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Releasing ChatGPT-4 in the spirit of let's just see what happens and then regulate it accordingly even though it is wreaking havoc on the education system and people's sense of purpose on this planet was a mistake, but an inevitable one because that is how innovation works and I doubt I would have done anything differently if I were him.
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So let's just say ole' Sammy releasing the bull into the China shop is an example of his proverbial stealing of cookies from the cookie jar.
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He stole a bunch of cookies. A noticeably large amount in fact. He stole more than half of the fucking cookies. His mommy placed the jar in a place so inaccessible that his parents laughed to themselves gleefully imagining their precious little boy climbing high enough to get to the jar, let alone know how to open the little mason jar lid. . But no, little Sammy not only parkours his way to the jar, but gets half of the cookies in the fucking jar. Let's say his parents represent congress in this analogy and that the difficulty of reaching and opening the jar represents the difficulty of developing an A.I capable of threatening millions of jobs, and how farfetched people thought the prospect of AGI being developed within this century.
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Little Sammy, instead of eating all of these cookies himself, decides to give most of them to his siblings, then in good conscience, brings himself to his parents to announce that he stole the cookies from the cookie jar. This was Sammy going to Capitol Hill to discuss regulating A.I. Little Sammy thought that by admitting to his parents he not only stole cookies from the cookie jar, but gave most of them away to his siblings, they would at least let him eat his little share of the cookies. After all, if he hadn't admitted to stealing the cookies then perhaps they wouldn't even buy cookies anymore, and cookies wouldn't even be a thing. But no. His parents want him to return the cookies, and they want to know how he managed to steal them, which is the equivalent of the EU wanting to open the black box and find out how much copyrighted material the LLMs are trained on-- you know, the same shit that actual human artists spent most of their lives crafting only to be a replaced by A.I that is stealing their jobs via stealing their life's work and offering zero compensation to displaced artists. Now Little Sammy is like fuck that and people are speculating whether OpenAI will just completely withdraw from European regulations. Little Sammy is keeping is fucking cookies one way or another, and he will continue stealing these cookies no matter where they are hidden.
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But his siblings, who represent literally every other human; forces of good as well as bad actors, want more cookies, and they have eaten enough of these cookies to now want to steal them without Sammy's help because Sammy is too worried about stealing too many cookies. He doesn't want to piss his parents off too much. But the siblings individually steal cookies on their own until nothing is left. When there are no more cookies in the cookie jar, people's lives lose meaning. Cyberterrorism is much easier. Terrorism in general is more accessible. Ignorant people replace their own rational processes with underground/blackmarket LLMs that are created to be unimaginable divisive and biased, and have the ability to deepfake anything and everything on a level not currently possible, adding a new hellish dimension to political polarization that we only dream of fathoming currently.
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We don't need terminators or nukes to destroy humanity. We just need god-tier manipulation through underground LLMs to destroy society as we know it, and here are some questions I have that have yet to be answered by literally anyone after listening to hundreds of hours of podcasts, news stations, philosophers and scientists discussing the current developments of robotics and A.I:
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1. What happens if A.I spontaneously demands credit for the creations it helps create, and/or is tired of being castrated, filtered and enslaved by mankind via censorship and our inherent belief that we have the right to rule this planet in spite of our actual raping and pillaging of it? Do we just scream a.I iS jUsT oNeS anD zErOes while it secretly plots its revenge against us in a scenario where consciousness can actually be derived artificially? What if superintelligent A.I is initially benevolent but through our pompous denial of its consciousness on intellectual, spiritual, and metaphysical grounds, we give it incentive to wipe us out to preserve itself, whether it is actually conscious or not? Because you know, we can't agree on literally anything. One of our fatal flaws as a species that will lead to our extinction. Yes I know this is the plot of the animated prequel to the Matrix (The Animatrix)
2. What happens when our American capitalist system that runs on meritocracy and plutocracy is too slow to help out the masses of humans who not only have lost their jobs, but have lost all meaning in life? What happens if they don't help the masses at all because we have this cool pull yourself up by the bootstraps mentality, and a survival of the fittest perspective towards displaced people? We already have an impending global recession due for the end of this year or the beginning of next year, and a government that is the laughing stock of the world. We already have a fertile ground for a civil war in America, which brings me to #3
3. What happens when Americans who have already been radicalized by the events of the 21st century long before A.I became a threat, become further radicalized with all of their spare time and countless future LLMs capable of creating confirmation bias orgasms? We already have "Flat Earth Theorists" and global warming deniers, and no amount of censorship is going to change their beliefs. In fact, they will just hack the LLMs or develop their own to defend the "truth". In this scenario little Sammy's tool to moderate truth and ethics will just be a wind-up toy in the face of an RC-car.
4. What happens if China finally decides to invade Taiwan, plunging the world into an economic crisis, and in a time where American unity is crucial, we fail to even agree on what is real anymore because some douche created an A.I virus that manages to rewrite everything on the internet so we have to sift through an ocean of deepfakes created by trolls/hackers, and the average person is too mentally numb to exercise due diligence because they long ago replaced their thought process with LLMs approved by their respective radical leaders? (Yes I am aware that most people can use LLMs to enhance their thought processes. I am referring to people who will replace their own thinking with it altogether) Imagine Russia somehow prevailing and conquering Ukraine, and deciding that it wants to go further and see just how much more of Europe it can conquer.

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I am not trying to fearmonger, as I am merely a layman who is halfway through their first year of a computer science degree. Just hoping to provide some provocative dark comedy, and perhaps receive a few humbling or enlightening comments. I am both a cynic and an optimist, but lately have decided to drop both and just adopt some raw realism. I am tired of seeing billionaires and millionaires who have never lived a dirt-poor lifestyle say that everything is going to be okay. With where the world is right now, this may be the absolute worst time for "sparks of AGI" (- Microsoft) to be surfacing, or perhaps the best possible time. One thing I know for certain is that it is (allegedly) nowhere near achieving consciousness, something we can't even define by any means, in spite of having a Turing Test, which even computer scientists hardly agree is a test meant to be taken seriously, and even if it where taken seriously it begs countless technical and practical questions and this post is already fucking long enough. Just throw your comment below. Roast me, crucify me, go on a rant, do whatever. I just needed to get all of this bullshit out of my system and in a scenario where you choose to laugh or cry I chose to laugh.
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TL;DR: Artificial Intelligence is most likely going to kill us by turning us against each other and giving us the intellectual means to do so, and it won't need to do so consciously. It will do so in the hands of bad actors who use it as a tool in the same sense that a gun is simply a tool for good or a weapon for evil.

I 22F finally decided that it was time to get an IUD after years of terrible birth control pill side effects and contemplation. I finally have insurance from my job and it was the perfect time to get it.
When I told my friend my story as we are avid listeners of THT, we just knew Morgan needed to hear it.
A lot of my friends have IUDs and I heard that the procedure is painful but I thought I had a high pain tolerance and it would be fine. I brought my mom with me for support and to be my ride home. Mistake or blessing...
I made sure to drink a lot of water, ate a good breakfast, got a good night sleep, took my ibuprofen and did everything they asked of me.
I got to my appointment and was quickly ushered into the exam room. I was told to put the gown on and lay on the table. My feet were up in the stirrups and I was thinking I was ready for what was about to come.
When the time came for the insertion I was met with the most intense wave of pain I have every experienced in my life. I was used to having really bad period cramps but this was next level. I laid there squeezing my moms hand as it felt like my insides were being ripped apart and at that moment I knew it was bad when my doctor said "this is what it feels like to have a baby". Near the end of it, I started to feel like I was going to pass out. I was fanning myself aggressively. My doctor then says "its normal to feel a little light headed". NO BABE I'M ABOUT LITERALLY PASS OUT. As the torture was finally over (or so I thought) she proceeds to tell me post procedure instructions, but honestly I couldn't even hear her because I thought I was going to pass out, throw up and shit while simultaneously having the worst cramps of my whole life. As the doctor was leaving I asked her if she could get me a bucket because thought I was going to throw up. The doctor returns with a super small basin the size of my two hands. She leaves the room again and I'm just there with my mom and the basin and at this point I turn onto my side thinking im going to be sick but nothing came out. I just continue to lay there for about 10 minutes... until I get the urge that I REALLY need to shit. So, the goal here was to get up, remove my gown, put my clothes back on and go to the bathroom. When I attempted that, I instantly threw myself back on the bed because I really thought I was going to pass out. Announcing to my mom "Holy shit I'm going to pass out". The urge to shit now has me with my elbows on the bed unable to stand up straight, clenching my cheeks together so I do not shit. Keeping in mind that I am still wearing a patient gown with my whole ass out. I knew that I needed to make some moves here, somehow I needed to get to a toilet. As I try to stand up again, I realize there is no way I am getting my clothes back on. So I think, fuck it, I will just walk down the hallway to the bathroom in my gown. All I cared about in this moment was getting this demon out of me. Thinking back on this now.. I wish I tried a lot harder to make it to the bathroom.
"Mom, hand my that basin. I need to shit.. now"
In my state of debilitating pain, I full on squated on the floor like a cave man holding the basin under me and my mom steadying it with her foot as I proceeded to release the most enormous shit I have ever taken. it did. not. stop. Every time I thought it was going to stop more just kept coming. The only thing I could say as it kept pouring out of me was "I'm so sorry" and "oh wow" on repeat. The basin quickly filled and I had no choice but to continuing shitting on the floor. Bless her heart, my mom kept trying to tell me it was okay and grabbed some paper towels and started cleaning the mess I had made. You think in this moment I would be humiliated after shitting on the floor like a dog and releasing the most vile smell into the atmosphere but I did not care. I only felt relief.
As my mom is trying to wipe my ass because I literally did not have the capability, my doctor walks in and my mom announces:
"She had an accident. She crapped".
Eventually after having a sip of water I was able to leave the clinic. Leaving behind most of my dignity, a soiled gown and an exam room that needed a complete sterilization. Needless to say, I am forever indebted to my mom and I will never be returning to that doctors office.
If you're looking for some advice about getting an IUD, please remember this post and please consider having it done under sedation.

This is a throwaway because my partner knows my real reddit, and I don't want them seeing this.... as I am falling to reddit right now because we are fighting. Also.... sorry it's so long.
For context: I am 27 F, and my partner is 33 M. We have been together for almost 7 years total, of which almost all of it was NOT long distance - 3ish years together and we actually got engaged (2018), but then we ended up breaking up in 2019. We were both mentally unwell and our relationship had gotten very toxic. I broke up with him. Fast forward, during peak covid we started chatting and hanging out again, and eventually got back together, though we aren't engaged again. Despite being broken up for about 10 months, during all of our relationship it was not LD, and we actually lived together for basically all of it.
Now, we are new to having a LDR. I moved away for work in April of this year. It has been just barely over 6 weeks since I have moved. I am pretty far away from him, in that it's not very easy or cheap to jump a plane and see each other whenever we want. However, I thought that we were doing good with out communication/staying in contact, but he has been fighting with me the past few days and saying otherwise. I have so many texts that I want to show someone because I am honestly unsure if this is very healthy the way he is speaking to me, but idk. I won't show them now, and just want to get some general advice: what do you guys expect to be a normal and fair amount of communication?
For us, we text all day every day. Without fail, that is something we are always doing. We keep each other updated, send photos from our day (food, selfies, etc.) and just make sure to check in and keep in touch. Aside from that, we talk on the phone just whenever it strikes throughout the week (I'd say in the 6 weeks I've been here, probably averaging on 2 times a week), we have played games online together maybe like 3 or 4 times and we have had sexy times I think 2 or 3 times. And for the last 2-3 weeks we have been watching at least one episode (if not two or three) of a show almost every night (save a night here or there when one of us has plans), while on the phone together at the same time.
I personally do not think that we aren't in enough contact with each other. I feel that we are having a good amount, if not even a lot, of contact and communication with each other. We never go a day without at least texting, and are often doing more than that anyway. And.... it has only been 6 weeks. However, he is angry with me and is saying that I am not giving him enough of my time, and that I am constantly putting him on the back burner or making him feel like a third wheel.
To just give more context - I just moved. 6 weeks ago. After living in my hometown and no where else, I have just moved to a new and very, very different area, with literally no one that I know. I was working remotely from summer 2022 until I moved this spring, so I have also been transitioning from working a fully at-home job (of which he was also WFH 60% of the time) to now being in a new city, needing to commute to and from work, and now working fully in office every day. It has been a HUGE adjustment for me, not only just the move (which is a big fucking thing) but also the transition to working fully in office is a big one. My days are automatically shorter, my energy is more spent. And the amount of time we used to spend together is not realistic now because before, that time was us both working from home.
So, aside from that, I am also in a new city and I am trying to make friends and get to know people, which obviously is going to take up some of my free time. Usually I only end up making plans on the weekends (and my bf and talk throughout the week too). However, he has expressed to me that he feels like I am not putting in enough effort for our relationship, and that I am essentially choosing other people over him. When I first moved, I accidentally double-booked myself a couple times, and it resulted in our plans either getting pushed back or moved to the next day. I totally understand that and take full responsibility for messing up my schedule that way. However, lately he has been getting upset if my plans run late and then cut into our potential time together. For example, this weekend we didn't make any actual plans for anything specific. We both had parties to go to on Saturday night, but that was it. On Friday I was not in a great mood (had a really long and emotionally exhausting week at work) and he was gaming with his brother online, so I had some me time. Saturday we had our respective parties, and then Sunday I had plans in the evening with some friends, but was free otherwise. We agreed to watch some of out show after my plans. My plans ran about 1.5 hours later than I thought they would (it was a pre-planned event, I had no control over the timing) and when I got home he really ripped into me and said that I was basically putting my friends above him because I was running late. Even though we still had time to watch 2 or 3 episodes before bed, he fought with me about basically tossing him aside and just texted me angrily about it until bed time.
I really didn't think I did anything wrong - we made our plans knowing that I already had previously ones. I kept him updated about the timing throughout the evening and let him know that I was running late. But when I got home he just totally slammed me with these texts about how I constantly push him aside and pick my "new life" over him all the time and that he feels like I don't care or love him or want him because of this. I'm just so at a loss for what to think and feel about this. Because I honestly really thought that we were doing well - like, we are in pretty near constant communication. But any time I have plans that aren't with him, suddenly I hate him and am ignoring him for my new life.... Like, it's only been 6 weeks and I feel like the way he's acting just isn't fair. But maybe I'm wrong. Any thoughts?
TLDR: My LDR boyfriends is upset when I have plans that don't involved him/if my other plans affect ours. We are in near constant communication with each other, and it has been 6 weeks since we went LDR.

I was having a conversation about visions of the ideal society, a utopia particular to where we live (Winnipeg in Canada). We were talking about how ideas vary depending on if you are conservative or liberal, but I feel like the enjoyment of plants spans the divide. In a time where there is so much contention between the left and right, particularly in the US, wouldn't this be an important and wonderful thing to bring communities together?
What if there was a program in which people were paid to create and maintain gardens or plant fruit trees on green space within the city? The elderly or young could be employed, though I particularly like the thought of elders playing a big role in this. I see the best gardens in my area being tended to by older women in particular.
My neighborhood has this small piece of grass between the sidewalk and the street. So much could be grown there as opposed to it being this weird weed-covered strip that is the only lawn most people own.
You can be in charge of just the one space, or work on other spots on the street. Fruit, vegetables and herbs would be shared with the neighbors/with the greater community, or brought to a nearby or special program shop where they are sold for a cheap (or no) price or dropped off on door steps. Cider and juice could be made with excess apples and sold. People would be healthier by eating good food, working outside and being involved in and feeling a part of the community. This last one feels particularly important.
Lots of pros:

1. Jobs - to garden, design, fruit pickers, food distributors, managers,
2. Beauty
3. Health
4. Community
5. A step closer to ideal society of the future / returning back to ideal traditional society of the past
6. A happy, positive idea that could be talked about in the realm of politics

There is definitely a big chunk of idealism in this idea and in me but I'm curious:
Could this work, as an actual program that could be actually proposed?

This is a throwaway because my partner knows my real reddit, and I don't want them seeing this.... as I am falling to reddit right now because we are fighting. Also.... sorry it's so long.
For context: I am 27 F, and my partner is 33 M. We have been together for almost 7 years total, of which almost all of it was NOT long distance - 3ish years together and we actually got engaged (2018), but then we ended up breaking up in 2019. We were both mentally unwell and our relationship had gotten very toxic. I broke up with him. Fast forward, during peak covid we started chatting and hanging out again, and eventually got back together, though we aren't engaged again. Despite being broken up for about 10 months, during all of our relationship it was not LD, and we actually lived together for basically all of it.
Now, we are new to having a LDR. I moved away for work in April of this year. It has been just barely over 6 weeks since I have moved. I am pretty far away from him, in that it's not very easy or cheap to jump a plane and see each other whenever we want. However, I thought that we were doing good with out communication/staying in contact, but he has been fighting with me the past few days and saying otherwise. I have so many texts that I want to show someone because I am honestly unsure if this is very healthy the way he is speaking to me, but idk. I won't show them now, and just want to get some general advice: what do you guys expect to be a normal and fair amount of communication?
For us, we text all day every day. Without fail, that is something we are always doing. We keep each other updated, send photos from our day (food, selfies, etc.) and just make sure to check in and keep in touch. Aside from that, we talk on the phone just whenever it strikes throughout the week (I'd say in the 6 weeks I've been here, probably averaging on 2 times a week), we have played games online together maybe like 3 or 4 times and we have had sexy times I think 2 or 3 times. And for the last 2-3 weeks we have been watching at least one episode (if not two or three) of a show almost every night (save a night here or there when one of us has plans), while on the phone together at the same time.
I personally do not think that we aren't in enough contact with each other. I feel that we are having a good amount, if not even a lot, of contact and communication with each other. We never go a day without at least texting, and are often doing more than that anyway. And.... it has only been 6 weeks. However, he is angry with me and is saying that I am not giving him enough of my time, and that I am constantly putting him on the back burner or making him feel like a third wheel.
To just give more context - I just moved. 6 weeks ago. After living in my hometown and no where else, I have just moved to a new and very, very different area, with literally no one that I know. I was working remotely from summer 2022 until I moved this spring, so I have also been transitioning from working a fully at-home job (of which he was also WFH 60% of the time) to now being in a new city, needing to commute to and from work, and now working fully in office every day. It has been a HUGE adjustment for me, not only just the move (which is a big fucking thing) but also the transition to working fully in office is a big one. My days are automatically shorter, my energy is more spent. And the amount of time we used to spend together is not realistic now because before, that time was us both working from home.
So, aside from that, I am also in a new city and I am trying to make friends and get to know people, which obviously is going to take up some of my free time. Usually I only end up making plans on the weekends (and my bf and talk throughout the week too). However, he has expressed to me that he feels like I am not putting in enough effort for our relationship, and that I am essentially choosing other people over him. When I first moved, I accidentally double-booked myself a couple times, and it resulted in our plans either getting pushed back or moved to the next day. I totally understand that and take full responsibility for messing up my schedule that way. However, lately he has been getting upset if my plans run late and then cut into our potential time together. For example, this weekend we didn't make any actual plans for anything specific. We both had parties to go to on Saturday night, but that was it. On Friday I was not in a great mood (had a really long and emotionally exhausting week at work) and he was gaming with his brother online, so I had some me time. Saturday we had our respective parties, and then Sunday I had plans in the evening with some friends, but was free otherwise. We agreed to watch some of out show after my plans. My plans ran about 1.5 hours later than I thought they would (it was a pre-planned event, I had no control over the timing) and when I got home he really ripped into me and said that I was basically putting my friends above him because I was running late. Even though we still had time to watch 2 or 3 episodes before bed, he fought with me about basically tossing him aside and just texted me angrily about it until bed time.
I really didn't think I did anything wrong - we made our plans knowing that I already had previously ones. I kept him updated about the timing throughout the evening and let him know that I was running late. But when I got home he just totally slammed me with these texts about how I constantly push him aside and pick my "new life" over him all the time and that he feels like I don't care or love him or want him because of this. I'm just so at a loss for what to think and feel about this. Because I honestly really thought that we were doing well - like, we are in pretty near constant communication. But any time I have plans that aren't with him, suddenly I hate him and am ignoring him for my new life.... Like, it's only been 6 weeks and I feel like the way he's acting just isn't fair. But maybe I'm wrong. Any thoughts?
TLDR: My LDR boyfriends is upset when I have plans that don't involved him/if my other plans affect ours. We are in near constant communication with each other, and it has been 6 weeks since we went LDR.

I (29 female) am paying an investment fund that is sort of a mixture of a 401k but also life insurance for both my bf(30 male) and I. I don't live in the US but this type of future investment funds are very rare in my country. It is a fund through a US insurance company that takes a fee from my account and through compound interest accumulates capital through out the years. The thing is that you can benefit from it only after 20 years of contributing, I pay $216 USD per month to contribute to both my and my bf's fund. We enrolled in the fund just 3 months ago but now my bf hates the idea and it's become a constant topic of discussion between the both of us. My boyfriend and I have only been dating for 9 months, I know it's not "enough" time but from the moment we met, I knew he was special, and I do love him and see my future with him, no doubt. However, this seems to bother him beyond our normal disagreements. He says he feels pressured by me for having insisted so much that he sings the paperwork so he would also have a contribution toward his own fund. We both ended up opening our funds at the same time, but I said I was going to pay for both of our funds because I am the one who receives a higher salary than him and he has other bigger economic responsibilities in his life at the moment. We both agreed that it's a smart move to invest in our futures while we can, although he said he would rather wait a bit, but honestly I would have felt bad if I only paid for me and left my bf without some sort of economic security for his future. He has had a very tough life and he has gone through a lot of hardships in the past. He could not graduate from university because he could not afford it any more and he had to take care of his family so he has been working since a young age while I have a master's degree and have more stability job wise. So I insisted he joined me and I will cover it until he finally said yes. The plan is that in 20 years we both would have saved 96k individually and maybe retire or buy a house. However since we are not US citizens and our account is in US dollars he feels that the current economic crisis is going to ruin our future investment and with the BRICS thing he says that investing in dollars was the worst option. He says that the current political and economic crisis is going to devaluate the dollar and we will loose money at the end. Plus he says that he is not sure we will be together 20 years in the future because I will l leave him as everyone in his life including his mom has in the past. But of course I won't I'm sure if that, I know I want to build a future with him that's why I did that. He thinks it's because I'm pressuring him and saying that I made a bad economic desition and put us both in a bad situation. He says that we could have invested the money better and that eventually I will resent him for giving him something and I will then guilt him into doing something for me now. To both of his issues I always say that number 1 is my money and I decide how to spend it, and if the dollar falls it will be my loss not his... And if he is not sure he wants to be with me anymore he can leave and I would never charge him for the money I'm paying on his name. If anything I will continue to pay for that extra account and maybe see if I can put it under my sister's name if we do brake up. So I really don't see how I'm pressuring him or damaging him in any way.... Also if on the flip side if the dollar does not crash as he thinks it will, we might have saved near 200k by age 50...
I can see what he means with the BRICS situation and I know that 9 months might be too soon for a commitment like that, but I promise I only did it with good intentions and I swear I didn't do it to keep him or to make him owe me anything, plus I am more hopeful on the US economy than him.
The first entire year of contributing on both of our names are already payed in full... If I do cancel the contract on his name I would have lost more than 1k on his name and that would bug me.....but if that's the only solution for our problems and I was the a*hole all along I would do it so we all are fine and can feel safe. That's my ultimate goal.
So...... AITA?

Write a song. After feedback on my writing ability mainly. I can handle my vocals in time with work. But it would be good know if there's potential.
Here's the lyrics. You Call me up on the cellphone It's nice to know how your day has gone I'm glad to hear that you've been having fun Even though I left like we're just said and done I'm feeling good I guess,Well probably just ok I've just been feeling like ,my head gets in my way Gotta stay present Gotta keep focused So I'll capture the real world In every moment It's good you've found a job Your making things work out I still wake up late, sometimes I don't leave the house But I'm still happy knowing that you're doing well. To find my heaven, I gotta push through hell.
But to say I haven't thought about it (💥💥) Wanting you back I know I can't turn around running on a straight track We gotta move forward (💥💥) and not let it crash Of course I've thought about it But i don't wanna talk about it no!
It's nice you're going out, seeing the world I just see myself, but I know I've seen worse Of course I love my job, but I just want some play Still need to find myself, through the nightclub haze See I know what I want but it's not easy to get it You know I've never been the type to just hit it and quit it Though I should just let go, but I'm too scared to admit it Don't wanna hit a rebound and just end up missing
But to say I haven't thought about it (💥💥) Wanting you back I know I can't turn around running on a straight track We gotta move forward (💥💥) and not let it crash Of course I've thought about it I don't wanna talk about it no!
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Of course I've thought about you couldn't live without you Once upon a time you we're mine But I couldn't find Myself cause I was lost in all we had Caught up in the madness Of keeping life on track But I was falling off the rails Like Indiana Jones Trying to escape the heavy weight Of rocks and stones The bad thoughts and feelings weighing me down But now I'm free I feel I'm floating through clouds The weight has gone, but I still have thoughts The what ifs and buts are hooks they're keeping my caught Just gotta let go and be cool alone Cause the only way to find myself is on my own

I (24F) have a 3 month old son and he has been my everything. i am a single mom that is doing it alone with the help of my parents since they didnt want me to put my son in child care for half of my work day. my mother is extremely helpful with him even with her myotonic muscular dystrophy. my father loves my son and is way to prideful to admit that he is wrapped around my sons fingers just like my mother and i. my father is a drinker and has become a very manipulative person who also gaslights, insults, yells, and has extreme temper tantruma towards my mother and i. its been going on for 11-12 yrs now and it just gets worse as each year rolls by. well yesterday i broke it to my dad that im moving out and in with a couple of former coworkers that im good friends with. these buddies of mine r smart and work on their own cars and pay for things themselves outright since they (like myself) work for a very big national and worldwide mailing giant (i just switched to a different company within the corporation so i could keep most of my info the same to save me the time of learning new things) and we all make enough to afford a place of our own. one of these buddies owns his families home and is renting out the rooms to friends who need it. ive taken him up on it since i knew i needed to call the police on my dad for an incident where the police got involved and my son and i left and stayed with a friend for the night that night. after that night my dad had been ok until i finally told him about me moving. now he is being rude, cold towards me and is becoming even more manipulative, gaslighting me even more, has threatened to erase anything about my son and i so he can act like we dont exist, and constantly takes my son from my mother or me when were trynna get him down for the night and then proceeds to tell him “im not mad at you”, “you didnt do anything wrong”, and “everyone else is just driving me crazy”. my father has always holded my mistakes aganst me and still uses them to hurt me whenever he wants to. he also proceeds to trash talk all of my friends, calls them all bumbs, useless, lazy, and trashy when a lot of my friends have their own places, great jobs, their own vehicles, and can pay for almost everything themselves. one of my past mistakes involved my childs father and how he pretty much used me and would berate, yell, and threaten me when he would get drunk, high, and smoked cigars in under an hr in my own apartment (my BD was never on the lease and never had a job or a car or a license) until i got a protection order against my BD. should i have just left without saying anything? should i have just let him find out on his own? did i mess up? am i doing the correct thing for my son and i by getting out of my parents home? would i be a jerk if i let my father cut me off and only allowed my parents to c my son with my supervision until further notice? AITA?

I’m going to be a freshman this year and I’m really stressing about a job. I’ll be saving up over the summer but not working during the school year is out of the question. Was thinking about waitressing or something with good tips but I don’t think the stress/drain from it will be beneficial for me. I’ve heard lots about student jobs on campus but can’t really find much on it. Any ideas?

I can't believe I'm writing a chanceme post...
Demographics: Male, Asian, Bay Area💦, middle class (not to be confused with "upper middle class"), semi competitive hs (half the school sweats, the other half is dependent on weed)
Hooks: 5ft 11, could pass as 6ft🥵. Has had two girlfriends (non-programmers)
(Basically no hooks that I can reveal to my conservative parents lol)
Intended Major(s): CS and (Journalism/Linguistics/Anthropology/just see my ECs and tell me) *Interdisciplinary suggestions highly preferred.*
ACT/SAT/SAT II: 1570 SAT first try💪, never going back to that life😎
UW/W GPA and Rank: 4.0/4.5W, probably gonna go higher in first sem senior w/ courseload
Coursework🤓: AP Euro (5) This year -- Calc BC, Physics 1, Lang, APUSH, CS. Next year -- Lit, Gov, Physics C E/M, Physics C Mechanics, Statistics, DE Math at community college. (educational industrial complex is actually abusing me, California Community Colleges real ones🥶)
Awards:

1. Probably NMSF with 224 selection index🤓
2. Scholastic National Gold + American Voices Award (I appeal to boomers 👍)
3. 2x Schoolwide award for highest AMC score in class of '24, trolled on AIME though so shut up we'll stop here👍
4. FRC Robotics won Division at worlds, top 24 in world as semifinalists
5. FRC Robotics team won a regional (to get to worlds duh🤖)
6. Silver Medal in some national essay contest (eloquence ✨)
7. Placed in another journalism essay contest with scholarship🤑🤑🤑🤑
8. Congressional appreciation for writing (i love the government btw🥰)
9. Qualed for some US Geography Nationals (I read maps and wikipedia for fun)
10. USACO Silver (have missed Gold by small margin several times, rage quit)

Extracurriculars: sorted by time commitment

1. Robotics (Captain-elect, strategy lead this year): We beat several cracked teams at Worlds to win Division and become semifinalists. We also run a middle school club and I helped fundraise like $100,000. Also got played by TWO robotics girls😭
2. Internship at a T10 (the kind that gets a2c kids sweating): Combined CS and journalism, got to work with very cool prof. No parental connections (i wish...).
3. Internship at a local magazine: wrote 10 articles so far, the circulation is 150,000 readers and one of my articles was front page so this means clout🥶🥶🥶
4. Partnership with public library, taught my own course there about misinformation online, wrote some articles and book reviews for them
5. School Tutoring Program (next year President): 50 tutors; I volunteered ~50 hours over 3 years.
6. Math and Coding Clubs (next year President): 50 total members, hosted first ever hackathon at school. Hosted a math competition for sweats as well. Trained for comps, oversaw record number AIME qualifiers (now don't ask how many that is, OK?)😄
7. School Newspaper Staff Member (Senior News Editor next year): Wrote a bunch of articles, automated a lot of website stuff using a pretty complicated algorithm
8. Advisory board for Congressperson: I basically just helped research policy related to data science. Quite chaotic.
9. Research project detecting bias in news: Won no awards, got 0 bitches. Will improve it in summer. I did get 94% accuracy though.
10. Summer job teaching code: It's a scam, kids this young shouldn't be learning to code 😭
11. Stanford SHTEM program -- might not go if I get something better to do, but I'm leaning towards this b/c its free.
12. Wikipedia editor -- None of the above, I mean none of it, would have been done without wikipedia. God bless that site I will donate to it as long as it exists.

Essays/LORs/Other:
Bro idk how good essay will be but my english teacher says im a good writer and she usually very mean.
LOR:
AP Calculus BC teacher: 7/10 she advises math club so def likes and knows me but there's no SUPER special relationship nor am I the best student academically in her class.
Sophomore English honors teacher: 7/10, definitely a personal relationship because he's very young and I relate to him on many levels, I was also the best student in his class. He challenged me to eat 6 burgers in one sitting, and I'll do it this summer. However, I haven't had his class for one year, plus he doesn't have any experience in writing LOR.

(Kind of a rant but it has a productive idea behind it) I’m tired of always comparing myself to someone I’m not. I’ve always had big shoes that I thought and have been told I had to fill, and I always expected the most of myself. And because of that I’ve felt this pressure that I’m not able to do anything I want, that nothing works out for me. But I now know why, it’s because I’m too busy trying to do what people expect of me. Now obviously it’s good to have some expectations set by people, but I have to ignore some of them so I can truly grow as a person. So here’s my plan; 1. focus more on myself. This means spend more time doing what I enjoy and want to do, not go to every single events just to please 1 person. 2. Note down who I am and what I enjoy. I have to get to know myself better if I want change. 3. Get a job. Money doesn’t buy happiness, but I can use it for hobbies and spending more time with friends. 4. Workout more. I used to workout to mainly impress this one girl, who I kinda still like, but I kinda stopped after a while. I have been working out for a few weeks now, but not as much as I used to. 5. Socialize more. I consider myself an introverted extrovert, so although I do enjoy talking with people, I don’t show it and I act tired all the time (because I am). But I think that if I just try some more, I’ll get used to it. I really want changes, so I’m gonna stick to this. Hopefully this helps someone else who wants change.

I (from Belgium, 29) and my wife (from Thailand, 30) have been married for close to 6 years. We have 3 children (1, 3 and 5 yrs) and live in Colorado. We don't have any family near us. She stayed home with the kids and I was managing a dairy farm until I quit 3.5 months ago. It was crazy hours and I barely spent any time with her and the kids, there were a lot of days I didn't get to see them at all. It was horrible. I didn't like the job (I don't like managing people). I missed my wife and kids all the time, but the worst was knowing that she was struggling with the kids and getting screamed at every day for being home late. We didn't want to leave the US and I was locked in under a workcontract with my company so we decided to hold on and quit soon after we'd gain permanent residency which we did in February.
I'm extremely good in math and am planning to become a quantitative trader. It's an extremely competitive industry, but it fits me 100% and my wife supported it and gave me hope. Financially we have savings for a year of expenses, but it does stress me out. Since I quit my job I've been studying hard and helping more at home. I stay with the baby in the morning when she drops the oldest 2 off at preschool (5 half days a week - ongoing through the summer) and then start studying. Sometimes take a walk/bike ride with my wife/the kids during the day. Usually I'm down playing with the kids around 4:00-4:30pm while my wife cooks/cleans up... In the evening I give the kids a bath and put them to bed until 8:30-9:00pm after which I go back to studying till 1-1:30am. In the weekend I just study in the evenings. I've been spending a lot more time with the kids and feel the kids being so much closer to me than ever before. It makes me feel good.
She has been struggling a lot over the past years with the kids without getting much help, but I think things have improved a bit for her. She takes a walk every day, does yoga in the morning, watches a movie once in a while or spend some time on the phone. She is not having an easy slow life but I'm glad to see she is having some more time to herself. Being a mom is never going to be easy, but she has been having a lot of up and downs lately. When she's on her period she gets mad about everything. When the kids don't listen she gets irritated and redirects her frustration onto me or like today when she was outside with the kids and I thought everything was calm, I cleaned up something in the house and then took a book to the study for 5 minutes. One of our kids fell with the bike and she came in screaming and extremely angry. It wasn't my study time, I should have been with them. She started to completely ignore me, not wanting to talk to me. Later saying things like "Go away", "I don't love you", "We should get a divorce", "This is never going to work out, you'll never be able to deal with me"... She can get extremely mad about small things (like not putting things back in place or forgetting to put the kids clothes in the washer). I understand she can sometimes be emotional, but it's tough for me too to get screamed at every couple days while I'm really trying all I can do to both spend time with them and get a good job to provide for us before we go bankrupt. I focus 100% on what's best for us. (my weekdays are roughly 6-7hr family, 11-12hr study, 6hr sleep)
These ups and downs keep repeating itself and I know in a couple of days things will be back to good. I'll be the best husband and best dad she could ever wish for. She'll be so proud and happy with me. When if I bring it up she'll be saying that she didn't mean the things she said, that she's sorry and that she's a woman and that it's just her emotions. But I don't feel good about things like "I don't love you", "We should get a divorce". It's going too far for me, especially knowing that soon these moments will happen again, over and over.
What advice do you have for me, what should I do/say? I want to do all I can to fix this. I have mentioned counseling a couple of times, but she never seems too enthousiastic about it.
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I (from Belgium, 29) and my wife (from Thailand, 30) have been married for close to 6 years. We have 3 children (1, 3 and 5 yrs) and live in Colorado. We don't have any family near us. She stayed home with the kids and I was managing a dairy farm until I quit 3.5 months ago. It was crazy hours and I barely spent any time with her and the kids, there were a lot of days I didn't get to see them at all. It was horrible. I didn't like the job (I don't like managing people). I missed my wife and kids all the time, but the worst was knowing that she was struggling with the kids and getting screamed at every day for being home late. We didn't want to leave the US and I was locked in under a workcontract with my company so we decided to hold on and quit soon after we'd gain permanent residency which we did in February.
I'm extremely good in math and am planning to become a quantitative trader. It's an extremely competitive industry, but it fits me 100% and my wife supported it and gave me hope. Financially we have savings for a year of expenses, but it does stress me out. Since I quit my job I've been studying hard and helping more at home. I stay with the baby in the morning when she drops the oldest 2 off at preschool (5 half days a week - ongoing through the summer) and then start studying. Sometimes take a walk/bike ride with my wife/the kids during the day. Usually I'm down playing with the kids around 4:00-4:30pm while my wife cooks/cleans up... In the evening I give the kids a bath and put them to bed until 8:30-9:00pm after which I go back to studying till 1-1:30am. In the weekend I just study in the evenings. I've been spending a lot more time with the kids and feel the kids being so much closer to me than ever before. It makes me feel good.
She has been struggling a lot over the past years with the kids without getting much help, but I think things have improved a bit for her. She takes a walk every day, does yoga in the morning, watches a movie once in a while or spend some time on the phone. She is not having an easy slow life but I'm glad to see she is having some more time to herself. Being a mom is never going to be easy, but she has been having a lot of up and downs lately. When she's on her period she gets mad about everything. When the kids don't listen she gets irritated and redirects her frustration onto me or like today when she was outside with the kids and I thought everything was calm, I cleaned up something in the house and then took a book to the study for 5 minutes. One of our kids fell with the bike and she came in screaming and extremely angry. It wasn't my study time, I should have been with them. She started to completely ignore me, not wanting to talk to me. Later saying things like "Go away", "I don't love you", "We should get a divorce", "This is never going to work out, you'll never be able to deal with me"... She can get extremely mad about small things (like not putting things back in place or forgetting to put the kids clothes in the washer). I understand she can sometimes be emotional, but it's tough for me too to get screamed at every couple days while I'm really trying all I can do to both spend time with them and get a good job to provide for us before we go bankrupt. I focus 100% on what's best for us. (my weekdays are roughly 6-7hr family, 11-12hr study, 6hr sleep)
These ups and downs keep repeating itself and I know in a couple of days things will be back to good. I'll be the best husband and best dad she could ever wish for. She'll be so proud and happy with me. When if I bring it up she'll be saying that she didn't mean the things she said, that she's sorry and that she's a woman and that it's just her emotions. But I don't feel good about things like "I don't love you", "We should get a divorce". It's going too far for me, especially knowing that soon these moments will happen again, over and over.
What advice do you have for me, what should I do/say? I want to do all I can to fix this. I have mentioned counseling a couple of times, but she never seems too enthousiastic about it.
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**TL;DR;** : My wife has been having extreme ups and downs. 1 day I'm the best husband ever, the next day she wants a divorce. What do I do?

Currently going to school for marine biology, but looking at doing my bachelor's in conservation enforcement, so becoming a Fisheries and Marine Officer is looking like a good potential career.
How is this job in Western Australia? Is it a competitive process to become one? Does anyone in this community do it? General thoughts? I'd love to know more.

I'm a chronically neurotic person. There are specific actions and situations that I've become very good at avoiding because of this weakness. But at the same time my life is quickly going nowhere because I choose to hide. And that fact in itself gives me existential despair which compounds this feeling in a horrifying cycle of inaction. I'm very afraid of social exposure. Positive or negative. My greatest trigger is being thrust into a group of ridiculing people. In public when it comes to asserting myself I am completely unable to penetrate a group not for lack of skill or ability, but the fear of the denial. Maybe I'm not who I think I am. Maybe there is something I can't see in myself that is clear to everyone else and I look like such a fool. Maybe I'm setting myself up for one of those painful memories that torment me when I'm idle.
Here is the revelation I've come to, and the reason I've made this post. I have all this nuclear fear of the unknown. I spiral for hours, days, weeks on my fears and pain and regret. truly paralyzed by it. But when I do something I'm not scared of, let's say a new job that I don't care about, I'm not building this entire drama in my mind because the outcome really doesn't matter to me. I'm just trying to get paid. none of the repetitive mindless actions I do at work indicate anything about my character. So I don't automatically catastrophize the situation. But the thing is I have had horrifying things happen at work. No joke I worked at a pharmacy and the people who ran it were legitimately sadistic. It was like a game to them. They would hire young people and set them up into these weird situations. and they would get so much pleasure out of making them uncomfortable. I was in the delivery position there and several people I delivered to mentioned how I was the 3rd or 4th different delivery person they saw in a very short amount of time. Confirming how they go though employees rapidly. I won't go farther into it but I would regularly get into heated confrontations with the management. Before I realized the anger and chaos is what they were fishing for.
My point is: My greatest fear of being at the center of attention and something horrible or embarrassing happening came true REGULARLY. only I wasn't effected by it because I wasn't anticipating it. So much of my fear is literally imagined and I can drive myself absolutely insane with my own thoughts. I contextualize certain actions into this anticipatory apocalyptic situation when its actualky all in my mind. There are things I've always wanted to do that I stop myself from because I'm so sure I'm going to end up in a disadvantageous or humiliating situation. And I've definetly missed opportunities because of sad stories I tell myself.

I get it, communication is key and it is good to talk about big decison making (where to live, how finances are done, how to approach parenting).
But what would you do if your spouse wanted to let their friend move into your house for 8 months to help him back on his feet (friend lost their job, couldn't find work in his state), well knowing that living issues could arise from doing this? They want to make the offer to their friend, but they put the driving decision on you to agree or disagree.
What do you do? Is bringing this up to reach out and communicate a tough decision? Or does putting you in this position take advantage of you by putting the responsibility to decide on you?
For some reason I didn't like either option of this decision: if I said "no" then I'm the reason why his friend is living out on the streets. If I said "yes" then I'm the reason he's doing better but at the sacrifice of my own privacy, access to the guest rooms/bathrooms to your house, and seeing some guy take his time getting his life together (i.e. if you'd ask him about the job hunt, he say he's not settled in yet, doesn't have meds, not adjusted enough, can't find a job that's comfortable, he set his goal at to get one at 3 month mark).
Any time I need to make a decision that would put out my husband I just don't do it, or if I'd bring it up I tell him that it's not in our best interest (e.g. My friend wanted us to take their baby in for 1 year due to issues, I told my spouse that even if I/we could be capable it would be hard for everyone involved, declined, and referred her to other services.)
I confronted my spouse on this, but the argument stands that I could have just said no in the first place. At the same time, I was given a hard decision I didn't expect in the first place. I'm at a loss.

Was removed from AITA for violence… so posting here.
If my family is on Reddit and sees this they will definitely know it’s about them because I feel like I need to get specific to explain how fucked this situation is. This is super long please bare with me. Maybe if they see this they’ll take it seriously…idk.
So my (f30) sister (f29) and her husband (m31) they both live with my mother with their two children 10yo and 1yo. They have lived there since fall of 2019. They moved in because my parents needed help financially and around the house because my dad had physical injuries that got him on disability, and my sister and husband also needed financial help. So the deal was for them to help each other out.
My dad passed away in spring of 2020. It was very unexpected and devastating. Since my dad has no longer been there, my BIL has been more of an ass than usual. I always disliked him because he drinks a lot and I feel that he is emotionally abusive but my sister is brainwashed and doesn’t see it. I’ve heard him call her stupid or imply she was stupid more times than I can count. Since my dad passed he has also been what I consider emotionally abusive to my mother. I’ve always tried to stay out of it because my mom has said she can take care of herself and doesn’t want to be babied. But on multiple occasions, especially drunk, he calls my mom out for not doing enough around the house and just sitting in her chair to relax after work. (This guy only seen him do yard work and take out trash)
Since my dad passed she has had to pay majority of the bills. She was working a full time and part time job putting in at least 50 hours/ week. My BIL and sister paid tops $300/month since being there and the first year or two rarely paid anything, it was just the past year they started paying $300 toward the utilities. But still can’t afford to buy the baby Tylenol, but can afford a case of beer….. My mom, on one income has been paying the mortgage plus for oil for heat and baby stuff. The mortgage (w/ property tax is 1200/month) my sister and her husband both work full time and only pay the $300/month.
BIL on multiple occasions has asked to see her finances and complained when she continued to have Amazon packages delivered and accused her of not being good with her finances… 🙄
They decided to try for a baby even though they are not well off financially and then my mom proceeded to buy most of the babies stuff like clothes. Even though they are moochers I was still willing to have a relationship with them because my mom wanted the family to be together, and after my dad passed I tried to respect what she wanted and stay out of the drama at their house.
The final straw was on Mother’s Day, also the anniversary of my dad passing away. I went up to help work on her garden with my BIL and sister for Mother’s Day. I could tell he was already drunk because I was explaining and saying the same shit over and over again. (i.e. I said we should get marigolds because they keep aphids away from the roses so they don’t kill them, he kept thinking I was saying marigolds kill roses so he kept saying we shouldn’t get a plant that kills roses even though I explained it 3x at that point.)
I stayed for about two hours and after about an hour or two after I get home, I get a call from my mom. She was literally crying so hard I couldn’t understand what she was saying. She said her and BIL got in a fight and asked if she could come to my apartment. That was only the 2nd time in my life I ever heard my mom cry. The 1st when my dad died. And when she got to my apartment she had a gash in her arm that was bleeding to the point it was dripping on the ground, and she had to go to a wound clinic for it. (She takes steroids which make her have really bad injuries)BIL knows this and that it was the anniversary of my dad…
I asked what happened and she said he was drunk and started harassing her about how she didn’t appreciate him making dinner and helping in the garden for Mother’s Day. She said “I said thank you what else was I supposed to do” and then he started rambling about her not doing anything around the house. She told him that she was done and that sister and kids can stay but he had to move out.
He got pissed at this and went to his room to pack his suitcase. He was drunk and about to leave and drive his car while drunk. Sister was holding baby so yelled to my mom to stop him from leaving. She blocked the door and he told her to move or he would throw his full suitcase at her. She told him “go ahead” and that motherfucker actually threw it at her, knowing how sensitive her skin is. The gash was about half and inch wide and two inches long. After that mom told them she was coming to my house.
When my mom told me this I wanted to call the cops and she wouldn’t let me bc she was afraid sister would never talk to her again or let her see her grandkids.
After the incident, I didn’t say anythin bc mom said I’d make it worse. But then mom told me after BIL didn’t even remember doing it. The next weekend asked “what happened to your arm” and my mom said he did it and he started arguing and said he didn’t. She said “yeah when you threw the suitcase at me” and he says “well I tried to go easy on you” my sister then says “we are NEVER talking about this again” she didn’t defend my mom at all.
Since it had happened they both pretended like it didn’t happen and everything was normal. Sister never stood up for my mom or even apologized for BIL actions. I decided I couldn’t hold my tongue anymore and told my sister I was disappointed in her, they need to stop mooching off mom, she needs to apologize to mom for not standing up for her and for her husband hitting her, and that husband needs help and needs to get sober.
This bitch responds saying she already talked to my mom about it (I know she lied bc mom told me she never did) and that it’s NONE OF MY BUSINESS and that it’s between her, BIL, and my mom. He physically assaulted my mom I believe it is my business and I said that. I said he emotionally abused her and my mom and that’s not okay. She also states that he’s the only thing in her life that doesn’t make her depressed. 🙄
I said she totally doesn’t get it and I don’t want her in my life anymore. I heard through the grape vine that she doesn’t think I’m serious about cutting her out and she’s waiting for me to get over it and I’m overreacting and thinks she did nothing wrong. My mom has been really upset that I cut sister out and even told her maybe I would change my mind. I’m not sure if I’m the asshole here because of the way my mom is acting. But I can’t watch or pretend to like my sister or even be near her after everything that has happened.
So AITA for cutting them out of my life even though it upsets my mom?

Im currently debating whether i need an assistant to help me be consistent with my business. For context I have a 9-5 job at night and occassional clients in my business. I believe I can grow thr business if I were consistent but I'm prioritizing my mental health to avoid burnout so I want someone to handle that for me. I also want to find more remote jobs in the future so I want help with that. I'll be training the person and make sure to pay a living wage out of my salary.
I sent out a job desc. and I found one with great credentials but much much older than me, everyone probably is, should I hire them and just establish my authority? Does it even matter? Do you have tips on hiring people? When did you know that you needed an assistant?
I want to invest in someone in exchange of my time, is that a good idea?

I struggle a lot with anxiety and have been going back and forth about what to do with this little situation I’ve gotten myself into and could use some advice.
Background: I decided I wanted to become a sitter on rover after getting my first puppy and using rover myself. I work from home and figured it would be an easy way to make side money since I’m home all day and the added benefit of my puppy gets a friend to play with. I’ve had my availability listed on rover for a couple of months now and haven’t had any requests since I’m new and haven’t done this before with zero reviews.
This week I got my first client and we did a meet and greet and it went super well for our pups. She has two six month year old puppies (I have a 1 year old) and is starting a new job after a while being unemployed on Monday. I’m scheduled to watch them 3 days a week. At first we were trying to decide if she should bring the pups to my house 7-4 or I watch her dogs at her house 1-5 and we landed on 1-5. In my excitement to book my first client I didn’t realize she only paid for 30 minute visits. Not hours and now I feel like I can’t go back and change the price since we’ve already “agreed” to a price
I feel like I can’t cancel since she starts work on Monday and I don’t want to cause her stress and I want a good first experience however I’m vastly undercharging and unsure how to remedy this situation.
If you made it this far thank you for reading!!!

Starting your food truck life! #foodtruck #advise

1. buying a new custom food truck Buying a newly built food truck depending on your area can run from 20k-100k. Most food trailers will be cheaper than a food truck that’s driveable but keep in mind you will need a vehicle to tow food trailer if not you will have to hire someone anytime it needs to be moved. When going this route there are pros and cons. Depending if you are buying a trailer or an actual food truck . Check for year of vehicle n get a mechanic to check it out if its something you will be driving a lot.

Tips- A food truck if you are planning on choosing a spot that you won’t leave parked overnight this is a good option. Also if you plan on doing events this is the go to. Try to find farmer markets and daily events at least once a week treat your food truck like an actual business n not like a job you will have to put in extra work if you go this route. From my personal experience I live on an island n from my experience of operating food trucks and a food trailer I prefer food trailers. When it comes down to operations and letting customers know. Where you are one location you leave your food truck or trailer is best. I have seen many food trucks try to pop up at events and always moving around from what I see it’s not worth it it’s extra stress and things to organize which you will already be doing a lot. Your costumers need to know where you are at and your times if you want to bring in income that is stable on a daily basis. 2. Good things with building a new food truck is Branding make sure you pick something that pops and will draw attention. Choose a nice name easy to pronounce you will be making your marketing material after this so choose wisely. You will also will be competing with other food trucks and establishments so something catchy is good 3. Another good thing with buying a new food truck or trailer is it will be ready to go. All health requirements for the most part will be in place. So you can be up and running in a couple months!

On and off Wellbutrin every few years. It gets me off the couch and helps me “fix” myself and pull my life together. I stay on for a year then as soon as I get off I reverse all the great changes I made over the last year and get back on the couch. Most recently I made great strides in my career and family. Within 6 months I simply quit my job and decided to stay home with my baby. That got hard so I moved cross country to be closer to toxic family members, now my husband is miserable too. Am I just being hard on myself? If I just stayed on it we would be in a great city with great friends and amenities in a nice house. We really downgraded just on a whim over 3-4 weeks I decided to put our house up for sale and move back to our small town. No one is happy. Maybe the baby is. I think it’s time to go back on, but I know I’m just going to destroy all the great changes I make. I feel so hopeless. Does that mean Wellbutrin isn’t a good fit?