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2023.03.21 02:39 StarGamer- TW!! Vent: SA, CSA, Grooming
Tw: talk about rape
When I was 9 I discovered Roblox. And through Roblox I discovered a danger I could have never fathomed. At age 9 my childhood ended. At age 9 my fate changed so drastically. At age 9 I was taken advantage of and groomed by many older men.
They told me to cut myself. They made me talk dirty. They made me send pictures. And I obeyed every order. They made rely on them to feel good. It’s weird to say out loud, but I think I had a sex addiction at 9. Although everything was virtual, I’d sext these men constantly. Every chance I’d get. I couldn’t lead a normal life with friends because my priorities were always to please and get praise from these men.
They ranged in age. 12-60 I’d say. They didn’t care what age I was. And I didn’t care about theirs either. All I knew is that the attention and praise felt good and this was the only way I knew to get it. I was addicted to the attention. I was a whore. A child whore. It’s crazy to think there are still photos out there of me as a child. I did any sort of weird request they asked. The shame I feel now is immeasurable.
My parents would always catch me, but I’d always find a way back online and new men to make me feel better about myself. This continued until I was 14. It only stopped because I had gotten a boyfriend. (Who then gave me ptsd anyways.)
But for 5 years I couldn’t stop. Despite my whole family knowing. My dad even told my aunt and grandparents. I didn’t even realize until my aunt brought it up. I’ve never felt more guilt and shame. My own dad called me a whore. Asked me why I couldn’t just keep it in my pants. I didn’t know. I still don’t. I wish that instead of yelling at me they gave me the attention and praise I longed for. The love I could only find in those disgusting men.
It feels like I lost my whole life. My trauma made me forget ages 9-14. And then right afterwards the boyfriend who made me forget gave me ptsd. Now I have horrible memory loss. I don’t remember my life. I don’t know who I am anymore. All I know is I’ve been a whore since a child.
But the most horrible thing to come from this? Kinks. I had a rape kink because in our role plays I’d always be forced. I had an age play kink because I was always much younger than the guys. I say had. Because it’s not a kink anymore. I don’t find pleasure in it like I used to. I fantasize about being raped but I don’t enjoy it. I just want to be abused. I want to abuse myself. To make myself suffer. To have other people make me suffer no matter how bad the emotional and physical pain is. But why? I just want to be normal and I know this is far from it.
I feel like a freak. I hate pain but at the same time I deserve it. I hate myself so much. My identity is my past because I have no future. The past is all I know about myself. Those men made me who I am. A mindless slave who obeys. I do whatever people expect of me because I don’t have a choice. How do I escape myself?
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When I was 9 I discovered Roblox. And through Roblox I discovered a danger I could have never fathomed. At age 9 my childhood ended. At age 9 my fate changed so drastically. At age 9 I was taken advantage of and groomed by many older men.
They told me to cut myself. They made me talk dirty. They made me send pictures. And I obeyed every order. They made rely on them to feel good. It’s weird to say out loud, but I think I had a sex addiction at 9. Although everything was virtual, I’d sext these men constantly. Every chance I’d get. I couldn’t lead a normal life with friends because my priorities were always to please and get praise from these men.
They ranged in age. 12-60 I’d say. They didn’t care what age I was. And I didn’t care about theirs either. All I knew is that the attention and praise felt good and this was the only way I knew to get it. I was addicted to the attention. I was a whore. A child whore. It’s crazy to think there are still photos out there of me as a child. I did any sort of weird request they asked. The shame I feel now is immeasurable.
My parents would always catch me, but I’d always find a way back online and new men to make me feel better about myself. This continued until I was 14. It only stopped because I had gotten a boyfriend. (Who then gave me ptsd anyways.)
But for 5 years I couldn’t stop. Despite my whole family knowing. My dad even told my aunt and grandparents. I didn’t even realize until my aunt brought it up. I’ve never felt more guilt and shame. My own dad called me a whore. Asked me why I couldn’t just keep it in my pants. I didn’t know. I still don’t. I wish that instead of yelling at me they gave me the attention and praise I longed for. The love I could only find in those disgusting men.
It feels like I lost my whole life. My trauma made me forget ages 9-14. And then right afterwards the boyfriend who made me forget gave me ptsd. Now I have horrible memory loss. I don’t remember my life. I don’t know who I am anymore. All I know is I’ve been a whore since a child.
But the most horrible thing to come from this? Kinks. I had a rape kink because in our role plays I’d always be forced. I had an age play kink because I was always much younger than the guys. I say had. Because it’s not a kink anymore. I don’t find pleasure in it like I used to. I fantasize about being raped but I don’t enjoy it. I just want to be abused. I want to abuse myself. To make myself suffer. To have other people make me suffer no matter how bad the emotional and physical pain is. But why? I just want to be normal and I know this is far from it.
I feel like a freak. I hate pain but at the same time I deserve it. I hate myself so much. My identity is my past because I have no future. The past is all I know about myself. Those men made me who I am. A mindless slave who obeys. I do whatever people expect of me because I don’t have a choice. How do I escape myself?
2023.03.21 02:38 Mundane_Whereas_2764 Kelly Nicole Smith: An Unsolved Homicide
Kelly Nicole Smith: A Homicide that Remains Unsolved
**This is my first post so please be kind and share any tips, ideas, & theories below! This story is in my hometown, by the way, which is why I decided to try and raise awareness to it.
Kelly Nicole Smith was born April 24, 1980, to John J. and Karen Godfrey of Natrona Heights, Pennsylvania, a small town 24 miles northeast of Pittsburgh. She graduated from Highlands High School in 1998 and was an administrative assistant at Glenshaw Glass.
She had a daughter, Katlyn, and a son, Jason. She was married to Jason W. Smith for approximately six years at the time of her death according to her obituary, yet her husband says it had been 10 years.
On June 14, 2007, Kelly’s body was located by a pair of fishermen in the Chartiers Run section of Allegheny River in Lower Burrell, a town less than two miles from Natrona Heights. She was found by a riverside spot known to attract local teenagers to party.
(Chartiers Run: https://maps.app.goo.gl/zvAkdmH5bv3uRwvh7?g_st=ic)
Despite being married, she was not living with her husband at the time of her death. According to him, they had been married 10 years and “split up a couple of weeks. She talked with me everyday, and I know we were getting back together.” They had split after a recent miscarriage Kelly had suffered, according to her mother.
Her son, Mason, was four years old at the time she died. She was residing with a man called Chad Stroup, who she had known in high school. They had recently reunited. He had allegedly moved from Indiana to be with her.
Kelly had gotten into an argument with him the night before she vanished. He was described by his own mother, Maria, and Kelly’s mother, Karen, as her boyfriend at the time.
The day before she was reported missing, Kelly had told her mother that Mason was sick and unable to attend daycare. Her mother offered to watch him, but Kelly declined.
The last time she was heard from was around 2a.m., by her husband. He received a call around that time from Kelly, and she asked, “What are you doing?” He responded with, “I’m sleeping,” and he could hear her crying as the phone was seemingly smacked out of her hand. And that was the last time he heard from her.
Whenever she failed to show up to drop off their son the following morning, Jason began to call her repeatedly, as did her mother. Karen Godfrey was the one to finally get ahold of Stroup, who said that they had gotten into an argument and that Kelly had “stormed off.”
Yet, according to her husband, she would never abandon Mason like that. Karen began to call, text, and get into contact with all of her friends. None of them had seen her.
Finally, several hours later, detectives were at their doorstep, interviewing family members and those who resided nearby. She lived across the river from where she was found, floating just below the Braeburn Lock and Dam.
(Photo of The Dam: https://www.flickr.com/photos/takomabibelot/3178843051)
Police questioned the boyfriend, her husband, and others, including a male friend who had allegedly taken a liking to Kelly in recent times.
In an 2008 article, police stated they wanted to talk with as many of 5 people who were parked near the Braeburn side of Lock and Dam No.4 on the night of June 13, 2007. They arrived before dark in a light colored pickup truck and a dark car. They pulled firewood down to the rocks and investigators believe they may have seen Smith.
Her funeral was held on Father’s Day. Stroup, insisted he would talk to police after the funeral, and instead left the state. He fled to Texas. His mother reported him missing on June 19.
Police chased him there, essentially, and did manage to speak with him, but nothing was ever released about the conversation or the details they uncovered. He was never officially named a suspect in the case.
Karen, Kelly’s mother, has been outspoken about how she believes investigators have done little in recent years to push this case forward, and has spoken out about how they could have ruined potential evidence at the scene of the crime, as well. Investigators initially believed her daughter had drowned, which Kelly believes may have led to a loss of important evidence, but adamantly states that she does not fault investigators and first responders in that regard.
Her father says that detectives prefers they do not talk to the media, and share little to no details about the investigation with anyone— including the family. One thing that has been kept under wraps is the cause of Kelly’s death.
The reward for answers to Kelly’s case remains at 20,000 as of June 2021.
Sources:
Legacy.comhttps://www.legacy.com › name › k...Kelly Smith Obituary (04/24/1980 - 06/14/2007) - Brackenridge, PA
https://triblive.com/local/valley-news-dispatch/natrona-heights-couple-crippled-over-daughters-unsolved-homicide-as-it-hits-14th-anniversary/
https://archive.triblive.com/news/reward-increased-to-15000-in-4-year-old-westmoreland-murde
https://www.wpxi.com/news/local/15-year-anniversary-homicide-westmoreland-county-mother-approaching-still-no-answers/MMEOMQXWDNAA3NYSAIJA4HWGOU/?outputType=amp
https://archive.triblive.com/news/brackenridge-mothers-slaying-has-family-friends-seeking-answers/
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**This is my first post so please be kind and share any tips, ideas, & theories below! This story is in my hometown, by the way, which is why I decided to try and raise awareness to it.
Kelly Nicole Smith was born April 24, 1980, to John J. and Karen Godfrey of Natrona Heights, Pennsylvania, a small town 24 miles northeast of Pittsburgh. She graduated from Highlands High School in 1998 and was an administrative assistant at Glenshaw Glass.
She had a daughter, Katlyn, and a son, Jason. She was married to Jason W. Smith for approximately six years at the time of her death according to her obituary, yet her husband says it had been 10 years.
On June 14, 2007, Kelly’s body was located by a pair of fishermen in the Chartiers Run section of Allegheny River in Lower Burrell, a town less than two miles from Natrona Heights. She was found by a riverside spot known to attract local teenagers to party.
(Chartiers Run: https://maps.app.goo.gl/zvAkdmH5bv3uRwvh7?g_st=ic)
Despite being married, she was not living with her husband at the time of her death. According to him, they had been married 10 years and “split up a couple of weeks. She talked with me everyday, and I know we were getting back together.” They had split after a recent miscarriage Kelly had suffered, according to her mother.
Her son, Mason, was four years old at the time she died. She was residing with a man called Chad Stroup, who she had known in high school. They had recently reunited. He had allegedly moved from Indiana to be with her.
Kelly had gotten into an argument with him the night before she vanished. He was described by his own mother, Maria, and Kelly’s mother, Karen, as her boyfriend at the time.
The day before she was reported missing, Kelly had told her mother that Mason was sick and unable to attend daycare. Her mother offered to watch him, but Kelly declined.
The last time she was heard from was around 2a.m., by her husband. He received a call around that time from Kelly, and she asked, “What are you doing?” He responded with, “I’m sleeping,” and he could hear her crying as the phone was seemingly smacked out of her hand. And that was the last time he heard from her.
Whenever she failed to show up to drop off their son the following morning, Jason began to call her repeatedly, as did her mother. Karen Godfrey was the one to finally get ahold of Stroup, who said that they had gotten into an argument and that Kelly had “stormed off.”
Yet, according to her husband, she would never abandon Mason like that. Karen began to call, text, and get into contact with all of her friends. None of them had seen her.
Finally, several hours later, detectives were at their doorstep, interviewing family members and those who resided nearby. She lived across the river from where she was found, floating just below the Braeburn Lock and Dam.
(Photo of The Dam: https://www.flickr.com/photos/takomabibelot/3178843051)
Police questioned the boyfriend, her husband, and others, including a male friend who had allegedly taken a liking to Kelly in recent times.
In an 2008 article, police stated they wanted to talk with as many of 5 people who were parked near the Braeburn side of Lock and Dam No.4 on the night of June 13, 2007. They arrived before dark in a light colored pickup truck and a dark car. They pulled firewood down to the rocks and investigators believe they may have seen Smith.
Her funeral was held on Father’s Day. Stroup, insisted he would talk to police after the funeral, and instead left the state. He fled to Texas. His mother reported him missing on June 19.
Police chased him there, essentially, and did manage to speak with him, but nothing was ever released about the conversation or the details they uncovered. He was never officially named a suspect in the case.
Karen, Kelly’s mother, has been outspoken about how she believes investigators have done little in recent years to push this case forward, and has spoken out about how they could have ruined potential evidence at the scene of the crime, as well. Investigators initially believed her daughter had drowned, which Kelly believes may have led to a loss of important evidence, but adamantly states that she does not fault investigators and first responders in that regard.
Her father says that detectives prefers they do not talk to the media, and share little to no details about the investigation with anyone— including the family. One thing that has been kept under wraps is the cause of Kelly’s death.
The reward for answers to Kelly’s case remains at 20,000 as of June 2021.
Sources:
Legacy.comhttps://www.legacy.com › name › k...Kelly Smith Obituary (04/24/1980 - 06/14/2007) - Brackenridge, PA
https://triblive.com/local/valley-news-dispatch/natrona-heights-couple-crippled-over-daughters-unsolved-homicide-as-it-hits-14th-anniversary/
https://archive.triblive.com/news/reward-increased-to-15000-in-4-year-old-westmoreland-murde
https://www.wpxi.com/news/local/15-year-anniversary-homicide-westmoreland-county-mother-approaching-still-no-answers/MMEOMQXWDNAA3NYSAIJA4HWGOU/?outputType=amp
https://archive.triblive.com/news/brackenridge-mothers-slaying-has-family-friends-seeking-answers/
2023.03.21 02:38 elepantstee It's over
I just received my results for y1s2 and my gpa is 2.23... expected to do better for sem 1(2.28). I'm fucked... i want to go to a local uni tho, thats the problem. But with my results i dont think it's possible. And for particular reasons i am exempted from NS(pes f) so the idea of working after poly is fucking scary. I can't afford private uni. Also i heard the pay of private u degrees is way lower than local uni. Can someone advise me on what to do?
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2023.03.21 02:38 abcd4321dcba 5 surprises after a year of fatFIRE
Hey fatties. A year ago today was my last day at work. I had typed out a victory lap post but just didn’t have much of interest to say: Tech, IPO, 8 figures… snooze.
But, I have enjoyed reading the few retirement life summaries I’ve seen here so I figured I’d add mine and share the 5 biggest surprises I’ve had since FF. I’ve gone into detail, so it’s long, but tl;dr the best benefits of fatFIRE come from the FIRE, not necessarily the fat.
Surprise 1: No fatFOMO. After I put in my notice, I spent a disproportionate amount of time worrying about the unvested stock (10% of NW) I was leaving on the table. Since fatFIRE, I’ve thought about it ONCE, and my thought was “I’m so glad I left when I did.” I have former colleagues well past FF numbers slogging it out for every last cent. I get it… but I’m glad I’m onto the next chapter.
Surprise 2: I had no IDEA how wonderful life could be having full control of my schedule. Sure, my tech job was flexible, but I had meetings all day and very little calendar control. Being able to say YES to almost any golf round, mid week ski trip, coffee chat or whatever creates so many opportunities for life to be spontaneously awesome. Duh, right? But I am so surprised how often this comes up. Plus, I really like that I can say yes to the people in my life: You can’t be there for anyone if you can’t, you know, be there.
Surprise 3: The flip side of freedom is boredom. Don’t cry for me, but it has been an adjustment at times looking at an empty calendar on a Tuesday afternoon. I tried to follow all the advice to retire “to” something and plan for my FF: I started a time consuming new hobby (10-20 hrs a week), traveled more than ever, started volunteering, started a new side business, and took on a few consulting gigs. But yea, sometimes it’s 11:15AM and the day is clear.
TBH, I had a lot of internal anguish about this, feeling lazy or just listless, but as time has gone on I’ve come to terms with it by acknowledging that every single day in my corporate life was equally if not significantly more pointless. BUSYNESS is a terrible mark of productivity even if people get huge chubbies about having a full calendar. So, if I end up fucking around on my guitar and taking a long walk on Tuesday afternoon, life absolutely goes on. Over time I’m enjoying this freedom more, but the surprise is how big of an adjustment it’s been.
Surprise 4: I don’t spend that much time worrying about money. I assumed after fatFIRE and particularly in the first year I’d be watching the market like a hawk, monitoring my spending, and freaking out wondering if it’ll last. Besides a monthly budget check and half yearly NW tally, I am rarely thinking about money. To be fair, I tried to plan so this would be the case. I’m at a 2.5% withdrawal rate, and have only 10% debt to assets (the only debt being a 2.5% 30 year mortgage). I also have income producing real estate that covers a large portion of my expenses, so I don’t really ever need to sell stock anyway. In short, I built my budget with room for mistakes, purchases, and market shenanigans. That room in the budget has left a lot of room in my mind for things besides money.
Surprise 5: Giving and volunteering is work (if you take it seriously). I’ll admit, I rarely did anything charitable before fatFIRE. So now that I’ve had more time I’ve resolved to be more generous with my time and in the process try to find an organization I’d like to be financially generous with.
Fuck me it is hard to get involved with stuff. Most charities have terrible websites and obviously they run on very few staff so talking to someone is often hard to do. If you do eventually get signed up for something, you find that many volunteer opportunities are pointless. Eg, in the last year I’ve refiled old papers, cleaned supply closets, wiped down washing machines, etc. I’ll do it, but it doesn’t do much, if you get my drift.
But, I kept on trying to find something and after six months I found a charity where the fruits of my labor are way more tangible. I recently gifted basically a month of operations for them and it was AMAZING knowing what it was going towards and seeing it in action. I still have a lot more to learn here, but damn, it’s surprising how much work it is to give in a meaningful way (time, especially).
Summary: I’m an order of magnitude happier after fatFiRE. I’m healthier, have better relationships, and despite a few road bumps life is GOOD. If I have any advice it’s to retire sooner, even for a bit less fat. Seriously. The most rewarding parts of retirement and FI have come from the benefits of time and freedom, not necessarily the money itself (I know the money enables the freedom… you get my drift).
Edit for shitty formatting on my part
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But, I have enjoyed reading the few retirement life summaries I’ve seen here so I figured I’d add mine and share the 5 biggest surprises I’ve had since FF. I’ve gone into detail, so it’s long, but tl;dr the best benefits of fatFIRE come from the FIRE, not necessarily the fat.
Surprise 1: No fatFOMO. After I put in my notice, I spent a disproportionate amount of time worrying about the unvested stock (10% of NW) I was leaving on the table. Since fatFIRE, I’ve thought about it ONCE, and my thought was “I’m so glad I left when I did.” I have former colleagues well past FF numbers slogging it out for every last cent. I get it… but I’m glad I’m onto the next chapter.
Surprise 2: I had no IDEA how wonderful life could be having full control of my schedule. Sure, my tech job was flexible, but I had meetings all day and very little calendar control. Being able to say YES to almost any golf round, mid week ski trip, coffee chat or whatever creates so many opportunities for life to be spontaneously awesome. Duh, right? But I am so surprised how often this comes up. Plus, I really like that I can say yes to the people in my life: You can’t be there for anyone if you can’t, you know, be there.
Surprise 3: The flip side of freedom is boredom. Don’t cry for me, but it has been an adjustment at times looking at an empty calendar on a Tuesday afternoon. I tried to follow all the advice to retire “to” something and plan for my FF: I started a time consuming new hobby (10-20 hrs a week), traveled more than ever, started volunteering, started a new side business, and took on a few consulting gigs. But yea, sometimes it’s 11:15AM and the day is clear.
TBH, I had a lot of internal anguish about this, feeling lazy or just listless, but as time has gone on I’ve come to terms with it by acknowledging that every single day in my corporate life was equally if not significantly more pointless. BUSYNESS is a terrible mark of productivity even if people get huge chubbies about having a full calendar. So, if I end up fucking around on my guitar and taking a long walk on Tuesday afternoon, life absolutely goes on. Over time I’m enjoying this freedom more, but the surprise is how big of an adjustment it’s been.
Surprise 4: I don’t spend that much time worrying about money. I assumed after fatFIRE and particularly in the first year I’d be watching the market like a hawk, monitoring my spending, and freaking out wondering if it’ll last. Besides a monthly budget check and half yearly NW tally, I am rarely thinking about money. To be fair, I tried to plan so this would be the case. I’m at a 2.5% withdrawal rate, and have only 10% debt to assets (the only debt being a 2.5% 30 year mortgage). I also have income producing real estate that covers a large portion of my expenses, so I don’t really ever need to sell stock anyway. In short, I built my budget with room for mistakes, purchases, and market shenanigans. That room in the budget has left a lot of room in my mind for things besides money.
Surprise 5: Giving and volunteering is work (if you take it seriously). I’ll admit, I rarely did anything charitable before fatFIRE. So now that I’ve had more time I’ve resolved to be more generous with my time and in the process try to find an organization I’d like to be financially generous with.
Fuck me it is hard to get involved with stuff. Most charities have terrible websites and obviously they run on very few staff so talking to someone is often hard to do. If you do eventually get signed up for something, you find that many volunteer opportunities are pointless. Eg, in the last year I’ve refiled old papers, cleaned supply closets, wiped down washing machines, etc. I’ll do it, but it doesn’t do much, if you get my drift.
But, I kept on trying to find something and after six months I found a charity where the fruits of my labor are way more tangible. I recently gifted basically a month of operations for them and it was AMAZING knowing what it was going towards and seeing it in action. I still have a lot more to learn here, but damn, it’s surprising how much work it is to give in a meaningful way (time, especially).
Summary: I’m an order of magnitude happier after fatFiRE. I’m healthier, have better relationships, and despite a few road bumps life is GOOD. If I have any advice it’s to retire sooner, even for a bit less fat. Seriously. The most rewarding parts of retirement and FI have come from the benefits of time and freedom, not necessarily the money itself (I know the money enables the freedom… you get my drift).
Edit for shitty formatting on my part
2023.03.21 02:38 JoshMcGill_ Gear Variety
So I'm still quite new to this game I stared playing around 3 weeks ago and I'm having a lot of fun. I'm currently a lvl 65 fire wiz about to start zafaria. I like seeing all the cool new spells people use, the story is hit or miss honestly I'm on auto pilot for a lot of it but dear god the gear variety in this game is HORRID especially for an mmo.
Once you hit lvl 30 you do 1 dungeon run of Olympus and guess what, you better get used to that spear you just got because you ain't getting anything better than it for another 60-70 levels. It seems to me like you only change your armour once every 30 levels?? which is actually insane to me. It makes all the armour and wands I get from questing feel useless and just gold fodder for the bazaar. At least have some gearsets that rival eachother so there's some choice in it rather than just 1 dominant set for everyone within a level bracket.
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Once you hit lvl 30 you do 1 dungeon run of Olympus and guess what, you better get used to that spear you just got because you ain't getting anything better than it for another 60-70 levels. It seems to me like you only change your armour once every 30 levels?? which is actually insane to me. It makes all the armour and wands I get from questing feel useless and just gold fodder for the bazaar. At least have some gearsets that rival eachother so there's some choice in it rather than just 1 dominant set for everyone within a level bracket.
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At any moment in time we have the opportunity to change the trajectory of our life and have the next chapter in our own personal story be better, brighter, and more productive. Give yourself “THE POWER TO COPE” with Personal Power.
HPP – Sales Mastery
Improve Your Sales Success — Effortlessly!
One of the challenges with traditional sales and negotiations training is that it requires learning and memorizing foreign techniques rather than harnessing the natural instincts we all have.
At our core we all desire to influence others and succeed in life. We are born with natural sales strategies – watch as children probe their parents with requests and questions- to get the outcome they want. Children are masters at influencing others to get what they want. Those intuitive skills are still inside all of us.
What if you could awaken these dormant sales skills and dramatically improve your ability to sell. Dr. Lloyd Glauberman’s revolutionary HPP method will stimulate your unconscious mind to do just that. Sales Mastery is a powerful program that energizes you to sell naturally and effectively, using skills you already possess.
No longer will you be trying to employ someone else’s strategy for success in these areas, but you will be intuitively utilizing your own unique abilities to listen, influence, compete and close!
Whatever your sales goals are, give yourself that extra edge by programming yourself for success with Sales Mastery.
HPP – The Quest for Excellence
Enjoy Peak Performance in every aspect of your life!
Successful athletes, business entrepreneurs and artists all have two characteristics in common – the ability to set realistic goals and the motivation to develop the skills and strategies necessary to attain those goals. Successful people continually create the positive outcomes that they want in life. Temporary setbacks and disappointments never deter them from continuing to SEE WHAT THEY WANT AND GO AFTER IT.
The question is, how do they do this?
We all have skills, internal resources and experiences that make us different and special. When we can access them and organize them in a useful way, we find the success we want. Dr. Lloyd’s Glauberman’s revolutionary HPP method programs your subconscious mind to do just that. Combining both conscious and subconscious processes the Quest for Excellence taps into your best and organizes your thoughts, sensations, feelings and actions so that you spontaneously find yourself in a relaxed energized and focused state when you need to perform.
Quest for Excellence will give you the drive to achieve your life goals. Inner obstacles to success will spontaneously disappear – allowing your true potential to break through.
If you are looking for a PEAK PERFORMANCE LIFESTYLE, it’s time to let the power of the subconscious get you to the next level. Program yourself for success with Quest for Excellence.
LINK DOWNLOAD: https://healingcourse.net/lloyd-glauberman-hypno-peripheral-processing/
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Dr. Lloyd Glauberman has spent the last 30 years helping people develop the emotional tools to achieve their goals in life. Using a form of hypnosis known as Hypno Peripheral Processing (HPP), Glauberman has helped people gain access to the incredible untapped power of their subconscious mind. Hypno Peripheral Processing CDs combine relaxing music and two separate stories into a pattern of suggestions that gently overloads your conscious mind and accesses the “hypnogogic” state – a state in which your mind is most open to suggestion.
Slip on your headphones and enter the world of hypno-metaphoric storytelling magic. Using t he dual story approach, each hemisphere of your brain will be gently stimulated to maximize your emotional intelligence. You will see the benefits without having to actively learn or practice anything. Just sit back and relax…
Lloyd Glauberman – Hypno Peripheral Processing – Bundle of Five Products
- HPP – Creating A Presence – Power Communication
- HPP – Money, Wealth & Prosperity
- HPP – Personal Power
- HPP – Sales Mastery
- HPP – The Quest for Excellence
There is nothing more important than the ability to communicate effectively. Unfortunately, many people struggle unnecessarily with the fear and frustration about public speaking.
This CD program employs Dr. Lloyd Glauberman’s revolutionary HPP method to build confidence and alleviate anxiety associated with speaking in groups.
In addition, it activates your intuitive conversational and interpersonal skills, allowing you to be more comfortable, confident and assertive in every day situations. You will find yourself communicating your ideas easily and clearly.
Creating a Presence will allow you a new freedom to communicate your point of view and accomplish your goals.
Specific skills it teaches include: preparing for a speaking event, generating positive beliefs about your capabilities, becoming more assertive, influencing others, and building self-esteem.
Whether you are can barely stand the thought of speaking up in a group, or are looking for that extra edge to ace your next business presentation, Creating a Presence can take you to the next level.
HPP – Money, Wealth & Prosperity
Wealth is created first and foremost in our minds – through goals, beliefs, and a strong sense of self worth. It sounds simple, but many people never learn the basic tools of visualizing success, believing they deserve it and working towards this goal with the belief they will succeed.
Money, Wealth & Prosperity utilizes Dr. Lloyd Glauberman’s revolutionary HPP method to program your unconscious mind to make the positive lifestyle changes necessary for success. This method allows you to bypass self-sabotage, insecurity, and procrastination while providing you with more positive and appropriate attitudes about success.
You will find yourself able to stay motivated and disciplined while developing the basis for financial success… a more positive self-image.
Because your unconscious does the work, there are no journals to keep or specific tasks to do. Just sit back, put on the headphones and listen to the multiple storytelling format. The changes you experience will be spontaneous and fluid as you seamlessly integrate these new patterns into your life.
Whatever your goals for financial success are, this program will give you new thoughts, beliefs and feelings that will empower you to achieve your dreams.
HPP – Personal Power
Personal Power HPP is part of The Edge of the Metaphor series, which focuses on the renewal of balance in the core areas of our lives — Body, Mind, Spirit and Interpersonal Relationships
Utilizing Dr. Lloyd’s Glauberman’s revolutionary HPP method, this program gives you the ability to intuitively respond to these key areas of your life. You can expect to find yourself more assertive, able to cope with change, and attain positive outcomes in your life.
The Personal Power HPP program contains 2 audio tracks with the following goals:
Become More Assertive
Cope Successfully with Change
Attain Positive Outcomes
At any moment in time we have the opportunity to change the trajectory of our life and have the next chapter in our own personal story be better, brighter, and more productive. Give yourself “THE POWER TO COPE” with Personal Power.
HPP – Sales Mastery
Improve Your Sales Success — Effortlessly!
One of the challenges with traditional sales and negotiations training is that it requires learning and memorizing foreign techniques rather than harnessing the natural instincts we all have.
At our core we all desire to influence others and succeed in life. We are born with natural sales strategies – watch as children probe their parents with requests and questions- to get the outcome they want. Children are masters at influencing others to get what they want. Those intuitive skills are still inside all of us.
What if you could awaken these dormant sales skills and dramatically improve your ability to sell. Dr. Lloyd Glauberman’s revolutionary HPP method will stimulate your unconscious mind to do just that. Sales Mastery is a powerful program that energizes you to sell naturally and effectively, using skills you already possess.
No longer will you be trying to employ someone else’s strategy for success in these areas, but you will be intuitively utilizing your own unique abilities to listen, influence, compete and close!
Whatever your sales goals are, give yourself that extra edge by programming yourself for success with Sales Mastery.
HPP – The Quest for Excellence
Enjoy Peak Performance in every aspect of your life!
Successful athletes, business entrepreneurs and artists all have two characteristics in common – the ability to set realistic goals and the motivation to develop the skills and strategies necessary to attain those goals. Successful people continually create the positive outcomes that they want in life. Temporary setbacks and disappointments never deter them from continuing to SEE WHAT THEY WANT AND GO AFTER IT.
The question is, how do they do this?
We all have skills, internal resources and experiences that make us different and special. When we can access them and organize them in a useful way, we find the success we want. Dr. Lloyd’s Glauberman’s revolutionary HPP method programs your subconscious mind to do just that. Combining both conscious and subconscious processes the Quest for Excellence taps into your best and organizes your thoughts, sensations, feelings and actions so that you spontaneously find yourself in a relaxed energized and focused state when you need to perform.
Quest for Excellence will give you the drive to achieve your life goals. Inner obstacles to success will spontaneously disappear – allowing your true potential to break through.
If you are looking for a PEAK PERFORMANCE LIFESTYLE, it’s time to let the power of the subconscious get you to the next level. Program yourself for success with Quest for Excellence.
LINK DOWNLOAD: https://healingcourse.net/lloyd-glauberman-hypno-peripheral-processing/
2023.03.21 02:37 HuzursuzlugaGerekYok Should I create another account?
I just started playing Destiny 2 3 days ago. I already knew about the paywall to reach the real fun and rewarding content so I decided the give the game a go first as a F2P player, have a feel for the game, make plenty of mistakes and start over. In a nutshell I like the game (played around 20 hours and got my character close to 1700 power level, I just thought higher is stronger and have no idea what the specific weapon abilities do) and I am willing the spend money on it BUT here's the following:
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- As I said I made plenty of mistakes. I spent all 25 of my legendary shards banners because I thought they were rewards than accidentally discarded all of them thinking it will give me some of my legendary shards back like when you dismantle legendary weapons.
- I started playing as Hunter solely based on looks and liked the gameplay but I wanna try Warlock or Titan as well (I am open to class suggestions for new players.)
- I literally have 0 friends and as far as I can tell Hunter is by far is the least helpfull class to other guardians. So I wanna play another class if it makes it easier to meet other people.
2023.03.21 02:37 CCKillbilly Lost Sector Farming & Exotic Armor Drops
Running lost sectors has become more difficult due to Bungie's idea of "Bringing challenge back to Destiny" being just to handicap your effective level (which is already artificial) in a lot activities. However, now that content is more difficult, the rewards have not been adjusted to compensate. This is a common complaint I see nowadays. I am not here to argue about that even though I agree that rewards should have been increased as well.
This post is to discuss the drop rates of exotic armor in Lost Sectors and why obtaining a specific stat roll on said armor is absuletely ridiculous now and even more so now that Legend/Master Lost Sectors take more time to complete along with a bug plagueing the game. I do not have any data or a huge sample, but in my experience Legend seems to be dropping exotic about 25% to 33% of the time while Master is dropping armor about 40% to 50% of the time. I know that Bungie very recently increased the drop rate, but it seems to be marginal, if at any according to what people are experiencing. Regardless of which difficulty you prefer, farming for specific exotic armor piece with specific stats has become mroe asinine than ever before.
Each Lost Sector rewards a specific slot of exotic armor (Arms, Chest, Legs, Helmet) that rotates daily and will drop any exotic in that slot that is not currently obtained in that player's collections with the exception of a few very rare instances. If a player has all exotic armor pieces in that slot on that class in their collection, it will then drop random exotics of that slot. For example, if you own all the exotic helmets for the Hunter class and you complete the daily Lost Sector that is dropping exotic helmets, it will drop any of the 9 Hunter exotic helmets at random.
Finally to my point..
Let's say you are farming the daily Lost Sector on Master difficulty, which is awarding exotic helmets and we be generous and say it has 50% (1/2) drop rate. You are on a Hunter and own all 9 of the exotic helmets in your vault/collection. You are specifically looking for the Mask of Bakris exotic helmet and are looking for a specific stat roll. The chances of Mask of Bakris JUST DROPPING is (1/2*1/9) about 5.5 percent. That is simply asinine when it takes you arround 7-12 minutes per run of each Master Lost Sector. The odds go up astronimcally when you put more criteria, such as minimum 64 stat total and even more so when asking for specific stat distrbitutions such as 2 Strength and 2 Intellect and 20+ mobility and recovery. The odds of getting 64+ total stats is EVEN WORSE than it was than last season because of the bug that I believe is affecting all "high" stat rolled armor and not just Master Duality's Artifice armor. This further plummets your odds of getting that perfect stat roll on a Mask of Bakris. You can use a ghost mod to "guarantee" it will have at least 10 of ONLY ONE stat. First of all there are 6 different stats on a piece of armor and guaranteeing a measly 10 on only one of those stats is not enough. Someone suggested having the ghost mod guarantee at least 20, which is a good idea, but does not go far enough. Let us slot two or maybe three 20+ stat guarantees on our ghosts. Or better yet! Give us back Glass Needles from D1, which allowed us to re-roll stats on exotic armor. OR EVEN BETTER YET! Let us pick armor stats for an extremely expensive price. I believe this is necessary because farming Lost Sectors for specific stat rolled exotic armor, even pre-Lightfall, is ridiculous.
Thank you for coming to my TED TALK.
Side note: The third paragraph is there to explain to any player who is not familiar with how the system works. Please correct me if I am wrong or missed something important. I will make edits if it is necessary, though let's make the point of this a discussion and not an editing job. Please keep it civil and reasonable. Let me know what you think. I am curious if people disagree with me or if some of y'all agree some changes need to be made. Thanks!
TLDR: Exotic farming in Lost Sectors for specific rolls on specific armor was really bad and now even worse. Changes need to be made. Odds of simply getting certain exotics range between 4-9 percent per run with the most generous odds.
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This post is to discuss the drop rates of exotic armor in Lost Sectors and why obtaining a specific stat roll on said armor is absuletely ridiculous now and even more so now that Legend/Master Lost Sectors take more time to complete along with a bug plagueing the game. I do not have any data or a huge sample, but in my experience Legend seems to be dropping exotic about 25% to 33% of the time while Master is dropping armor about 40% to 50% of the time. I know that Bungie very recently increased the drop rate, but it seems to be marginal, if at any according to what people are experiencing. Regardless of which difficulty you prefer, farming for specific exotic armor piece with specific stats has become mroe asinine than ever before.
Each Lost Sector rewards a specific slot of exotic armor (Arms, Chest, Legs, Helmet) that rotates daily and will drop any exotic in that slot that is not currently obtained in that player's collections with the exception of a few very rare instances. If a player has all exotic armor pieces in that slot on that class in their collection, it will then drop random exotics of that slot. For example, if you own all the exotic helmets for the Hunter class and you complete the daily Lost Sector that is dropping exotic helmets, it will drop any of the 9 Hunter exotic helmets at random.
Finally to my point..
Let's say you are farming the daily Lost Sector on Master difficulty, which is awarding exotic helmets and we be generous and say it has 50% (1/2) drop rate. You are on a Hunter and own all 9 of the exotic helmets in your vault/collection. You are specifically looking for the Mask of Bakris exotic helmet and are looking for a specific stat roll. The chances of Mask of Bakris JUST DROPPING is (1/2*1/9) about 5.5 percent. That is simply asinine when it takes you arround 7-12 minutes per run of each Master Lost Sector. The odds go up astronimcally when you put more criteria, such as minimum 64 stat total and even more so when asking for specific stat distrbitutions such as 2 Strength and 2 Intellect and 20+ mobility and recovery. The odds of getting 64+ total stats is EVEN WORSE than it was than last season because of the bug that I believe is affecting all "high" stat rolled armor and not just Master Duality's Artifice armor. This further plummets your odds of getting that perfect stat roll on a Mask of Bakris. You can use a ghost mod to "guarantee" it will have at least 10 of ONLY ONE stat. First of all there are 6 different stats on a piece of armor and guaranteeing a measly 10 on only one of those stats is not enough. Someone suggested having the ghost mod guarantee at least 20, which is a good idea, but does not go far enough. Let us slot two or maybe three 20+ stat guarantees on our ghosts. Or better yet! Give us back Glass Needles from D1, which allowed us to re-roll stats on exotic armor. OR EVEN BETTER YET! Let us pick armor stats for an extremely expensive price. I believe this is necessary because farming Lost Sectors for specific stat rolled exotic armor, even pre-Lightfall, is ridiculous.
Thank you for coming to my TED TALK.
Side note: The third paragraph is there to explain to any player who is not familiar with how the system works. Please correct me if I am wrong or missed something important. I will make edits if it is necessary, though let's make the point of this a discussion and not an editing job. Please keep it civil and reasonable. Let me know what you think. I am curious if people disagree with me or if some of y'all agree some changes need to be made. Thanks!
TLDR: Exotic farming in Lost Sectors for specific rolls on specific armor was really bad and now even worse. Changes need to be made. Odds of simply getting certain exotics range between 4-9 percent per run with the most generous odds.
2023.03.21 02:37 Primary-Asparagus615 THC extremely helpful with inflammation and the pain of CPPS.
Just a PSA, THC is worth a shot if you haven't tried it before. Between that and my Xanax, the ache behind my testicles has gotten a lot better each day. I've some on here reporting "It'll just make you more aware of your pain." I couldn't disagree more, herb did more for my CPPS than the Tramadol that my Urologist prescribed. Between that and power walking about the neighborhood 30 mins a day, I'm feeling alot better, and I think you could too if you haven't already tried that sweet, sweet chiba. It's a solid choice if you're allergic to NSAIDS like I am too.
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2023.03.21 02:37 TheNuttyNutNut I'm(M40) My wife (F32) of 8 years wants to stay "friends" with the guy she cheated on me with, we've got a 6 year old son and supposed to be buying a house soon... Are they "just friends?"
I get it, I pushed her away, I was drunk arsehole stoner and I treated her badly, I feel very ashamed and guilty, I was very depressed and in a bad place.
We moved back to my Mum's house about a year and a half ago, we met abroad 9 years ago. Our 6 year old was born there and all my wife's family are there. We had an amazing life but it was a dangerous country and we wanted our son to be educated here. My Mum suffers from mental illness and is very depressed and anxious, I should have seen the effect it was having on my wife and our relationship but I blamed my wife for being difficult and drank to deal with it, as I've drank to deal with everything that was bad in my life so far.. We'd had lots of good times too during this period, it wasn't like we were fighting all the time. She wanted to rent somewhere but I said it was a waste of money and we should buy, but wait to see what's happening with the housing market. I didn't see what living in the house with my Mum was doing to our relationship.
I quit my job and took 3 months off last November to focus on starting my own business and to be a better father to our son, I'm a chef and was doing 70+ hours a week. My son had a medical issue and I took some time to make sure he got better, and he did, for that I'm proud.
Around that time we had a massive fight. It was difficult trying to plan the business and I found myself a bit lost, don't have many friends in the area and started drinking too much at home and smoking weed after my son had gone to bed, so by the time my wife got home around 10.30pm from her job I'd be drunk and high. I knew something was wrong, she kissed me differently and things just weren't right, I accused her so many times but she denied it. But we were still having good times, sleeping together occasionally and doing things together. Christmas Day was great, I was relatively sober.
During this time I focused on buying a house, I'm very privileged (not crazy privileged) but my family are comfortable. I inherited quite a bit from my grandparents but wasn't enough for a house but with my wife on the mortgage we were able to do it, went to see loads but found the right one for us. I'm putting down 3/4 of the money. We signed all the papers and hopefully should be moving soon.
On Valentine's Day she came out and told me that she'd got close to someone at work, they'd only kissed, it had happened after our fight in November. I lost it, she said she'd quit her job (they work together) and would stop seeing him. That didn't happen, and she's still working at the same place. I suppose my behaviour pushed her to it. The guy has loads of problems, is from a different country too, is Muslim and they were both there for each other to talk to and they inevitably kissed. She promises they haven't slept together (I'm trying to believe her) She says that when we move and she gets a new job it'll just fade away but he's so messed up she wants to be there for him as a friend.
I made some life changes, I haven't drunk since the day after I found out or smoked weed (been doing both since I was 14, I'm 40 now), I've gone to the gym nearly every day (first time in 20 years) and I'm seeing a therapist, something I would never have done before. I've got a job interview tomorrow.
The problem is my anxiety just can't take it, I'm a mess, I keep on pushing her to end it with him and to stop seeing him, we'd agreed that we'll get the house and give it 6 months, I said we should rent somewhere, but she said I had that chance a year ago. We've had some good times recently and it just makes it worse as the next day I push her more to stop seeing him. I get it she's scared that I'm just going to go back to my old ways, but I won't, I'm done with that life. I just want to be a good husband and father to our son. He's the reason we're still together, he's so excited about the house.
Are they still "friends" though? one night I looked at her phone, nothing selacious but it seemed as though they were covering their tracks...
Last week, she'd had enough, called me saying she couldn't take the pressure anymore and we were going to tell our son that night, I lost it, dropped my son at my brother's, turned my phone off and went to London, I had a really dark 20 mins but couldn't do it, I had decided to go away for a week or so to clear my head. When I turned my phone back on I found out she'd reported me missing, I got picked up by the police and taken to see the mental health team at the hospital. I felt so guilty and horrible, turns out she'd called the police Infront of my son, and drove round all the local pubs with him looking for me.
Then the next day the Guy she is "friends" with drove his car into a wall and ended up in hospital. I cut back the pressure on her and tried to be supportive, it must be so difficult for her
We've got really close the last week, Sunday was mother's day, we had an amazing day, I made her a special breakfast, we had a steamy cuddle in bed, went out for lunch and she even kissed me, she sent me a song and we talked for ages when she got back home from work. None of the anxiety was there when she was at work, for the first time in a month I felt amazing.
Today my anxiety got the better of me, I'd been to the gym, we'd exchanged a few messages then on her break 1-4 she disappeared offline and I got obsessed that she was seeing him, we spoke briefly about our son, I decided to try and carry on the vibe and made her a Thai curry for when she got home, put loads of effort in, even put candles out. But then I started talking about him, was she with him at lunch? why can't she just stop seeing him? I ruined the whole evening and she ended saying I'm pushing her away and she said she'd planned on watching something on TV and sleeping in the same bed but I'd ruined it...
She's still here, still wears her wedding ring, why am I being so pushy and trying to force her to stop being friends with this Guy? But if they're just friends why is it so difficult for her not to see him?
She's the love of my life, I'm trying so hard to change but why am I only thinking of my feelings not hers? Suppose deep down I'm worried that if we get the house she'd get it in the divorce and I'd be screwed. Is this all part of a big scheme, is she worried she doesn't have enough to rent somewhere by herself so she's playing for time?
For me love is more important than money, she's my soulmate, we've been through so much together and our son is such an amazing boy, I can't bear to break his heart but if she doesn't love me or have feelings why hasn't she left, why is she still wearing her wedding ring, why is she saying she wants to work it out but still "friends" with the other Guy, and are they still really just "friends".....
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We moved back to my Mum's house about a year and a half ago, we met abroad 9 years ago. Our 6 year old was born there and all my wife's family are there. We had an amazing life but it was a dangerous country and we wanted our son to be educated here. My Mum suffers from mental illness and is very depressed and anxious, I should have seen the effect it was having on my wife and our relationship but I blamed my wife for being difficult and drank to deal with it, as I've drank to deal with everything that was bad in my life so far.. We'd had lots of good times too during this period, it wasn't like we were fighting all the time. She wanted to rent somewhere but I said it was a waste of money and we should buy, but wait to see what's happening with the housing market. I didn't see what living in the house with my Mum was doing to our relationship.
I quit my job and took 3 months off last November to focus on starting my own business and to be a better father to our son, I'm a chef and was doing 70+ hours a week. My son had a medical issue and I took some time to make sure he got better, and he did, for that I'm proud.
Around that time we had a massive fight. It was difficult trying to plan the business and I found myself a bit lost, don't have many friends in the area and started drinking too much at home and smoking weed after my son had gone to bed, so by the time my wife got home around 10.30pm from her job I'd be drunk and high. I knew something was wrong, she kissed me differently and things just weren't right, I accused her so many times but she denied it. But we were still having good times, sleeping together occasionally and doing things together. Christmas Day was great, I was relatively sober.
During this time I focused on buying a house, I'm very privileged (not crazy privileged) but my family are comfortable. I inherited quite a bit from my grandparents but wasn't enough for a house but with my wife on the mortgage we were able to do it, went to see loads but found the right one for us. I'm putting down 3/4 of the money. We signed all the papers and hopefully should be moving soon.
On Valentine's Day she came out and told me that she'd got close to someone at work, they'd only kissed, it had happened after our fight in November. I lost it, she said she'd quit her job (they work together) and would stop seeing him. That didn't happen, and she's still working at the same place. I suppose my behaviour pushed her to it. The guy has loads of problems, is from a different country too, is Muslim and they were both there for each other to talk to and they inevitably kissed. She promises they haven't slept together (I'm trying to believe her) She says that when we move and she gets a new job it'll just fade away but he's so messed up she wants to be there for him as a friend.
I made some life changes, I haven't drunk since the day after I found out or smoked weed (been doing both since I was 14, I'm 40 now), I've gone to the gym nearly every day (first time in 20 years) and I'm seeing a therapist, something I would never have done before. I've got a job interview tomorrow.
The problem is my anxiety just can't take it, I'm a mess, I keep on pushing her to end it with him and to stop seeing him, we'd agreed that we'll get the house and give it 6 months, I said we should rent somewhere, but she said I had that chance a year ago. We've had some good times recently and it just makes it worse as the next day I push her more to stop seeing him. I get it she's scared that I'm just going to go back to my old ways, but I won't, I'm done with that life. I just want to be a good husband and father to our son. He's the reason we're still together, he's so excited about the house.
Are they still "friends" though? one night I looked at her phone, nothing selacious but it seemed as though they were covering their tracks...
Last week, she'd had enough, called me saying she couldn't take the pressure anymore and we were going to tell our son that night, I lost it, dropped my son at my brother's, turned my phone off and went to London, I had a really dark 20 mins but couldn't do it, I had decided to go away for a week or so to clear my head. When I turned my phone back on I found out she'd reported me missing, I got picked up by the police and taken to see the mental health team at the hospital. I felt so guilty and horrible, turns out she'd called the police Infront of my son, and drove round all the local pubs with him looking for me.
Then the next day the Guy she is "friends" with drove his car into a wall and ended up in hospital. I cut back the pressure on her and tried to be supportive, it must be so difficult for her
We've got really close the last week, Sunday was mother's day, we had an amazing day, I made her a special breakfast, we had a steamy cuddle in bed, went out for lunch and she even kissed me, she sent me a song and we talked for ages when she got back home from work. None of the anxiety was there when she was at work, for the first time in a month I felt amazing.
Today my anxiety got the better of me, I'd been to the gym, we'd exchanged a few messages then on her break 1-4 she disappeared offline and I got obsessed that she was seeing him, we spoke briefly about our son, I decided to try and carry on the vibe and made her a Thai curry for when she got home, put loads of effort in, even put candles out. But then I started talking about him, was she with him at lunch? why can't she just stop seeing him? I ruined the whole evening and she ended saying I'm pushing her away and she said she'd planned on watching something on TV and sleeping in the same bed but I'd ruined it...
She's still here, still wears her wedding ring, why am I being so pushy and trying to force her to stop being friends with this Guy? But if they're just friends why is it so difficult for her not to see him?
She's the love of my life, I'm trying so hard to change but why am I only thinking of my feelings not hers? Suppose deep down I'm worried that if we get the house she'd get it in the divorce and I'd be screwed. Is this all part of a big scheme, is she worried she doesn't have enough to rent somewhere by herself so she's playing for time?
For me love is more important than money, she's my soulmate, we've been through so much together and our son is such an amazing boy, I can't bear to break his heart but if she doesn't love me or have feelings why hasn't she left, why is she still wearing her wedding ring, why is she saying she wants to work it out but still "friends" with the other Guy, and are they still really just "friends".....
2023.03.21 02:37 FreyePlays [US][SELL] ♥ FLASH SALE WEEK ♥ Pat McGrath, Danessa Myricks, Auric, Freck, Etude House, TonyMoly, drugstore items $5 and under! Select items discounted this week only, first come first served.
FLASH SALE WEEK
Help fund my cross-country move and clear out my gently-used makeup! Select items discounted this week only, first come first served. Priced to sell, no lowballing please. Negotiations/bundling on large orders only.
- Shipping starts at $5, subject to increase depending on weight/distance
- PayPal Goods & Services only (I cover the fees)
- Original owner of all items: smoke-free, pet-free, humidity-free home
- All items brand new or very gently used, any original packaging will be included
- Hard surfaces disinfected, buyer can sanitize product as desired
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Palettes (ABH $15 AND PMG DISCOUNTED)
Pat McGrath Mothership V Palette, Bronze Seduction $50Tati Beauty Textured Neutrals Palette, Vol. 1 $120 (RP $48, discontinued) - Used 4X; includes clear protective sheet but no outer packaging. Price reflects a collector's item in gently-used condition ( closed , open )
ABH Jackie Aina Palette $15
Eyeshadow Singles (SELECT $5 AND UNDER, AURIC $40 SHIPPED)
Auric Smoke Reflect Cream + Powder Eye Shadow Duo, Ego (silver) $25Auric Smoke Reflect Cream + Powder Eye Shadow Duo, Defiance (bronze gold) $15
Natasha Denona Retro Palette Single, Helio (rose gold) $2
Pat McGrath Crystalline Prismatic Pigment, Angel Dust (pinky champagne) $2
Danessa Myricks Colorfix Waterproof Liquid Pigment, Fantasy (foils, champagne) $5
Danessa Myricks Colorfix Waterproof Liquid Pigment, Goldmine (creams, metallic gold) $5
Danessa Myricks Colorfix Waterproof Liquid Pigment, Rustic (mattes, rich terracotta) $5
Danessa Myricks Colorfix Waterproof Liquid Pigment, Exposed (mattes, taupe brown) $5
Danessa Myricks Colorfix Magic Set & Seal (Clear), 12mL $5
Blushes / Highlights / Bronzers ($10 AND UNDER)
ELF Primer Infused Blush, Always Spicy (warm brown) $2Makeup Geek Powder Blush, Sweetness (medium peach) $2
About Face Light Lock Powder, This Bliss (light gold) $10
Colourpop Super Shock Cheek, Flexitarian $2
NARS Bronzer Powder, Laguna (DS) $5
Lip Products (K-BEAUTY+DRUGSTORE $5/EACH)
TonyMoly Perfect Lips Shocking Lip, 02 Red Shocking $5TonyMoly Perfect Lips Shocking Lip, 03 Ruby Shocking $5
TonyMoly Perfect Lips Shocking Lip, 05 Petal Shocking $5
TonyMoly Perfect Lips Shocking Lip, 06 Tomato Shocking $5
TonyMoly Perfect Lips Shocking Lip, 07 Rose Shocking $5
Pat McGrath Mini Red Fantasy Lip Trio Holiday Set $35 (RP $25, limited edition holiday set) - Brand-new/sealed; Price reflects a collector's item in brand-new condition ( front , back )
Maybelline Lifter Gloss, 008 Stone $5
Maybelline Lifter Gloss, 008 Stone $2
Brow Products ($2/EACH)
Etude House Color My Brows, #03 Red Brown $2NYX Lift & Snatch! Brow Tint Pen, Ash Brown $2
Eyeliner / Mascara ($2/EACH OR $8 FOR ALL)
Pat McGrath FetishEyes™ Mascara (Mini) $2ILIA Limitless Lash Mascara (Mini) $2
Urban Decay Lash Freak Mascara (Mini) $2
Too Faced Better Than Sex Mascara (Mini) $2
Peripera Ink Color Cara, 02 Black Milk Tea Brown $2
Base / Correctors ($5 AND UNDER)
I have light, warm olive undertones (my closest match is Rare Beauty 170W). All base products are fair-to-light and neutral/golden leaning.Bareminerals Complexion Rescue Tinted Hydrating Gel Cream SPF 30, Birch 1.5 (Mini) $1
CoverFX Pressed Mineral Foundation, G10 $5
Revlon Colorstay Foundation for Combination/Oily Skin, 150 Buff $1
Etude House Double Lasting Foundation SPF42 PA++, Beige Y04 $2
Etude House Double Lasting Foundation SPF35 PA++, Ivory 17W1 $5
L.A. Girl HD Pro Conceal Corrector, Green Corrector $1
Fake Freckles ($18/EACH OR $30 BUNDLED)
Freck Long Wear Freckle Makeup, Original XL (light-medium) $18Freck Long Wear Freckle Makeup, Noir (medium-dark) $18
Primers / Powders / Setting Sprays (DRUGSTORE $2/EACH)
Milk Makeup Hydro Grip Primer $26RCMA No-Color Powder $2
No7 Lift & Luminate Triple Action Finishing Powder, Light/Medium $2
Catrice Prime & Fine Illuminating Dewy Glow Fixing Spray $2
Free Samples
Must make a purchase to add free samples to orderClinique Even Better Foundation (3 Shades)
RMS Beauty "Re"Evolve Natural Finish Foundation (3 Shades)
Sold
Crossed-out items have been sold. Pending items have not been paid for yet. Feel free to claim next-in-line in case the buyer passes/ghosts!
2023.03.21 02:37 kubedwheel56 Local tools
My Craftsman 19.2 are ready to be retired. I’m a homeowner and hobbyist woodworker, so a brand like Ryobi would be great for me. The problem is the nearest Home Depot is an hour and a half away and none of the brands from Menards interest me. We have a store that sells Milwaukee and Dewalt. The price of the drill/driver combo isn’t what’s holding me back…it’s the price of additional tools (circular saw, router, etc). I guess I have two questions:
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- Are team red or yellow THAT much better and worth the additional cost?
- Would/do you use tools that you can’t get readily or locally?
2023.03.21 02:37 MrPapis Advice for recieving presents
So this might be an odd one but it's actually a problem.
So we don't have a big family so gifts i receive for birthdays are usually just from mom and her boyfriend. So that kinda puts pressure on my mom who is extremely well intentioned. The problem is her offspring. Me and my sister. We don't really want things my sister might be worse than me as iam materialistic, she is not.
The problem is that I don't know what I want and my mom really wants to give me a fantastic present. Something I will cherish and like but it's exceedingly difficult to get me stuff as I'm hyper aware of anything I buy for myself and it's researched well. So even if she gets me something I want she isn't ever gonna be so specific as what I would have found(I'm a hard to satisfy techy nerd, she a mom from the 50's) and that would defeat the whole purpose as she knows when I'm mildly satisfied.
At this point I haven't gotten my birthday gift or Christmas present from 2022.
So what happens is I say graphics card because in my mind that's easily within budget, will be cherised for many hours for some years. But I know there is very little satisfaction for her as she doesn't know anything about it she can't have any choice in the matter.
My solutions going forward will be to ask her to come shopping with me and find something together in-store and wish for different knick-knacks that she can buy and give me on the day. But I'm hoping for a silver bullet that will please the both of us. But to be honest at this point I want to prioritise her. But that's directly correlated to how I feel about a gift. And trust me she knows how I feel, she's a bloodhound when it comes to emotions. And I'm a terrible liar.
This is my first world problem, thanks for coming to my tedtalk.
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So we don't have a big family so gifts i receive for birthdays are usually just from mom and her boyfriend. So that kinda puts pressure on my mom who is extremely well intentioned. The problem is her offspring. Me and my sister. We don't really want things my sister might be worse than me as iam materialistic, she is not.
The problem is that I don't know what I want and my mom really wants to give me a fantastic present. Something I will cherish and like but it's exceedingly difficult to get me stuff as I'm hyper aware of anything I buy for myself and it's researched well. So even if she gets me something I want she isn't ever gonna be so specific as what I would have found(I'm a hard to satisfy techy nerd, she a mom from the 50's) and that would defeat the whole purpose as she knows when I'm mildly satisfied.
At this point I haven't gotten my birthday gift or Christmas present from 2022.
So what happens is I say graphics card because in my mind that's easily within budget, will be cherised for many hours for some years. But I know there is very little satisfaction for her as she doesn't know anything about it she can't have any choice in the matter.
My solutions going forward will be to ask her to come shopping with me and find something together in-store and wish for different knick-knacks that she can buy and give me on the day. But I'm hoping for a silver bullet that will please the both of us. But to be honest at this point I want to prioritise her. But that's directly correlated to how I feel about a gift. And trust me she knows how I feel, she's a bloodhound when it comes to emotions. And I'm a terrible liar.
This is my first world problem, thanks for coming to my tedtalk.
2023.03.21 02:37 ewk r/Zen Post of the Week Podcast
Here:
Podcast discussing zen posts weekly:
https://sites.libsyn.com/407831
Welcome! ewk comment: If you can't find the post, the link is linked on the podcast page. Sometimes posts that get podcasted about do get [removed] or [deleted], but not often.
Here are the episodes this week:
I am starting to lose track of what day it is... welcome to my world(s).
The last three podcasts were download 39, 23,28 times according to Libsysn. There were other numbers I didn't bother to de-acronym. 2.9k views of the post about the podcasts though.
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Podcast discussing zen posts weekly:
https://sites.libsyn.com/407831
Follow on Spotify and this stuff: Amazon Music/Audible, iHeartRadio, Libsyn Classic Feed, Network App Listing, Podcast Page, Simple Download, Twitter (ewkrzen1), Web Player... Also Google Podcasts, super easy..
...Get interviewed by ewk for this podcast by volunteering in the comments or pm/dm me.
Seriously. You can know way more than me or way less, I'll take anybody.
Welcome! ewk comment: If you can't find the post, the link is linked on the podcast page. Sometimes posts that get podcasted about do get [removed] or [deleted], but not often.
Here are the episodes this week:
- Entering Non-Duality
- Violence
- To Seek is to Deviate
Each page contains link to reddit post, link to primary Zen text, etc.Updates:
If you think a post should have been discussed and wasn't, you have only yourself to blame. You could even post something that you wanted to discuss and then volunteer to be interviewed about the post you posted!
Other suggestions welcome as well.
I am starting to lose track of what day it is... welcome to my world(s).
The last three podcasts were download 39, 23,28 times according to Libsysn. There were other numbers I didn't bother to de-acronym. 2.9k views of the post about the podcasts though.
2023.03.21 02:36 Iamlordbutter [US-IL] [H] Amiibos, Switch, ps4/ps5, ps3, xbox one/Xbox series x, 3ds, wii u and wii games, xbox one controllers, Nintendo switch consoles [W] PayPal F&F and Venmo
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Thanks for checking out my post.
Nintendo Switch
Skylanders Imaginators- $150
Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles: The Cowabunga Collection (Sealed)- $35
Killer Queen Black- $15
Indivisible- $20
Animal Crossing Nintendo Switch Console v2 (Brand new in box, box is heavily damaged, no joy cons)- $200
3DS
Jake Hunter Detective Story Ghost of Dusk- $35
Wii U
Lego Movie video game- $10
Wii
Resident Evil 4- $15
Sin and punishment star successor (Sealed)- $50
Legend of Zelda Skyward Sword (Complete with bonus disc)- $30
Super Mario Galaxy Nintendo Selects (Some writing in the case)- $17
Xbox One/Xbox Series X
Rare replay- $12
Nba2k playgrounds 2 (Sealed)- $8
Rainbow six siege- $6
Life is Strange- $12
Call of Duty Advance Warfare- $6
Assassins Creed Valhalla (sealed)- $15
Dead or Alive 5 last round- $6
Mlb the show 22 (Xbox One Version) - $10
Mlb the show 22 (Series X version)- $10
Xbox 360
Nier (Sealed)- $55
Assassin Creed Revelations (No manual)- $6
Assassin Creed Rouge- $13
Dante Inferno- $15
Fairy Tale fights- $13
Tomb Raider underworld- $12
Dead Island- $6
Catherine (No manual)- $20
Dishonored goty edition- $10
Wet- $30
Shadows of the damned- $45
Ps4/Ps5
Days Gone (red box sticker on disc)- $12
Prototype collection- $55
Warriors Orochi 3 Ultimate- $25
Need for Speed Hot Pursuit Remastered (ps4 version)- $10
Deadpool- $50
Akiba Trip Undead and Undressed- $30
Mad Max- $12
Syberia 3- $12
Uncharted 4- $12
Uncharted lost legacy- $12
Exist archive- $12
Ps3
The Darkness- $10
Remember Me- $10
Killzone 2 (No manual and greatest hits) - $7
Killzone 3 - $10
Dead Island Escape- $8
Resistance (No manual and greatest hits)- $10
Resistance 2- $12
Metal Gear Solid The legacy collection- $55
Metal Gear Solid 4 (No manual)- $8
Demon Souls- $20
Heavy Rain (No manual)- $10
Beyond Two Souls (No manual)- $10
Valkyria chronicles- $10
Uncharted 1 (greatest hits)- $6
Uncharted 2 (greatest hits)- $6
Uncharted 3- $6
The Ico and Shadow of the Colossus Collection- $15
Hitman Hd trilogy- $25
Dragonball Z Battle of Z (No manual)- $25
South Park Stick of Truth (No manual)- $20
Call of Duty Black ops (large black sticker in corner on the front)- $10
Best of playstation network vol 1(No manual)- $50
Infamous Collection- $20
God of War Saga- $45
God of War Ascension- $32
Yaiba Ninja Gaiden Z- $12
Kingdoms of Amalur Reckoning (No manual)- $5
Disgaea 4- $14
Sly collection- $50
Sly Cooper Thieves in time (No manual)- $40
Jak and Daxter collection- $25
Ninja Gaiden Sigma (greatest hits)- $14
Ni No Kuni: Wrath of the White Witch (Greatest hits version)(No manual)- $6
Puppeteer (No manual)- $60
Tales of Xillia (No manual)- $14
Dragon Dogma Dark Arisn (No manual)- $14
Castlevania lords of shadow collection (No manual)- $50
Resonance of fate (No manual)- $20
Naruto Shippuden Ultimate Ninja Storm Generations- $16
Lego lord of the ring's combo packaging (No Blu-ray or insert)- $8
Eternal Sonata (Disc only)- $20
Amiibo (All are opened, no packaging, good condition)
Splatoon blue boy inkling (From 3 pack)- $8
Splatoon orange girl inkling (From 3 pack)- $8
Meta Knight (Kirby)- $17
Waddle- $15
Zero Suit Samus- $15
Video Game Statues
Half Life® 2: Headcrab Zombie Statue 1/4 scale made by Gaming Heads (Box is in rough shape, regular version) - $600
Tom Clancy's Ghost Recon Wildlands Santa Muerte Fallen Angel PVC Statue (Sealed In Box) - $50
2023.03.21 02:36 Prestigious_Bug_3224 Quick TIG Question
Situation:
Did 1 year as GS5, got promoted to GS7. Was in my GS7 position for 8 months before taking a non-public sector role for a year (this new job does not correlate with what my government job was really).
If I got another GS7 position would my TIG be reset back to 0, as if I had just recently been promoted from GS5. Or would my 8 months stick and I'd still have an opportunity to look towards GS9 after four months of employment.
Bonus Question:
My private sector job has a yearly salary of ~$60k, which is higher than the base GS7 salary with RUS locality pay I'd probably be getting in my area. Can I leverage this higher salary for a step increase within my GS7 grade?
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Did 1 year as GS5, got promoted to GS7. Was in my GS7 position for 8 months before taking a non-public sector role for a year (this new job does not correlate with what my government job was really).
If I got another GS7 position would my TIG be reset back to 0, as if I had just recently been promoted from GS5. Or would my 8 months stick and I'd still have an opportunity to look towards GS9 after four months of employment.
Bonus Question:
My private sector job has a yearly salary of ~$60k, which is higher than the base GS7 salary with RUS locality pay I'd probably be getting in my area. Can I leverage this higher salary for a step increase within my GS7 grade?
2023.03.21 02:36 jaycwhitecloud Why I don't use industrial foams and epoxies...but when/if I do...???...These are some of my methods...
Hi all,
Per some current conversations (both positive and negative) here on Vivarium and because a member ( u/Cumbiscuit69420) requested I do so, I going to share some basic insights or why not these and when/if they are used what some of the better or more professional choices are...
First, and for validation again from the other post, besides an early background in this hobby professionally, I have also been an architectural designer and fabricator now for over 40 years with a sole focus on only natural, traditional, and sustainable architecture. Biome enclosure (what is now called "bioactive) was/is a hobby that became professional because of my background and other skill sets...
As such, I have a personal ethos to have the smallest carbon footprint possible in all my work and not support those industries that are choking this planet to death with toxins of all manner and forms...nor is there a reason to use them at all...in most (not all) installations...My goal with enclosures is to be as natural as possible with a minimum ethos of 98% natural in mass and/or volume of the space to be created...with the "tech" comprising most of what is modern...
The material too often used now are of a highly industrial nature and taken completely and utterly out of context to the manufacturer's intended use...A simple rule of thumb for most of these is to ask if they would meet "food preparation and water storage" criteria. The other is how " California Prop 65" would look at the material and what warnings would go with it..as most of these simply are not safe to work with long term without much better protection than I see DIYers exercising...
For most enclosures, I tend to simply use natural textiles, clay, natural cement, stone, and natural wood. The means, methods, and material applications of how to do this are virtually endless and will fill a book quite nicely...LOL...but the basic premise is...If you're going to emulate a "slice of nature" then make it a "slice of nature" and not a "slice of an industrial chemical park" or something else like that... otherwise it is just "fake nature" and also supporting an industry that could care less how much damage they do with their chemicals, microplastics or manufacturing processes...
So, the question at hand was how to "waterproof" a plywood box. I typically do not use or recommend plywood because it is expensive and not very ecologically sound...(bamboo green plywood, some "hemp hurd" versions, and "wood wool board: are the exception)...but the question was about plywood...For this, I would first make a "box within a box" as the outer shell needs to remain fully and structurally sound. The inner box is the later that is made "water resistant" as true "waterproof" (for the long haul) is limiting in most examples...
I say most, as the amount of epoxy you actually need, to truly "waterproof" the wood is pretty extensive and expensive. This raises the next question of pragmatic logic and actual examination of "cost" in both time/effort and materials. "MAKING" a piece of wood, regardless of type, "waterproof" has always cost more than going with a known and proven material like glass in virtually every example I have seen or been part of. Glass tanks, though heavy, are just typically cheaper and more durable (when all things are considered) than "TRYING" to make a piece of wood waterproof...Though many spend hours doing so and $$$ forcing this all to work...
If...???...we continue on this effort to a plywood box, for me, I use typically use a proprietary botanical-based elasto polymer (think liquid linoleum...read about its history...lots to learn and think about there) that is of my own fabrication from base materials found in the flooring and water tank industry. This natural polymer would then be colored with natural mineral pigments and go onto the inside liner wooden box with a spacer between as a thermal break and to afford future repairs or modification to the interior box should changes be warranted or needed. I may even do some "build-ups" if looking for more features and/or adding some other natural materials like stone, limbs/roots, etc...That is the very basic approach...
If...(???)...when I have used epoxies or related materials (which I have and do) they are from some of the following vendors below of which I have worked for a long time or since the companies opened. I'm adding a few more links that readers may find helpful or have more detail and technical questions about...Note: I get no revenue or am I paid by these vendors...I use them because they are the best in the industry...when I have to use them...
If any member here has questions about "how to" or wish more detail on a point I shared here, I would be glad to respond. To those few with a drive and penchant for debate, or a "prove it" attitude...???..please don't comment so we can leave the thread for those members wanting to learn something...
Zoopoxy...This is the actual industry standard for professionals and not some "made up" or "make it work" material that TOO many DIYers are using...My first professional builds in the 1980s were with these materials in styles and format as found with companies like Houthoff Zoo design, who is probably one of the best companies in the world in this field...
EcoPoxy...is a much newer company but I like working with these Chemists and owners as they are trying really hard to eventually create a 100% natural and safe to work with botanical epoxy...So I do support their efforts by using their products...WHEN I HAVE TO...!!!...LOL...use an epoxy resin for certain applicable applications...
Smooth-On...was probably my first go at all this back in the 70s...It is not my preferred material or epoxies but they are certainly some of the first in the industry to support DIYers with materials for creative projects...including some for animal enclosures. I learn a lot from them over the decades and use these techniques still but with different materials like those above most often...But still...a solid company for "learning methods" of making molds and related should that interest anyone...
Vivarium Works...does sell kits...but I do not recommend them...for all the reasons I listed above about industrial materials. However, it is a good solid kit, and the maker has a solid background in this profession. The materials are anything but safe and/or nontoxic in their "wet state." His web page is an excellent information source for ideas and very informative so you can learn and adapt many of these methods into better more natural material approaches to doing this work...
submitted by jaycwhitecloud to Vivarium [link] [comments]
Per some current conversations (both positive and negative) here on Vivarium and because a member ( u/Cumbiscuit69420) requested I do so, I going to share some basic insights or why not these and when/if they are used what some of the better or more professional choices are...
First, and for validation again from the other post, besides an early background in this hobby professionally, I have also been an architectural designer and fabricator now for over 40 years with a sole focus on only natural, traditional, and sustainable architecture. Biome enclosure (what is now called "bioactive) was/is a hobby that became professional because of my background and other skill sets...
As such, I have a personal ethos to have the smallest carbon footprint possible in all my work and not support those industries that are choking this planet to death with toxins of all manner and forms...nor is there a reason to use them at all...in most (not all) installations...My goal with enclosures is to be as natural as possible with a minimum ethos of 98% natural in mass and/or volume of the space to be created...with the "tech" comprising most of what is modern...
The material too often used now are of a highly industrial nature and taken completely and utterly out of context to the manufacturer's intended use...A simple rule of thumb for most of these is to ask if they would meet "food preparation and water storage" criteria. The other is how " California Prop 65" would look at the material and what warnings would go with it..as most of these simply are not safe to work with long term without much better protection than I see DIYers exercising...
For most enclosures, I tend to simply use natural textiles, clay, natural cement, stone, and natural wood. The means, methods, and material applications of how to do this are virtually endless and will fill a book quite nicely...LOL...but the basic premise is...If you're going to emulate a "slice of nature" then make it a "slice of nature" and not a "slice of an industrial chemical park" or something else like that... otherwise it is just "fake nature" and also supporting an industry that could care less how much damage they do with their chemicals, microplastics or manufacturing processes...
So, the question at hand was how to "waterproof" a plywood box. I typically do not use or recommend plywood because it is expensive and not very ecologically sound...(bamboo green plywood, some "hemp hurd" versions, and "wood wool board: are the exception)...but the question was about plywood...For this, I would first make a "box within a box" as the outer shell needs to remain fully and structurally sound. The inner box is the later that is made "water resistant" as true "waterproof" (for the long haul) is limiting in most examples...
I say most, as the amount of epoxy you actually need, to truly "waterproof" the wood is pretty extensive and expensive. This raises the next question of pragmatic logic and actual examination of "cost" in both time/effort and materials. "MAKING" a piece of wood, regardless of type, "waterproof" has always cost more than going with a known and proven material like glass in virtually every example I have seen or been part of. Glass tanks, though heavy, are just typically cheaper and more durable (when all things are considered) than "TRYING" to make a piece of wood waterproof...Though many spend hours doing so and $$$ forcing this all to work...
If...???...we continue on this effort to a plywood box, for me, I use typically use a proprietary botanical-based elasto polymer (think liquid linoleum...read about its history...lots to learn and think about there) that is of my own fabrication from base materials found in the flooring and water tank industry. This natural polymer would then be colored with natural mineral pigments and go onto the inside liner wooden box with a spacer between as a thermal break and to afford future repairs or modification to the interior box should changes be warranted or needed. I may even do some "build-ups" if looking for more features and/or adding some other natural materials like stone, limbs/roots, etc...That is the very basic approach...
If...(???)...when I have used epoxies or related materials (which I have and do) they are from some of the following vendors below of which I have worked for a long time or since the companies opened. I'm adding a few more links that readers may find helpful or have more detail and technical questions about...Note: I get no revenue or am I paid by these vendors...I use them because they are the best in the industry...when I have to use them...
If any member here has questions about "how to" or wish more detail on a point I shared here, I would be glad to respond. To those few with a drive and penchant for debate, or a "prove it" attitude...???..please don't comment so we can leave the thread for those members wanting to learn something...
Zoopoxy...This is the actual industry standard for professionals and not some "made up" or "make it work" material that TOO many DIYers are using...My first professional builds in the 1980s were with these materials in styles and format as found with companies like Houthoff Zoo design, who is probably one of the best companies in the world in this field...
EcoPoxy...is a much newer company but I like working with these Chemists and owners as they are trying really hard to eventually create a 100% natural and safe to work with botanical epoxy...So I do support their efforts by using their products...WHEN I HAVE TO...!!!...LOL...use an epoxy resin for certain applicable applications...
Smooth-On...was probably my first go at all this back in the 70s...It is not my preferred material or epoxies but they are certainly some of the first in the industry to support DIYers with materials for creative projects...including some for animal enclosures. I learn a lot from them over the decades and use these techniques still but with different materials like those above most often...But still...a solid company for "learning methods" of making molds and related should that interest anyone...
Vivarium Works...does sell kits...but I do not recommend them...for all the reasons I listed above about industrial materials. However, it is a good solid kit, and the maker has a solid background in this profession. The materials are anything but safe and/or nontoxic in their "wet state." His web page is an excellent information source for ideas and very informative so you can learn and adapt many of these methods into better more natural material approaches to doing this work...
2023.03.21 02:36 one_weary_traveller Does anyone know if there’s a cause or reason for this? Is it normal?
This is my first time posting on Reddit, so I don’t know if I’m in the right place, but I just need somewhere to get my thoughts out. I’ve been having mental health problems for about year now, and I thought I was doing pretty good, but today something completely new and terrifying just happened. For context, I’m a high school student that recently switched to homeschool after a couple incidents relating to my anxiety and body dysmorphia. None of the outbursts were too crazy, just a lot of crying and not wanting to leave the house. There was also a specific reason for each one of them. For the past six months I thought I was doing good, I’m getting out of the house more, I’m seeing a therapist, and I’m taking antidepressants. I thought I was finally getting to a better place. But then there was today. For most of the day I was feeling fine a little off, but fine. I even had a bit of fun working on some of my hobbies. However, the entire time while eating dinner, I felt really weird. Like I couldn’t get my eyes to work properly. I felt like I wasn’t even really there. All I could do was sit there. Now I’ve felt this way a couple times at random moments in random times of the day, but never this strong. Then, after dinner I went to lie down to see if that would help. I turned off the lights and just laid there and felt angry, sad, and indifferent all at the same time. I became annoyed at the sounds outside my room and the light peeking through my blinds. I just wanted to scream, sob, and bury myself deep into my bed. Everything was too loud and I now wanted to flail my limbs and throw myself as hard as I could into the bed. I was hyperventilating, and kicking, and sobbing, and all I wanted was for the world to stop doing what it was doing. After about twenty minutes of that, I finally calmed down. It’s been an hour since it happened and I’ve racked my brain trying to figure out what might’ve caused this, but I can’t think of anything. Does anyone know what this could be? Im also going to bring it up with my therapist next time I see them.
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2023.03.21 02:36 Jasper-Welch I think I'm burned out?
Ever since I finished college and started working ~9 months ago, I've barely been able to focus on being productive. At most, I'm able to do productive work for 2 hours a day, and that's if I push myself. Beyond work, I really only go to the gym, play video games, and read occasionally. I have no motivation or energy for anything else. I'm just confused because I have no idea how I'll work until retirement (if I get to retire).
In my 5 years of university, I did a bachelor's, master's, 18 months of internships, one quarter of research, and ran a large student organization. My workload was so much more than it is now, and yet I was able to juggle it. Could this all be a result of having 5 years of intense stress? Was the looming threat of missing deadlines and failing school what actually motivated me? Or is there something different happening altogether? I don't know, but whatever it is makes me exhausted.
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In my 5 years of university, I did a bachelor's, master's, 18 months of internships, one quarter of research, and ran a large student organization. My workload was so much more than it is now, and yet I was able to juggle it. Could this all be a result of having 5 years of intense stress? Was the looming threat of missing deadlines and failing school what actually motivated me? Or is there something different happening altogether? I don't know, but whatever it is makes me exhausted.
2023.03.21 02:35 twistedextrusion TIFU by blindly trusting random redditors.
I want to start by saying that this is entirely my fault and that I am sure that the people that helped me gave the best advice they could with the information I provided.
About 4 months ago, I posted on an appliance repair subreddit about a Frigidaire washer that was making an awful knocking noise when spinning and I was told that the washer was done. While I appreciate the comments I should have been smarter. The washer and dryer were stacked and in a small closet so I just went with it and we finally bought a new laundry set. It is non refundable and you’ll see why that is important.
It’s getting delivered tomorrow so tonight we unplugged everything and I unstacked the washedryer. Curiosity took over and I removed the back panel to see if anything was obviously wrong. It turns out it was the shock absorber that were done. One completely broke off it’s anchor points and the other was so loose it wasn’t doing anything. I don’t even need a screwdriver to fix it. They are held in place by 2 plastic pins that lock in place. Once the back panel is removed it literally is a 30 seconds job.
-The cost for a set of 2 chock absorber on Amazon : $35 -The cost for a new set of appliances : $1800 plus remodelling of the closet because they don’t make 27” wide by 24” deep anymore… about $2200
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TL;DR I trusted strangers on Reddit about the state of a washer instead of doing 30 minutes of work and it ended up costing me more than $2000 more than a 5 minute permanent fix would have.
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About 4 months ago, I posted on an appliance repair subreddit about a Frigidaire washer that was making an awful knocking noise when spinning and I was told that the washer was done. While I appreciate the comments I should have been smarter. The washer and dryer were stacked and in a small closet so I just went with it and we finally bought a new laundry set. It is non refundable and you’ll see why that is important.
It’s getting delivered tomorrow so tonight we unplugged everything and I unstacked the washedryer. Curiosity took over and I removed the back panel to see if anything was obviously wrong. It turns out it was the shock absorber that were done. One completely broke off it’s anchor points and the other was so loose it wasn’t doing anything. I don’t even need a screwdriver to fix it. They are held in place by 2 plastic pins that lock in place. Once the back panel is removed it literally is a 30 seconds job.
-The cost for a set of 2 chock absorber on Amazon : $35 -The cost for a new set of appliances : $1800 plus remodelling of the closet because they don’t make 27” wide by 24” deep anymore… about $2200
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TL;DR I trusted strangers on Reddit about the state of a washer instead of doing 30 minutes of work and it ended up costing me more than $2000 more than a 5 minute permanent fix would have.
2023.03.21 02:35 BLSH-HUNTING 7 Month Update for those who are struggling
My story is the same as many. I was recommended k as a harmless plant and was told that it is a relaxing powder that is in the coffee family. I first took in December of 2021, and the high felt pretty weird and I had to sit outside for about 30 minutes. It was a bit of a panicky feeling, but not a full on panic attack or anything. I started at 10 gpd so that was obviously too much for me just starting out. For reference I have no history of abuse or addiction, and I hardly even drink alcohol. I have an occasional puff here and there for nighttime sleep, but that’s it. I’ve had no benzo addiction etc. After my first dose I didn’t take again until like Feb/March of 2022. I quit in August of 2022 so that’s maybe 6 months of using. I don’t know the exact length of time though, but it wasn’t too lengthy. It helped me focus and I made the most amount of money with my sales job. All was good during this time, but I noticed some things in my 5-6 months of using. I was clumsy when I would have certain beverages in my hand such as coffee or a glass of water and such. (Like a bit shaky in my hands). I’m normally pretty coordinated and healthy so this was strange, as I was spilling drinks more frequently. I also as you know lost motivation for things and stopped going to the gym, and before k I used to go almost everyday. Towards the end of my quit I hadn’t discovered this sub or knew about any withdrawal so I had no idea what I was in for. I just noticed I started getting angrier for no reason and I caught on that it was the k so I stopped CT. My symptoms were rough once I stopped. Initially I tried drinking my normal daily coffee and it made me feel dizzy and anxious so i quit that basically right away. I felt weird in my brain, and I looked up what was happening and basically found this sub and joined. Fast forward to about day 19-21 CT and I had my first hypnic jerk. (Where you wake up with your heart racing in a panic. ) I’ve never experienced this before so it was quite shocking. I was jolted awake at 7 am, and I usually am able to sleep in later. I thought I had the Cov or the flu or something so I called my mom and I spent a night in detox. What followed was more heart racing , palpitations and panic/confusion. After about 30 days the random jolt wake ups stopped but the fast heart rate continued. I didn’t take any meds during this time, because I refused to go through this again with a worse substance. I just did herbs and CBD oil. I believe the random heart palpitations started getting better by month 3, but my heart would still go faster all the way up until about month 6 or so after a meal. I still get some heart rate increase after a big meal, but it is nothing compared to the first couple of months as far as intensity. My symptoms in the beginning were extreme anxiety and depression. I never had insomnia or RLS, but I had random yawns and sneezing. My main and most annoying symptom by far was the anxiety/heart increase. It still persists some to this day , but it isn’t debilitating like the first 60 days. I couldn’t leave the house when I first quit, sit out in the sun, drive, or go grocery shopping without panic. Fast forwarding to now, I can work a full time job, and am doing pretty well overall. I couldn’t even move at first, so I know for certain that i’ve healed. The other day I did call my boss to tell him I was going to be late , because my heart was going faster like the adrenaline feeling that has been happening. I think it was only at like 80bpm though, so at his point it feels like anxiety/some adrenaline after eating. It’s basically down to just after a big meal when this symptom happens. It doesn’t last all day anymore and it goes away after about an hour or two. I wish I could say i’m at 100% but I am not. I am getting extremely close though. I think in a few months I should be feeling back to my old self. I still feel a bit sad and anxious, but it’s all very tolerable now. I personally would rather die then go through this again so I can’t relate to people that relapse unfortunately. I will NOT let some stupid plant ruin my life more than it already has. I will say you have to hate this addiction like it wronged you, because it did. It messed up my life and well being, and took away from my happiness. My parents were judgmental and basically told me it wasn’t the k and that it was all in my head. It made me feel alone and unsupported, so if you do have friends or family that will support you I would reach out. I think being alone during this time sucks. Anyways this sub has helped me a ton , and I thank all of you supporters out there. I am proof that even at 6 months use you can have a prolonged recovery. I am in it for the long haul though, because I want to cross that finish line. I deserve my old self and mind back and so do all of you if you want it. I wanted to only make a post when I was at 100% , but i’ve healed enough and want to make this post anyway to show that it does get better, and my days are much easier and tolerable. BTW I did have 24 ounces of Iced Chai Tea today with Caffeine and I handled it fine, so I am definitely noticing positive changes as the months stack up. That would have been torture in the beginning. Anyway my rant is over. Peace.
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2023.03.21 02:34 IamRightHanded Upgrading to 1440p 100+ FPS
Current Build:
I have a 1440p monitor, which was overkill when I first made this rig, but wanted to have the monitor for some time. This is an effective rig for the competitive shooters I like to play the most (Valorant, CSGO, Halo Infinite), but I'm also interested in some single-player games (RDR2, Control, God of War, The Last of Us) where I'd like to push over 100 - 144 FPS on 1440p Ultra settings. I can currently get away with about 60 at low-to-mid settings, but since I received a bonus from work I'd like to flex up to $1.5K on new parts.I mainly game and do Excel work on this computer. I'll occasionally record gameplay or stream to a close group of friends using OBS. Streaming is absolutely not a priority.
Upgrade Option A:
Looking in to the bundle-and-save options at Microcenter, I could go the AMD route and allow myself:PCPartPicker Part List
| Type | Item | Price |
|---|---|---|
| CPU | AMD Ryzen 9 7900X 4.7 GHz 12-Core Processor | $600 Microcenter Bundle&Save |
| CPU Cooler | Corsair H80i v2 70.69 CFM Liquid CPU Cooler | |
| Motherboard | Asus ROG STRIX B650E-F GAMING WIFI ATX AM5 Motherboard | Microcenter Bundle&Save |
| Memory | G.Skill Flare X5 32 GB (2 x 16 GB) DDR5-6000 CL36 Memory | Microcenter Bundle&Save |
| Video Card | PowerColor RX 7900 XT 20G Radeon RX 7900 XT 20 GB Video Card | $800 @ Microcenter Deal |
| Power Supply | In Win Commander II 1200 W 80+ Bronze Certified Fully Modular ATX Power Supply | - |
| Subtotal | $1,299.98 | |
| Grand Total | $1,483.98 |
Upgrade Option B:
No CPU upgrade, focusing on NVIDIA GPU (3090 or 4080??) update to keep DLSS for games that might need the extra juice to go 144+ FPS on a 1440p monitor, knowing full well I'll need the CPU upgrade sooner than later| Type | Item | Price |
|---|---|---|
| CPU | Intel Core i7-9700K 3.6 GHz 8-Core Processor | |
| CPU Cooler | Corsair H80i v2 70.69 CFM Liquid CPU Cooler | |
| Motherboard | MSI MPG Z390 GAMING EDGE AC ATX LGA1151 Motherboard | |
| Memory | G.Skill Ripjaws V 32 GB (2 x 16 GB) DDR4-3200 CL16 Memory | |
| Power Supply | In Win Commander II 1200 W 80+ Bronze Certified Fully Modular ATX Power Supply | |
| Video Card A | ASUS NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3090 Strix Overclocked Triple-Fan 24GB | $1,299.99, or $1,169.96 Open Box @ Microcenter |
| Video Card B | MSI NVIDIA GeForce RTX 4080 Ventus 3X Overclocked Triple Fan 16GB | $1,279.99 @ Microcenter |
| Video Card C | Some other 4080 Card at Microcenter that might be better than MSI? | $1,199 - $1,500 @ Microcenter |