It's so weird, honestly. Not even half a year ago I was a grad student working late into the night and being totally consumed by homework, papers and stress. The future felt like it might as well not have existed. Now I've graduated and work a desk job, usually remote at that, at which I have no obligations once the clock hits 5.
I love this freedom (the only downside is getting up earlier than I did in college, which I'm slowly getting used to), but lately I've been getting a little restless. My friends who haven't moved away are all occupied by serious relationships and are increasingly difficult to get a hold of. So, I'm looking for people I can talk to and hang out with. If a relationship comes out of that, that's great, but I know not to set my expectations to high.
About me-- I recently wrapped up my MS in Computer Science. Predictably, I'm a big nerd. I'm a big weeb and could talk about that for hours-- I like too many anime to list, but some of my favorites include Evangelion, Steins;Gate, The Tatami Galaxy, Mob Psycho 100, Gatchaman Crowds, Chainsaw Man, Penguindrum... See, I already listed too many. I also enjoy going to anime/comic conventions, I've got one lined up for July that I'm looking forward to. I also read Homestuck, if you're into that. I'm an occasional gamer, but I pretty much only ever play single-player games like Factorio or Crypt of the Necrodancer.
Aside from nerd stuff, I cook for myself most of the time and I'd like to think I'm pretty decent at it. Occasionally I go on (short) hikes, I'm not a dedicated outdoors-lover but I feel like being contemplative in the woods every now and then. I was pretty consistent about working out before the last couple months of grad school ruined me and I've been meaning to get back to the gym.
So that's what I've got. Tell me about yourself, and if you're nearby maybe we can go to a bar or something like that.

Last month my car was broken into while I was running some errands. Just some change and charging chords taken, so not really a big deal.
About a week or so goes by and I cannot find my work phone anywhere (I didnt use the thing very often and usually kept it in my glove box). Figured it was stolen from my car so I reported it my employer and filed a police report for the insurance.
Yesterday I am cleaning out my desk and I find the phone (its a new I phone, maybe about a year old).
My manager is a toxic asshole and I'm planning on leaving for another job next month. If I were to tell her that I found it, she'd probably discipline me with either a suspension or termination (which, no big deal cause I'm leaving soon, but I'd rather not have that on my employment record).
Question is, can I still use the phone without it getting flagged by verizon or whoever? I assumed I could just change the SIM card but am unsure if it could get tracked back to me since it was reported as stolen.
Appreciate any help ya'll can offer!

A friend of mine just hit level 30, so I typed up a little guide to getting geared. Let me know what you think!
DARKTIDE GEARING GUIDE
**if you’re not yet max level, I highly recommend not spending any crafting mats or Melk bux.
Congrats! You’re finally level 30. In your next shop refreshes, you can now start to acquire endgame, fully powered equipment.
What does that mean for all the loot you’ve acquired while leveling up? Well, it’s mostly trash. So discard it for some scratch. HOWEVER, you may have gotten some golds or purples with some decent blessings, so don’t destroy those just yet.
Base Power Level The base power level is possibly the most important aspect of your equipment. The base power of your item is the small number at the top right of the modifiers box.
The max base power level of a weapon is 380, but it’s all rng, so really anything 360+ is top tier. Some dependency as well as where the stats land within the modifiers.
For curios, the highest base power is 80. So 70+ is worth upgrading. Personally, I like toughness or health over stamina or wounds.
Blessings Blessings come in up to 4 rarities, with tier 4 being the best.
Blessing balance at the moment is not at all balanced. Some specific ones greatly enhance the usability of weapons (power cycler for power sword) and others are pretty useless. A good tip generally, is to look for blessings that increase power. Generally can’t go wrong with those (slaughterer, head taker, thrust, deathspitter, etc.).
Here’s a list of all the blessings available for each weapon: https://darktide.gameslantern.com/weapon-blessing-traits
At Hadron, you can strip blessings from a weapon you don’t want to use to add it to your available blessing library. Some of your leveling purples and golds may be good to strip some blessings off of.
Blessing libraries and availability is segmented by weapon classes. For example, if you strip Infernus IV off an infantry lasgun, then that blessing is now available to be put on any other infantry lasgun, account-wide. Pretty sure this is actually the only meaningful account-wide progression that can carry over between your characters.
In the above example, the blessing you strip from the infantry lasgun, does not appear in the libraries of either the recon lasguns, or the helbore lasguns.
In my experience, hunting blessings to expand your blessing library is the longest part of the gearing game. So tier 3 is a fine place to settle for some of the better blessings until you can get a tier 4 version.
Perks This is where the reroll-until-rarity mod shines. If your weapon has at least one good perk on it, then you’re in business. Go to the mod settings, select what perk you want, and go put it on the weapon using the refine option at Hadron.
Strategy to Get Good Gear Unfortunately, the whole system is RNG, but here are some tips to get you decked out in some pretty decent stuff quickly.
Armoury Exchange + Hadron This shop updates on the hour, every hour. I’d advise just purchasing any weapons you see at base power level 360+, unless it is specifically a weapon class you know you don’t want to use (sorry laspistol). You can then take these powerful armaments to Hadron and consecrate them all the way up to gold items. Hopefully, you’ll get at least one good perk and one good blessing once the weapon is fully consecrated. Then, you just refine the bad perk into a better one, and rebless the weaker blessing with a more powerful one from your blessing library.
Sire Melk Good ole sour milk. The contract man. Not all contracts are created equal. Reroll your weekly contracts from bad ones(complete X missions with no one dying) to good ones(collect X plasteel). Ideally, try to complete all your contracts for the week, because the weekly 1k coin bonus for finishing them all is quite a lot.
Rarely will you get a pure, great item from Melk. But, he is a great place to hunt for blessings. If you see a weapon with a low base power level, but a great tier 4 blessing, buy it and strip the blessing off it to put on a better weapon!
Try to keep a reserve of 3,000ish weekly coins so you don’t miss out on a rare, big time blessing if you see it.
Emperors Gifts Every successful mission, the emperor opens his vaults and gifts you a piece of equipment. Early days at level 30, these could actually be upgrades or provide you with blessings to strip, so always check to see if you can make use of your mission reward.

For context, my father is very shallow and it's to the point where I'm thinking he's going to be forever alone because of it. he's 73 and he says women his age look too old for him. He showed me a picture of a woman who cheated on him 20 years ago and that he has never gotten over this morning. It was a recent picture of her. he said and I quote, "I think her nose has gotten bigger. I don't know if I could wake up next to a big nose every morning."
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Those are just a couple of countless examples.
I've always been insecure about my looks and overly focused on them ever since I was a kid. I thought I was ugly and still do. Though I know I'm not? If that makes any sense. It's always in the back of my mind. I've gained weight over the last five years and think "I better lose weight before I start dating...". It gets to the point where I'm easily won over by any guy that calls me pretty.
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So any common experiences?

A Flash game I played around 2010, give our take a couple of years. 2D, cartoonish hand drawn look to it.
I might be remembering some of this wrong, but I think you controlled a steampunkish submarine, and there was (maybe turn based?) combat between divers in big metal deep sea diving suits on the sea floor. I think the gameplay involved several different minigames - combat, winching treasure up from the seabed, driving the submarine etc, but I don't remember the specifics of any of them. There was definitely some sort of ingame shop where you could buy upgrades and weapons for both your submarine and your diver, the descriptions of which were often very silly.
I do recall that the game was praised at the time for its sense of humour. I'm pretty sure it was mentioned on Penny Arcade as an example of funny writing in games.
The only example I really remember was that one of the weapon upgrades you could get had the description, as best as I remember it: "The last thing they'd expect... A motherfucking hawk."

Let friends stay with me this weekend for some events in the city and the entire time it's been complaints about using public transport since I'm carless at the moment (just used to swipe my credit card for 6k on my car that the shop didn't even fix correctly,) not leaving in the "fun/richewhere the cute people are" side of town, and asking them to grab the cheaper ubers when we go out/asking for a $5 payback (if its a big ride anything less than $15 I'm fine with)
I told them they are always welcome, but they were planning to come during rent time plus I've had inconvenience after inconvenience but I'll make it work. I made it work and man everyone has had some slick remark to say. I work full-time, do gig work, and recently had to turn to s*x work/selling myself to even have food for the month. I'm trying to pay off debts from when my mother had no job and I had to put everything on credit just to make sure the lights were on and we could eat last year.
I may not be the most put together 26 year old but god damn it im trying and tired of it. im glad im mentally in a better place, because the old me would've been in the hospital for another attempt. i know something better is coming for me, but fuck

So this is kind of new in the last few weeks. I get this feeling in my lower abdomen that I can only describe as the feeling of something secreting. Like it is somewhat familiar and sort of like what a grumpy saliva gland feels like but on a big scale, feels like it is all around my stomach and intestines.
Have any of you ever experienced something similar? Please ask all the questions you want, I’m sort of practicing for my upcoming doctors appointment and this symptom is getting very stressful. So I do not want to mess up explaining it.
I have several different types of dysautonomia, one is from spinal damage and one is from long covid.

I have an esa (medium sized dog) and I have multiple esa letters from different in person therapists I've gone to and been evaluated by over the course of this mess. I sent in my first letter for reasonable accommodation a month prior to me moving in. They said nothing against it and I assumed that was okay and brought my dog to live with me when I moved in. Three days into being there there's a nasty message on my phone from my landlord about the dog being there and how they would evict me for having him plus a big bold eviction paper on my door. That I had 5 days to be out and the dog was "banned" from the premises. Just a side note they think I'm a first time renter and made me pay a ridiculous deposit for the apartment. I told them they were wrong about the 5 days to be out of my apartment and they quickly changed the subject back to my esa and how they "never got the letter" but also that it was "invalid".. so they have been contradicting themselves. And telling me they would consider a esa if it were a smaller dog. Which I know is wrong, hes not a restricted breed either. The landlord accused me of having a second fake letter to my therapist that issued it and now wants me to sign a pet agreement but I feel like it's the wrong decision since the dog is not considered a pet. I've tried to get in contact with a lawyer but they won't answer me and it's been over a month so I just need some advice on the situation.

Hi! I’m Hunter. I’m writing a book where I collect responses and lives from 1 person from every single country in the world. Please message me or respond in the comments and i’ll post the questions there. Nothing big, just name age location, and some fun questions and opinions. (Mods, this is my first time posting on here so not sure if this is good to post, if not, please let me know and i’ll change/delete it😁) but yeah let me know if you want to be the representative for Russia!

Timestamp: https://imgur.com/a/4A4HyZn
Selling:

• Parker Mountain Machine G19 bull nose single port comp and barrel. $200

While this is meant for a Gen 5 Glock, it will work on Gen1-4 as long as the slide is also bull nose like a Gen 5. Only seen about 150 rounds, and I don't know where the rest of the shims went. It should be properly shimmed for a Gen5 anyway. Also you don't need a stupid mushy block. Two pieces of scrap pine wood and a bench vice will suffice.

• Glocktriggers.com Haley Strategic Skimmer trigger for Gen 5 G19. $110

Great trigger, really lightens the pretravel and you still get a safe break weight without feeling like you'll set it off unintentionally. I'd keep this trigger, but my G19 is going off to the market. Apparently Gen5 triggers are universal across G17/G19, but that's info from Wilson Combat so YMMV. Also seen about 150 rounds worth.
No chats please, dibs in comments and then PM if interested. I accept Zelle, PayPal, Venmo in no particular order. All prices are as shipped. G&S payments must include fees if elected.
Thank You!

Maybe the turning community can help me out, I recently found this artist that turns big blocks of cork on a lathe and creates bowls, here's an example https://melanieabrantes.shop/products/pink-marble-cork-short-footed-bowl
I'd like to try something similar but I just cannot find a source for big cork blocks, let alone fancy marbled exotic cork. I can find rolls of corks, sheets of cork but nothing like she is using. Then another difficulty I have is of course when you google Cork blocks, almost everything that comes up is Cork blocks for yoga.

I have a lot of childhood trauma that I haven’t dealt with. Being in this relationship has changed me in so many positive ways. I showed my love in ways of keeping our home clean, buying anything we needed for the house, but I realize now that there’s so much more I could have done.
I’ve been an emotionally-closed off person my whole life, but being with him has made me feel love. He is my first actual love and as I’m feeling right now, I don’t want to lose him.
He told me he’s been going through some turmoil the last few weeks but he went through it himself instead of talking to me about it and it seems like he let these negative thoughts fester (he’s a big future planner and wanted to buy a home together. We never officially had “the talk”). I have no savings and he found a place he wanted to buy, called me out of the blue and after he realized I have no savings is when things pretty much changed from him. He thinks we have no future together when we absolutely do.
I have also recently been having troubles with my health (nothing major, mostly anxiety related, and he has been helping me with hospital visits etc) and at the same time I didn’t make enough changes to my habits and that also annoyed him, too.
He’s made some pretty valid points and I now see what it is I’ve done that could have possibly hut him. Also he is far from perfect in this relationship. I wish he’d spoken to me about his feelings at the time.
I love this man so, so much and I would love it if I could keep him. He’s shown me that there is a chance for us still, but he has to see these changes. He hasn’t promised even if I do these things, and they’re things that I need to do for myself regardless, that we will get back together, but I’m not willing to give up on him or us.
I have been opening my heart slowly over he last year and I’ve made many positive changes, and there’s more to do absolutely. I’ve always told him marriage wasn’t something I could move in to quickly but now I want to marry him more than ever.
What do you guys think? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

(Relationship here is ambiguous, kept it mostly wholesome in that respect so anything works really. Hope this kind of thing is allowed on the sub)
“Fuck!”
You hear him before you see him. The exclamation of horror as he sees you. The quick, light footsteps on the ground as he rushes towards you. The panicked gasp as he kneels at your side, a gloved hand nervously swooshing his hair out of his face as he takes in the damage
You can see Angel’s face now, brows pinched together at the middle, jaw slack. You’d make a joke about it if you were in any condition to do so. Anything to lighten the mood. Anything to wipe the fear from his face. Knowing you’d upset him so badly hurt more than your wounds
“Holy shit, what the fuck happened to you?!”
He helps you lean more comfortably against the wall, his touch so light, so gentle, as if worried one wrong move would break you. You groan softly at the movement, but don’t protest
“… I… Val…”
For the briefest of moments, there’s nothing but pure terror in his eyes, and he recoils slightly. But then, Angel’s expression turns to cold fury, eyes almost seeming to glow with a blazing fire
“What. The fuck. Did he do?”
You shake your head a bit, managing to reach a hand up and gently pat his shoulder. Normally you’d struggle to manage this, what with how tall Angel’s eight foot frame was compared to you, but with him kneeling at your side like this, you couldn’t help but take advantage to soothe your friend
“N-no… I got him…”
Now Angel is confused. “You… got him? Whaddaya mean?”
“I…” A grunt of pain escapes you as Angel removes one of his gloves and puts pressure on one of your nastier wounds, letting the pink fabric stain with your blood. “I killed him…”
Angel almost drops the glove at this. For a moment, he can’t speak. His eyes are wide with shock. He blinks. Once. Twice
“… I… you what…?”
He looks down at you with utter disbelief
“You fuckin’… you fuckin’ killed him?!”
You nod slightly, a cough wracking your body and aggravating your wounds. “Ngh… y-yeah… he, ah, he did a number on me, though…”
“I can see dat…” Angel mumbled quietly, still seeming in a state of shock. “What… how… why? Why’d ya do it…?”
“He hurt you.”
Your answer is simple. Immediate. It requires no hesitation. Yet somehow it seemed to throw Angel for yet another loop
“… You… you killed him… you killed Valentino… for me?”
You nod slightly, hating how quietly he said it. As if he didn’t believe that he could be important enough to kill for. Important enough to die for
“Oh…”
He leans closer, gently cupping your cheek with his hand. You’ve never touched his hand before, it was always through the gloves. But now that glove was keeping you together, and you could feel his touch first-hand for the first time. It was soft, it was warm and it was impossible to resist tilting your head into
His expression softened at this, and he resigned to question you later when you weren’t in such a nasty condition. He could worry about that later. For now, all he wanted was to see you safe
“C’mon, baby, let’s get yous some place safe, yeah?”
His free arms moved under you, and he checked you were ready before gently scooping you into his arms princess style. You hissed quietly with pain from the sudden movement, but his fingers running through your hair soothed you
“It’s okay, it’s okay. I know. But I ain’t leavin’ ya out here like this. C’mon, I know a place where we can getcha all patched up. Brave little fucker like you deserves the best treatment, right~?”
You rest your head against Angel’s chest floof as he starts walking, moving slowly to keep the walk as steady as possible for you
“… Thank you, by the way… I really… I dunno what I did ta make ya like me so much, but, ah… well, whatever it is, I’m glad I have somethin’ in me that somehow makes me special enough to deserve you…”
A soft smile plays on his face as he looks down at you. His fingers continue to toy with your hair, as if trying to make up for what you’ve endured on his behalf
“Just…“ His smile fades, replaced with guilt and concern washing over his features. “Please don’t go off fightin’ Overlords for me, ‘kay? It ain’t worth seein’ you hurt. Not for me.”
“Especially for you.”
Your words bring tears to his eyes, but he quickly shakes his head to try and dismiss them. “Nah, that ain’t right, cutie. But thanks.”
He leans down and places a tender, yet innocent kiss on your forehead. “Now you just relax, I’ll getcha taken care of. It’s the least I can do for my little hero.”

Our family dog passed away at the beginning of the year. He was almost 12 but developed an inoperable tumor near his jugular. It was pretty difficult for my 6 year old daughter who did really love him.
My wife and I had been talking about adopting or finding a puppy but weren't really seriously looking. Last week my wife saw an ad for a really cute 2 year old Aussie Shepard / Sheltie mix. We had a few emails with the rescue organization and set up a meeting today to go meet the pup.
We didn't tell my daughter. I didn't want to get her hopes up if the two of them didn't get along. We were just going to pretend we randomly met this dog in the park to see if the two got along together.
Anyways, we met at a big park and met up with the foster who had the dog with her. He was just so sweet and gentle. Gently took a treat out of my daughter's hand. She gave him some gentle pets and he's just a calm, sweet boy. After a few minutes my daughter comes up to me:
"Daddy? When we get a new dog can we get one just like this?"
Well that's when I got to drop the news that this dog needed a home and we were going to be his new family.
As you can imagine there was quite a bit of excitement and even some tears. We get to bring him home sometime this week after he has a final vet appointment with the rescue.
My daughter's in the other room drawing pictures of him now and making him some welcome home signs.

Hi!! I am Ness :-) I’m a 22 y/o female who was diagnosed with POTS by an electrophysiologist ~2 weeks ago. I’ve posted here before, but I thought I’d introduce myself and put my general health info here so I could try to get more fine-tuned help about how to treat my POTS!
I’ve had POTS symptoms my whole life, but I’ve always thought it was normal or anxiety-related.
Here is a list of my most prevalent symptoms (they can be random, physical stress related, or mental stress related): chest pain, SOB, fainting, severe brain fog, exercise intolerance, flushing/sweating, heat sensitivity, light sensitivity, lightheadedness, dizziness, arm pain (can sometimes radiate from side of neck down entire arm- happens in one arm at a time), leg pain (sciatic- can be one leg or both at a time), and blurry vision (even with glasses).
My other heart related conditions include sinus tachycardia and minimal PACs, which were discovered via EKG and a 7-day holter monitor. After these tests, I saw aforementioned electrophysiologist, who diagnosed me with POTS mainly based off my symptoms, but also my sinus tachycardia. He made orders for me to have an ultrasound of my heart as well as an exercise stress test to make sure I have no blockages.
Post-diagnosis, I began investigating the internet to see how I could begin treating my POTS symptoms. I’ve downloaded HeartWatch to monitor my tachycardia, begun wearing compression socks more often (was only wearing them at work before), and adding Liquid I.V. to my water. The electrophysiologist knows these things and says that what I’m doing will be better than any sort of medicine, and I really believe him because these things have sorta helped. He also says that with POTS, I should balance my, and I quote, “yin-and-yang”- really focus on myself emotionally and mentally as well as physically.
So… that’s all! I’m really just looking for any sort of further help for my symptoms. The only big information I’ve gathered from the internet is that I need to do light exercise (which I already do because of my job- I get >5,000 steps a day on average), increase sodium intake, drink water like a dehydrated cactus, and wear compression socks.
Thanks in advance for any advice, and thank you for welcoming me into your community ❤️

So normally I'd rant about this to my husband because he's my rock and we talk about everything. But for reasons that will become obvious in a second, I can't rant about this particular thing to him. So thank you, Reddit, for letting me get this off my chest so I can feel better! 🤪
I've been planning a surprise party for my husband's birthday for months. It's gonna be huge. I've gone all-out and gotten all his favorite things. (I don't want to go into too many details and have changed some other details in case he somehow comes across this post and recognizes things. Lol! I don't think he browses this sub, but just in case!)
The only thing I needed help with was the guest list. I don't know most of his coworkers, and instead of stealing all their numbers out of his phone or risking people not checking social media DMs, I talked to a couple of his coworkers I do know and asked them to distribute the invites discreetly for me. They were happy to do it and also can't wait for the party! (Though that last part could be because I promised them extra drinks for their help. 🤣)
Anyway, the invitation asked everyone to RSVP to my email (whether it was yes or no) two weeks before the event so that I can make sure I have enough food. The deadline was yesterday, and I have received not one response from his coworkers, other than the two I've been messaging. They said they reminded everyone via group chat, but zip, not even from the people my husband mentions often.
I totally get that just because this party has been my priority for a while doesn't mean it should be anyone else's. But, for goodness sake, how hard is it to send a quick, "Sorry, I can't make it" or a "Yes, I'll be there"? It just seems so rude. I have a pretty good guest list even without any of them, but I just know at least a few will show up on the day without having responded. I'm thinking of reaching out to the two I know one more time and asking for people's contact info (if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself, right?) but I also don't want to bug them because they've both already been such a big help.
No advice needed, really. Like I said, I just needed to get the frustration out of my system! 😄

Hello! Im a college student (19) whos coming in on his second year. Ive recetnly just been really lost when it comes to figuriing out what to priortize. Im a big hobby person and when im not in school im either doing any one of my 3 hobbies, learning japnaese, learning guitasinging or working out. All 3 of these aspects are very important to me and I really don't want to give them up. But I don't have a major yet and theres been alot of pressure for me to pick something. Obviously some majors have better job security and although it would be a dream for me to go into music, majoring in it would be risky and maybe even usless or at least from what I'm told. I picked a liberal arts school so I can have a more diverse set of options but nothing right now is clicking. I still have around a year but im freaking out. My mom has been telling me I should stop learning japanese and that all of my hobbies are a waste of time. Im not sure if shes right but its really conflcting. I want to think for myself and just do what makes me happy but, when it comes to picking my major im compltetly lost. How do you figure out what you care about more. I seriously value all 3 my hobbies really highly and it would be great if my major is an interest of mine that aligns with a hobby but idk. Whateer I do want to care about it and make enough to live off.

My husband seems to think I live as though in a self-fulfilled prophecy. I perceive that he is being withdrawn/passive aggressive, withdraw myself, and then get upset at any subsequent slight, which he argues I bring upon myself and doesn’t reflect reality.
As an example, we had A/C issues the other day in the house. I was out grocery shopping when this happened while he was home with our toddler (who was being needy at the time of course). I get a text message while at checkout, “heat pump emergency. Toddler needy. Please come home.”
So I finished up as quickly as I could and headed home. He was googling stuff to deal with the situation and not communicative, which I understood because of the situation, obviously. But he didn’t take 2 seconds to explain what was going on, even after it was sorted.
He did not even acknowledge me in any way even though we hadn’t seen each other all day. He just suggested playing video games with our kids, but timing was poor, it was time to start making dinner. I declined, which I could tell he didn’t like. Video games are usually our family time; everyone partakes, or nobody does. But they went ahead anyway to play, although I could hear some frustration in a sigh he let out when I said no to playing (at the time sprawled out on couch and unwilling to hike upstairs for anything!)
I was really worn out, coming down with a cold since a couple days, but reluctantly started making dinner because, well, it was nearly 5 and everyone else is gaming. The kitchen is in a state even though he took the day off to be with toddler. He tends to focus on the parts of parenting that he LIKES doing, and frig the rest. I guess it’s good that I’m there to pick up the slack in those areas with no complaints. Except does it bother me? Yes. Do I bring it up? Yes. Do things change? No.
I was continuously not spoken to throughout dinner (not even asked if I needed help which he often does, also not a word during dinner itself). At this point I’m just getting miffed and feeling like I may as well not exist? So I retire to the bedroom right after finishing my plate, and not like I expected him to check on me or anything but I do overhear asking the kids 3 times “where is mommy?!” His usual annoyed tone of voice like when I go prep myself in the morning leaving him alone to prep breakfast for 10 minutes. So he didn’t seem to care when I was there but was bothered when I was gone?
Am I painting a picture of a woman who victimizes herself and won’t take responsibility here, or do I have legit reasons to be upset? The entire weekend was ruined because of basically just ignoring each other. I tried to start a conversation Saturday to ask what he was mad about. He basically denied anything being wrong, but admitted it was stressful for him to be on the hook for hundreds of dollars for car repairs this week. The funny thing is, I work full time also, make more than him, but my expenses are such that I have no room for incidentals like this. Our budget is pretty balanced, but he tends to be able to foot a big bill 90% of the time whereas I never can.
I’m just feeling gaslit. He acts like he was acting fine when I knew in my gut he wasn’t. Seems he’s taking a few things out on me. The expensive car repairs, and the fact that I was getting groceries for our family while he had this little emergency. I don’t think he handles stress well, but he won’t give therapy a fair shot.
He put the onus on me to “try”, saying things were good when I tried and now I wasn’t anymore. That I just withdrew and he tried to respect that. That day was also the day before my period so it may be I was extra sensitive, but I hesitate to admit that to him because he’ll be quick to pass the blame on my hormones rather than himself.

I’m looking for recommendations for a new mouse. I have used a good amount of mice in the past and have a pretty good understanding of my pros and cons of all the mice I’ve used. My main right now is an X2 mini, I like the mouse but I feel the width is just slightly too narrow for me with how flat the sides are. Before the X2 my main was the Fantech aria, I liked the mouse but after using the X2 and trying to go back to the aria it just didn’t feel right. I’ve used a viper mini which I really liked for a while. I wish the sides weren’t as flared, I grip the mouse where it flares out in the back on the widest part of the mouse, if that same width was carried through the whole side that might be perfect for me. I also mained the GPX for a long time and I feel the mouse just felt slightly too big for me in all dimensions, if the GPX mini ever came true that may be great for me. I’ve also tried the starlight 12 and the pulsefire haste wireless and both are too flat and too wide for my preference. This is probably a little too much detail into my past mice experiences but I’m hoping it will give some insight and help with some recommendations.

As it is starting to get warmer and more humid out, does anyone have any tips for cool hairstyles that will keep your hair off your neck but also fit inside the hat?