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2023.06.03 19:09 Lostiniowabut713irl Please help with senior dog
So I will be homeless for the next two weeks. I have never been in this situation. I can deal with it fine but I have an old blind basset hound. I start work on Monday. But I have nowhere to leave her but in my car while I work. Can someone please watch her while I work and I'll pick her up and drop her off. My only other option is to euthanize her tomorrow if I cant make a plan. She's still healthy and happy and I'd never be able to forgive myself.
It's just me and her. I had a contract go wrong and I was basically stuck here. I have had trouble finding work but I finally did. But I ran out of money for the hotel. I get paid on the 15th and will happily pay what I can for your help.
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It's just me and her. I had a contract go wrong and I was basically stuck here. I have had trouble finding work but I finally did. But I ran out of money for the hotel. I get paid on the 15th and will happily pay what I can for your help.
2023.06.03 19:04 Nachtjaeger68 Aunt's new neighbors are entitled buttholes- who insist they own my property.
Need some backstory, so will try to give the Cliff Notes version. I'm originally from rural Western NY. My beloved maternal Grandparents lived at 6 "X" Street. X Street dead-ends at the driveway of the house across the street, 5 X Street. (Don't ask me to explain why the street was never extended, or the house numbering.)
Mom raised me alone, and was renting. The vacant lot next to the Grandfolks came up for sale. Mom bought it with the Grandfolks' help around 1975, put a nice used mobile home on it, and this became 4 X street. There is also a vacant lot at what would be 3 X street.
When I was an adult living at home by choice in 1990 or so, that vacant lot at 3 X street came up for sale for a super low price. The State was planning to put a new prison in my hometown, so I snapped that lot up as an investment. Aaaaand the State promptly cancelled the prison project. Real estate Tycoon I ain't. I was also considering building what would be considered a Tiny House on that lot, before I moved across the state and got married in '92.
So, going counter-clockwise around the dead end, we have the Grandfolks' old place at 6 X Street, Mom's old place at 4 X Street, my vacant lot at the incipient 3 X Street, and the neighbors at 5 X Street. (Wonderful folks, with the exception of having bought the last house on a dead-end street and getting upset if anybody turns around in their driveway.)
In the mid 2000s, the Grandfolks passed away after very long, healthy and happy lives. My Aunt "Jane" (late surprise for the Grandfolks, more like my big sister) and her husband "Dick" had come into some money, so they bought the Grandfolks' place lock, stock and barrel from the Estate, and still live there.
Mom passed on in 2014. The trailer and land were pretty much her whole Estate. I ended up selling Mom's place (with her newer upgraded trailer that replaced the one I grew up in) to another single Mom just starting out. "Sue" was wonderful. I had offered her my lot for a pittance, but the taxes on just Mom's place (this is New York State) were going to be enough of a burden. So all was right with the world, except I'm still paying taxes on that white elephant of a vacant lot. When she became more financially secure, Sue wanted to buy my lot. But life happens, I live 300 miles away and was working full time, so we never did get together with a lawyer to make the sale happen.
Fast forward to late 2022. Sue has wisely moved out of state (like I said, New York State.) Like any reasonable person, she sold the property to the first interested party who met her price and put the cash in her hand. Sue is totally blameless here. My Aunt's new neighbors, as stated in the title, are entitled buttholes (hence to be referred to as the EBs.) But not your garden variety EBs. These are the extremely nasty and possibly violent type of EBs.
The trouble started on moving day. One of them parked in my Aunt's driveway. And refused to move when she arrived home and asked politely to park in her own driveway. This person also used a certain term in Spanish which refers to the world's oldest profession. My Aunt had to find out from Google Translate that she'd been mortally insulted. Strike One.
Next, there are beautiful trees of various types all along the boundary between the Grandfolks' old place and Mom's old place. You might think these trees have sentimental value to the family, and you would be right. Just one example: A beautiful young Burr Oak that grew from an acorn Granddad and I found at a State Park when I was just a little guy. EBs proceeded to saw off every inch of limb that encroached on their property, "because it's their right." Techincally true, but still a major d**k move. If any of those trees die, my Aunt and I will cry. Strike Two.
Next, the EBs started trespassing on my vacant lot. When my Aunt let them know that it wasn't their land, they told her that it belonged to them, and that "they have papers." (Reddit fans can already see where this is going.) And again the same word directed at my elderly Aunt. Strike Three.
Cut to May 2023. EBs have now started clearing brush and removing trees from my property. (Yeah, Tree Law. Got my fingers crossed on that one.) My Aunt wandered over there to see what they were up to. EB promptly threatened to commit an act of armed violence on her person if she ever set foot on "his" land again. (Again, MY land, that she has permission to occupy.) And that he is building a house there for his brother.
Oh HELL na! Dem folks done effed up. Fornication be upon them, and upon their House, and upon the steeds which bore them hence. Luckily I just retired, and have the free time to deal with this nonsense. The money to do so? Not so much. Dang, I hate it when personal honor, family honor, and principle get in an argument with my bank account.
Of course Aunt Jane, Uncle Dick and I have called the local PD's non-emergency line to report the trespassing, harassment and threats. I am very pleased to say we did NOT hear "It's a civil matter." My Lady Wife and I are headed out there Monday to try to deal with all this. Yeah, we're looking for a real estate attorney out there.
While I would prefer to deal with the matter myself peacefully and legally, this is New York State, where such is frowned upon. So I will need a police standby when I go to speak with the EBs. And again when I start putting up POSTED-NO TRESPASSING signs. EBs ain't gonna like that one bit. IDGAF. Funny part is, before this last incident, I would have sold the EBs that lot just to get out from under the taxes. Now, they ain't getting their hands on that land at any price they could possibly afford. I do have my price- that price is now ten times the current assessed valuation.
Right now I am knocking the dust (okay, rust, and lots of it) off my Spanish, as the EBs reportedly have the annoying tendency to pretend not to understand English if you tell them something they don't want to hear. Looking forward to looking the EBs in the eye, and telling them in clear, properly accented Spanish to get off my property if they don't want lots more trouble. And that they have a huge problem with me already.
In the unlikely event I lose my temper (I normally get like ice when extremely angry) and decide to start hurling insults, I will do so in German, because turnabout is fair play. (Grandma was born in Germany, and immigrated legaly in 1911.) Heck, even "I love you" sounds intimidating if you shout it in German.
I have considered inviting my old friends from "out home", and their friends' friends, over for a fun day of target shooting (this can be done legally and safely), country music, and grilling on my property. That would peacefully and legally send the EBs the appropriate message. But yet again, New York State, and as the EBs are a "protected class" I'm sure NY Attorney General Leticia James would be all over us like stink on you know what, and would sue us all into bankruptcy.
Will update this as events develop. Wish us luck.
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Mom raised me alone, and was renting. The vacant lot next to the Grandfolks came up for sale. Mom bought it with the Grandfolks' help around 1975, put a nice used mobile home on it, and this became 4 X street. There is also a vacant lot at what would be 3 X street.
When I was an adult living at home by choice in 1990 or so, that vacant lot at 3 X street came up for sale for a super low price. The State was planning to put a new prison in my hometown, so I snapped that lot up as an investment. Aaaaand the State promptly cancelled the prison project. Real estate Tycoon I ain't. I was also considering building what would be considered a Tiny House on that lot, before I moved across the state and got married in '92.
So, going counter-clockwise around the dead end, we have the Grandfolks' old place at 6 X Street, Mom's old place at 4 X Street, my vacant lot at the incipient 3 X Street, and the neighbors at 5 X Street. (Wonderful folks, with the exception of having bought the last house on a dead-end street and getting upset if anybody turns around in their driveway.)
In the mid 2000s, the Grandfolks passed away after very long, healthy and happy lives. My Aunt "Jane" (late surprise for the Grandfolks, more like my big sister) and her husband "Dick" had come into some money, so they bought the Grandfolks' place lock, stock and barrel from the Estate, and still live there.
Mom passed on in 2014. The trailer and land were pretty much her whole Estate. I ended up selling Mom's place (with her newer upgraded trailer that replaced the one I grew up in) to another single Mom just starting out. "Sue" was wonderful. I had offered her my lot for a pittance, but the taxes on just Mom's place (this is New York State) were going to be enough of a burden. So all was right with the world, except I'm still paying taxes on that white elephant of a vacant lot. When she became more financially secure, Sue wanted to buy my lot. But life happens, I live 300 miles away and was working full time, so we never did get together with a lawyer to make the sale happen.
Fast forward to late 2022. Sue has wisely moved out of state (like I said, New York State.) Like any reasonable person, she sold the property to the first interested party who met her price and put the cash in her hand. Sue is totally blameless here. My Aunt's new neighbors, as stated in the title, are entitled buttholes (hence to be referred to as the EBs.) But not your garden variety EBs. These are the extremely nasty and possibly violent type of EBs.
The trouble started on moving day. One of them parked in my Aunt's driveway. And refused to move when she arrived home and asked politely to park in her own driveway. This person also used a certain term in Spanish which refers to the world's oldest profession. My Aunt had to find out from Google Translate that she'd been mortally insulted. Strike One.
Next, there are beautiful trees of various types all along the boundary between the Grandfolks' old place and Mom's old place. You might think these trees have sentimental value to the family, and you would be right. Just one example: A beautiful young Burr Oak that grew from an acorn Granddad and I found at a State Park when I was just a little guy. EBs proceeded to saw off every inch of limb that encroached on their property, "because it's their right." Techincally true, but still a major d**k move. If any of those trees die, my Aunt and I will cry. Strike Two.
Next, the EBs started trespassing on my vacant lot. When my Aunt let them know that it wasn't their land, they told her that it belonged to them, and that "they have papers." (Reddit fans can already see where this is going.) And again the same word directed at my elderly Aunt. Strike Three.
Cut to May 2023. EBs have now started clearing brush and removing trees from my property. (Yeah, Tree Law. Got my fingers crossed on that one.) My Aunt wandered over there to see what they were up to. EB promptly threatened to commit an act of armed violence on her person if she ever set foot on "his" land again. (Again, MY land, that she has permission to occupy.) And that he is building a house there for his brother.
Oh HELL na! Dem folks done effed up. Fornication be upon them, and upon their House, and upon the steeds which bore them hence. Luckily I just retired, and have the free time to deal with this nonsense. The money to do so? Not so much. Dang, I hate it when personal honor, family honor, and principle get in an argument with my bank account.
Of course Aunt Jane, Uncle Dick and I have called the local PD's non-emergency line to report the trespassing, harassment and threats. I am very pleased to say we did NOT hear "It's a civil matter." My Lady Wife and I are headed out there Monday to try to deal with all this. Yeah, we're looking for a real estate attorney out there.
While I would prefer to deal with the matter myself peacefully and legally, this is New York State, where such is frowned upon. So I will need a police standby when I go to speak with the EBs. And again when I start putting up POSTED-NO TRESPASSING signs. EBs ain't gonna like that one bit. IDGAF. Funny part is, before this last incident, I would have sold the EBs that lot just to get out from under the taxes. Now, they ain't getting their hands on that land at any price they could possibly afford. I do have my price- that price is now ten times the current assessed valuation.
Right now I am knocking the dust (okay, rust, and lots of it) off my Spanish, as the EBs reportedly have the annoying tendency to pretend not to understand English if you tell them something they don't want to hear. Looking forward to looking the EBs in the eye, and telling them in clear, properly accented Spanish to get off my property if they don't want lots more trouble. And that they have a huge problem with me already.
In the unlikely event I lose my temper (I normally get like ice when extremely angry) and decide to start hurling insults, I will do so in German, because turnabout is fair play. (Grandma was born in Germany, and immigrated legaly in 1911.) Heck, even "I love you" sounds intimidating if you shout it in German.
I have considered inviting my old friends from "out home", and their friends' friends, over for a fun day of target shooting (this can be done legally and safely), country music, and grilling on my property. That would peacefully and legally send the EBs the appropriate message. But yet again, New York State, and as the EBs are a "protected class" I'm sure NY Attorney General Leticia James would be all over us like stink on you know what, and would sue us all into bankruptcy.
Will update this as events develop. Wish us luck.
2023.06.03 18:12 Anonymouspapaya10 Falsely accused of physical abuse
First time poster, long time lurker.
I (F/33) moved in with my pwbpd (31/M) two days ago. We’ve been together for a year and a half, more on than off. He’s wanted to move in much earlier, but I held off until I saw some measurable change in terms of his rage and binge drinking - he now goes to therapy weekly and stopped drinking. The rage is still there, but I haven’t been called a bitch in a few months (pathetic, lazy, etc yes, but not a bitch). At the same time, im still always in trouble and constantly criticized, but that’s not what I came here to write about.
I desperately need advice, and you folks are, unfortunately for you, the experts (yes I have an appointment with my therapist on Monday, but you’ve had the real experiences).
Two nights ago, we were cuddling on the couch and he had his legs laying on my torso while I massaged his calves (he has shin splints). I stopped rubbing them, and he put his smelly feet in my face. Mildly annoying, but not a big deal. I decide it’s a good time to go to bed, and I go “ugh” and push his legs off me and scooch myself off the couch and get up. It takes some effort because he’s halfway on top of me, it’s a small couch and he’s 6’5”, 260 lbs. and I am tiny. I do this pretty rapidly.
He loses his shit.
He yells at me, that I am intentionally and physically trying to hurt him, that I’m violent, that I need to get my temper under control. I obviously assure him I’m if I hurt him it was unintentional, I was just trying to get up, I’m not mad. And I’m sorry.
A huge fight ensues. I go to bed and he expresses he’s concerned that I’m going to hurt him in his sleep. He brings up that I did the same thing a couple months ago and now it’s a pattern of violence - for context, that was a very similar situation where we were laying together on the couch, it was dark, we had a blanket over top of us, I tried to scooch up into a sitting position and I accidentally stepped on his nuts. I FELT SO BAD! immediately apologized OF COURSE. Half second pause, and then he kicked me in my side, not hard. I think because he had reacted in actual intentional violence, he let the mistake go without a huge blow out at the time.
Not this time. I slept on the couch, thinking that he would probably realize he overreacted, he was likely just overtired. No. He has maintained that I intentionally hurt him, am violent, and have anger issues, ever since. He even said I had kicked and elbowed him, which is absolutely not true!! I’ve apologized for getting up carelessly, I should have taken my time and asked him to move first, but he won’t accept it.
What do I do? I know it wasn’t intentional. I don’t even think I actually hurt him at all - he’s more upset because I “intended” to. I’m staying elsewhere tonight, but in my mind, if I thought I was being physically abused, that would be a deal breaker for me. Trying to figure out if being accused of being an abuser is also a dealbreaker. Regardless of our relative size, abuse is abuse and perceived violence isn’t something I want in a relationship - am I overreacting by taking this accusation very seriously?
Thank you in advance for your thoughts ♥️ this community saves me.
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I (F/33) moved in with my pwbpd (31/M) two days ago. We’ve been together for a year and a half, more on than off. He’s wanted to move in much earlier, but I held off until I saw some measurable change in terms of his rage and binge drinking - he now goes to therapy weekly and stopped drinking. The rage is still there, but I haven’t been called a bitch in a few months (pathetic, lazy, etc yes, but not a bitch). At the same time, im still always in trouble and constantly criticized, but that’s not what I came here to write about.
I desperately need advice, and you folks are, unfortunately for you, the experts (yes I have an appointment with my therapist on Monday, but you’ve had the real experiences).
Two nights ago, we were cuddling on the couch and he had his legs laying on my torso while I massaged his calves (he has shin splints). I stopped rubbing them, and he put his smelly feet in my face. Mildly annoying, but not a big deal. I decide it’s a good time to go to bed, and I go “ugh” and push his legs off me and scooch myself off the couch and get up. It takes some effort because he’s halfway on top of me, it’s a small couch and he’s 6’5”, 260 lbs. and I am tiny. I do this pretty rapidly.
He loses his shit.
He yells at me, that I am intentionally and physically trying to hurt him, that I’m violent, that I need to get my temper under control. I obviously assure him I’m if I hurt him it was unintentional, I was just trying to get up, I’m not mad. And I’m sorry.
A huge fight ensues. I go to bed and he expresses he’s concerned that I’m going to hurt him in his sleep. He brings up that I did the same thing a couple months ago and now it’s a pattern of violence - for context, that was a very similar situation where we were laying together on the couch, it was dark, we had a blanket over top of us, I tried to scooch up into a sitting position and I accidentally stepped on his nuts. I FELT SO BAD! immediately apologized OF COURSE. Half second pause, and then he kicked me in my side, not hard. I think because he had reacted in actual intentional violence, he let the mistake go without a huge blow out at the time.
Not this time. I slept on the couch, thinking that he would probably realize he overreacted, he was likely just overtired. No. He has maintained that I intentionally hurt him, am violent, and have anger issues, ever since. He even said I had kicked and elbowed him, which is absolutely not true!! I’ve apologized for getting up carelessly, I should have taken my time and asked him to move first, but he won’t accept it.
What do I do? I know it wasn’t intentional. I don’t even think I actually hurt him at all - he’s more upset because I “intended” to. I’m staying elsewhere tonight, but in my mind, if I thought I was being physically abused, that would be a deal breaker for me. Trying to figure out if being accused of being an abuser is also a dealbreaker. Regardless of our relative size, abuse is abuse and perceived violence isn’t something I want in a relationship - am I overreacting by taking this accusation very seriously?
Thank you in advance for your thoughts ♥️ this community saves me.
2023.06.03 18:10 Aromatic_Ask_4296 Advice on potential issue required
 | Hi all! submitted by Aromatic_Ask_4296 to budgies [link] [comments] I could really use some advice. I've tried ringing my avian vet, but they do not work on a Saturday and I cannot find an emergency number. So, my budgies are both molting currently. This is totally normal and I am well used to dealing with this by now. However, I've noticed earlier today that one of the budgies seems to have a fairly small patch of dried blood on their wing. Its pretty much unnoticeable until he stretches his wing and then its quite obvious. I've read online that this may be fairly normal and could be due to a pin feather being lost, but I'm still fairly concerned. He doesn't seem to be in any distress and is behaving as normal. He is grooming/bathing as normal. When I brought him out to fly around earlier, he seemed absolutely fine and had no mobility issues but I'm just not sure what to do! I've attached a picture for reference. Has anyone experienced this before? Should I be contacting the vet first thing Monday morning? Should i drive him to the nearest avian vet immediately? Orwill the issue resolve itself? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! |
2023.06.03 17:44 Jazzlike_Composer990 I just wanted to say I'm at FULL REMISSION!!!! I'm so happy with life right now and wanted to share my story along with what helped my depression the most.
Hello all, I'm pleased to be writing a positive post here for once. All my previous posts have been about finding medications and methods to deal with suicidal thoughts. Well, its been about 2 months since I've had a suicidal thought. I love living, and I don't want to die anymore. I haven't had a single negative thought in the span of these last 2 months. I don't believe I suffer from any depression anymore as well. Before I go into what worked for me, I'd like to describe how my mental health used to be. I was dealing with very, very intense suicidal thoughts for 6-8 months. These thoughts occurred every single day, and occurred almost every single hour. Life was so incredibly dark for me, I'm surprised I didn't lose myself in the process. I would wake up and think about killing myself. Before sleep, I would pray for my life to end. When I was hanging out with my friends, random suicidal thoughts would flood my mind. I hated everything and everyone. However, more importantly, I hated myself. The mental state I was in was so disgusting it's hard to describe. Having so much hatred, disdain, and disgust toward everything and everyone was incredibly unpleasant and made life hell.
The change:
Medication: The lord and savior of mental health issues, medication. I've trailed and errored so many different medications I almost gave up on them. Besides trying a boatload of different anti-depressants (typical and atypical), I also tried various other things. These things include ketamine infusions and ECT. Neither the medications nor the ketamine or ECT helped. ECT was actually discontinued after the 4th treatment due to the side effects being unbearable. However, I started to see a new doctor that was very nice and willing to try multiple different medications for the sake of my health. What really worked the most was the following: Lithium carbonate 300mg, Effexor XR 37.5mg, Modafinil 100mg, and Methylphenidate 18mg. This combination of medication helped a LOT.
Lifestyle: By far the biggest changes to my mental health occurred when I started studying 4 hours a day and reading 1 hour. I started studying for my CCNA certificate and I was reading whenever I had the time to do so. I worked 35 hours a week so I had plentiful time to read and study. I did this everyday for about 4 weeks. During the end of my 4 weeks, I got a new remote job! Working from home has improved my quality of life significantly. It also helps that I actually don't mind my job one bit. In the past, I used to hate Mondays. However, things have changed, and I actually don't care when my weekend ends. I really don't hate my job one bit. It helps to do work you're good at and that you find rather easy to perform. I also adapted a different mindset entirely on my mental health. Instead of wishing to die, I wished to live. I started to get mad at the fact that I wanted to die. If I was givin this incredibily rare chance at life, how pathetic would it be for me to kill myself? Why not TRY to live my life to the best of my ability. In an infinite timeline, I better do my best to make something out of my life. I now have an entire career path and goals I've laid out for myself. I know exactly what I want out of life and I also know that I'll obtain said goals.
Sorry for the longish post, I just wanted to share my exciting news! Thanks to everybody in this sub. This is by far, the best depression sub in existence. It isn't an echo chamber of negativity and suicidal stuff like other subs on reddit. This sub aims to help those and uplift them as well. I hope you all get better and find worth in life. If I can beat my previous mental state, you guys can as well. I went from wanting to die everyday to wanting to live :)
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The change:
Medication: The lord and savior of mental health issues, medication. I've trailed and errored so many different medications I almost gave up on them. Besides trying a boatload of different anti-depressants (typical and atypical), I also tried various other things. These things include ketamine infusions and ECT. Neither the medications nor the ketamine or ECT helped. ECT was actually discontinued after the 4th treatment due to the side effects being unbearable. However, I started to see a new doctor that was very nice and willing to try multiple different medications for the sake of my health. What really worked the most was the following: Lithium carbonate 300mg, Effexor XR 37.5mg, Modafinil 100mg, and Methylphenidate 18mg. This combination of medication helped a LOT.
Lifestyle: By far the biggest changes to my mental health occurred when I started studying 4 hours a day and reading 1 hour. I started studying for my CCNA certificate and I was reading whenever I had the time to do so. I worked 35 hours a week so I had plentiful time to read and study. I did this everyday for about 4 weeks. During the end of my 4 weeks, I got a new remote job! Working from home has improved my quality of life significantly. It also helps that I actually don't mind my job one bit. In the past, I used to hate Mondays. However, things have changed, and I actually don't care when my weekend ends. I really don't hate my job one bit. It helps to do work you're good at and that you find rather easy to perform. I also adapted a different mindset entirely on my mental health. Instead of wishing to die, I wished to live. I started to get mad at the fact that I wanted to die. If I was givin this incredibily rare chance at life, how pathetic would it be for me to kill myself? Why not TRY to live my life to the best of my ability. In an infinite timeline, I better do my best to make something out of my life. I now have an entire career path and goals I've laid out for myself. I know exactly what I want out of life and I also know that I'll obtain said goals.
Sorry for the longish post, I just wanted to share my exciting news! Thanks to everybody in this sub. This is by far, the best depression sub in existence. It isn't an echo chamber of negativity and suicidal stuff like other subs on reddit. This sub aims to help those and uplift them as well. I hope you all get better and find worth in life. If I can beat my previous mental state, you guys can as well. I went from wanting to die everyday to wanting to live :)
2023.06.03 17:42 red-cabinet Couldn’t see my sister in jail
I’m 16 and my dad made an appointment to see my sister 19 in jail for today. The front desk lady was really rude over the phone, she said something but the phone cut out so my dad asked what she said and she yelled “what time do you want to see her!?” And enunciated every word. He ignored it tho. He also said he was bringing his son 13 and daughter 17 but I looked at him confused and then she hung up while he was talking and saying “oh wait, my daughters 16” so we didn’t know if she heard him but didn’t think it was a big deal. When you visit someone in jail you have to push a button outside the door and the officer inside goes over the speaker and asks what you’re there for etc. So we clicked it and waited like 5 minutes but no one answered so we did it again and she answered after like 2 minutes. You’re supposed to get there 10 minutes before your appointment but she was in the restroom for 20 minutes. Then she went to her car for a long time before finally coming in and she said “ok, y’all can come in but she (me) can’t because she’s 17. She needs to make her own appointment.” And they went back and forth. My dad was being reasonable till she was yelling at him to stop lying and finally told him to leave and she left somewhere. My dad was mad obv, so we went back to the car and he went in by himself and asked for her name and apparently her whole demeanor changed. He said he was gonna call Monday when her superiors are working and “get her fired.” He said the website says they’re required to treat visitors with respect or something like that. I would’ve been more understanding if she wasn’t being a complete jerk and I would’ve brought my birth certificate or something the next week. (You can only visit them twice a week) I was really mad bc I can’t even drive yet so I didn’t have an id and I really wanted to see my sister.
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2023.06.03 17:06 Z0mb1eK1ll3r Medicine question
Reposted from my question in pharmacy (see on my profile) for second opinions
So I take concerta 27Mg TBCR (Reading the yellow label from my Hy-Vee bottle) I weigh roughly 200-209 pounds and have an average metabolism.
The reason I take concerta is for my ADHD but without a open case file with a physc doctor to prescribe me medicine - would it be okay if I take one of my girlfriends anxiety pills (she takes lexipro at 20Mg) while I'm on the road (I'm a back passenger so not driving).
Would I be okay if I take it with my ADHD medicine or no?
submitted by Z0mb1eK1ll3r to AskPsychiatrist [link] [comments]
The reason I take concerta is for my ADHD but without a open case file with a physc doctor to prescribe me medicine - would it be okay if I take one of my girlfriends anxiety pills (she takes lexipro at 20Mg) while I'm on the road (I'm a back passenger so not driving).
Would I be okay if I take it with my ADHD medicine or no?
2023.06.03 17:01 MossyMak Caregiver vs dispensary
I have a medical card and go to the dispensary about every two weeks on Monday to get the KCC 25% off deal. However I have heard great things about using caregivers. I have my cultivation license and do grow myself but haven’t got a decent enough yield to matter yet. I strictly use concentrates at this point so I’m unsure if looking for a caregiver would be worth it? Dispensaries have what I need for the most part but I don’t drive so having to find my way there is inconvenient at times and caregivers I have heard are often times able to come to you. I’d just like to hear personal experiences between the two if anyone has any and what pros and cons there are. A more personal experience that isn’t so anxiety filled of waiting in a lobby and stuff just seems more fit for me but not if it’s chancing not having what I need to get by. Thanks in advance!
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2023.06.03 16:51 gvmdrop Is it too late for me to get help for my teeth and gums?
 | I'm in my late 20s and have been dealing with severe depression for many years now and neglected my oral health. My last visit to the dentist was in 2018 and I don't drink or smoke. Now my gums keep bleeding each time I brush my teeth and when I rinse with mouthwash. Sometimes I go a few days without brushing when my mental health gets bad. submitted by gvmdrop to askdentists [link] [comments] Yesterday the gum at the upper back of my mouth became very swollen and it's been hurting my teeth and jaw a lot. I made an appointment to see the dentist this Monday and the wait is making me anxious. I'm really embarrassed at myself for letting it get this bad. Is it still possible for me to improve the state of my oral health? I'm terrified of the dentist judging me when they take a look at it. |
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2023.06.03 16:42 Playful-Tumbleweed92 Trying to stay strong and fight this
Hey everyone ❤️ Hope you all are doing okay this weekend.
I finally had my follow up appointment with my new doctosurgeon yesterday through telemed. After my MRI last Monday the doctor found multiple lesions on the side on my left ovary. The MRI report stated one 7mm lesion was found but my doctor found a few more on the images. Moving forward, the doctor wants to remove my left ovary that is affected and whatever endometriosis she can. It sucked hearing that she can't remove all of the endometriosis but I appreciate being told reality of this situation. This will be my 4th laproscopy for endometriosis since 2019 and my 6th large surgery overall. To tell you all the truth, I am so scared. I'm so tired of having surgeries every year to 2 years. This has been a tough rollercoaster to deal with that I know many of you sympathize with.
Listen to your gut. If you know something is wrong and doctors just want to go down the "you need therapy" or "just try physical therapy" route without providing tests or better treatment plan walk away now! I've had so many bad doctors visits just within the last year that I started feeling crazy! You know your body better than anyone. If something hurts there's probably something wrong!
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I finally had my follow up appointment with my new doctosurgeon yesterday through telemed. After my MRI last Monday the doctor found multiple lesions on the side on my left ovary. The MRI report stated one 7mm lesion was found but my doctor found a few more on the images. Moving forward, the doctor wants to remove my left ovary that is affected and whatever endometriosis she can. It sucked hearing that she can't remove all of the endometriosis but I appreciate being told reality of this situation. This will be my 4th laproscopy for endometriosis since 2019 and my 6th large surgery overall. To tell you all the truth, I am so scared. I'm so tired of having surgeries every year to 2 years. This has been a tough rollercoaster to deal with that I know many of you sympathize with.
Listen to your gut. If you know something is wrong and doctors just want to go down the "you need therapy" or "just try physical therapy" route without providing tests or better treatment plan walk away now! I've had so many bad doctors visits just within the last year that I started feeling crazy! You know your body better than anyone. If something hurts there's probably something wrong!
2023.06.03 16:06 MadmanRogers Is there anyone else who 18+ and still has to live with their abusive parents? And if so, how do you deal with the situation?
I'm 18 myself, and I thought I could get out through college. It seemed alright, but well, my college plans are in shambles due to there being no dorm space. That means that I have to live with my abusive mom for years to come. And believe me, I've tried to get out. But even homeless shelters reject me, which forced me to return home because as a trans person, homelessness might just be even more dangerous than living with my abusive mom.
I hear so many stories of people escaping at 18. I could be among them. But of course not, because everything in my life rejects me.
And the fact that so many escape at 18 makes me wonder... is there anyone else out there who still lives with their abusive parent(s) at 18 or older, and are also still actively abused by them in one way or another? Because it's a pretty unique, and though position. CPS is even more useless now, and you yourself have a lot of legal power and technically your parents have no legal power over you, and yet... you're stuck like this.
As mentioned earlier, my college plans are in shambles, but I'm still going to visit a local community college Monday to see if I can enroll there, so that I at least have some form of education above a high school diploma. And with local I mean, it's two blocks down, which means if I enroll there, I'd have to continue living with my abusive mom, and I don't know for how much longer I can do that. I mean I literally wanted homelessness over this, it's just that even that is not a viable option for me.
So, is there anyone else here 18 or older and still living with their abusive parents? And how do you deal with the situation? I could really use some support for this unique and terrible situation.
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I hear so many stories of people escaping at 18. I could be among them. But of course not, because everything in my life rejects me.
And the fact that so many escape at 18 makes me wonder... is there anyone else out there who still lives with their abusive parent(s) at 18 or older, and are also still actively abused by them in one way or another? Because it's a pretty unique, and though position. CPS is even more useless now, and you yourself have a lot of legal power and technically your parents have no legal power over you, and yet... you're stuck like this.
As mentioned earlier, my college plans are in shambles, but I'm still going to visit a local community college Monday to see if I can enroll there, so that I at least have some form of education above a high school diploma. And with local I mean, it's two blocks down, which means if I enroll there, I'd have to continue living with my abusive mom, and I don't know for how much longer I can do that. I mean I literally wanted homelessness over this, it's just that even that is not a viable option for me.
So, is there anyone else here 18 or older and still living with their abusive parents? And how do you deal with the situation? I could really use some support for this unique and terrible situation.
2023.06.03 16:04 photosynthesis_rocks My father sexually abused me as a child and I have been estranged for 20 years. He is now dying. As next of kin am I legally obligated to deal with his estate?
Hello. I live in Nebraska and my father does as well.
As the post says, my father is dying but I have had no contact with him for many many years. i have severe ptsd as a result of the abuse. My eldest and only brother is being sentenced for a serious crime on Monday and is likely to serve time. My father has no other living relatives.
If he dies while my brother is in prison will I be obligated to deal with his estate?
Thanks.
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As the post says, my father is dying but I have had no contact with him for many many years. i have severe ptsd as a result of the abuse. My eldest and only brother is being sentenced for a serious crime on Monday and is likely to serve time. My father has no other living relatives.
If he dies while my brother is in prison will I be obligated to deal with his estate?
Thanks.
2023.06.03 15:24 Heustienne Introvert Burnout in the Workplace
Hi everyone. I'm sorry if this topic has been talked about to death, I read through previous threads on the topic and I don't feel like they touched on my specific problem.
I've been working fully in-office in a small charity for the last six months. Everyone there is very extroverted and nearly everyone has a family. For example, it's normal for someone to be talking on the phone or in back-to-back meetings from 9-1, then chat with everyone in the kitchen while eating their lunch and then back to calls and meetings. I'll have lunch with people on a Monday when I'm most rested, but after that I'll be the only one eating my lunch at my desk while I try to harness some semblance of quiet in a usually loud office.
I really like this job. I find it very fulfilling and rewarding, but the introvert burnout is ruining my life. I'm tired not from the work, I'm tired from 8:30-5:30 talking with people and dealing with an open-plan office and being looked at and making eye contact. Some days I'm so tired I have to finish getting up the stairs on my hands and knees. I haven't seen my friends in these six months because I need the weekend to recover from being in the office. I just cancelled plans to hang out with a friend who's travelled 14 hours because I'M the tired one (she's seeing other people too. Don't worry, I'm not that much of a dick!).
It's clear that this is a problem that needs a solution, but I fear there's going to be problems getting this solution. This job was advertised as 'hybrid working available', but I got in there and saw that it's subject to passing my six month probation. It's been six months and HR are slow as hell in getting this meeting sorted. I've talked to my boss about it and she said she can't help me get hybrid unless this meeting has happened.
It's also apparent, although I had no way of knowing this beforehand, that it's just not a hybrid working workplace. Everyone there loves coming in and chatting while it's been hell for me. No one in the entire charity is working hybrid, we used to have one person who has since left and apparently she had to fight to get it because her day involved a three hour commute.
Which brings me to the main point -- the fight. If I have to put up a fight to get hybrid working in a workplace of extroverts with families then I'm screwed. People will be awake all night with their vomiting kid and still come into the office. I have no kids and I either walk for 40 minutes or bus for 15 minutes to work, so I can't think of a more unsympathetic case for HR to get on their desk. But I'm on the cusp of depression, have no social life and am gaining weight through comfort eating because I don't have the energy to do many other things that make me happy.
So to greatly summarise this, I think I need help with:
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I've been working fully in-office in a small charity for the last six months. Everyone there is very extroverted and nearly everyone has a family. For example, it's normal for someone to be talking on the phone or in back-to-back meetings from 9-1, then chat with everyone in the kitchen while eating their lunch and then back to calls and meetings. I'll have lunch with people on a Monday when I'm most rested, but after that I'll be the only one eating my lunch at my desk while I try to harness some semblance of quiet in a usually loud office.
I really like this job. I find it very fulfilling and rewarding, but the introvert burnout is ruining my life. I'm tired not from the work, I'm tired from 8:30-5:30 talking with people and dealing with an open-plan office and being looked at and making eye contact. Some days I'm so tired I have to finish getting up the stairs on my hands and knees. I haven't seen my friends in these six months because I need the weekend to recover from being in the office. I just cancelled plans to hang out with a friend who's travelled 14 hours because I'M the tired one (she's seeing other people too. Don't worry, I'm not that much of a dick!).
It's clear that this is a problem that needs a solution, but I fear there's going to be problems getting this solution. This job was advertised as 'hybrid working available', but I got in there and saw that it's subject to passing my six month probation. It's been six months and HR are slow as hell in getting this meeting sorted. I've talked to my boss about it and she said she can't help me get hybrid unless this meeting has happened.
It's also apparent, although I had no way of knowing this beforehand, that it's just not a hybrid working workplace. Everyone there loves coming in and chatting while it's been hell for me. No one in the entire charity is working hybrid, we used to have one person who has since left and apparently she had to fight to get it because her day involved a three hour commute.
Which brings me to the main point -- the fight. If I have to put up a fight to get hybrid working in a workplace of extroverts with families then I'm screwed. People will be awake all night with their vomiting kid and still come into the office. I have no kids and I either walk for 40 minutes or bus for 15 minutes to work, so I can't think of a more unsympathetic case for HR to get on their desk. But I'm on the cusp of depression, have no social life and am gaining weight through comfort eating because I don't have the energy to do many other things that make me happy.
So to greatly summarise this, I think I need help with:
- Pleading my case for hybrid working to a group of social butterflies with families in a way that doesn't make me look like a delicate super special snowflake and also doesn't make them get defensive ("Oh this job is making you comfort eat is it? Well then go find another one")
- What to do in the interim with my burnout if I can't see my friends and I'm crawling up stairs. Any advice on what people do would be greatly appreciated.
- What to do if my hybrid working gets rejected. I honestly think I would just quit, but on paper it's basically my dream job and would really struggle with this.
2023.06.03 13:09 FogHornicus Frustrating teaching method, funny thought & request for grammar help! Had to end lesson early out of sheer frustration & fear I’d imitate Samual L Jackson in Pulp Fiction. “Say Kogo/Czego again, MF, I dare you!!”
So I’ll start by saying I’m dyslexic so I learn a little differently and I know what will work for me after many years of struggle to get where I am, even if I don’t know the subject in question (which would be the case, you know, if I’m trying to learn it). And despite my severe dyslexia I have a BA, 2 masters, speak 4 other languages (B1 to fluent, not counting Polish which is A2/B1 with Polish it’s 5) and have a very good job and bla bla bla. I always add that here in Poland because I’ve found that some people either don’t understand dyslexia or have something against it, or something. One person told me they don’t believe it exists the same way there aren’t 75 genders…I was just confused. But I’m not judging, love Poland and all but do feel the need to add that.
So, due to dyslexics well know trouble with grammar I always avoid it but I’ve seen how it’s holding me back in my Polish so I’ve gotten so private lessons just for grammar. In this context I further explained to the teacher what is usually best for people like me and explained a few approaches (read The Dyslexic Advantage if you want an overview of them). The one I wanted to start with could be described as creating a story and context for memory…grammar just involves memorizing sometimes nonsensical things in any language and route learning (just beating info into your head with no understanding of the wider context) is very hard for nearly all dyslexics but if we understand how something fits into a wider context and add in a story, we will almost never forget it. So this is just easier, right? I’ve tried this with a few Polish teachers and they don’t seem to like it (as a side note, why? What’s the issue here?).
So I explained all this to the guy, my tutor. Yet when we were on a grammar problem involving picking the correct case, when I want an explanation why I got it wrong all he did was scream, “Kogo/Czego, Kogo/Czego” over and over. No explanation, nothing. I said this is what I was talking about and the exact opposite of what will work for me. So I asked if I could explain again the way I learn in English this time. He got furious and kept screaming “Kogo/Czego, Kogo/Czego.” I was like, “I do not know what that means..perhaps if you explain it and the wider context to me like I asked it will.” I mean, is this unreasonable? His reaction to this was to push me a little (I was sitting and he was standing) and repeated “Kogo/Czego, Kogo/Czego!!” almost hysterically now. I shot out of my seat angry because they guy just pushed me, I mean it was no big deal but he just crossed a line. He was about to speak after stepping back (I think my standing up like that surprised him) and I cut him off, “if you say Kogo/Czego again…”. Then I stopped myself and just said “To tyle na dziś, miłego weekendu i do zobaczenia w poniedziałek” and left. Other at the school had gathered outside our little room…maybe hoping to see a fist fight over grammar?!? I definitely see the humor in this all.
Now I’m wondering what to do Monday! Maybe I should imitate Samuel L Jackson in Pulp Fiction when he pulls out a .45 and dares a guy to say what again…but in my case we will swap what with Kogo/Czego! I’m not serious of course but it is maddening. Is this a thing? I’m confused.
After some googling I see that Kogo/Czego is supposed to cue me to recall…something in dopełniać. What that is I have no idea. The entire thing was bizarre and Polish grammar is hard enough, especially for dyslexics. I’m like a masochist or something for trying!
So…the important bit! I know these question words connect to the 7 cases in some way now. How or why or what knowledge or grammar chart that is is a mystery to me. Can someone do what my tutor failed to do earlier today and explain all of it with context and why (what’s up with the yelling question words as a teaching method by the way - I don’t get it at all but I’ve heard it before). Also once I understand the story and context is there a chart or something (like a conjugation table in French or Spanish equivalent in Polish) that this is supposed to trigger or…what? Knowing what I’ve explained about how I learn I’m grateful to anyone who can try to explain this way or another as well. Help! It would be insane to go to prison over a grammar dispute! I’m kidding, of course!! Thank you to anyone that made it this far!!
Also, if anyone has any insight or opinions on how dyslexia is viewed in Poland that’s really welcome as well. Sometimes I just don’t mention it because sometimes I get a distinctly negative vibe when I do.
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So, due to dyslexics well know trouble with grammar I always avoid it but I’ve seen how it’s holding me back in my Polish so I’ve gotten so private lessons just for grammar. In this context I further explained to the teacher what is usually best for people like me and explained a few approaches (read The Dyslexic Advantage if you want an overview of them). The one I wanted to start with could be described as creating a story and context for memory…grammar just involves memorizing sometimes nonsensical things in any language and route learning (just beating info into your head with no understanding of the wider context) is very hard for nearly all dyslexics but if we understand how something fits into a wider context and add in a story, we will almost never forget it. So this is just easier, right? I’ve tried this with a few Polish teachers and they don’t seem to like it (as a side note, why? What’s the issue here?).
So I explained all this to the guy, my tutor. Yet when we were on a grammar problem involving picking the correct case, when I want an explanation why I got it wrong all he did was scream, “Kogo/Czego, Kogo/Czego” over and over. No explanation, nothing. I said this is what I was talking about and the exact opposite of what will work for me. So I asked if I could explain again the way I learn in English this time. He got furious and kept screaming “Kogo/Czego, Kogo/Czego.” I was like, “I do not know what that means..perhaps if you explain it and the wider context to me like I asked it will.” I mean, is this unreasonable? His reaction to this was to push me a little (I was sitting and he was standing) and repeated “Kogo/Czego, Kogo/Czego!!” almost hysterically now. I shot out of my seat angry because they guy just pushed me, I mean it was no big deal but he just crossed a line. He was about to speak after stepping back (I think my standing up like that surprised him) and I cut him off, “if you say Kogo/Czego again…”. Then I stopped myself and just said “To tyle na dziś, miłego weekendu i do zobaczenia w poniedziałek” and left. Other at the school had gathered outside our little room…maybe hoping to see a fist fight over grammar?!? I definitely see the humor in this all.
Now I’m wondering what to do Monday! Maybe I should imitate Samuel L Jackson in Pulp Fiction when he pulls out a .45 and dares a guy to say what again…but in my case we will swap what with Kogo/Czego! I’m not serious of course but it is maddening. Is this a thing? I’m confused.
After some googling I see that Kogo/Czego is supposed to cue me to recall…something in dopełniać. What that is I have no idea. The entire thing was bizarre and Polish grammar is hard enough, especially for dyslexics. I’m like a masochist or something for trying!
So…the important bit! I know these question words connect to the 7 cases in some way now. How or why or what knowledge or grammar chart that is is a mystery to me. Can someone do what my tutor failed to do earlier today and explain all of it with context and why (what’s up with the yelling question words as a teaching method by the way - I don’t get it at all but I’ve heard it before). Also once I understand the story and context is there a chart or something (like a conjugation table in French or Spanish equivalent in Polish) that this is supposed to trigger or…what? Knowing what I’ve explained about how I learn I’m grateful to anyone who can try to explain this way or another as well. Help! It would be insane to go to prison over a grammar dispute! I’m kidding, of course!! Thank you to anyone that made it this far!!
Also, if anyone has any insight or opinions on how dyslexia is viewed in Poland that’s really welcome as well. Sometimes I just don’t mention it because sometimes I get a distinctly negative vibe when I do.
2023.06.03 13:03 FelicitySmoak_ On This Day In Michael Jackson HIStory - June 3rd
 | 1972 - "I Wanna Be Where You Are" by Michael enters the Billboard US Hot Soul Singles Chart, where it will make a 12 week run for the #2 poisiton. submitted by FelicitySmoak_ to MichaelJackson [link] [comments] 1972 - "Got To Be There", the 1st solo album by Michael, enters the UK's Top 50 albums chart, where it will peak at #37 during a fiveweek run. 1973 - "Lookin' Through the Windows" by The Jackson 5 on the Motown label hits the Billboard music charts at #94, where it peaks at #7. It remains on the chart for 33 weeks. 1979 - The Jackson perform their Destiny tour at Carolina Coliseum in Columbia, South Carolina. They give a press interview at the Carolina Inn https://preview.redd.it/pevzonw90p3b1.jpg?width=826&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f4557c94ddd96d571083a69d61648f2b1da0b318 1990- Michael collapses while dancing at his Westwood condo known as 'The Hideout'. He is taken to St John Hospital of Los Angeles around 9pm where he is treated for chest pains. He gets visits from the whole Jackson family (except LaToya, who sends him a dozen black roses) .Elizabeth Taylor also visits him. She had been in the hospital undergoing treatment for a near fatal bout of pneumonia since mid April. “According to his physician, he is in stable condition and appropriate tests are being conducted", nursing officials said in a prepared statement. 1992- At the Tavern On The Green in New York City, the One To One award is given to Michael by the Operation One to One organization in charge with creating better living standards for young people, for efforts committed to helping economically disadvantaged youth. Michael attends the Operation One To One Honors dinner with friends Elizabeth Taylor and Donald Trump. https://preview.redd.it/amyehkyc0p3b1.jpg?width=796&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=efde03bd756b379198db612aaca5d89944821a66 https://preview.redd.it/f5wfjhke0p3b1.jpg?width=689&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ab01c0a625c174290b7c7bd6b2cfca0a0ab25cf1 1992 - Crystal Cartier filed a $40 million federal lawsuit against Michael Jackson, Sony Music Entertainment, MJJ Productions and Epic Records. She alleged that she originally wrote and recorded "Dangerous." In February of 1994, a Denver Federal court jury ruled in Michael's favor 1995 - The Hollywood Chamber of Commerce rejects Michael's application to cover up the famous 'Hollywood' sign with the word 'HIStory' to promote his new compilation album 1997 - Michael Jackson plays the Mungersdorfer (now RheinEnergieStadionStadium) in Cologne, Germany, to an audience of 60,000 on the HIStory World Tour https://preview.redd.it/uvij16ug0p3b1.jpg?width=143&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=025eefd461e2750007d815abc50701398a09f4d5 https://preview.redd.it/w82z1dgh0p3b1.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c7f536d84b116ecb748361a7620bc030783b5dc4 https://preview.redd.it/vetxb87i0p3b1.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bd578aef6dc5a0aa49ffeb709f61858dd559d0d3 https://preview.redd.it/nrxko7xi0p3b1.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3735e8bdfa8770c510fc9f333334a994d0b0daba 2005 - Trial Day 67 Michael goes to court with Katherine, Joe, Janet and LaToya. https://preview.redd.it/vaspltik0p3b1.jpg?width=448&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=311e351bf79f39a8d48cf4681686247b2f20fb19 Michael was greeted outside court by hundreds of chanting fans. He arrived with his parents and his famous siblings - Janet, LaToya, Jermaine, Tito and Randy. They waved to the fans chants of Michael is Innocent! https://preview.redd.it/p8jtchhn0p3b1.jpg?width=612&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9cb1c23e69cfefb6e4608aa16b3650011976c106 Defense attorneys completed their closing arguments, labeling the Arvizo family liars and con artists trying to pull the biggest con of their careers. "They are trying to take advantage of Michael Jackson," said impassioned defense attorney Thomas Mesereau. "They are trying to profit from Michael Jackson. They think they have pulled it off. They are just waiting for one thing - your verdict." "What they are trying to do to Michael Jackson is so harmful, so brutal, so devastating if you have any reasonable doubt about the double-talk, the lies, its over. You must acquit Michael Jackson," he told the 12 jurors. Mesereau spoke about the American system of justice and said, "We have the best system in the world and ladies and gentlemen I'm begging you to honor the system. You must acquit him." He accused prosecutors of trying to "dirty up Michael" because they lack the evidence to prove their case. "The witnesses are preposterous, the perjury is everywhere," Mesereau declared. "None of it works. The only thing they've had is to throw dirt all over the place and hope it sticks." He added: "If you look in your hearts do you believe Michael Jackson is evil in that way? Is it even possible? It really is not." Mesereau then played excerpts from a video in which Jackson denies any sexual impropriety and said that he had never been betrayed or deceived by children. The defense attorney conceded that Jackson had been lax with his money and had let the wrong people into his circle. But, he said, the singer was not the monster the prosecution were trying to depict and that he was not guilty of any crime. Afterwards, prosecutor Ron Zonen delivered a brief rebuttal. He sought to answer the question of Jacksons motivation for the crime asking, "Why would Mr. Jackson do it? Because he could This child was in love with him. This child would do anything he said." Zonen reminded jurors of the past allegations made against Jackson saying that this was necessary in order to see the total picture. He claimed that Jackson was in love with his 1993 accuser and added that the current accuser is a clone of the boy in that case. After both sides rested for the last time, Judge Rodney Melville ordered the eight women and four men on the jury to begin their deliberations. He gave them a 98-page book of instructions. The Judge told Jackson that he could stay at Neverland during the proceedings but requested that the attorneys remain within 10 minutes of the courthouse in case the jurors had any questions. These deliberations are the final stage of an ordeal that began 14 weeks ago. During this time the jury has heard testimony from over 130 witnesses. A verdict was expected early next week. Court Transcript While Jury deliberations take place, the whole Jackson family waits for the verdict at Neverland. https://preview.redd.it/lh5l7gqo0p3b1.jpg?width=612&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e5967b6b6c73b0a56bec2b5b8e28f20e68b9ddb7 2008 - Michael has dinner with Thomas Barrack Jr, chairman and CEO of Colony Capital LLC, at the Las Vegas Hilton's Verona Sky Villa. 2009 - Michael goes to Culver Studios with Prince, Paris & Kenny Ortega, where he shoots “The Drill” 3D https://preview.redd.it/5lzzqj2t0p3b1.jpg?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8747a49dd0f9c68ae73b6f93fa21e2f9e01b6a77 https://preview.redd.it/hezl4ayt0p3b1.jpg?width=199&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1dae7ef1a99ee196a5be6dbfb8cd5ab243856f58 He also, once again, goes to Dr Klein’s in Beverly Hills. 2013 - Jackson v AEG Trial Day 22 No Jackson family member was at the courthouse. Paul Gongaware AEG cross Putnam asked Gongaware if MJ was comfortable with all the show dates. "Yes, I went through all of the dates with him," Gongaware said. Bugzee, the tour manager, had a big calendar on the walls, Gongaware explained, saying they changed the dates of the shows four times. The jury was shown an email in which Gongaware worked with a staffer to create a calendar to show Jackson. He wanted colors changed. He wanted the calendar to be changed so that it reflected Jackson's show dates and off days differently. Gongaware email: Figure it out so it looks like he's not working so muchAs to the email, Putnam asked if he was trying to fool Michael: "No, I was trying to make it clear, trying to get it just the way I wanted it," Gongaware responded.After changing 4 show dates Gongaware said Michael was comfortable with it. He would do 8 shows in July, 10 in August, 9 in September. There would be no shows in October, November and December, resuming with 10 shows in January, 10 in February and three in March. No back-to-back shows. Gongaware said the O2 Arena had a previous commitment in Oct-Dec of 2009 and they could not have the concerts. Putnam: "Was this a rigorous schedule?"Gongaware recalled that on the HIStory tour they did 10-12 shows per month, from country to country, but this one would stay in London only. Gongaware said he wasn't concerned with Michael's age. "He seemed great to me," he said, and this was stationary show, didn't have to travel. Gongaware: The reason Michael wanted to delay the 1st show was he wanted more time to rehearse in the O2 Arena where the show would take place.He said Michael and Kenny Ortega would decide the rehearsal schedule. Gongaware explained Michael didn't have to attend rehearsals, since it was not part of his deal. He said they never require an artist to rehearse. "I didn't have any expectation," Gongaware said regarding Michael rehearsing. He said he's never seen a requirement for a musicial artist to rehearse & that during the HIStory tour, Michael didn't rehearse but nailed it. "When it was game time, he would show up," Gongaware explained. For instance, Gongaware cited an outdoor concert in Bangkok in high heat, humidity. As to the email Gongaware wrote about calling Michael lazy, he said he used unfortunate choices of words, Michael didn't like to rehearse. Talking about the elements of the show, Gongaware described what they wanted to do for the opening of the show. He said Michael would be dressed up in a LED suit, like a television, flashing on him brief movie about things that happened in history. Michael would be lowered down onto the stage. He called the LED suit a "Moon man" suit, but Ortega called it "Light man." Putnam showed a presentation of how the LED suit idea would work. Footage is not on This Is It documentary because it was early stages of prep. Gongaware said the 1st idea was to make Michael float from the audience, but they couldn't make it work. So they decided to lower him down onto the stage. Gongaware said the big screen on the back of the stage was 3D capable. The audience would be given glasses when they entered the show. The 3D songs would be Thriller, Earth Song and Smooth Criminal. "He wanted to do biggest, best show ever, live show," Gongaware said Putnam showed email chain from Ortega to Gongaware asking to make a deal with choreographer Travis Payne. Answer from Gongaware: This is not AEG money, it's Michael's money so it takes a lot of time to get approvalsDefendants were trying to establish a pattern that all the money spent was actually Michael's money, not AEG's, just like with Dr. Murray At one point Gongaware said he learned from Michael about a doctor named Murray. "He came to me and said he wanted his personal doctor on the tour". Gongaware said he suggested to Michael to get a licensed doctor in London who would know the lay of the land, in case of need. "This is the machine, we have to take care of the machine. I want Conrad," Gongaware said Michael responded. I think what he meant was his brain could create it but his body had to deliver the show every night Putnam: "Were you surprised he wanted to take his doctor on tour?"Gongaware said other artists take doctors as well, so he was not the only one and it didn't surprise him. Gongaware said he's been on tour before where an artist had chiropractors, but couldn't remember being in one with a doctor Putnam: "Did you worry Michael might have a health issue?"Gongaware said the suggestion for a London doctor was due to the cost; paying a doctor full time was much more expensive than hiring a local doctor. Gongaware said Dr. Murray treated Michael for about three years before 2009. He knew the doctor was from Las Vegas but said he was in LA. Gongaware said he then called Dr. Murray to work out a deal. Gongaware testified he didn't have Michael's direct phone number, would go through Michael Amir Williams, his personal assistant, to reach him. Gongaware called Murray on behalf of Michael saying the singer wanted to take him to London. "What do you want to be paid for that," Gongaware asked. Gongaware said he thought Dr. Murray was expecting his call and was aware of the desire to take him on tour. "He said he would need $5 million," Gongaware recalled. "He said he has 4 clinics to close, would lay off people, needs $5 million for that." Asked by Putnam if Murray's price was reasonable: "It was ridiculous," Gongaware said about the amount asked. "It was a lot of money for something like that and Michael could not afford it." Gongaware said he responded that it wasn't going to work" He said this was the first time he spoke with Dr. Murray. After that, Gongaware said he told Michael Amir and Randy Phillips what the doctor had asked. He also told Frank DiLeo. Gongaware said a lot of people who wanted to work for MJ asked for huge sums of money, thinking he had a lot. Putnam: "Would you be doing this if Michael had not asked you?""He was Michael's doctor, Michael wanted him. That was it," Gongaware said. Putnam:" Did you think about checking the doctor?"" I'm not going to tell Michael Jackson who his doctor should be," Gongaware explained. "It wasn't my place to say who his doctor was going to be," Gongaware said. "It was his decision." Gongaware said he doesn't think a doctor's financial situation has anything to do with being an ethical doctor. Gongaware said it never crossed his mind to either do a background check on Dr. Murray or to suggest to anyone to do it. "I just expect doctors to be ethical, the financial side of their lives shouldn't have an impact on their medical decision," Gongaware opined. Gongaware said he never did a background check on anyone he hired and had he done one on Dr. Murray, it would've been out of the ordinary. He also said he never considered performing background checks on Jackson's makeup artist, a choreographer who worked one-on-one with the singer or Kenny Ortega, the tour's director. "I didn't see the need for it," he said. Dr. Finkelstein, a friend of Gongaware, said a doctor should charge $10,000 a month for the tour work. But Dr. Finkelstein would've done it for free, since he was on the Dangerous tour before and had a lot of fun The second call about Dr. Murray came from Michael Amir Williams saying they were going to need to get a deal done for the doctor. Gongaware said he heard Michael in the car saying "offer 150, offer 150." Gongaware understood that to be $150k/month. Gongaware called Dr. Murray, said he was authorized to offer him $150k a month. He said Dr. Murray responded that he couldn't do it for that. Gongaware told him the offer came directly from the artist and Dr. Murray responded: "I'll take it" Gongaware said Michael approved the amount of compensation. "Michael told me offer 150," Gongaware recalled. "And that's what I did." Gongaware inquired from Dr. Murray how he would get a license in London and the doctor told him not to worry about it. They talked about Dr. Murray's request for a house in London, and the doctor said he would need a three bedroom house. Gongaware recalled Dr. Murray saying he would probably need an assistant and some equipment, but no details were given at this point. After the call, Gongaware said he let Michael Amir Williams know what the result was in a May 6th email: Done at 150k per month, per MJ. He needs about 10 days to wind down his practice then he will be full time Asked why he had negotiated with Murray, the AEG executive replied that he was "instructed to by Michael Jackson." Gongaware said there was no other reason for him to deal with the doctor. Marvin Putnam asked Gongaware why he didn't tell Jackson he couldn't take Murray on tour with him."Because he could if he wanted," Gongaware said. Gongaware said he passed Dr. Murray on to Timm Wooley, never had any other conversation with Dr. Murray about him possibly going to London. Putnam: "Do you have any understanding as to whether a contract with Dr. Murray was executed?"Gongaware said Michael was ultimately responsible for his own health: "I think everyone is responsible for their own health and well being. He was a grown man with the capability to make decisions regarding his health and medical care"Putnam showed Gongaware a frame from the This Is It film in which Jackson's manager, Frank Dileo, was sitting in on dancer auditions. Dancers auditions took place at the Nokia Theater on April 13, 14 & 15. Michael attended the last day and made the final decision, Gongaware said. He said Ortega wanted to film the audition to use fresh footage on michaeljacksonlive.com. The cost for crew to shoot the audition was very high, so Gongaware bought a couple of cameras and used his own crew to shoot the rehearsals. He said he wasn't sure what he would use the video for, but thought the website would be a good platform. Gongaware said during the period at Center Staging, Michael was good, engaging, didn't think there were any health issues or was using drugs Gongaware said the media in the UK was going wild with gossip about Michael Jackson. "They just lie about things." The Sun claimed Michael had skin cancer on his chest. "It was sport over in London," Gongaware said about stories on tabloids. Gongaware testified about emails in which UK press agents working on This Is It sent him tabloid reports on Michael's health. Gongaware said he urged the press agents not to respond. He wanted Jackson's performance to speak for itself & silence skeptics. Gongaware on 5/27/09: The Kid is healthy and rehearsing every day. He was still there at dance rehearsals at 9pm last night when I left. Our redemption will be when he does his shows, that makes all of this build up so damn sweet. We don't have to sell tickets, so we can just sit back and prove them wrong by just doing it.Gongaware said he was not concerned "If there was something going on, if he had cancer, we would've heard about it."Michael Jackson rehearsal venues:
Putnam went through a chain of emails about tabloid reports in the UK regarding Michael. In one, it said Michael had asked AEG to reduce the number of shows by half. Gongaware said that such a discussion never happened. Gongaware testified he woke up to one gossip headline pretty much every day. His idea was simply to ignore the tabloids. "An amazing show would be the answer", Gongaware said Gongaware on 6/5/09 in response to Sunday Mirror Query: "We can only make this work, of course, if MJ puts on the best show of his life. I'm here to tell you that be will. I have seen it for myself. Last night he ran 9 songs with full band, singers and dancers. Sang every one, he was amazing, captivating, riveting. And he's just getting started. Taking it one step further. When people realize that bulls**t the press has been, they will be in receptive mood for the truth Hey look. No skin cancer. He's just a good dad, loving raising his kids. His art and his craft are paramount. A gentle, loving man who does care about people"The shows were going to be spectacular," Gongaware said. Putnam showed a clip of Michael in front of a green screen with 11 dancers, who would become 11,000. Gongaware said Michael was great at this point Regarding email Phillips sent Gongaware directing to remove Michael's "skeletal" scenes Gongaware said he didn't take anything out of the movie. Putnam: "Did you remove anything from the movie?"Putnam showed a clip from This Is It with the making of "Thriller 3D" and Jackson wearing red jacket. Putnam: "Did you try to alter in anyway how Mr. Jackson looked, appeared?"Gongaware said he didn't remember any of the footage been removed because of how Michael looked. "We just let the footage speak for itself" The mini-movie of "Earth Song" a bulldozer would come out from a ramp in center stage. Putnam: "A real bulldozer?"Gongaware said they had to build the bulldozer like a prop. It would appear at the end of the song on stage. "I think the live audience would be just captivated by it," Gongaware said about the little girl running after the last plant on Earth song. End of the show would be 3D animation. An airplane taxis up, door opens, Michael entered the plane. The airplane door closes, Michael would actually take an elevator down and out of the building, but the plane would take off over the audience Gongaware said he didn't know if anyone was responsible for Michael's nourishment. Tour would be demanding and exhausting Gongaware said he met Dr. Murray once at MJ's Carolwood house and ran into him at The Forum during rehearsal. There was a meeting scheduled to discuss Michael's nutrition with Randy Phillips, Kenny Ortega, Dr. Murray, Michael, Gongaware and DiLeo. Putnam: "Do you recall anyone in that meeting ever telling Dr. Murray how he should be treating Michael?"Gongaware said he didn't have any medical training and wasn't qualified to tell Conrad Murray how to treat Jackson Gongaware said neither Dr. Murray nor Michael talked about the treatment he was receiving. The meeting was about nutrition & vitamin therapy. Gongaware said he had no idea Dr. Murray was giving Michael Propofol and first heard of the anesthetic after Michael died. Gongaware said Dr. Murray was really engaged in the meeting, seemed like a very intelligent guy and wanted to take care of Michael very much. This was the first time Gongaware met with Dr. Murray. He said there were no signs of Michael being poorly treated by the doctor. "Michael was engaged in the meeting, attentive, seemed happy we were having this meeting," Gongaware opined. "He's a doctor, he'd know better than anybody how to treat his patient," Gongaware said about Dr. Murray. As to Gongaware's email saying AEG, not Michael, paid Dr Murray he said he was mistaken. "We wouldn't pay his salary, we'd advance Michael's money". Gongaware said he didn't remember writing/receiving the email, but never denied he did it. As to Michael being habitually late, Gongaware said the singer worked on his own schedule, did things his way Gongaware said his understanding was that Michael hired a trainer of his choice, Louis (Lou) Ferrigno: "I made the deal with him (Ferrigno). He was supposed to be paid a certain amount of money per session" He didn't elaborate on fee, how many times he worked with Michael. Putnam showed an email from Travis Payne, he suggested a massage chair to be put in Michael's dressing room.As to Bugzee's email saying MJ needed cheeseburgers, brats and beers, Gongaware said Bugzee was joking, Bugzee cared very much for Michael. Gongaware testified he didn't recall having any concern about Michael's health/using painkillers as of Monday 6/15/09, 10 days prior to his death Gongaware was asked about several emails that have been shown before, including messages related to MJ missing rehearsal on June 19, 2009. The executive was on the East Coast for a family wedding, but responded to one message questioning why Murray wasn't at rehearsal. Gongaware email: Take the doctor with you. Why wasn't he there last night?He then explained his thinking to the jury. Gongaware: If his patient is having a problem and he's sick, and he's his only patient, it seemed like he should be thereGongaware said on 6/19/09, he was out of town. "This is the day Michael had chills at rehearsal and was apparently sick," Gongaware recalled. "If the meeting was going to be about what happened that night, the doctor should be there," Gongaware said. Gongaware said he believed Michael wanted to go on tour. He said he doesn't remember anyone talking about pulling the plug on the shows. Putnam: "Did anyone tell you at this point that Michael needed a drug addiction specialist?"Gongaware said that on 6/20/09 he did not think Michael's health was deteriorating. With last questions of the day, Putnam asked Gongaware if he was concerned about Jackson's well-being. He said "Yes" Court Transcript |
2023.06.03 12:45 ur_volkswagen_sux "Amid all the finger-pointing and fear-fanning, the truth hides in the corner, too scared to emerge. The truth is that we are supposed to think critically, weigh evidence from both sides and then make up our own minds. Instead, we’ve become a country hell bent on..."
Why does my drinking Bud Light offend you?
May 30, 2023 4:39 pm • Last Updated: May 30, 2023 4:41 pm
By Mike DiMauro
Day Assistant Sports Editor
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News item: Anthony Bass, a pitcher for the Toronto Blue Jays, shared a video Monday via Instagram endorsing an anti-LGBTQ boycott of brands such as Target and Bud Light.
"Here's the reason biblically why I believe Christians have gotta be boycotting Target, Bud Light, and any other corporation that's pushing the things they're pushing,” Bass said. “I think a lot of people make this into a political issue, or they say, 'Oh, what's the big deal?’
“This is evil, this is demonic, we won't stand for it, we're not going to go to the stores anymore and we're not going to give you our money.”
It would be impolite to wish that Mr. Bass, who throws a ball for a living, blows out his elbow. Perhaps then he could simply blow it out his tailpipe.
Because I’ve grown tired of sanctimonious and hypocritical moral outrage over what Target and Bud Light are “pushing,” while it’s permissible that Bass and his ilk get to “push” their beliefs on the rest of us.
Example: In the last two months or so, I’ve been questioned a half dozen times in public as to why I’m drinking Bud Light. Seems people like Bass have objected to Anheuser Busch’s marketing partnership with transgender influencer Dylan Mulvaney. Their boycott of Bud Light has led to a decrease in sales both locally and nationally. (Local bar and restaurant owners say Bud Light sales are down almost 30 percent.)
It is their right, of course, to boycott the product. I’m just curious as to why what I’m drinking is their business. I drink Bud Light because I like it. And I’m still drinking Bud Light because I will not marginalize people based on gender, race, religion, ethnicity, or sexual orientation. I’m respectful enough to support someone else’s desire to evolve into another gender. And I’m not stupid enough to believe that my decision to drink Bud Light changes who I am or what I stand for in any possible way.
But I wonder why it’s so important for people — and the questions to me haven’t all come from men — to announce their disdain for a bottle of beer, tacitly implying their sexuality is “normal.” Remember this one and write it down: If you are truly comfortable with who you are, you needn’t announce anything to anyone.
And yet to further illustrate how screwed up this country really is, there’s this: Anheuser-Busch hasn’t merely been accused of alienating its traditional customer base with the partnership, but some LGBTQ+ campaigners have also criticized the company for not defending its ties with Mulvaney.
Amid all the finger-pointing and fear-fanning, the truth hides in the corner, too scared to emerge. The truth is that we are supposed to think critically, weigh evidence from both sides and then make up our own minds. Instead, we’ve become a country hell bent on legislating whatever cause we think is right and just, while burying the other side from all consideration.
It’s political tribalism. All or nothing. One side or the other. If you’re not in agreement with every morsel of the transgender movement, you are a snarling, hating, infidel. If you’re not in total agreement with Anthony Bass and his beliefs, you’re going to wither in hell.
But what if — and hold on to your ascots here — two conflicting positions can still be true? Example: What if I support Bud Light’s decision to use a transgender influencer, but also believe that transgender high school athletes belong in their own division?
I disagree with the Connecticut Interscholastic Athletic Conference’s policy complying with a state law that requires all high school students be treated according to their gender identity. We should consider a sports-centric law that acknowledges sports' unique challenges and accommodates the physical component for success that exists virtually nowhere else in society.
Sex discrimination in education, health care, housing and financial credit have no place in this country. But we must — must — realize and accept that sports require a physical component to succeed that calls for different guidelines.
Put it this way: Applying to a school or for health care, housing or financial credit requires no physical component to succeed. Sports require speed, strength and agility and do not fit under the same umbrella. And yet sports are routinely shoved into the same arguments about unfair treatment. Injustices get piled on for rhetorical usefulness, even though they're not applicable.
The male born composition has inherent physical advantages, rare exceptions noted. But in the aggregate, there are physiologic differences between biological males and females. I don’t believe writing that makes me transphobic. We should respect a person’s pronoun of choice. But that doesn't mean we have to blindly agree with claims that are not supported by science.
Yet that appears to be the new end game in this country. Blind agreement. Their side or yours. And here I sit, sipping my Bud Light, trying to figure out why so many of us act like the last three letters of Anthony Bass’ last name.
This is the opinion of Day sports columnist Mike DiMauro
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READER COMMENTS
Philip BroseJune 1, 2023 at 16:30Report
Robin great points the right can’t even keep track on who to be mad at. Why are they so sensitive? I here Chick-fil-a is evil now for they “ensuring equal access,” “valuing differences,” and “creating a culture of belonging,” under the title, “Committed to being Better at Together.” what monsters!
Philip BroseJune 1, 2023 at 16:27Report
William Peter the guidance councilor?
Joseph B De La CruzJune 1, 2023 at 15:15Report
This article pretty much sums up exactly how I feel about the situation. Bud Light basically sent someone a can with her image celebrating a milestone. The fact it turned the beer into enemy number one doesn’t surprise me considering the vitriol that has become commonplace in our country. I have had plenty of private messages regarding a video I posted supporting a beer, and more importantly a human being. Most have been vehemently against my support of both and relish the chance to send me a screen shot of Bud Lights stock on a daily basis with a “Go woke, Go broke” ending. I believe much of the vitriol comes from news and talk radio which is why Spotify now fills my vehicle with music instead of talk. I ask everyone to limit their news intake to 30 minutes per day regardless of your party affiliation to center your life. Sometimes my radio will land on a “news station”, and I can feel my blood pressure rise as the most divisive topic of the day is being discussed with a majority of the facts not being considered. I am not recommending folks to ignore what’s happening in our world, but would point out that our country has survived many decades without the need for “up to the second” news reports. Most of the things we worry about will never happen and it seems our country is living in a constant state of fear which is certainly to blame for the vitriol. There will never be a point where everyone in the country will collectively say we are all happy with everything, but I still have a deep believe that with constructive conversations and true empathy we can get us close. When I get my boat in the water I would love to have an ice cold Bud Light while listening to my relaxing boat playlist, and of course talking with my favorite sports writer. That’s an invitation Mike. Great article.
Robin DaudaJune 1, 2023 at 13:41Report
“Bud Light sales are down between 26% and 35% nationwide additionally Budweiser and other AB brands (Michelob Ultra, Busch Light and Natural Light to name a few) have also taken a hit of around 11%.”
All the more reason to explain what set this off. Completely unhinged.
“My take, buy Coors stock now”
And that statement reinforces my point since Coors has been a decades long supporter of LGBT rights probably the biggest supporter (it all began with a workegay alliance boycott ironically… or not)
“Coors Light has been a sponsor of The Center and Denver PrideFest for decades,” says Rex Fuller, CEO of The Center on Colfax. “The work we have been able to do at The Center over the last four decades would not be possible without this support and we are grateful for it.”
Beyond supporting Denver PrideFest, Molson Coors has a distinguished history of supporting LGBTQ communities across the country, with significant support for organizations such as Human Rights Campaign (HRC), Matthew Shepard Foundation, National Amateur Gay Athletics Association of America, National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce, LGBT Victory Institute, Out & Equal, and One Colorado.
In addition to these partners, Molson Coors works with local LGBTQ organizations in key communities through its Tap Into Change program. Annually, the summer program donates more than $100,000 to these organizations with a consistent growth in impact each year. Events take place in each city to help raise additional funds, awareness, and support for the missions of these local organizations. Over the past 10 years, Tap Into Change has raised nearly $600,000 for local LGBTQ and HIV/AIDS nonprofits.
https://denverpride.org/coors-light-supports-the-lgbtq-community/
This is even though like 2006, 2010 and 2014 they had to go through boycotts for this. And they did shrink back in response, but also came right back and didn’t move backwards for long.
And what will I do?
Continue drinking Corona because I drink what I drink.
It’s damn near impossible to do a successful boycott long term. The web of corporate connections means when you think you’re hurting one, it’s actually benefitting another one connected to it.
The beverage brand that owns Budweiser, Corona, and Stella Artois, is suing US beer-maker Constellation Brands for using the Corona brand name in a hard seltzer, according to a lawsuit filed Monday.
Beverage giant Anheuser-Busch InBev (AB InBev) acquired Corona’s parent company, Grupo Modelo, in 2013, but US antitrust regulators required it to sell the company’s US-based business to Constellation. AB InBev retained rights to the products in other markets, and the deal gave Constellation the rights to produce Corona and other Modelo brands in the US.
William PeterJune 1, 2023 at 13:36Report
The virtue signalers didn’t like my harmless comment. I guess being offended by an opposing view is reason enough to silence someone in 2023
Richard GoldenJune 1, 2023 at 12:57Report
Robin- not certain this article nor all the comments will move the needle. Bud Light sales are down between 26% and 35% nationwide additionally Budweiser and other AB brands (Michelob Ultra, Busch Light and Natural Light to name a few) have also taken a hit of around 11%. Bud Light has been the best selling beer in the USA for over 20 years and the normal volume of sales is 27 million barrels a year or 1134 million gallons. A 30% drop equals a loss of 340 million gallons a year. My take, buy Coors stock now
Chris JawakaJune 1, 2023 at 10:12Report
People are allowed to drink or not drink whatever beer they want and for whatever reason they choose. End of story.
Robin DaudaJune 1, 2023 at 09:05Report
Do people realize that Bud Light sent a pack of specially made cans with the person’s face on it and did a minute long or so bit released on like TicTok? It wasn’t some big nationwide PR campaign yet it rubbed someone the wrong way (or so they would like us to think) and it snowballed into this.
I don’t ever want to hear about people calling “the libs” snowflakes or use their center liberal stances as a weakness. These champions of “conservatives” are gullible whiny babies.
I watched in real time a bunch of idiots blow something up out of nothing and then saw them flocking to the internet people with their influencer pages and podcasts and publications where immediately they were being hawked “anti-woke” beer and all these other wares, often made by the same places they are boycotting for double the price.
There is a whole market opening up to people that will only get their businesses off the ground (temporarily for a quick cash grab) by using these outrage tactics and capitalizing (literally) on impaired brains that as Mr. DiMauro correctly observed “Blind agreement. Their side or yours”
Bless your little void of empathy and common sense hearts. Don’t spend all your money in one place now, spread the wealth to these people selling you overpriced junk.
Paul LevasseurJune 1, 2023 at 07:47Report
Mike is discussing one of this election cycles right wing culture war hot spots.
If you can’t get elected because of your governing skills you’re going to have to try to get elected by getting people angry and hateful. The right wing loves doing that. It’s their bread and butter.
TOM DONNEEJune 1, 2023 at 06:46Report
Preaching hate and preaching tolerance ARE NOT the same Evan
DANIEL STORMSJune 1, 2023 at 05:56Report
I always liked this formulation: “In the first place, what makes it any of you business? And in the second place, my reasons for saying yea to [whatever it is that offends you] are at least as valid (and maybe more so) than yours for nay. And in the third place, what makes it any of your sodding business in the first place?” I agree wholeheartedly with your plea for reason and tolerance. Not to seem argumentative but rather to add information to the discussion, though, you might be interested in this blog post from a biologist about the supposed physiologic advantages a trans man or woman has over a cis athelete: https://freethoughtblogs.com/pharyngula/2023/05/31/we-hunted-the-rabbit/
Evan AndriopolousJune 1, 2023 at 03:10Report
For me… Bud Light as a “beer” sucks. I would rather support local breweries that provide far better beers. As far as this column… as far as AB selecting this influencer in their campaign I have no opinion on it or that person. Up to each to decide for themselves.
Regarding this column actually Mike what you are writing is basically the same as the boycott and the changes in attitudes (political divide) of the country. Often used by politicians on BOTH sides of the aisle screaming to be open, defending one´s right to choose, freedom of speech etc.. and this is the most important part..”unless it does not validate their opinion or view”. This is exactly what you are writing. So if someone elects to boycott something and we know the WOKE police and Leftists enjoy not only condemning opposing viewpoints to the point of boycotting, attacking employers for the “views” of their employees etc… and demanding they be removed from the position their are in. So if someone boycotts something let them… I would ask you… why does it offend you that others are using their constitutional right by boycotting (freedom of speech). I always respect other´s opinions and even when we do not agree. Sadly we live in a world where people are afraid to speak up due to the potential ramifications. None of us will always agree and I know the powers to be are trying to “force” us to all be uniform in our opinions which is sad. And btw Bud Light is terrible anyway… How about you focus on sports.
Benoit BenoitMay 31, 2023 at 20:12Report
Ironic you drink because you like it but will continue to drink it because “ I will not marginalize people based on gender, race, religion, ethnicity, or sexual orientation.” Not just because you like it.
William PeterMay 31, 2023 at 17:46Report
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JAY DEMPSEYMay 31, 2023 at 16:53Report
TY Mike….. I drink Bud Light most all the time unless in Ireland…and support Levine Distributors in our area and my friends that work there. I think the cancel culture is terrible whatever your political party of choice is. Very sad that social media has done this to us. I have good friends that I can no longer talk politics with because of the “great divide” that enriches social media giants.
ROBERT WARNERMay 31, 2023 at 16:45Report
I suppose a similar question could be asked, “Why does a person wearing a MAGA hat bother some people?”
David NowakowskiMay 31, 2023 at 14:30Report
great column, Mike. I’d like to think there are far more folks who see this subject and all its nuances the way you do…but you are probably right again in saying that it is tough to go against your chosen tribe on any component, regardless of how you might actually feel. thanks again!
Andrew RogersonMay 31, 2023 at 13:33Report
Mike DiMauro – well said sir, on all counts.
Lynn YoungMay 31, 2023 at 13:28Report
Drink what you like. Be who you are. Live and let live.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 12:36Report
Light Beer is like Sex on the Beach….****ing near water.
Paul NUNESMay 31, 2023 at 11:44Report
Does anyone remember the first light beer and the commercial featuring a slice of bread?
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 11:05Report
Richard, must have been some other brand light. Bud Light? It was probably 10 years ago. But he could have been messing with me.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 10:17Report
Malcolm- The moral of the story is; if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 10:16Report
Thomas- as far as I knew and as far as I can tell Guinness is the most popular beer in Ireland holding a full 25% of the market share. Bud Light does not even show up in the top ten (https://www.beer100.com/best-selling-beers-ireland/) I think the guy was pulling your leg. Bud Light only became available in Ireland in 2020.
Malcolm JulesMay 31, 2023 at 09:32Report
A corporation decided to target one of their products to a specific community and failed….end of story.
Margaret KliseMay 31, 2023 at 09:12Report
Agree/agree. Good article, Mike.
SUSAN HOTCHKISSMay 31, 2023 at 09:06Report
I always enjoy Mike’s opinion pieces. In total agreement about the transgender athlete issue.
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 09:00Report
Tom, hope all is well with your daughter.
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 08:57Report
A Bud Light story: Several years ago while in Ireland my son and I toured the Guinness brewery. Of course there’s a pub on the top floor and while getting a pint of Guinness the bar I notice several taps Bud Light. I asked the bartender “why in God’s name are you serving THAT stuff in here?” He replied that it’s the best selling beer in Ireland. Go figue!
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 08:51Report
Good column Mike. These anti “woke” zealots claim to support democracy but would be no different from the Taliban if they had their way.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 08:42Report
All this talk of beer makes me thirsty…but I have found that drinking beer has become an unwelcome undertaking. No beer allowed at the beach, nor while night fishing in Waterford, nor surf fishing at Avery Point, nor at any state boat launch, nor is state parks- try walking down the street with a cold one….
Chris JawakaMay 31, 2023 at 08:08Report
IMO The left loves their cancel culture but gets all grumpy when the right does the same. Hey it can go both ways. That said I really don’t care about the Bud thing. Its not like they sold beer with its face on it.
Matther TookerMay 31, 2023 at 07:35Report
Thoughtful piece as always Mike. Perhaps the best offset for the 30% decrease in Bud Light sales would be a 30% increase in church attendance. I am betting that won’t happen. (Matt Tooker)
KEITH J. ROBBINSMay 31, 2023 at 06:11Report
You drinking Bud-Lite does not offend me, although it is a horrible beer. What is my concern is a guy using the ladies room that my nieces use!
TOM DONNEEMay 31, 2023 at 05:55Report
Agree Phil. Well done Mike!! Waiting for my daughter to come out of surgery. Then we’ll stop for a cold one, think I’ll make it a Bud Lite!!!
Philip BroseMay 30, 2023 at 16:59Report
Mr. DiMauro is always thoughtful and intelligent. The best writer at the day. Give the guy a raise.
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May 30, 2023 4:39 pm • Last Updated: May 30, 2023 4:41 pm
By Mike DiMauro
Day Assistant Sports Editor
[[email protected]](mailto:[email protected])
News item: Anthony Bass, a pitcher for the Toronto Blue Jays, shared a video Monday via Instagram endorsing an anti-LGBTQ boycott of brands such as Target and Bud Light.
"Here's the reason biblically why I believe Christians have gotta be boycotting Target, Bud Light, and any other corporation that's pushing the things they're pushing,” Bass said. “I think a lot of people make this into a political issue, or they say, 'Oh, what's the big deal?’
“This is evil, this is demonic, we won't stand for it, we're not going to go to the stores anymore and we're not going to give you our money.”
It would be impolite to wish that Mr. Bass, who throws a ball for a living, blows out his elbow. Perhaps then he could simply blow it out his tailpipe.
Because I’ve grown tired of sanctimonious and hypocritical moral outrage over what Target and Bud Light are “pushing,” while it’s permissible that Bass and his ilk get to “push” their beliefs on the rest of us.
Example: In the last two months or so, I’ve been questioned a half dozen times in public as to why I’m drinking Bud Light. Seems people like Bass have objected to Anheuser Busch’s marketing partnership with transgender influencer Dylan Mulvaney. Their boycott of Bud Light has led to a decrease in sales both locally and nationally. (Local bar and restaurant owners say Bud Light sales are down almost 30 percent.)
It is their right, of course, to boycott the product. I’m just curious as to why what I’m drinking is their business. I drink Bud Light because I like it. And I’m still drinking Bud Light because I will not marginalize people based on gender, race, religion, ethnicity, or sexual orientation. I’m respectful enough to support someone else’s desire to evolve into another gender. And I’m not stupid enough to believe that my decision to drink Bud Light changes who I am or what I stand for in any possible way.
But I wonder why it’s so important for people — and the questions to me haven’t all come from men — to announce their disdain for a bottle of beer, tacitly implying their sexuality is “normal.” Remember this one and write it down: If you are truly comfortable with who you are, you needn’t announce anything to anyone.
And yet to further illustrate how screwed up this country really is, there’s this: Anheuser-Busch hasn’t merely been accused of alienating its traditional customer base with the partnership, but some LGBTQ+ campaigners have also criticized the company for not defending its ties with Mulvaney.
Amid all the finger-pointing and fear-fanning, the truth hides in the corner, too scared to emerge. The truth is that we are supposed to think critically, weigh evidence from both sides and then make up our own minds. Instead, we’ve become a country hell bent on legislating whatever cause we think is right and just, while burying the other side from all consideration.
It’s political tribalism. All or nothing. One side or the other. If you’re not in agreement with every morsel of the transgender movement, you are a snarling, hating, infidel. If you’re not in total agreement with Anthony Bass and his beliefs, you’re going to wither in hell.
But what if — and hold on to your ascots here — two conflicting positions can still be true? Example: What if I support Bud Light’s decision to use a transgender influencer, but also believe that transgender high school athletes belong in their own division?
I disagree with the Connecticut Interscholastic Athletic Conference’s policy complying with a state law that requires all high school students be treated according to their gender identity. We should consider a sports-centric law that acknowledges sports' unique challenges and accommodates the physical component for success that exists virtually nowhere else in society.
Sex discrimination in education, health care, housing and financial credit have no place in this country. But we must — must — realize and accept that sports require a physical component to succeed that calls for different guidelines.
Put it this way: Applying to a school or for health care, housing or financial credit requires no physical component to succeed. Sports require speed, strength and agility and do not fit under the same umbrella. And yet sports are routinely shoved into the same arguments about unfair treatment. Injustices get piled on for rhetorical usefulness, even though they're not applicable.
The male born composition has inherent physical advantages, rare exceptions noted. But in the aggregate, there are physiologic differences between biological males and females. I don’t believe writing that makes me transphobic. We should respect a person’s pronoun of choice. But that doesn't mean we have to blindly agree with claims that are not supported by science.
Yet that appears to be the new end game in this country. Blind agreement. Their side or yours. And here I sit, sipping my Bud Light, trying to figure out why so many of us act like the last three letters of Anthony Bass’ last name.
This is the opinion of Day sports columnist Mike DiMauro
Comment threads are monitored for 48 hours after publication and then closed.
READER COMMENTS
Philip BroseJune 1, 2023 at 16:30Report
Robin great points the right can’t even keep track on who to be mad at. Why are they so sensitive? I here Chick-fil-a is evil now for they “ensuring equal access,” “valuing differences,” and “creating a culture of belonging,” under the title, “Committed to being Better at Together.” what monsters!
Philip BroseJune 1, 2023 at 16:27Report
William Peter the guidance councilor?
Joseph B De La CruzJune 1, 2023 at 15:15Report
This article pretty much sums up exactly how I feel about the situation. Bud Light basically sent someone a can with her image celebrating a milestone. The fact it turned the beer into enemy number one doesn’t surprise me considering the vitriol that has become commonplace in our country. I have had plenty of private messages regarding a video I posted supporting a beer, and more importantly a human being. Most have been vehemently against my support of both and relish the chance to send me a screen shot of Bud Lights stock on a daily basis with a “Go woke, Go broke” ending. I believe much of the vitriol comes from news and talk radio which is why Spotify now fills my vehicle with music instead of talk. I ask everyone to limit their news intake to 30 minutes per day regardless of your party affiliation to center your life. Sometimes my radio will land on a “news station”, and I can feel my blood pressure rise as the most divisive topic of the day is being discussed with a majority of the facts not being considered. I am not recommending folks to ignore what’s happening in our world, but would point out that our country has survived many decades without the need for “up to the second” news reports. Most of the things we worry about will never happen and it seems our country is living in a constant state of fear which is certainly to blame for the vitriol. There will never be a point where everyone in the country will collectively say we are all happy with everything, but I still have a deep believe that with constructive conversations and true empathy we can get us close. When I get my boat in the water I would love to have an ice cold Bud Light while listening to my relaxing boat playlist, and of course talking with my favorite sports writer. That’s an invitation Mike. Great article.
Robin DaudaJune 1, 2023 at 13:41Report
“Bud Light sales are down between 26% and 35% nationwide additionally Budweiser and other AB brands (Michelob Ultra, Busch Light and Natural Light to name a few) have also taken a hit of around 11%.”
All the more reason to explain what set this off. Completely unhinged.
“My take, buy Coors stock now”
And that statement reinforces my point since Coors has been a decades long supporter of LGBT rights probably the biggest supporter (it all began with a workegay alliance boycott ironically… or not)
“Coors Light has been a sponsor of The Center and Denver PrideFest for decades,” says Rex Fuller, CEO of The Center on Colfax. “The work we have been able to do at The Center over the last four decades would not be possible without this support and we are grateful for it.”
Beyond supporting Denver PrideFest, Molson Coors has a distinguished history of supporting LGBTQ communities across the country, with significant support for organizations such as Human Rights Campaign (HRC), Matthew Shepard Foundation, National Amateur Gay Athletics Association of America, National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce, LGBT Victory Institute, Out & Equal, and One Colorado.
In addition to these partners, Molson Coors works with local LGBTQ organizations in key communities through its Tap Into Change program. Annually, the summer program donates more than $100,000 to these organizations with a consistent growth in impact each year. Events take place in each city to help raise additional funds, awareness, and support for the missions of these local organizations. Over the past 10 years, Tap Into Change has raised nearly $600,000 for local LGBTQ and HIV/AIDS nonprofits.
https://denverpride.org/coors-light-supports-the-lgbtq-community/
This is even though like 2006, 2010 and 2014 they had to go through boycotts for this. And they did shrink back in response, but also came right back and didn’t move backwards for long.
And what will I do?
Continue drinking Corona because I drink what I drink.
It’s damn near impossible to do a successful boycott long term. The web of corporate connections means when you think you’re hurting one, it’s actually benefitting another one connected to it.
The beverage brand that owns Budweiser, Corona, and Stella Artois, is suing US beer-maker Constellation Brands for using the Corona brand name in a hard seltzer, according to a lawsuit filed Monday.
Beverage giant Anheuser-Busch InBev (AB InBev) acquired Corona’s parent company, Grupo Modelo, in 2013, but US antitrust regulators required it to sell the company’s US-based business to Constellation. AB InBev retained rights to the products in other markets, and the deal gave Constellation the rights to produce Corona and other Modelo brands in the US.
William PeterJune 1, 2023 at 13:36Report
The virtue signalers didn’t like my harmless comment. I guess being offended by an opposing view is reason enough to silence someone in 2023
Richard GoldenJune 1, 2023 at 12:57Report
Robin- not certain this article nor all the comments will move the needle. Bud Light sales are down between 26% and 35% nationwide additionally Budweiser and other AB brands (Michelob Ultra, Busch Light and Natural Light to name a few) have also taken a hit of around 11%. Bud Light has been the best selling beer in the USA for over 20 years and the normal volume of sales is 27 million barrels a year or 1134 million gallons. A 30% drop equals a loss of 340 million gallons a year. My take, buy Coors stock now
Chris JawakaJune 1, 2023 at 10:12Report
People are allowed to drink or not drink whatever beer they want and for whatever reason they choose. End of story.
Robin DaudaJune 1, 2023 at 09:05Report
Do people realize that Bud Light sent a pack of specially made cans with the person’s face on it and did a minute long or so bit released on like TicTok? It wasn’t some big nationwide PR campaign yet it rubbed someone the wrong way (or so they would like us to think) and it snowballed into this.
I don’t ever want to hear about people calling “the libs” snowflakes or use their center liberal stances as a weakness. These champions of “conservatives” are gullible whiny babies.
I watched in real time a bunch of idiots blow something up out of nothing and then saw them flocking to the internet people with their influencer pages and podcasts and publications where immediately they were being hawked “anti-woke” beer and all these other wares, often made by the same places they are boycotting for double the price.
There is a whole market opening up to people that will only get their businesses off the ground (temporarily for a quick cash grab) by using these outrage tactics and capitalizing (literally) on impaired brains that as Mr. DiMauro correctly observed “Blind agreement. Their side or yours”
Bless your little void of empathy and common sense hearts. Don’t spend all your money in one place now, spread the wealth to these people selling you overpriced junk.
Paul LevasseurJune 1, 2023 at 07:47Report
Mike is discussing one of this election cycles right wing culture war hot spots.
If you can’t get elected because of your governing skills you’re going to have to try to get elected by getting people angry and hateful. The right wing loves doing that. It’s their bread and butter.
TOM DONNEEJune 1, 2023 at 06:46Report
Preaching hate and preaching tolerance ARE NOT the same Evan
DANIEL STORMSJune 1, 2023 at 05:56Report
I always liked this formulation: “In the first place, what makes it any of you business? And in the second place, my reasons for saying yea to [whatever it is that offends you] are at least as valid (and maybe more so) than yours for nay. And in the third place, what makes it any of your sodding business in the first place?” I agree wholeheartedly with your plea for reason and tolerance. Not to seem argumentative but rather to add information to the discussion, though, you might be interested in this blog post from a biologist about the supposed physiologic advantages a trans man or woman has over a cis athelete: https://freethoughtblogs.com/pharyngula/2023/05/31/we-hunted-the-rabbit/
Evan AndriopolousJune 1, 2023 at 03:10Report
For me… Bud Light as a “beer” sucks. I would rather support local breweries that provide far better beers. As far as this column… as far as AB selecting this influencer in their campaign I have no opinion on it or that person. Up to each to decide for themselves.
Regarding this column actually Mike what you are writing is basically the same as the boycott and the changes in attitudes (political divide) of the country. Often used by politicians on BOTH sides of the aisle screaming to be open, defending one´s right to choose, freedom of speech etc.. and this is the most important part..”unless it does not validate their opinion or view”. This is exactly what you are writing. So if someone elects to boycott something and we know the WOKE police and Leftists enjoy not only condemning opposing viewpoints to the point of boycotting, attacking employers for the “views” of their employees etc… and demanding they be removed from the position their are in. So if someone boycotts something let them… I would ask you… why does it offend you that others are using their constitutional right by boycotting (freedom of speech). I always respect other´s opinions and even when we do not agree. Sadly we live in a world where people are afraid to speak up due to the potential ramifications. None of us will always agree and I know the powers to be are trying to “force” us to all be uniform in our opinions which is sad. And btw Bud Light is terrible anyway… How about you focus on sports.
Benoit BenoitMay 31, 2023 at 20:12Report
Ironic you drink because you like it but will continue to drink it because “ I will not marginalize people based on gender, race, religion, ethnicity, or sexual orientation.” Not just because you like it.
William PeterMay 31, 2023 at 17:46Report
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JAY DEMPSEYMay 31, 2023 at 16:53Report
TY Mike….. I drink Bud Light most all the time unless in Ireland…and support Levine Distributors in our area and my friends that work there. I think the cancel culture is terrible whatever your political party of choice is. Very sad that social media has done this to us. I have good friends that I can no longer talk politics with because of the “great divide” that enriches social media giants.
ROBERT WARNERMay 31, 2023 at 16:45Report
I suppose a similar question could be asked, “Why does a person wearing a MAGA hat bother some people?”
David NowakowskiMay 31, 2023 at 14:30Report
great column, Mike. I’d like to think there are far more folks who see this subject and all its nuances the way you do…but you are probably right again in saying that it is tough to go against your chosen tribe on any component, regardless of how you might actually feel. thanks again!
Andrew RogersonMay 31, 2023 at 13:33Report
Mike DiMauro – well said sir, on all counts.
Lynn YoungMay 31, 2023 at 13:28Report
Drink what you like. Be who you are. Live and let live.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 12:36Report
Light Beer is like Sex on the Beach….****ing near water.
Paul NUNESMay 31, 2023 at 11:44Report
Does anyone remember the first light beer and the commercial featuring a slice of bread?
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 11:05Report
Richard, must have been some other brand light. Bud Light? It was probably 10 years ago. But he could have been messing with me.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 10:17Report
Malcolm- The moral of the story is; if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 10:16Report
Thomas- as far as I knew and as far as I can tell Guinness is the most popular beer in Ireland holding a full 25% of the market share. Bud Light does not even show up in the top ten (https://www.beer100.com/best-selling-beers-ireland/) I think the guy was pulling your leg. Bud Light only became available in Ireland in 2020.
Malcolm JulesMay 31, 2023 at 09:32Report
A corporation decided to target one of their products to a specific community and failed….end of story.
Margaret KliseMay 31, 2023 at 09:12Report
Agree/agree. Good article, Mike.
SUSAN HOTCHKISSMay 31, 2023 at 09:06Report
I always enjoy Mike’s opinion pieces. In total agreement about the transgender athlete issue.
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 09:00Report
Tom, hope all is well with your daughter.
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 08:57Report
A Bud Light story: Several years ago while in Ireland my son and I toured the Guinness brewery. Of course there’s a pub on the top floor and while getting a pint of Guinness the bar I notice several taps Bud Light. I asked the bartender “why in God’s name are you serving THAT stuff in here?” He replied that it’s the best selling beer in Ireland. Go figue!
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 08:51Report
Good column Mike. These anti “woke” zealots claim to support democracy but would be no different from the Taliban if they had their way.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 08:42Report
All this talk of beer makes me thirsty…but I have found that drinking beer has become an unwelcome undertaking. No beer allowed at the beach, nor while night fishing in Waterford, nor surf fishing at Avery Point, nor at any state boat launch, nor is state parks- try walking down the street with a cold one….
Chris JawakaMay 31, 2023 at 08:08Report
IMO The left loves their cancel culture but gets all grumpy when the right does the same. Hey it can go both ways. That said I really don’t care about the Bud thing. Its not like they sold beer with its face on it.
Matther TookerMay 31, 2023 at 07:35Report
Thoughtful piece as always Mike. Perhaps the best offset for the 30% decrease in Bud Light sales would be a 30% increase in church attendance. I am betting that won’t happen. (Matt Tooker)
KEITH J. ROBBINSMay 31, 2023 at 06:11Report
You drinking Bud-Lite does not offend me, although it is a horrible beer. What is my concern is a guy using the ladies room that my nieces use!
TOM DONNEEMay 31, 2023 at 05:55Report
Agree Phil. Well done Mike!! Waiting for my daughter to come out of surgery. Then we’ll stop for a cold one, think I’ll make it a Bud Lite!!!
Philip BroseMay 30, 2023 at 16:59Report
Mr. DiMauro is always thoughtful and intelligent. The best writer at the day. Give the guy a raise.
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