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2023.06.04 22:51 Either_Stay8031 "I love her, I'm proud to be with her and to call her mine, she is everything I could have asked for"

Well folks. 4 years past dday. Lots of tears shed, lots of anger and sadness shown. Lots of doubts. Lots of ups and downs. It has taken a lot of effort on both of our parts, lots of healing and vulnerability on both sides. Lots of brutal honesty and empathy from both sides. But I heard the words last night I never thought I would hear from my husband again.
We had no kids at home last night. For the first time in over 2 years. So we cooked dinner together, watched some movies, and then were relaxing in our hammock, just being near one another, holding each other. Then he told me that he has noticed a huge change in me over the last few years, especially in the last year or so. I remember telling my husband about a year into R that I was afraid he would never be proud to be with me again. I didnt think he remembered me saying that, but then again maybe he does... but last night as we were laying there together, he held me close and told me that he is proud of me for all the changes and growing I have done to be a better safer partner. He told me that he is proud of the woman I have become , that he feels lucky to have me in his life, and that our new relationship is everything he could have asked for. Cue my tears... I never thought my husband would be able to feel this way about me again, I hoped but never really thought he would consider himself proud to have me again. Not after breaking his heart, shattering his world, and making him go through hell all because I was such a selfish person.
It's been a long road. It's been scary at times, amazing at times, and incredibly Rocky at times. But hearing those words last night... seeing the healing from the hurt I caused, seeing him be able to feel so positively about the life we have together, seeing him happy again, seeing him be able to find safety in our relationship, in the life he has chosen to continue building with me...That means the world to me.
All I have focused on for the last 4 years is becoming a better person, wife and mother. Making sure I was doing every thing within my power to make him happy again. To help him heal from the damage I caused. And in return we have gotten an incredible relationship, where we both feel respected, loved, wanted, desired, and safe.
To anyone out there wondering if this path Is worth the pain...it can be! It takes both partners being willing to be vulnerable, compassionate, transparent, and radically honest. The work we have done in response to my infidelity has helped us create a relationship with a strong foundation. I know that so many here are in the early stages and hurting. It seems like there is no possible way through this, like there is no end in sight. I just wanted to give all of you a little hope, that it can get better, you can survive this (up to now your track record for surviving the horrible, shitty days is 100%). There is life after infidelity and it can be a beautiful, happy, fulfilling life.
Wishing you all peace, happiness, and all the love this world has to offer. And if this finds you when there seems to be no hope, I hope it offers you even the slightest bit of hope that it can and does get better.
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2023.06.04 22:50 chopppppppppy Nicotine would be looked at a lot differently if it weren’t as addicting and the ways of consuming it weren’t terrible for you

I’m not saying it’s a safe drug either, it’s nowhere near it, and there are still negative side effects of nicotine. But there are studies that say that nicotine increases testosterone temporary, and it’s a cognitive enhancer as well. I’m not promoting the use of nicotine stay away from it. It’s really addictive and the ways you consume it are terrible for your health. I’m not going to get into every way to do it. But most of you already know that smoking causes cancer. And while vaping doesn’t have tar, there’s not enough research about the long-term effects of it. Both of these are also awful for your heart. So yeah, I think nicotine would be looked at a lot differently if it weren’t as addictive and the ways to consume it didn’t slowly kill you.
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2023.06.04 22:47 AmmonomiconJohn Lootable Zombies in Jurassic Junction

In the beginning of a Heartland playthrough, one of your first mandatory missions is to clear out Jurassic Junction. I just completed that mission, during which there was one lootable zombie (the ones with a PC character model, but the blood plague decals). Shortly after leaving the base, I ran into another lootable zombie, near the base's safe zone boundary. This surprised me, since it was probably 10 in-game hours later.
Do we know how many lootable zombies are supposed to be in/around Jurassic Junction before you clear it out? I assume it's a set number.
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2023.06.04 22:39 Desperate-Car-Wife Cars, Trucks, Turbos.. Oh My! Part.7

Desperate Car Wife: A Journey in the Making (part.7)
My husband's next "victim" .... A golden brown 1997 Chevy K/1500 Extended Cab
I had a feeling he'd buy this truck at some point... A buddy of his owned it and he would always make comments and cash offers whenever he saw the truck. About 3 or 4 years later my hubby finally got his wish! I still remember the night we brought it home... Unfortunately, that same night, during the wee hours, some delinquent teens went around the neighborhood and were keying cars down our street! He parked it on the street since he had planned to wash it first thing.... Hub was up early the next day, so excited to have his new baby; ready to give her a good wash and start marking his "territory" with that good 'ol "JB Treatment".. We walked out and discovered the truck had been keyed all the way from the driver's side door to the rear fender!! I can't describe how super p@##ed off he was without using a list of colorful words, but I'm sure y'all can imagine... I'm just glad I was there to help calm him down; to this very day I truly feel that had he given into his anger, he would've gone off his rocker, and that day would've been much like that famous line from Liam Neeson in Taken!! But after about an hour of watching what looked like a crazy man, pacing back and forth, looking over and over at the nearly 7' long scratch, while cursing up a storm, he managed to calm down "somewhat" and immediately ran down to AutoZone... $150 later, he had what he needed to make it as invisible as possible. It was deep in spots; the entire scratch had passed through the top coat and in some areas it was all the way to the base paint :(
Over the next year, he went over the entire body with a clay bar, compound buffed, then waxed and polished... She was easily a 10 footer for sure! Eventually he found some wheels and bought matching tires.. (He has a thing about mismatched tires LOL) She was lookin' like a pretty nice truck, so shiny and new, nearly flawless on the outside.
Side Note: I remember one night, not too long after he finished all that hard work, we were bbqing at our friend's house; the one who sold us the truck. It was well after midnight when we were finally ready to leave, (hubby was highly intoxicated), I ended up having to pull the truck out first because a huge bush was on the other side where he had backed in too close and couldn't open the passenger side door. Well he was too drunk and way too tall to try to climb over the center console thru the driver's side, so he wanted me to pull the truck out and he'd just hop in. I was like "there are branches sticking out of the bush and I think I might scratch the truck"... I insisted my hubby just pull it out a little and then I'd take over. (if anyone was gonna scratch it, I'd rather it be him!) To give some insight: there was another car parked on the driver's side, giving me very little room to work with... But he refused and said he'd guide me.. Famous. Last. Words!!!! As soon as I started to pull away, I heard scraping sounds!!!! I stopped and was sooo upset because I knew it would happen! I thought for sure he would be so p@##ed at me for scratching it! I had tears, I felt so bad!! He had just finished getting that truck looking new again and the hours of labotime spent doing so... I couldn't stop sobbing, even when he, surprisingly, wasn't mad at all!! He actually blamed himself because he made me move it.. I blame the alcohol for his chill response!!! After repeated "sorry's" and "it's okay's".. we get home and he grabs his container of Mother's compound and starts buffing out the scratch.... Next morning I looked at the spot and to my excitement, the scratch was gone... it didn't go through the top coat!! Couldn't even tell that there was ever even a scratch!!!! \Wipes sweaty forehead* What a relief that was!*
Next came the.......... you got it! The Sound system! \ insert smirky laugh here LOL **
A slimbox would just not do.. he tried, but at this point in his obsession with bass style audio, he wanted more bass. Well for those of you that don't know, more bass means not only bigger subs and bigger boxes for those subs, you also need higher quality tweeters and mids with their own amp system plus crossovers, a powerful amp just for the bass, bigger batteries (yes, that's plural), a bigger alternator, fuses galore, expensive wiring , etc... Not only is that crazy expensive to do, but it also required him to eventually remove the bench seat. I had no clue to all of this till I started going with him more often to the car audio shops. Needless to say, I was not a happy wife when it came to the price tags... I was perfectly happy with decent sound and a small sub, but something so crazy loud wasn't that big of a deal to me, however, our bank account would say otherwise LOL ... it wasn't my daily driver, so I didn't really care other than the costs for everything... he just could never be happy with the sound and continuously changed out the subs, boxes, decks, you name it... he did it more than once over on everything! So that was the first strike to this truck and I... (I know it sounds a bit harsh for a 1st strike, but I wanted a nice family vacation, not bigger and bigger subs... Remember my "limits" motto??)
I liked driving it around town, though the driver's seat was broken in the upright position, so I had to drive with a pillow behind me. (Strike 2!!) It never bothered him because he's so dang tall, and I rarely drove it as it was, so the seat wasn't a priority... Then I took it on the freeway, the steering became very loose. I don't know how to describe how it felt to me, other than it felt like it was severely out of play... My hubby never seemed to have the same issue and always would reassure me that "it's just how the truck drives''... So he hasn't messed around with the steering column at all. Well, I don't trust it or feel safe in it, so I refuse to drive it. I have had to take it on the freeway a couple more times since then and I still hate driving it... it still felt way out of whack for me; taking curvy turns was the worst, I couldn't even keep it centered in my lane! Nerves shot and blood pressure at its highest.... Strike 3!!! I absolutely hate driving that truck!!! She is a pretty thing after a good waxing, but that's as far as I take a liking to her...
$10k later, including a rebuilt tranny and 2 DIY transfer case replacements, the truck is nearly perfect in my husband's eyes.... but then the poor thing falls to vandalism once again! :( :( :( Only this time it was 2 slashed tires and a broken windshield! This time we filed a police report! But of course nothing ever came of it, unfortunately.... It was easy to replace, but costly and getting no justice after being vandalized twice (parked in the driveway the 2nd time), left us feeling sour and foul mouthed.... Now we have cameras on the driveway and street! Regardless of the vandalism, there's always something needing to be replaced it seems... this truck feels like a money pit in my mind... strike 4...
Special Note: If you have found or follow me on Twitter (DsCarWife) and come here to read my posts... I have a little treat tweet coming! Stay Tuned!
Part. 8 coming soon
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2023.06.04 22:39 blairstrawberry Was told Agoraphobia is shallow

So I was telling some people how proud I’m of myself for being able to do so much now a days like holding down a job, going outside a lot and just not having anywhere near the level of anxiety I had
I told them I used to have agoraphobia because I was so scared that people would see me get ill outside and not in a safe environment (I also had an eating disorder so if I passed out a lot of people would look at me and I’d hate that)
They just told me that was very shallow and who cares!
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2023.06.04 22:39 Ok_Trickyy2555 What Jobs Make 40K or More that I Can Apply to As a Covid Cautious Person? I am Desperate and at My End.

So I made post before I live in Illinois and im 21 living with parents and sibling who dont mask. Honestly? I have since long time ago gave up trying to convince them to mask indoors at least for their health really. I gave up. But I still feel at risk. I havent felt safe for three years now and I have no money to my name. I have been seeking remote and hybrid positions but never hear anything back or rejection emails. I have applied to in person jobs too out of desperation and no luck either besides like 3-4 interviews. This was the worst time for this to happen. I am unemployed and have an associates degree that is not useful its only an associates in general studies and I cant afford to get any other course of training right now. My parents wont help me got to back too. I want to give up im being real because even if I could move out it could take me years to save up enough money. I feel too tired to mask in my house when I mask all day when I have to go outside. I feel damn near worn down. I don't know what jobs that are covid-safe that are in person I could apply to that would help me raise enough money to move out soon? I have no friends to move in or a boyfriend. I can't seek someone to date and move in with because most people arent taking any precautions I tried I looked in apps like, tinder, and hinge, and bumble bFF for friends. I tried covidmeetups the website it dead for me. I really don't know to everyone here if im going to be able to make it out and move out before I get reinfected so many times by my family that I die by sickness or become disabled and be gaslighted by my parents more. Is there any job out there I dont know how to navigate which in-person job can be safe enough for me in city that also gets very cold in the winter? Also I live in Illinois if anyone is living there rn hmu I would like to find a least a friend who understands.
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2023.06.04 22:36 WalkerKesselRun PSA: There's a homeless with a large knife walking around at Victoria Park right now

Near Victoria park, just saw him walking around an encampment they made using a picnic table and the building near the baseball diamond.

He was clearly in drugs and was stabbing the ground with the knife. Stay safe please.
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2023.06.04 22:30 alexsmith2332 A few tips and learnings form our week long trip

A few tips and learnings form our week long trip
Just got back yesterday from a 8 day trip and it was incredible fun (will write a detailed trip report later but just thought I'll post somethings I learnt the time I was there)
  1. Get really good waterproof pants and a rain jacket - Though we were blessed to have 4 days of really good weather, even on those days we were glad to have proper waterproof gear. The reason being that the waterfalls are in full flow and getting even close to them will drench you fully if you are not protected. My wife also wore this waterproof baseball cap which helped keep water off her glasses and atleast not be totally blinded by the spray (here is an image of the Gullfoss waterfalls which were in full flow) so that gives you an idea of the spray now
https://preview.redd.it/7gdx7jmk324b1.jpg?width=1536&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3c8bc662597553287bc4ab72a770101276f38fbb
  1. Talking of water protection, please please get some protection for your cameras: I was incredulous at the sheer number of people who just ran right into the spray with no protection for their cameras against the water (yes I get that some cameras are weather sealed but unless you are absolutely sure, please dont ruin your expensive cameras and images of a wonderful trip by being careless). I used this and it worked decently well though in hindsight I should have gone for this one because the first one got ripped by the wind (yes the wind is another factor to think of) but it did keep my camera dry
  2. Talking of the wind, please keep a warm beanie with you : While having layers and a waterproof jacket was wonderful, the one thing that made my trip from on wet days from being miserable to actually being enjoyable was a warm beanie which kept my head and ears warm
  3. PLEASE get gravel protection for your car rental : I really cant stress this enough, we were super careful and even then towards the end of our trip we got one massive chip in the windshield as a car in the opposite lane threw up a rock up while going 70kph in a 50kph lane (just to clarify, we were not even on a gravel road, this was gravel and new chip seal that was laid to fix the road between vik and jökulsárlón and hence prone to being thrown up. So even if you dont plan to go on gravel roads , road work can result in gravel being thrown up. We also ended up getting another smaller chip on the road between Vik and reykjavík where there was no construction so I do want to emphasize the point that gravel damage can happen anywhere. That said, we were very glad that we had the gravel protection insurance from Lotus car rentals (they were great) and we walked away with no additional expenses after returning the car
  4. Carry a travel multiplug with you and plug adapters for europe : Not sure if it was just the hotels we stayed in , but there seemed to be a shortage of wall plug points everywhere. We had two cameras, 2 ipads and 2 phones plus couple other electronic stuff and if we didnt have a travel multiplug with us, it would be a challenge of trying to try to figure out how to charge everything. Also if you didnt already have one, please ensure you have a travel adapter which would work for iceland (this is the one we had and it worked great)
  5. If possible, get to the spots you want to earlier in the day(before 9 am) or later(after 4 PM) : we found the crowds were significantly lower or non existent (There were about 5 people in total in front of the waterfall in Skogafoss at 8:30 am which was awesome as I could really take the time to setup the shot and take plenty of pics in front of the waterfall
https://preview.redd.it/m5985gut724b1.jpg?width=2048&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c833fab1654e4e82b46aae1cbd69b6a2f4a66478
It was also similar when we went early to jökulsárlón and the diamond beach (though jökulsárlón was busy near the parking lot but walking for 20 minutes away resulted us being the only two people in that area. So if you are physically able, please take the time to walk a bit as that will get you away from the crowds)
This was me after a 20 minute walk away from the parking lot at jökulsárlón
  1. Dont make it all about bucket list stops : One of our favorite surprise experiences was the Irafoss waterfallwhich is a mere 10 minutes drive from the more popular Seljalandsfoss waterfall. While there might have been like 200 odd people in Seljalandsfoss by the time we left, there was absolutely no one at this waterfall leading us to joke that this our private waterfall experience. So, as you are planning your trip dont make it all about the well known places but try out the smaller ones too (here is a pic of the waterfall for reference)

https://preview.redd.it/d3b5w5si924b1.jpg?width=1536&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=521f36dc9cb3bb3e20cb99ffa437b628566356e6

Overall it was a really fun trip and something my wife and I enjoyed a lot.
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2023.06.04 22:22 Ludosleftnipplering Ugh, WHY?!?!

So, I've never posted before but my heart is in my mouth and I don't want to bother OH with this as he's away for work. We've been NC with MIL and most of her clan for what will be 12 years in July. She claimed that she could "no longer have a relationship with (OH) whilst (Nipplering) is on the scene". When she uttered those words, OH and I had been together 7 years, married for 1 and we had 2 children together. At first we had some calls from her family, I had a rather spectacular letter sent my way and one by one they pledged their unwavering support for MIL and dropped us. GREAT!!! OH did receive a card at the beginning of the pandemic that essentially said "thinking of you, stay safe" (no mention of me or kids) but it's mostly been peaceful since then....... However, a couple of weeks ago I was sat outside the house in my car, getting myself together to go to the gym. I look up and there's a car creeping down the road, driver looking at houses as if to see house numbers or to recognise something. At first I thought it was a delivery driver, we get a lot at our door wanting the next street....then I get a closer look and although I couldn't see her face (thank you windscreen glare!) ITS HER!!!! She seems to notice me in the car but not recognise me (I change my hair often), she raises a hand and pulls round me and sits outside a neighbour's house for a moment. I wait, give my head a wobble and tell myself I'm mistaken. I expect the person to get out of the car and knock on a door but they don't, I'm watching in my rear-view. My eldest is in the house, I consider calling them but don't want to upset them. I then watch the car pull away and again, park up outside another neighbour's house, nobody gets out. At this point my anxiety and anger are boiling but I sit tight and wait until the car, eventually pulls away. I go to the gym and let off steam. On the way home I see the same car parked outside the hotel my IL's always stay at when they're in the area and almost rear-end someone cause I'd convinced myself I was wrong. Later that day I told OH what I'd seen and my suspicions and he said it was probably her (his gran has done similar by turning up in our town or in places he's worked) but not to worry as he has my back, she's nothing to us and it's not like they live locally...... So WHY?!?! now that he's left this evening for work, am I sat here having heart palpitations and struggling to breathe?!?! I know I shouldn't let it bother me, I know she's a coward and won't actually face me, so why the hell am I shaking?!?! UGH!!!!
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2023.06.04 22:17 Hot_Current_692 Does it sound like he has ROCD or should I give up?

There is so much to say I don’t even know where to start…My boyfriend broke up with me. Again. We’ve had this on and off thing going on for almost two years. The beginning of our relationship was weird, he was my first boyfriend. I was 23 at the time and I’ve had trauma so I wasn’t really ready for a relationship but I wanted one. I believe being in one also helped me work through trauma in therapy. He knew I wasn’t ready for a real relationship from the start and was ok with just me being someone to talk to and cuddle. I wouldn’t have even gotten that involved but something about him was so comforting, is still. He really understood me and I know I helped him through some of his anxieties. I realized he had more anxiety than I thought which is probably why I feel so drawn to him because he can empathize with me. To shorten this up I just want to mention a few experiences that make me feel he might have Rocd. The on and off, him getting freaked out, the conflicting statements. My friends say he’s just using me but things don’t add up.
  1. This experience is early on, maybe a few months in when we started actually dating vs being cuddle buddies: We went out to eat and I was a little nervous because it was more of date situation and this is embarrassing but I had never been on a date…he’s older than me and he knew that. When we first walked in the restaurant, I felt this weird vibe from him/ he was staring at a table of people I thought maybe he knew then I started feeling self conscious because I thought he was embarrassed to be with me because I’m younger. I brushed it off. I went to order a drink and I asked “what do you think I should get?” I could see him getting almost frustrated with me and so I just kept looking at the menu and finally decided. I don’t drink much (I don’t even remember what it was that I got) but I remember he said “you know that’s wine right?” And I felt embarrassed like I did something wrong but I didn’t know what. At one point, I thought the wasabi on his plate was avocado and he was visibly annoyed that I did like I was stupid or something. He asked me places I’d like to visit and gave me crap for saying I saw these cool underwater hotels and he gave me crap for not giving a more intelligent or intriguing answer I guess. A lot of this is subtle and more of a vibe that I pick up. When we got back to his place, I started to walk in and he said actually I think you should go. Something like “this night didn’t go how I thought it would and I’m frustrated”. He made me leave even though I apologized and just said I was nervous. I don’t understand why he was so cruel all of a sudden? He hadn’t been like that before.
  2. He got a dog and he looked at her and said are you in love with her (me) and then said I’m in love her too (meaning me). He told me he’s never truly been in love but after that i noticed he stopped calling me mom to his dog like he had been. Suddenly, I was just (my name) to the dog. Even though we were trying to build something together, a life.
  3. Every time he takes me out, he criticizes me. Says I’m too shy and makes me feel like people don’t like me which makes me more nervous and I can’t open up because I feel like no matter what I do I’ll mess up. He uninvites me from things then says I don’t do anything with him.
  4. I made a mistake with his dogs meds. He freaked out and blamed all her health problems on me and said I never think anything through then from there it spiraled into all the things wrong with me even though a week prior he said “I’m not going on where on you”. Sometimes I ask him if he’s thinking of breaking up with me because I know how he gets. Well after my mistake with the pills, he led back into all these doubts and concerns and how he has to break up with me because he can’t keep hurting me and judging me.
It just feels like he says he doesn’t want perfection but keeps demanding it. Little things set him off. He’ll say I’m “rare, unique, best connection he’s ever had”. He’ll be sweet then turn sour. I’ve done so much for him and I know he’s dealt with me but I feel like I would have grown into the relationship even more if I felt accepted but I always felt like i was walking on eggshells. I mean he’s willing to throw our “amazing connection” away over my taste in music that he’s saying is worse than what it actually is, like he does with everything. Anytime it comes to meeting my family and hanging out with my friends he starts the “I’m having doubts” conversation but then says I won’t let him into my life. I’m not saying I’m innocent and can’t improve but he thinks so much of the future and what’s going to happen or picking me apart that I don’t feel safe to grow with him. Last time we broke up for two months, he said he did it because he knew I needed to grow and he came back saying he still had doubts. I pushed back and said then I won’t reconnect with you and then he changed his tune a little to get me to take him back but it’s always with doubt. He never looks at me and say “I want to be with you forever” even though it’s corny and maybe won’t be true one day that’s what people do because that’s what they feel in the moment. He won’t because he says it’s dishonest.
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2023.06.04 22:11 sissysub4daddy My first time playing D&D

So, this is the story of the first time my girlfriend Gwen and I played D&D. I have our DM Matt here with me to help me with the names, rules and just remembering stuff in general. Matt and Jack have been playing 5th edition for years, but Zach never played 5E. He played 3.5 and 4th and liked them both, so this is his first time playing 5th. Here's all of the people involved and our characters.
Matt (DM) had been playing D&D for years. We played 5th edition starting at 3rd level, and his house rules included letting us use any setting specific race, and the One D&D play test rules.
Me playing as Remy, the non-binary plasmoid Hexblade Warlock, and my bonus feat was Fey Touched. Remy was just an ordinary slime running from predators, until one day he found an ancient temple that he was able to hide in. There, he found a magic sword possessed by the soul of an ancient dragon. The dragon promised to give Remy magical powers as long and Remy took the sword with him around the world cause the dragon was bored and lonely. My character is inspired by Rimuru Tempest from the anime Reincarnated as a Slime, and Matt gave me lots of ideas on how to build this character.
Gwen played as Tea Swift, the female half-elf College of Eloquence Bard, and her bonus feat was Lucky. Tea's father was and adventurer, so she went around telling stories of his adventures to improve his reputation. One day he went missing, and Tea set out to find him. While we were deciding which characters we wanted to play, Gwen found the YouTube video Life of a Bard song, and fell in love with the class.
Zach played Leon, the male leonin Battle Master Fighter, and his bonus feat was Shield Master. Leon was part of a tribe of hunters and warriors. One day his tribe was wiped out and he was the sole survivor. He set out on his own to find the dragon that killed his family, and get his revenge. Zach based his character on Leo from Red Earth, and he picked the battle master so he could have variety in combat.
Jack played John Belmont, the male dhampir Swarmkeeper Ranger, and his bonus feat was Crossbow Expert. John’s family was enslaved by a vamipre lord. The lord’s daughter Rosa fell in love with John, and when he was 24, they tried to run away together. The lord’s minions hunted them down and left them for dead as punishment. To save his life, the Rosa tried to turn John into a vampire, but she died in his arms. He became a dhampir, and vowed to hunt down the vampire lord and kill him. John trained himself in the forest and discovered he has a connection with bats, and could control them.
Matt asked us to make connections to one another so our characters already knew each other, so this is what we came up with. The dragon in Remi’s sword is the sworn enemy of the dragon that Leon wants to kill, Tea befriended John and started telling his story so people would be less afraid of him. Leon saved Tea from a pack of dire wolves once, and John met Remi while training in the forest.
Here’s how the game went. Tea and Leon went into a town to look for leads on the dragon and look for work to make money. At the bar, they found a job offer to take out kobalts attacking merchants on the road. They took the job but another group tried start a fight and take the job offer from them. Tea seduced the whole group, took them to a nearby hotel bedroom, and immediately cast Sleep on them all to put them to sleep and left with the flier for the job offer.
John was training Remy in the forest on swordsmanship, and they were attacked by a group of kobalts. Leon and Tea heard the fight and showed up to help and caught a kobalt as a hostage. Tea recognized John and introduced him to Leon, and then Leon brought up his backstory. John said “I understand your pain, I’m also on a quest for revenge.” Remi’s dragon spoke out loud from the blade and said “I hate Cyan as well. Remi, we should join him on his quest to kill Cyan.” So our party was together and we agreed to work together to take out the kobalts and split the reward. They tried to interrogate the kobalt, but it was being stubborn, so Leon grabbed him by one leg and hanged him over the edge of a cliff by the leg. Tea said “you know his arm is going to get tired sooner or later so you better start talking now.” The kobalt cried for mercy and told us where the main camp was. “I told you where they are, please let me go” he said, and Leon said “sure if that’s what you want” and just let go of the kobalt’s leg and let him fall. We all looked at him and he said “what? I let him go. He should have asked me to put him on the ground first.”
John used the info to track down their camp from a safe direction where we were uphill and could play an ambush. We saw that they had lots of people as prisoners, some of which were soldiers. Remy can use Disguise Self at will with Mask of Many Face, and reshape his body since he is a plasmoid. He looked like a human this whole time, but he changed to look like a kobalt to sneak in and let the prisoners free. Remy got in and started to unlock the cages, but some kobalts saw me and I rolled a 1 to deceive them. Luckily, Tea stayed close and cast Cloud of Daggers in their way, and then Leon jumped down to attack the kobalts as a distraction. He took out his sword, rolled a 20 and killed a kobalt in one shot, cutting him in half from above. Remy shot the kobalts that caught him through the Cloud of Daggers using a blast spell (Eldritch Blast), then finished freeing the prisoners before using Armor of Shadows and summoning his sword to run right into the fight. John was sniping from above with a hand crossbow, and he did so much damage. He had two attacks per round because of Crossbow Expert, could use Hunter’s Mark for more damage and let his bat’s bite his targets for even more damage, so he was killing kobalts left and right. Tea climbed up a tree to stay safe, pulled out her lute and started singing, using Viscous Mockery to make it harder for the kobalts to hit Leon and Remy. She was yelling stuff like “hey, nameless lizard number 2, your so weak, your name should be ‘free XP’.” Matt laughed and said “the kobalt starts to cry and says ‘my name is Joey’” but then Leon came right behind him and said “wrong. Your name is dead meat” and cut the kobalt in half. The soldiers Remy freed grabbed their weapons and helped us capture the rest of the kobalts and the fight was over.
Gwen was a natural and jumped right into the game. Matt said she played like a veteran, who had been playing for months. We all had a lot of fun, and I’ve enjoyed playing D&D with my friends ever since.
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2023.06.04 22:10 jobbyjabber2 Scotland House Purchase, Breach of Missives What Do I Do?

Hi all,
So I completed the purchase of a house in the north of Scotland (just outside Aberdeen, if it matters) on Friday.
It seems the seller hasn't bothered to clear out ANY of their stuff, has left the place in essentially a biohazard condition (animal faeces and urine all over the place), white goods which were meant to be left were not (but all of their other stuff was..), skip blocking entry to driveway, broken Central heating (all bar one radiator works), random holes in walls, flooring badly scraped where they must have attempted to move furniture etc etc - totally not in the condition I viewed it in and packed full of furniture/clothes/personal possessions.
I knew the house needed work and purchased this as a fixer upper however I'm going to have to spend weeks clearing it out and cleaning it before I can even get any of my stuff in. I've had to book a hotel at the last minute to stay in as the house is not suitable and the moving company I used had to put all of my furniture into storage (which again I had to arrange at the last minute on a Friday evening).
I got the keys at half 4 on Friday and so have only been able to email my solicitor who responded to say he's emailed the sellers solicitor and will let me know on Monday what to do now..
One clause in the missives states that moveable items need to be removed so I think I'm probably due some kind damages/compensation however I've no idea what to do here, does anyone have any advice on what to do now?
The other point is the seller is being pursued for AT LEAST 10 different overdue bills for a total of somewhere near 6 figures from various agencies and so I'm worried about their ability to actually pay if I am owed any damages. (I know this due to the massive stack of opened mail they left for me by the front door).
As an FYI - I found out from one of my new neighbours that the seller hasn't died or anything, they've moved to a small flat nearby (so probably just left everything they didn't want).
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2023.06.04 22:03 inlovewiththemed Adventure Awaits in Marrakech: Exploring Ourika Valley, Oukaïmeden, Lalla Takerkoust Dam, and Imlil

If you are looking for a destination that boasts picturesque landscapes, offers thrilling activities, and is a feast for the senses, Marrakech should definitely be on your travel list.
Nestled in the foothills of the Atlas Mountains, Marrakech offers visitors a diverse range of activities that cater to every type of traveler.

LA VALLÉE DE L’OURIKA

One of the must-visit destinations for nature enthusiasts and hikers is the Ourika Valley.
Located 30 km south of Marrakech, the valley is filled with charming Berber villages that dot the landscape and disappear into the surrounding hills.
The Ourika Valley remains one of the most popular destinations for hikers and adventurers who come to explore its exceptional beauty.
While in the Ourika Valley, be sure to visit one or more of the saffron cooperatives.
Here, you can discover the nearly 45 varieties of aromatic and medicinal plants on offer.
With only a few hotels available in the area, you can enjoy the unspoiled beauty of the valley in all its natural glory.
Full Article: https://www.inlovewiththemed.com/marrakech-for-lovers-of-nature-walking-skiing-and-hiking/
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2023.06.04 21:59 SeasonedFries8 ladies, what are delivery jobs like in tally?

i just started uber eats at home this summer and wanna continue that and other delivery services in tally for some pocket money, but as a young female, should i just not? anyone been doing it for a while recommend it? for reference i live in a small town and it is no where near what tally is like and very safe
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2023.06.04 21:52 todd10k It's experiences like this that remind me why i love this game

So, set the scene, i'm out doing some roc mining ( which is in a horrible state at the moment ) and i get bored fighting the extraction laser, so i get in my corsair and head up to orbit. I'm checking out missions and i see the "money from nothing" mission. I have no idea what this mission is as it's the first time seeing it, so i take the mission for a small fee and begin heading there. It looks like a derelict hammerhead is cut in half on the ground. There are numerous bodies all lieing around the place. Multiple wrecks are on fire. I notice that i've just left comms range, too. So any crimes committed here won't be reported to the UEE.
What the hell am i walking into here? I had no idea this was a PVP mission.
So i shoot off 5km from the site and disembark in my roc, headed to the crash site. I get about 1.5km out and exit the roc. As i approach the site, my heart is pounding. I have to fight against my flight or fight instinct constantly. I still don't realise this is a PVP mission. I get about 500m away from the crash site when i come under fire. 1 guy is on the roof of the hammerhead with a sniper rifle, another is about 100m away from me and the other is close to him. Thankfully, they've jumped the gun in firing at me, and i have lots of different routes i can take. I take out my 2nd rifle, a sniper rifle, i pop my head out and pop goes the sniper on the roof. At this point, one of the guys on the ground peals off to go rez his mate. I push and manage to take out guy number 2. The other one panics and runs across open ground.
Number 3 is dispatched in short order. Across the compound, there's a cutty red. I bet they're using that to respawn. I full sprint to the cutlass to find the sniper rearming, i quickly gun him down and gun down number 2 as he's respawning. I hop in the pilot seat, arm the self destruct, gun down number 3 as he's respawning and get to a safe distance in time to watch the fireworks.
A great experience, but it's not over. The mission requires that you go into the hammerhead and find a console to activate, this begins accruing UEC. The console is at a height to the ground and you have to climb up to it. This becomes important later. The full payout is 150k, i didn't know this at the time, but i head in and find the console. I activate it and it begins ticking up. I'm nervous and twitchy, but i sit myself in a corner and take up a defensive posture. When out of the corner of my eye, i notice the lights of a ship. They're back. It's a cutlass red, touching down about 1km away. I zoom in and watch the cutlass land and 2 bodies exit. The cutlass takes off and i can see the two guys zipping towards where they died. I take out my sniper rifle and start taking pot shots at one of them. They return fire and the cutlass begins to strafe my position. I don't have anything to deal with the cutlass so i move back into the destroyed hammerhead. I can hear the two guys moving around below me.
I'm in a bind here. The console is slowly ticking up and i want that cash. I could bail, try to run back to my roc and make it to my corsair, come back and blow the crap out of the cutlass, but that's a risk. If the cutlass spots me, i'm defenseless against it. The footsteps get closer down below. I can hear them shuffling. Both sides. There's 3 ingress points, i can't cover them all. There's a small room off to the side of the main hallway. I very carefully and quietly move in there. I raise my gun, point it at the doorway, and i wait. And i wait. 20 minutes go by. I can hear them. They're waiting for me to make a move. I don't so much as budge an inch. Eventually, they either lose patience, get bored, or think i've logged off. One of them mantles up to the level im on, and begins crouch walking down the long hallway. I train my crosshair on the door. I see his gun slowly emerge into view and then a moment of inspiration hits. I don't fire. I let him pass. I don't so much as breathe as he walks right by me, not looking in my direction. He think's i'm not here.
He moves into the main area with the console, and i can hear him moving around. He checks the corners and i can hear his mate shuffling up as well. His mate runs right by my doorway, i immediately spring the trap. I run to the corner, get a bead on the guy in the main room and unload onto him. number 2 swings towards me and i unload into him. He gets a few shots into me but i down him first. I'm heavily bleeding, out of ammo and the cutlass impotently starts unloading his lasers into the structure of the ship. I take out my medgun and heal myself but i've an injury. My guy is lungshot and wheezing heavily. Vision is slightly blurry. Not idea but i've managed to deal with the 2 guys on the ground.
Fortune smiles on me, one of them was carrying a railgun. I strip the railgun and ammo and dump my sniper rifle. I take the railgun, position myself near a doorway and fully charge it. I pop out and fire directly at the cutlass. It takes a direct hit to the shields. The driver panics, tries to swing around and clips his engine on a tree, the engine explodes and the cutlass spins out of control into the ground and explodes. I obviously don't look at the explosion.
I return to the console, hit the button and wait for the payout. I loot the bodies of anything useful and head back to my roc.
This is one of the best experiences i've ever had in any game. I played early dayz mod and it never even came close to this in terms of adrenaline. I cannot wait for this game to release, i will play nothing else.
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2023.06.04 21:51 NamelessNanashi [The Gods of Dragons: Beginning] Ch 16 - Aftermath Part 2/2

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When Shon woke again, it was to be told he'd slept, not only the rest of the day and night of the incident, but the entire day after as well. Despite the Cleric assuring Shon that this was normal, he still had Shon eat breakfast in the infirmary while the Squires attended their morning lessons. He'd slept through drills, breakfast, and prayer.
The Cleric kept the curtains drawn over the window, though Shon's head wasn't pounding anymore, and had added a second set of standing curtains around the girl's bed. Shon's eyes flicked in her direction with every alternate bite he managed to force down, but there was no movement beyond the white cloth.
Master Daunas came in shortly before tenth bell and armor practice to inform Shon that he was to take the day off to rest but could rejoin the others in training the following day. He was at least allowed to leave the infirmary, though he waited until he could hear sparring outside before he did. He didn't want to run into any of the Squires.
As he opened the door to leave something flew by the window, catching Shon's attention enough to make him stop and look over. But it was already long gone. Just a bird... Assuming he hadn't imagined it. He shook his head, still aching all over. His mind swam with worries and memories, made worse by the fact that the Cleric was trying to hide shivers now that Shon was fully rested. He'd probably just imagined it...
Back in his room Shon huddled over his journal. He could still smell the smoke in his hair and had decided it would be best to shower soon, but finally alone, his thoughts and memories could no longer be ignored.
So he drew. He tried to start safe. Nangran atop his borrowed horse; Ivelm mostly naked and shaking a club in his doorway; the Archmage's workroom lined in shelves filled with magical components. That one had taken a while. But as he released these images onto the page, others forced themselves forward. Smoke billowing over treetops; a burning tower; charred bodies; and a girl reaching out through the flames. A girl lying asleep in the bed next to his. The stillness of the picture made her look dead.
He dropped his pencil, letting it roll right off the desk. Crossing his arms over the book, he rested his head on his desk. The wood felt warm compared to his skin, comforting. What more could he have done? What could a Paladin have done? Or Master Veon-Zih? Shon saw again the bodies and shivered.
No one could save everyone. To think otherwise was pure arrogance. But knowing the facts and feeling them were two very different things. The tower wasn’t that far from Hamerfoss. Shouldn’t they have known something was going on? Shouldn’t they have been able to do something sooner? Years sooner? Long before the fire killed those people?
A loud tapping startled him awake. When had he fallen asleep? Shon searched his room in confusion, trying to piece together his dream and what had awoken him. He'd been in the Temple chapel, but as he'd walked down the middle aisle, the pews had started to decay, the stone walls crumbling. Small plants, then trees began to sprout from the ground, overgrowing the once-holy place now in ruin. Shon pressed the heels of his hands hard into his eyes, trying to remember what had come next... A man with white hair pulled back in a ponytail had been standing at the head altar... something with leathery wings on his shoulder...
The painful screech of something sharp on glass had Shon jumping up, his chair falling to clatter on the ground behind him. He looked to his window but saw only orange sky beyond. Was the sun already setting? He knelt on the mattress and looked out the window, unsure what he expected to see. He was on the third floor, but that was definitely where the sound had come from, and the window was the only glass in the room.
Nothing but open sky.
He opened the tiny window, the pane swinging up and letting in cold and refreshing air that helped clear his mind. Master Daunas's voice bellowed orders from the courtyard below, and Shon stuck his head out to look down and see his fellows working through their dagger forms. He'd slept through lunch and afternoon lessons. And he still needed a shower.
If he hurried, he would be able to shower before the others finished their lesson. Shon left the window open and even opened his door before he remembered to grab a fresh uniform. Obviously, he still wasn't thinking clearly.
The halls were blissfully empty, and Shon could almost pretend that even if he did pass someone, their breath wouldn't show in the air. It was a short-lived fantasy, however. He managed to make it all the way to the showers, but when he opened the door a voice called, "Squire! Why aren't you... Oh..." Shon performed a sharp about face to stand at attention before the Major General.
"At ease, Squire Shon," Selibra sighed, waving him down, "Did you get enough rest?"
"Yes, Sir," Shon answered but then caught movement out of the corner of his eye, again. He hadn't managed to turn his head far enough to see before the Major General started speaking. Shon snapped his head back to give the officer his undivided attention.
"You did well, Squire. Smith Nangran told us what happened at the tower." Sir Selibra managed a strained smile that faded quickly, "If you want to talk about what you saw there... any one of us will be more than willing to listen. You shouldn't have had to experience death so soon." an image of an arm pulling away from a charred corpse flashed in Shon's vision.
Shon swallowed down the accompanying nausea at the memory and managed a nod, adding a quiet "Thank you, Sir." for good measure.
Feeling the need to scrub even more than before, Shon was grateful when the Major General left, allowing him to enter the still-open room. The shower was only mildly comforting, however. What should have been scalding water felt merely lukewarm now, the mist billowing off his truly icy skin thick enough that he could barely see the spigots. Closing his eyes, he scrubbed and tried to imagine the images flowing off of him with the filth...
Something chirped, and Shon slammed the water off. Just the pipes creaking... How much longer would he have to rest before his mind stopped playing tricks on him? But as he moved for his towel, Shon stopped in shock, his new uniform had been scattered around the benches and floor.
He hadn't heard the door open, but had heard the pipes creaking? But who here would even do something like this? Shon started to search the showers, but as he did, he heard something else—voices in the hall. The Squires were done with their practice. He still didn't want to see them and dressed quickly, rushing from the shower and slamming the door behind him.
Something thumped into the door from the other side. Shon held his breath and turned slowly. It was his imagination. It had to be. He reached for the handle again and, standing behind the swing, opened the shower slowly.
"He's been gone three days... Do you think they sent him away?" Thom's voice sounded from around a corner, and Shon jumped in surprise, pulling the door open fully as if he could hide behind it.
"No way. he's the best Squire we have, so what if he's a Sorcerer." They were talking about him... Shon definitely didn't want to see them yet. He dashed down the opposite way, taking a long way around through the Paladin's barracks and back to his room. Or that's what he'd planned before he remembered the Squires hall would be full of people now taking their break and trying to get into the shower before everyone else. His feet faltered, and he turned away again, to one of the hardly used stairs that would take him down to the rest of the fortress.
Barred from his room, Shon made his way to the place he associated the most with comfort, the chapel. It wasn't empty, three Paladins knelt in prayer near the front, but it didn't matter anymore. He felt a wash of calm as he entered the incense-filled room, the sweet-smelling smoke finally banishing the stench of burning hair from his memory.
Shon took a spot near the back, kneeling to pray as he stared up at the statue of Hengist behind the altar. He was dressed in full plate mail, his arm raised in triumph, holding his mighty sword, Darkspliter.
Shon sighed and felt himself smile for what felt like the first time in a very long time. He could tell Hengist anything and everything, and none of it out loud... But then his smile faded. What would he say...?
I'm sorry. I feel like I've been lying to everyone, to you. I've known there was something different about me, something wrong with me. That's why no one likes to touch me, why everyone pulls away at the feel of my skin, like it's somehow dirty or painful. I should've realized... Should have known...
But I worked so hard... You know that, don't you? And I'm not ready to give up. I'll do whatever it takes, atone anyway I can if you just tell me how. The Major General said something about it being a sign. I want to believe he meant the unlikely convenience of Smith Nangran knowing an Archmage who could make an item so I won't have to get the tattoo. Thank you. I just hope I don't disappoint after getting a second chance...
The bell for dinner sounded. Feeling better, Shon considered going with the Paladins as they left the chapel. Until one of them shivered as they passed. "Winters right around the corner," another muttered.
"We'll need to install the heating orbs soon." the last answered before the door closed... He wasn't hungry anyway.
Please, Hengist. Don't let me hurt anyone else. Kefir was trying to help me, and I answered that kindness with pain. What if the healers hadn't gotten to him in time? Would I have smothered him in ice? Please, I'll give up everything if it means that will never happen again...
But he didn't want to give up anything. He wanted to fight, to reach his highest potential, and lead a life of meaning. He thought of Master Veon-Zih. The Monk had told him that he didn't need to be a Paladin to fight for justice, and he was living proof of that. But...
I don't want to be alone... At first, I thought I just wanted you, a god, as a guiding light in my life. But now I realize that being a Paladin gives me even more than that. It gives me brothers and friends, and I don't want to lose them either. But I especially don't want to hurt them.
Shon clenched his hands tighter, as tight as he could, digging his fingers into the spaces between his knuckles; as if external pain might dull internal strife...
They say I'm scary... And I know they aren't really joking. I can see it in their eyes and hear it in their nervous laughs when they try and make it a joke. But they only mean when they fight me... don't they? And I'll never try to hurt them. It's only sparring... they know that... don't they?
He squeezed his eyes tighter shut,
But what about now? Will they be even more afraid? Even when we aren't sparring? Can I blame them if they are?
He actually found himself waiting for an answer... Of course, none came. He wasn't a Paladin yet, and wouldn't be able to feel the god until he swore his Oath and took a piece of Hengist into himself. For now, Shon took in a deep breath, as deep as he could, then let it out slowly, relaxing his hands and face as he attempted to release his anxieties unto his god.
I won't give up. I'll fight this danger within me as hard as I will fight any threat without. I ask for your help with this. Please don't give up on me yet. I'll prove I'm worthy, I swear.
The bell ending dinner and starting study time sounded. Shon stayed in the chapel until a handful of Squires came in to pray themselves. They hesitated by the door, but Shon didn't look at them. He knew he couldn't hide forever. But he also wasn't sure what he should say to any of them. Or if he should say anything at all. Shon waited until they moved away from the door to finally stand. If he had to face any of them, he wanted it to be the ones he considered friends first.
Shon left the chapel and made his way to the library, fighting the urge to just go back to his room. Heads swiveled in his direction the moment he opened the library door. Shon flinched, sucking in a sharp breath and holding it, pulling his energy in as best he could.
He stepped in, and the Squires exchanged looks, but then the Paladin on library duty coughed, and they quickly went back to reading.
His typical spot was available as usual, so Shon made his way there. The others would want to talk after... and if not, he would just go back to his room. Distracted by his continued worries -and the silent effort to hold his energy in- Shon still heard when something behind him hissed along the stone.
He spun quickly, scanning the floor. This time he definitely wasn't imagining it...
"Squire Shon... Shouldn't you be resting?" He turned back to find the Squires trying to make it seem like they weren't staring at him, while the Paladin who called looked openly concerned.
Shon's cheeks flushed, now feeling cool rather than warm. Another change... He cleared his throat, "No, Sir..." and when the Paladin's worried expression didn't let up, Shon added, "I've been resting all day."
"Three days..." Zihler muttered.
Shon met his eyes and the Squire smiled, but Shon couldn't tell if the expression seemed strained or not. He nodded anyway, taking his seat alone at the table by the window.
Books on their current subject of study were already laid out, and he pulled one forward, opening it without checking the title. As he read, he could hear the others occasionally whisper and even caught snippets of what they were saying,
"I found another one. Do you think this will be enough?" Thom asked.
"We have the rest of the hour; we should find all we can," Rerves answered. It didn't sound like they were studying, but Shon had missed three days of lessons; maybe they were working on an assignment... He went back to his reading. He would get any missed work tomorrow.
When the bell rang that would finally begin their last hour of free time, Shon closed his book. It would be best to just go to bed early; everyone seemed to think he should be resting anyway; they could talk after he got the sealing item... But he hadn't stood yet when his six closest friends jumped up, books in hand, and crowded around him, preventing him from leaving. From running away.
"We're glad you're okay." Rehlien blurted out.
"The Major General told us what happened," Baradin added.
Shon looked from him to Kefir and took in a sharp breath, "I'm..." he started to apologize, but Kefir interrupted with a broad smile,
"I'm fine. I even got a day off for it. I didn't need it though, they healed me up right away."
Rerves placed his book down on Shon's table, "It was just really surprising, you know? But hey! Now we know why you're so cold all the time."
Shon looked down at the massive tome on the table, not wanting to meet their eyes. He didn't know what to make of what they were saying. There was no way it was okay. How could they be alright with a dangerous magic user that could kill them all on accident...
"We found these. We thought they might make you feel a little better," Thom whispered, stacking his book on top of Rerves' and opening it to a page he'd marked with a ripped piece of scrap paper. It wasn't a textbook, it was a record book. Shon furrowed his brows down at the page, reading 'Sir Patrich, served 4876-4929, died 4955. Paladin of Hengist, General. Air Sorcerer...'
Shon looked up to find them all smiling down at him. Zihler set his book down over Thom's, opened to another personal record, "This one was a fire Sorcerer, and they're supposed to be the most destructive."
Rehlien took Baradin and Kefir's books and stacked them with his own beside the open records. He ran his fingers over the slew of bookmarks sticking out of the closed pages, "All Sorcerers and Paladins." Rehlien said.
"Master Daunas said you would be back in a few days, but just in case we wanted to find these for you," Thom explained in a rush, "You know... in case the officers or Mages needed to be convinced..."
Baradin cleared his throat before he spoke, clasping his hands behind his back, "We haven't found any ice Sorcerers yet, but they're also the rarest, so that really shouldn't be surprising."
"Yeah, and there are plenty of fire who are crazy dangerous even when they're trained," Kefir added quickly.
Shon could feel a burning in his eyes and blinked furiously, looking away from his friends. He wouldn't cry.. he wouldn't. "Thank you..." he managed to croak out, finally giving in and rubbing his eyes. None of them commented on his show of emotion, or the frost clouding his window.
Rerves took the seat across from him with a smile, "So, what type of familiar do you think you'll get?"
Shon managed to stop blinking enough to arch an eyebrow. Hadn't Ivelm said something about a familiar too?
"I bet you it'll be something really lame." Zihler laughed, "To balance Shon's badassness."
"Squire!" the Paladin librarian barked, "Pushups! Now!"
Zihler groaned, mumbling as he stepped back to perform the punishment, "How do they always do that?"
"Divine hearing," Rehlien snickered as Zihler started the pushups, "Probably only works for curses, though."
"You can join him," the Paladin called without looking up from his book, and Rehlien groaned, dropping down next to Zihler.
"Seriously though," Rerves said, ignoring the boys huffing and puffing through their punishment, "Familiars are animals, they're supposed to be even closer to their Sorcerer than a Paladin and their mount! Like an extension of yourself. You can see through their eyes and talk to them with your mind. It's awesome!"
Thom actually blushed, confessing, "We read up on it a bit over the last two days..."
They knew more about what he was than he did. Shon actually smiled, starting, "I don't..." but chittering, like a particularly loud squirrel, interrupted him. The Squires all swiveled their heads to look around, Rehlien and Zihler jumping to their feet with the Paladin, who stood so quickly his chair fell over. The chittering turned to chirping, and then to a purr, as Shon finally found what was making the noise.
On top of the bookshelf closest to the door, sat a tiny dragon.
The size of a large barn cat, its scales were mostly brown but had streaks and blotches of red and orange, like the few deciduous trees that still held their leaves in autumn. Its leathery wings were folded against its back and its front claws grasped the edge of the bookshelf. Its long tail, complete with a scorpion-like stinger, flicked back and forth, its sinuous neck held high as it surveyed the library.
Some of the Squires let slip breaths of wonder, and the little dragon seemed to preen at the attention, holding its head a little higher and purring even louder. The Paladin, however, stepped around his desk and commanded, "Stay back, Squires," before he started chanting. The little dragon tilted its head at the Paladin, as curious as the rest of them. A moment later, the knight's spell washed over them to fill the room, sending a shiver down Shon's spine and making more than one of the other Squires shudder.
The little dragon let out another string of chittering and hissed down at the Paladin, whose eyes went wide as he announced in a breath, "It's real."
"How did it get in?" a senior Squire asked. Shon started to stand but then fell back again as images flooded into his mind. He watched a window opening from outside the fortress, and saw himself lean out. Then the image shifted, and he saw himself digging under his bed for a new uniform and towel as the him that was watching slipped out the door. It shifted again, and he saw himself in the shower, mist billowing off his shoulders before he dug through the piles of clothes left on the bench. It shifted again, and he darted into the library and behind the bookshelf, watching as he, Shon, walked in and sat down at the little table.
Shon blinked and shook his head furiously to try and clear it. All the pictures had flooded in so fast that no one even had time to answer the question or pose their own, "I let it in..." Shon whispered, then looked at the Paladin, explaining quickly, "I didn't mean to. I left my window open to air out my room and..."
"It's okay, Squire," the Paladin was actually smiling, and the little dragon whistled, "They're goodly creatures, though elusive. I've never seen a live one." the dragon leaned forward on the bookshelf, crouching down on its front claws and wiggling its hindquarters before it leaped into the air, opening its wings to spread as wide as it was long. It glided a lap around the library then hovered in front of the Paladin, chittering again and flapping hard enough to blow the man's short hair back before flying right towards the group of Squires around Shon.
It brushed Baradin's head with its claws, the boy ducking as it swooped down to land on Shon's table. The dragon looked from the open books to Shon, then, before Shon could pull back, climbed up his arm and to his shoulder, purring hard enough to vibrate Shon too. It weighed considerably less than it looked like it should, though its claws were sharp enough to pierce through his clothes as it climbed. It brought its face right up to Shon's eye, and though he tried to pull away, it followed him with its long neck, rubbing its cheek along his face. The scales were smooth and lacked temperature, like being touched by a gloved hand. It nuzzled his cheek again, then down his neck and into his shirt.
Surprised, Shon tried to throw the dragon off, but it just dug its claws into his sleeves, chittering angrily then clawing its way around to his back before lifting itself up to drape over his head. "What..." Shon started, but the Paladin cut him off with a laugh.
"I think that answers your friends' questions, Squire."
Shon was too confused to even arch an eyebrow at the man, but Rerves apparently understood what he'd meant because he said, "But I thought only animals could be familiars, like cats and crows and stuff..."
The Paladin nodded but then shrugged, "That's usually the case, but sometimes, rarely, there will be a Sorcerer who gets something a bit more special, like a winged serpent, fairy dragon, or in this case," he nodded at Shon, "A pseudodragon."
The pseudodragon purred, vibrating Shon's head. The Squires all gaped slack-jawed in awe at it, and Shon reached up slowly. He wasn't even sure what he was going to do, pet it? Push it off? But before he'd even touched it, it lifted its head, stretching its long neck out and nuzzling into his hand, obviously not caring that his skin was colder now than it had ever been.
"Damn..." Zihler muttered in obvious disappointment, "I was really hoping it would be a toad so I would have something to make fun of..."
The little dragon's answering twitter almost sounded like a laugh.
***
She groaned, rolling over and nuzzling deeper into Her pillow. Except it didn’t smell like Her pillow. Her eyes flew open, and She sat up. Then fell back down. That was stupid. Ran and Brom had probably taken more blood than usual again… except She couldn’t remember them taking Her for samples. Not for weeks and weeks…
“It’s alright, you’re safe here,” the kindly voice of a man spoke from Her right, and She sat up again, more slowly this time. A stranger in white robes with a sword embroidered on the chest reached out to help Her up, but after touching Her back he pulled sharply away.
She was too confused to apologize for burning him. “Where?” She asked, looking around the room. Like the stranger, it was covered in white. White blankets, white rug, and white curtains hanging to either side of an open window. A window that looked out onto a blue sky. She gasped, scrambling from the bed and nearly tripping over Her white gown. Of course it was white. How in all the hells did they keep it all clean?
She shook Her head and rushed for the window. The man behind Her gasped, his chair scraping loudly as he stood to follow. She pressed Her hands on the cold glass, staring up into the sky, “I’m on an upper floor!?” She grinned excitedly over Her shoulder as the stranger stared at Her, mouth hanging open.
Turning back to the window, She used Her arm to wipe the fog from Her heat off the glass, letting Her gaze trail down. She didn’t see the treetops She expected. Not close anyway. Instead, the forest was beyond a wide clear field, which in turn was beyond a tall stone wall with people dressed in silver walking along its top. She stood on Her toes to look down through the window. Between the wall and Her was a courtyard full of more people swinging things that glinted in the sun.
This wasn’t the tower. None of those people wore robes except the nice stranger. She spun to him, “My treasures, where are they? Brom? Ran? Where…” She saw a flash of red, heard a pained bark, and smelled iron. She fell to Her knees, grasping Her chest and breathing hard, remembering bits and pieces. He killed them. He killed all of them. Then what? She couldn’t remember...
“You are in a training facility of the Temple of Hengist, Hamerfoss, in Clearhelm.” a new voice, deeper, less kind though not cruel, spoke from the doorway. Lifting Her head, She saw the new man wearing a crisp, white, uniform, with a sword hanging comfortably from his belt. Hengist… so that explained all the white.
The kind man in robes had rushed to Her but dared not touch Her. Wise. With Her head spinning so fast, there was no way She was controlling Her heat properly. “How long has she been awake?” the new man asked the kind one.
“She just woke up, Major General,”
“He killed them…” She whispered, squeezing Her eyes shut, pushing back the rage and sorrow, trying to fill in Her memory. What happened next?
“It will be alright. You're safe here,” the kind man said again.
She pulled Her own hair, lacing Her fingers into the golden strands and squeezing. What had happened? She had run down the hall, but how had She gotten out of Her room? There were strangers in Her tower. These men? She glared up at the brown-haired man who looked down at Her, his hands behind his back.
“Who are you? What did you do to the Mages?” She could feel the hair rise on the back of Her neck and a familiar tingling where the collar should be.
The Major General remained calm before Her building fury, saying only, “Calm down.” It was a command backed by magic. She felt the power flow over Her and try to settle on Her mind. She could almost sense the peace it promised but shook Her head, clearing it of the spell.
He could've used his magic to hurt Her. Perhaps not with the collar as the Archmages did, but in other ways. And yet, he hadn’t moved from his spot, his hands still behind his back. She looked again at the sword of Hengist at his side. She'd read all about the gods. Hengist was good and noble, all about self-sacrifice and protecting the weak… A fool, the Mages had said. And yet his Temple ruled this province. The Mages of Her tower would never work with the Temple of Hengist. Or any kingdom order…
She took a deep breath and let it out slowly. She didn’t need his help to calm down, not when She had something to focus on. She shoved Her grief to the back of Her mind. “How did I get here?” another image flashed in Her mind, fire all around, a white path, blue eyes.
The Paladin didn’t answer right away; instead, he motioned for the robed man - a Cleric? - to bring him a chair. She tilted Her head curiously at him, but he only sat down with a weary sigh, then gestured towards the bed, “Please, have a seat.”
She stood, returning to the bed and eyeing the door over his shoulder. He hadn’t locked it. “We saw smoke from the woods and found you in a burning tower.” the blood drained from Her face, “We have recovered several bodies from around the structure, but there were no other survivors.” he leaned forward, resting his elbows on his knees and fixing Her with a piercing stare, “What happened? What was going on in that tower?”
She brought Her feet onto the bed and hugged Her legs tight, “I don’t… I can’t remember…” a fire, the tower burning… But it was made of stone. Her fire couldn’t burn that hot… Could it?
“Sir Selibra,” the kindly Cleric sounded stern, crossing his arms and glaring down at the Paladin, “She has just woken up from what was obviously a terrible ordeal. Show some compassion.”
The Paladin, Selibra, actually looked ashamed, leaning back in his chair and clearing his throat, “I apologize, miss…” he drew out the last word, looking at Her expectantly. She tilted Her head. “What is your name?” he asked more clearly. She tilted Her head the other way. Were they going to play that game here too?
The Cleric hummed then said, “Please forgive him, miss, we are all very troubled by the events and deaths at the tower. The Major General merely got ahead of himself. If you could tell us your name, then we can let you rest and…”
“I don’t have a name.”
The two men blinked dumbly at Her, and She rolled Her eyes, “I knnnooowww,” She let Her legs fall back down, so She was sitting properly again, “But I don’t know it yet. As soon as I do, I'll tell you.” She assured them. The men exchanged looks as She glanced again out the window. Maybe She should've just told them what Brom and Ran called Her… But those weren’t names. They were descriptors. No better than ‘Firewyrm.’
If these Temple men were to be believed, everything was gone. She had no room, no books, no clothes, no treasures, and no name. What did She have? She pulled Her hair over Her shoulder and stared out the window as She stroked it. She had Her hair. They hadn’t cut it in months. She had Her body. She straightened Her posture, holding Her head high. And She had Her power—the fire crackling deep inside Her soul. The Mages had taken the first two. The third had destroyed them.
“You should rest,” Selibra stood, and Her eyes snapped back to him, “You can send for me when you feel ready to talk. Until then, focus on recovering your strength and your memories.”
He made it all the way to the door, even swung it open before She called out, “What are you going to do to me?”
Selibra turned back, his eyebrows raised in surprise. The Cleric placed a hand on Her shoulder, slowly and carefully, gauging how much of Her heat he could handle. She turned to him, and he let Her go. He'd held on longer than expected. “We will keep you safe, child.” the Cleric assured Her.
The Paladin grew stiff for a moment, then brought his right fist up to his chest, “By the sword of Hengist’s honor, we will safeguard your life and freedom,” Freedom? “Whatever injustices you endured there, you will find justice in the laws of Clearhelm.” She didn’t know what to say, and so, after an awkward moment of silence, Selibra turned for the door again and left.
She didn’t lay down. Instead, She walked back to the window. The view seemed to stretch on forever from so high up, higher than She'd ever remembered being before. Even when She used to climb the trees around Her tower.
Selibra hadn’t locked the door, but the Cleric bustled around behind Her, and the wall below Her clanked with armored knights. What was freedom anyway?
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2023.06.04 21:50 Some-Wrangler-2217 Leash pulling help and question about what equipment we should use (anxiety about not using harness)

Hi guys, posting here because I just need some guidance/outside perspective. We’re taking her to a trainer but wanted to ask here as well. Have a 1.5 year old Labrador retriever, very bad puller on the leash, we’ve recently decided to stop walking her outside the house until we improve her behavior (she also has issues with lunging/pulling on the leash when she sees another dog, has never shown aggression it seems more like excitement and desire to play, I stopped letting her near other dogs on walks bc of the lunging behavior which I hope isn’t making the situation worse because now she never gets to say hello,).
The method we have been using to train her has been to stop walking every time she begins to pull (she has a harness), wait for her to make eye contact/call her name and have slack in the leash/attention on me and then continue walking. It seemed like this was working and I was getting consistent slack in the leash however recently she will begin to pull again immediately as soon as I begin to walk again, it’s constant start and stop, and seems to be worsening as time goes on. Not giving eye contact when I call her name, only when I stop walking and she realizes she has to listen to keep moving forward. Her focus is definitely not on me, it’s on what she wants to get to next (she’s def tracking scents most of the time because her snout is consistently towards the ground when she’s walking), she never checks in with me on her own. My question is should we continue this method in the backyard to see if there is an improvement in her behavior or should we try a different method at this point?
Secondly, we have been walking her on a harness which I understand is contributing to the issue because it gives her way more power. However this is the confusion/concern that I have. The training videos I watch all say to train them on the leash with a regular collar around the neck for more control. I’m sure we would see fast results with this as the trainers show, and I am fine with doing that in my backyard, however when the time comes to eventually transition her to spaces outside of the yard, I would never trust her with only a regular collagentle lead or prong collar around her neck. I have so much anxiety about her slipping out because she has done it in the past with a regular collar and also one time with a step in harness. With the over the head harness I know she is safe/secure. I would never want to take her outside the house without her harness that I know she can’t slip out of, even if we get to the point where she is very well behaved/trained. I also fear her hurting her neck if she sees a trigger and gets excited, she doesn’t seem too have a good sense of self-awareness and I don’t want her to snap/hurt her neck. So my question is what equipment should I be training her with if my intention is to never let her walk outside the house without a harness on because I’m not convinced it would ever be 100% safe.
Thanks in advance and I apologize for this being so long I tried to condense it as best as I could.
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2023.06.04 21:48 LAthrowaway667899 Cutting off finances to prevent feeding addiction

NY. My friend filed for divorce from her addict husband. She has the kids and he conceded exclusive use of the marital home to her.
Her husband is now on a 10 day (so far) drug binge, spending thousands on drugs and hotels - using their savings account (which they both contributed to, but is in his name) and his new credit cards.
He lost his job after the divorce was filed, and he is not going to be able to find a job that pays as much as he was making. Addiction effectively ended his career.
The two had nearly the same individual salary last year.
Can money for child support be forced into something like escrow in a situation like this? How can we stop his frivolous spending? Is there a good way to force him into rehab - that would cost less than the crazy life he’s living right now!
Her lawyer advised to empty the joint account to prevent him from spending that at least. But he still has access to over $30k in savings (most of their money) and available credit cards (exclusively in his name).
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2023.06.04 21:47 a4d9 Addressing the overflow of diagnosis, mild and non-Scoliotic spine posts

Hey everyone, the mods and I have been talking and we've made some changes to the subreddit to address some recent issues, and I want to go over them and discuss it with all of you :)
As the subreddit has grown there has been a increase in the amount of "Asking for a Diagnosis" posts. These posts typically include people with non-Scoliotic spines, or extremely mild cases of Scoliosis. You can read more about the discussions the community has been having on this topic in this recent thread here.
After discussing this with the moderator team, we all agree the primary goal of the subreddit is to help as many people as possible. This includes people that are here asking for a diagnosis, people that are afraid they have Scoliosis (even if they don't actually have it), and people with mild cases of Scoliosis. I have discussed this topic many times before and made my stance very clear; as someone with severe Scoliosis that causes insecurities and chronic pain that will be with me every second of my life, both of which very nearly drove me to end my life, I believe that someone with a mild case of Scoliosis with no symptoms deserves just as much care and compassion as I do. I want this subreddit to embody that level of empathy and compassion for everyone with Scoliosis, not just for those who have severe Scoliosis like I do, or those who have even more severe circumstances like surgery. Nothing is gained by comparing our Scoliosis or the struggles that come along with it; we all deserve love and support.
At the same time, we also recognize that there's a better way to welcome and help everyone than the current system. We want the subreddit to be easily accessible to the people that use it the most, and foster discussions beyond pointing someone coming here for a diagnosis in the right direction. With these goals in mind, we've made a few changes.
The first is we've added a new rule;

  1. You have to actually have Scoliosis in order to ask for advice on your x-ray.
Please note that small asymmetry in the spine (10 degree curvature or less) is completely normal and common- no one's spine is perfectly symmetrical. Scoliosis is defined as a curvature that exceeds 10 degrees; if your curvature is 10 degrees or lower, you don't have Scoliosis.

We believe this will kill two birds with one stone. It will keep the subreddit clear from all of the non-Scoliotic x-ray posts asking "How bad is this?!", and at the same time it will answer the poster's question in the removal message;

Hello, moderator of Scoliosis here! Unfortunately I've had to remove your post because you're asking for advice on a non-Scoliotic spine. This means that to our eyes, your curvature(s) don't exceed 10 degrees, and therefor do not medically qualify as Scoliosis. Please note that small asymmetry in the spine (a 10 degree curvature or less) is completely normal and common- no one's spine is perfectly symmetrical. Scoliosis is defined as a curvature that exceeds 10 degrees; if your curvature is 10 degrees or lower, you don't have Scoliosis.
Please keep in mind that if you didn't include curvature measurements in your post, we're taking our best guess and estimating that your curvature(s) are 10 degrees or less. We are simply volunteers trying to keep the subreddit running smoothly, we are NOT doctors, and you should always consult a doctor for more accurate measurements, and you should NOT rely on our estimations.
If you only have normal asymmetry in the spine (Again, a 10 degree curvature(s) or less), treatment is only necessary and symptoms are only present in extremely rare circumstances, and you should consult your doctor about it.
If you have questions/concerns, please feel free to send a message to the mod team of Scoliosis.

With all of this in mind, we have also adjusted the removal message for rule #1, "No asking for a Diagnosis;"

Hi, moderator of Scoliosis here! Unfortunately the first rule of our subreddit bans asking for a diagnosis, so I've removed this post.
Typically people ask for a diagnosis on the subreddit after discovering their body is uneven. It's important to know it is completely normal and natural to be asymmetrical, and that no one is perfectly symmetrical. Asymmetry is a symptom of Scoliosis, but it does not guarantee you have it, and in most cases you cannot diagnose Scoliosis based on that alone. Even doctors who diagnose Scoliosis for a living ultimately rely on x-rays for a definitive diagnosis. Relying on the asymmetry symptoms is too inconsistent, and it does not reliably determine how severe the Scoliosis is, if it is even present. Chances are if you're worried you have Scoliosis there's enough symptoms to warrant getting checked out, the best thing you can do is make a doctors appointment.
We are aware that not everyone has access to affordable healthcare, your parents may be dismissive of the idea, and getting a diagnosis is not always easy. We want to help as much as we can, but ultimately we are not doctors, and due to the nature of Scoliosis there is no way for us to diagnose you here. If you are in this situation, please feel free to post here and talk to other redditors in similar situations on strategies to find a doctor near you and get checked for Scoliosis. It is also worth doing your own research to try and find financial aid, and there are plenty of other health-related subreddits on Reddit that might be able to help you further with that, and we're really sorry we can't help more.
If you have questions/concerns, please feel free to send a message to the mod team of Scoliosis.

We believe that these changes will address the current issues we're having, while still helping everyone that comes to the subreddit for help. Of course, if you have thoughts on these changes please feel free to discuss it below.
Thank you everyone for making this an inclusive safe space for anyone with Scoliosis!
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2023.06.04 21:43 stopthinking60 Hurricane Family

A long time ago...
The storm came out of nowhere. The winds howled, the rain poured, and the streets flooded. People ran for cover, but there was nowhere to go. The hotel was the only place left standing.
I was the operations manager, and I knew we had to do something. We opened our doors to everyone who needed shelter, and we didn't turn anyone away. We had food and water for everyone, and we even had backup generators to keep the power on.
The hotel was soon full, but more people kept coming. They had nowhere else to go. We converted the conference center into a makeshift camp, and we set up cots and blankets. We gave everyone food and water, and we did our best to make them feel safe.
It was a time of great fear and chaos, but it was also a time of great compassion. People came together to help each other, and we all worked together to get through this difficult time.
I was so proud of my team. They went above and beyond to help others, and they made a real difference in the lives of the people who came to our hotel.
The storm was a devastating event, but it also brought out the best in people. It showed us that we are capable of great things when we work together.
I will never forget the people who came to our hotel during the storm. They were the true heroes.
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