the radar, allowing anyone but her to be the target of the episode, and the episode after that, and so on until it’s only her, does wonders, and it’s why she won twice. It also very much contrasts with the other great players of survivor history, who command groups of people or pull ingenious idol tricks to stay afloat. The contrast between these greats and Sandra is what makes her unique, but also, uniquely unappreciated by some fans.
For me, I feel the Survivor community at large uses completely conceptual ideas and phrases to judge a player’s abilities, phrases that unintentionally undervalue Sandra. You can look at her game, and say a thousand things; What are her physical, social, and strategic skills, does she have agency in the game, does she control a voting bloc, does she really have jury management… Look, I use a lot of these terms as well, but, do you really think this is the kind of stuff they were talking about during that first season in Borneo. Just for once, throw away these buzzwords about how a proper winner should play, and look at the pure, primordial essence of becoming sole survivor: getting to the end and winning over the jury. That’s it. And whose game better fit’s these simple parameters than Sandra. Let’s look at an example of how using survivor vocab overlooks Sandra’s unique winning abilities. In heroes vs villains a lot of people critique her for having little voting power and never being able to vote out Russell Hantz even though she attempted to orchestrate a plan throughout the post-merge. Let’s give more context to this situation, however: Yes, Sandra could not gather the remaining heroes to vote against Russell. What she did do however is use her open scheming against him to her advantage at the very end. She survived to the final tribal council where she proved she was the only remaining villain who had actively stood against Russell, something all the heroes, who were now out and hated the way Russell treated them respected dearly. Sandra showed she had separated herself from Russell’s alliance, something not even the great Parvati could do. All of this; leveraging your failed strategy as a way to win, does not fall under any one word or skill survivor nerds use, but it still works. I think Sandra is actually filled with a lot of these intangibles. She is very aware of others, is able to spot problem players early on, a master of picking at social cracks between people to stir the pot, etc, etc
Sandra’s playstyle is so simple it’s stupid. Call it under the radar or effective jury management or whatever, but simply put, in a game called Survivor, Sandra it the best at surviving. Until she held the biggest target on her back the game has ever seen, Sandra could survive to the end, and get the jury to like her over the remaining survivors. That’s all you need to win. And really winning is all that matters, especially in Survivor. Think about it; we are seeing the smallest slice of a season - about a whole month of contestants playing boiled down to 13-40 minute episodes. We as fans really know nothing about the success of a player. The only real evidence we have of a truly successful player, something the editors can’t cut out or warp, is that winning tally. So who are we to say Sandra isn’t the best player? Why question if she really is great, when the only concrete evidence we have points to a resounding yes. Not to sound like a broken record, but she has won twice, back to back, across multiple eras of the show. And looking at the modern seasons, which seem to heavily favor under-the-radar and non-domineering winners, do you think a newbie Sandra plopped in these contemporary games would do anything else but completely dominate? Her game style could work in any era of the show, under the worst conditions; Sandra would still find a way to win in her own, unique way. So when asking who is the best survivor, the survivor who has the greatest odds of winning it all, give me a player who can back that claim up with real results. Give me the queen, give me Sandra Diaz-Twine.